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hey. this seems like a sort of stupid question, but please, i need a opinion on an outfit for tommorow. 13.f
here's the plan :)
blue soffee shorts
red and white striped boys polo
gray tanktop underneathe
and boy nike shox
its actuallly really cute, but since two of the pieces are boy pieces, i just wanted to check. PLEASE! (link)
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There's nothing wrong with the outfit you picked out. It does sound really cute. No one's going to know that your shirt or your shoes came from the boys' department when you have them on unless you go around and tell everyone about it. Most of the time, boys and girls shoes are made in the same colors and styles, so it's not a big deal. I buy shoes in the men's section all the time. Shirts are pretty much the same deal. As long as the shirt looks and feels good on you, it shouldn't matter.
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ok last month after a 4 month relationship i accused my gf of cheating ... idk sum random girl popped up on aim and told me this and i was the dumbass who believed her. n e ways we kinda stopped talking for a while and i really want her back, i've liked her sooo long i cant even imagine NOT liking her, shes the only gf i've had and im the only bf she's had. and i really want her trust back.
and i dont want the "just start randomly talking to her" thing i want honest answers that require thought, also i would prefer girls answer this question (link)
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Your girlfriend was probably insulted that you accused her of cheating and is upset that you listened to what some random person said instead of talking to her about the problem. If you really want your girlfriend back, you need to show her that she can trust you again. This isn't something that can be done overnight, and you will have to work at it. Try being a friend to her before you try to be a boyfriend again.
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I am 19, and am nervous about applying for a job. I have no previous experience, and am concerned that most places would rather hire someone younger with no experience b/c they have a good reason not to have experience. I don't want a great job, just like at a video store or somehting. Do I just go ahead and apply? What should I do? (link)
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Just go ahead and apply for the jobs even though you don't have experience. You have to start working at some point, and there's no reason to wait any longer. Some employers might hire you instead of a younger person because you are older and are probably more responsible than, say, a sixteen year old kid that's just now getting all these new responsibilities. (not that I mean to diss younger workers.. because I am one myself...)
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do girls like fishin because i want to ask a girl on a date and go fishing in the summer (link)
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Some girls love that kind of thing and others absolutly can't stand it. Make sure you know the girl well enough to know the answer to the question yourself before you ask her.
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Ok, this may sound wierd but...I don't love my family. Yea...it's true. I find it so hard to realate and connect with them. We rarely communicate outside of yelling and complaining. I do want a family that I can come home to every day and feel comfortable with but...I don't think they're going to change. How do I make us closer? (13/f) (link)
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What you're feeling is normal and every teenager goes through this when they're your age... Your family loves you, reguardless of the complaining and everything else that happens.. just know that as you get older.. things do get better. If you want to try to improve the situation now... try spending some time with your family on the weekend. Just go along with whatever they want to do and try to have a good time. I know you'll probably think that's lame, but you'll probably be suprised when you actually have fun. Don't do more than you feel like you can, though... If you find yourself getting irritated, just leave the room and find something to do by yourself. Finding ways to remove yourself from the disagreements is key.
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I'm 13 and have pretty big boobs. I'm tall and thin and I wear a 36D. I like hanging out with guys and only have a few female friends just because I don't really prefer their company. The only problem is the guys (and basiclly the rest of the school) are constantly staring and commenting on them. I try to hide it with loose clothes but people still seem to notice. My boyfriend is ticked about this and so am I. (I'm happy that he agrees with me and never makes rude comments on them or constantly stares or touches them.) But anyway I need to know what I should do about all these guys saying things. They're alays giving me rude nicknames or just flat out telling other people how they want to touch them. Me and my boyfriend have tried telling them to stop politely and forcefully but they continue anyway. What do you think I should do?
P.S. I apologize if I seem to be ranting (link)
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You've got a right to be upset with the guys that are saying things like this about your body. It's not at all appropriate and is incredibly degrading. If these guys are saying these things to you at school, you might try telling your parents and the principal about it. There's got to be something they can do to intervene and stop the comments and names.
