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Q: What fruits are the best for you? I mean I know almost all fruits are really good for you, but what ones are the BEST for you? And why?

bananas have potassium which is really good for you and by eating bananas you can lower the risk of heart diseases. also all the other fruits that the people below me named are the best.

Q: How does one become the perfect girlfriend? Internally and externally, how does a girl make her guy feel completely fulfilled?
Thanks

Perfection is definetely not necessary!..but
some qualities that could make you a good girlfriend include:honesty,caring for them and always listening to them,making them laugh,LOYALTY,complimenting them often and never making them feel underappreciated,and also being reasonable and not getting mad over little things. I think if your boyfriend loves you, you do not have to be perfect..truly loving him back is much better than striving for perfection,because that alone is enough to make a person feel fulfilled.

Q: What is the difference between love and lust? and how do you really know if a guy loves you?

Well, theres a HUGE difference between love and lust! lust is wanting someone really badly..basically desire..usually sexually. love goes MUCH deeper than that. love is very hard to define..but i think that love is when you care for that persons feelings and always want them to be happy, they make you happy, you enjoy every minute you spend with them(of course if theres a fight going on..thats normal to experience)and you kind of become one with that person.you know you love someone when you think about them constantly and find yourself wishing to be with them.lust, on the other hand..would be like "oh baby i want your body so bad"now THATS a difference..and love is much more amazing of course. guys think of love as a VERY big deal..so if they say the words "i love you" and theyre a sincere person..they mean it. also if the guy always seems very eager to talk to you and always tries to help you out whenver you need it and compliments you often..those are definetely signs of love!! hopefully i helped..im not always the best at wording things but i tried.

Q: Hi I'm Adam and 16 Years old. heres my question:

I like (ok love) this girl. I have tried working some kind of relationship out with her but she didnt want it. Shes not dating anyone and she likes me as a friend alot. I want her so bad though. Shes the only one I want and nothing will make me change that. What is there I can do to make her go for me?

okay, the good thing is that she likes you as a friend alot, cause friendship with her is what could make her feelings for you begin.i think if you show her how much you care about her as often as you can..such as by making her a present(just an example)that is one thing that could help. as for right now, you have to accept that right now you two are just friends and not overly think how much you love her cause that will make it MUCH MUCH harder on you! trust me on that. girls love to have someone they can come to and just chill with and laugh with so if you become that person thatll open her eyes to other things! simple things such as finding out her interests and trying to do things that involve them and also making her smile and hugging herwhen shes had a bad day will make her realize how much she means to you..and once she gets to know the real you..as long as youre being your complete true self..hopefully she'll grow feelings for you!!

Q: I'm 16/f, and there is this guy, we'll call him Shane, who is 17. He was really sweet to me, and told one of my friends (also his friend) that he liked me, and I thought that I liked him too. He invited me to his house for dinner with his family one night, and afterwards we were in his basement, watching a movie, and we made out. This was my first makeout experience, too. He didn't call or attempt to contact me at all for three days. Then, when we finally talked, he said that he didn't think it was a good idea for him to date this summer (he had broken up with his girlfriend of 7 months about a month ago). He said he'd rather be friends with benefits. I really didn't want that kind of relationship though, so I said no, and he said we'd just be friends. A little less than a week later I found out from the same friend who had told me that Shane liked me that he'd had THREE OTHER GIRLS in his basement, making out with them. I feel so cheap and used, and all my friends are really upset with him too. Shane and I don't really talk anymore. I'm too mad to even IM him, and he doesn't seem to care enough to even IM me either. It has been a few weeks since I found this all out, but it still infuriates me. Should I tell Shane how I feel, that I feel used? (I can't tell him that I know about the other girls, because the friend wasn't supposed to even tell me about them.) I really don't want to play the clingy girl role...PLEASE HELP!

Shane sounds like a complete jackass to start with. the feeling of being used is completely terrible..and the fact that he said he liked you but then told you he wanted a friends with benefits relationship is SCREWED UP. i think that you should tell shane that you feel used and dont understand why he said he liked you but didnt wanna have a real relationship and that you think that was really wrong to do..you dont have to mention the other girls just let him known what he did to YOU made you feel really bad. youre not being clingy by sharing your feelings with him, so dont worry about that! its much much better to get it off your chest and tell him than holding it inside..and possibly you could be the girl that makes him wanna change and stop using girls! sorry my answer is so long..i hope i helped!

Q: ok so there is this guy that i like and he likes me, but i dont think his parents like me, they dont really seem like the kind of parents that like his friends and ive been to his house before and there not like overly friendly. Hes not like one of those losers either whos parents dont like him dateing, he gets in trouble for having partys and stuff like that. He allways says that he hates his mom but like idk. I want to go out with him but im scared that if his parents dont like me it wont work. I was wondering if anyone has gone out with someone there parents didn't like or the person they went out with parents didn't like them. please help:(

i think if you really like this guy alot, you should definetely go out with him!! there are many ways to hang out where the parents dont even have to be involved..such as the movies..the guy could always tell his parents hes going to meet some friends at the movies if it comes to the point where they dont want him seeing you there.maybe his parents just take a while to open up to people..they have no reason to dislike you right? so theyre probably just not friendly but if you are super nice to them hopefully they'll change! although parents can screw up alot of things in our lives..you shouldnt let them get in the way of a possibly wonderful relationship.

Q: ok i recently started going out with this guy that i don't like, well actually I just like him as a friend. He is really funnny and sweet a bit cheesy but overall really sweet. He kissed me the other day and one of my friends saw, she thinks it's kinda cruel for me to be going out with him if I don't like him and also cause two of my other friends liked him and one still kina does. What do you think I should do? I don't want to upset him because he is a really great friend and an even better boyfriend

okay, situations like these are always hard. although you dont want to hurt this guy,staying with him and letting his feelings for you get built up and then eventually ending it is much crueler than breaking up with him right away. the longer you are with him the more he will start to like you and if you dont feel the same way back,yet you pretend to,its all a big lie and that would break his heart. i think you should end it with him in the nicest way possible, and let him know that you definetely want to stay close friends and you think he is an awesome guy.

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