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yesterday was me and Scott's one month! but we didn't get to see each other...do you guys think you can date someone who you never get to see? i mean does it work? i have only seen him once since we've been dating. i hate it because his parents hate me and my parents hate him because of what happened this summer...and so we have to sneak around all the time..i hate it so much. and all his little friends hate me because of rumors people started about what happened this summer so like none of his friends know were dating i hate hiding it he says he loves me but i don t want to be a secret you know? if he really loved me like he said he would tell his friends..right? i mean i don t know i am so confused i want people to know were dating i mean i love his so much and I've told all my friends were dating...i don't want to be his secret you know? i haven't talked to him about it and i know if i did he would just get mad..so what should i do i need some good advice xox
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I don't know what happened over the summer, but if your parents hate him and his parents hate you... the prospects of this relationship working are not promising. Sneaking around will only get both of you in trouble, and trust me, you will eventually get caught and you will not like what happens when you do. If this guy doesn't even want his friends to know that you're dating... that's not a good sign either. Chances are that he's dating someone else too and doesn't want the other girl to find out about you. I don't know that for a fact, but it's a good possiblility. If you don't want to be a secret anymore.. give him an ultimatium. Let him know that if he's not comfortable telling people that you're his girlfriend.. that you won't be anymore.
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I dated this guy for like six weeks, feelings got involved mostly on my behalf, but I broke it off because he freaks when he gets close to people and I didnt wanna get hurt, hes too young (17, and I am 21) and I felt like I paid for everything (His train down to see me, cinema, food, clubbing, presents) he only ever got me one thing on valentines day that cost £3.00. He also meets peps for random sex off the net, and is well known as a whore. It gets worse as I HAVE to see him every week in my youth group, and I still have feelings for him. My friends define him as poison, how do I deal with this situation of seeing him every week, and Ijust know hes gonna sleep around the group, and hurt me more...I have been so depressed these past two weeks.
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I think your friends are right about this guy, even though "poison" is sort of harsh. Being depressed after a breakup is pretty much guaranteed even if you're the one who did the breaking up. Try your best to ignore him at youth group when you go. And look at it this way: You've got six other days of the week where you *don't* have to see him. Make the most of those days, and when you do have to see him... go out and do something fun after youth group. Spend the money that you would have spent on him on something nice for yourself. You shouldn't have to spend all of your hard earned money on some punk kid that's just looking for a handout. You deserve better than that.
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ok so my friend has turned into a complete weirdo.... i was friends with this girl and since the guy she likes has left college she has been so weird we used to be such good friends and now shes all weird. like it all happened when she asked me to go shopping with her and i was coming up the stairs i saw her and a teacher came along and because i had been away ill he came to give me the work so he was talking to me its not like i can ignore him then i turned around and her and another friend had walked out the door. Then i saw her later on that day and she goes im not talking to you, i thought to myself you angry with me i should be angry with you...then i left it several weeks and i phoned her today and joked saying hello weirdo and she goes why are you phoning me so i put the phone down. Then thing is what shall i do now??? (link)
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I reccomend just not talking to her for a few days. I don't think she realizes how she's coming across to you because there are probably other things on her mind. It's a hard thing to deal with when the guy you like moves on with his life and does something to distance himself from you. Try to be as patient with her as possible right now. It sounds like she's probably going through a really stressful time.
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This kid at my school keeps calling me a elephant.I have hit people in the past because of diffrnet things and i dont want to hit him.I dont want to get bad grades.So ive told teachers.Nothing.I dont want to become the bad kid again i have picked up my grades and my teahcers and my parents are proud of me and i love that.I dont want to hurt him.Ive thought about telling my favorite teacher.she loves me.And telling her everyhting that had happend and about scared about hitting him and i want her to talk to him cause if i do he will lose a tooth or somthign and then iss will come.How do i solve this problem with out hitting without anythign of getting in trouble.I cnat ignor him i cant just dont ask why i cant
plz help me anything to help me and ill give u a five right off the bat.
hopfully,
katie (link)
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I think it's a good idea to talk to your favorite teacher about this. Talking to her or another adult could help you just to vent and they might even have a good way to solve the problem. If you really can't tolerate this guy's behavior, you need to talk to the principal about possibly switching into classes that he's not in. You're the only one who can control what you do. If you choose to hit him you have to deal with the consequences. You won't get in trouble if you talk to an adult and solve the problem without resorting to violence.
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Hey iam a 17 year old female and I still havn't gotten my wisdom teeth how old are you usually when you get your wisdom teeth? (link)
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The age varies a lot, I think. I'm 17 and just found out about a month ago that mine were coming in. It could be that you don't even have any wisdom teeth. Some people don't, but if I were you, I would be sure to ask the dentist about it the next time you have a checkup.
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you make it sound so easy! How and when should i do it. It would be so awkward if he said no. do you know any signs i could look out for that would tell me he likes me and how i could pop the question of him coming with me(my proms in the end of june)? thanks in advance (link)
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You might want to ask him someplace other than work. Ask him to go with you to get a snack after work sometime. If he makes some dumb excuse not to go, don't bother asking him to prom with you. Just casually bring it up in conversation and ask him if he'd be interested in going. You eventually have to ask him.. because he can't read your mind.
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16/f.im getting my braces off in a couple weeks. anything i should expect or be prepared for? (link)
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Getting used to wearing your retainers is sometimes a little difficult. If the retainer is slightly too small to start with, it might hurt a little bit but that eventually gets straightened out. Even if you think you look dorky with the retainer, you need to be prepared to do what the dentist tells you to do. He/she knows what he/she's talking about when it comes to teeth... Your teeth will probably go back to being crooked if you don't wear the retainer as directed.
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I've been working with this guy for like 4 months now and we seem to get along quite well. I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not, but the signals he gives me, tells me he does not. The thing is that I am 18 and hes 16. A lot of people have a probelm with the age thing, but i don't, i think hes mature for his age. (thats y i can't ask my friends this) Anyway i don't have his email or anything but we're good friends at work. Would it be weird if i asked him to my prom? and if not how would you ask him? thanks in advance (link)
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There's nothing wierd about asking a guy from work to go to your school's prom. There's not a huge issue with the age difference between the two of you as long as your parents are okay with it. Two years shouldn't be a huge deal if you're a mature girl who can handle your responsibilities. (Which you obviously can since you have a job.) Just ask him the next time you're working together if he would like to go to prom with you.
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So I have this prom group and its a tight group.......and I asked this girl i really wanted to ask and she said yes so im set for that stuff
the problem is there is a kid that i really hate and i just hate him and he is thinking about coming our prom group and i can just see him ruinning it for everyone cause there is three people at least who really dont like him and no one is really good friends with him. Idk what to do cause no one will say no if he asks to come with us.
Idk what to do cause our group is 20people already if he comes and thats alot
so if you have any advice on what to do that would be amazing
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Don't mention the prom group to him unless he brings it up first. It would be rude to tell him that he's not invited along because no one likes him, so please don't do that. There's no use in causing hurt feelings over something that's supposed to be a good time for everyone. If he insists upon coming with your group, you can either invite him along and deal with him or tell him that the group is getting to be too large. I normally don't encourage people to lie about things, but sometimes it's for the best. You could tell him that you're meeting at someone's house before the dance and that that person's mom doesn't want any more people at the house.
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My bf moved to another state for a job. We were still together when he left. He hasnt contacted me in 5 months, and I'm so tired of waiting around for him. I think he's been completely selfish not contacting me. I've finally come to the heartbreaking realization that it's over.
My question is how can I get over him so I can move on with my life? Everyone tells me I'm a pretty girl and can find another bf very easily.
The problem is I would feel really guilty if I started dating someone without letting my bf know. I need some sort of closure, but I have no way of contacting him because he shut off his cell and everytime I email him they get returned. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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You need to get over this guy.. It's been five months since he contacted you. It's obvious that he wanted to end the relationship when he moved away, but wasn't man enough to tell you to your face. You should probably take a little time off from dating until you think you're ready to get back out there again. Breaking up is painful, and there's nothing you can do to change that. It's time to start living your life without your boyfriend in it... Just let him go. Go out with your friends and have a good time.. maybe go on a few dates. Go out and enjoy yourself.
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Hi, for my schools talent show I am reading a poem. I want to read a poem by someone else and of course I will give them their credit. But I want to know other people's opinions of good poems that they know of. I am open to suggestions. If you could supply me with the author and the name of the poem that would be great. But you don't have to worry about giving me the exact poem unless you want to(that would definitely be great but its not a must.) Thanks in advance :) (link)
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Edgar Allen Poe is one of my favorites... "A Monodony of Dr. Olmstead" is an excellent one, so is "Annabel Lee". You might not be into his stuff, but it's defintaly worth trying out.
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my mom and dad are together. my mom is an alcoholic and my dad works full time. my sisters dysfuntional and my other sister is in college so i can never talk to her. i bond with my dad all the time over sports which i hate to play anyway i just do because if i dont ill be so fat & out of shape. i cant talk to my mom about anything because shes so ridiculously stupid and makes the most unreasonable excuses why she cant come to my games and stuff. now my sister had a baby and my parents are always paying attention to her and they dont give me the time of day. my grades in school have been dropping drastically and i cant afford a psychiatrist. any suggestions? (link)
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Try talking to your school counseler about some of the things that are going on in your life. Maybe he or she has a solution that you haven't thought of yet. Talking to a psychiatrist isn't a quick fix for all of your problems, but just talking about it to a neutral third party could help bring some things to light for you. A psychiatrist is expensive, and you can see you school counseler for free. It's their job to help... that's what they're there for.
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A married man who I have known for a couple of years, and used to be friends with him and his wife phoned me up recently and asked me if I wanted to meet him in another city. He was getting his trailer hitched to his truck and said it was going to take a couple of hours. He said if I picked him up, while he was waiting for the trailer to be hitched that he would treat me to lunch and we could go shopping, and he'd pay for my gas. When I picked him up he said that he didnt want me to tell anyone we were doing this. First we went to the mall (remember this is in another city). He walked VERY close to me, we could have been joined at the hip. After when we went to a restaurant for lunch, he never mentioned his wife once, and instead was asking me personal questions about where I was going to meet Mr. Right. He was being very flirtatious, and I caught him staring at me romantically. When we got back into my car for the drive back to the trailer he watched me suck on a sucker from the restaurant and told me I had a "sucker fetish". I felt it was a very sexual thing to say. He was also staring at my lips when I applied lip gloss and looked like he was getting turned on.
So my question is, would this be considered cheating on his wife? Although we never had sex? I'm feeling really guilty.
signed, feeling guilty (link)
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This isn't exactly cheating on his part, but from what you've said here, he is thinking of cheating on her. The fact that he wanted to meet up in another town sorta gives that away. I don't think you should be feeling as guilty as you are because you probably thought that you were just going for lunch with an old friend. If the guy asks you out again, tell him no. You did nothing wrong here... just let it go.
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I have a math teacher and theres a bunch of girls that likes him. So I found out that they call him on his cell phone and they talk to him on the internet. I find this very strange
because he is like 25 and he lives with his parents and he's single. Half the girls that has his number is between 12-13. I have a bad feeling about this teacher because he goes to ball games and sits with those girls. Does anyone have any idea's on what to do? (link)
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There's nothing wrong with a teacher sitting with the students at a basketball game, but giving the students his cell phone number and making inappropriate comments in class is taking it a little too far. You should talk to the principal and your parents about this because 13 year old girls do NOT need to be talking to their 25 year old teacher on the phone... or anything else for that matter.
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