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Q: Ok, I have REALLY thick hair and there's soooo much of it! It's course and really wavy. It also gets frizzy easily. It is currently long and when straightened it goes about halfway down my back. Does anyone have any advice on what kind of hair cut I should get? I don't want it too short. I was thinking bangs but I'm not sure...some pictures or websites would be a HUGE help!!
Thanks

It sounds like i have the SAME EXACT kind of hair as you. Haha. Mine is at the same length currently but I liked my hair the best when it was like an inch or two below my shoulders, angled, and thinned. But now i have sideswept bangs and i think they look cute.

Q: Hey. I've recently decided to go vegan. I'm new to all of this and I dont know what to buy in terms of food. I know they do not associate themselves with animal products at all. This is going to be a challenge for me because I like cheese. But for the animals' sake, I'll do it. So can anyone tell me what ingredients in foods, and makeups, etc. etc. I should be looking for. Also, a site that has vegan recepies on it would be a big help as well! Thanks Alot!

If i were you I would try to be vegitarian first for a month and then vegan, just so you can ease your body into it.

Recipes: http://www.veganchef.com/

More info: http://www.vegan.org/going_vegan/index.html

Eat lots of soy and tofu if you can.

Q: ok so i got my first period in the end of august and ges wat now its november 20th and i still havent gotton another period! im very confused should i be worried? is there something wrong with me?!? should i tell my mom i havent gotton another period since then? please help i totaly dont kno wat to do?

No its very normal to be irregular your first year or two. Its fine, you'll get another one soon enough, trust me.

Q: I have a lot of friends that are girls, but none of them like me more than that. is there a way that i can get them to treat me more like a dating option then just a friend

I take it you are a guy. If not, thats cool too. I'll tell you what I like guys to do for me to show me they think of me more than a friend. I like it when they do sweet things that seem to come from the heart. If you are an artist, you could make a picture for her. Or if your mom knows how to bake, you could make her cookies and have your mom help! Or just ask her to go somewhere, just the two of you. Just tell her how you feel and ask her out!

Q: So, my best friend and I were hanging out the other day. He asked if I thought my sister had had sex with her boyfriend. I said "yes" and he called her a slut. He might have been joking, I'm not sure. So I was pissed (justifyibly, yes?). I was talking to my sisters boyfriend, and he mentioned him. I said "yeah I'm not very happy with him right now" and he said "why" and after much persuasion, and a threat to punch him in the face, I told him exactly why. Now my best friend is denying it, and not letting me explain. Who's at fault? Is it me, for telling Brandon, or my friend, for calling my sister a slut, or is it mine for telling him yes in the first place (and taking him seriously)?

Should I just ignore him and let him come around, or should I call him/go to his house/write him a note/etc? I miss him so much already and it's only beem 2 days :(

Hes an ass to even be joking about your family like that. I wasnt right, even though you probably shouldnt have told him that your sister had sex. I say call him, or meet him in person and apologize, but tell him you were angry about him calling your sister a slut.

Q: omgosh ok...me and this guy have lockers right next to each other at school and we barely talk...ok so he added me on myspace and i left hime a msg to see if wanted to go to the movies or hang out over thnxgivin break (just as friends)....he didn't answer my msg back so i started feeling omg was i too forward? then i sent him another msg joking about the whole situation and he sent me a "?" now i feel like such an idiot because if he read one msg without the other he's just gonna think i'm crazy or something and i have the urge to call him but i don't have his phone #...what do i do?

Just play it cool. Haha. Ask him again, serriously, and dont say you are joking about it this time. Just be nice and flirt but dont be overdramatic. Just be yourself.

Q: I am 15 years old and I am really looking forward to christmas and everything but I hate being single during the holidays!! There is this one guy that always teases and talks to me during class! I know most of the advice everyone is gunna tell me is to go to a movie with him but I mean we have never hung out outside of school so i dont know how I would bring it up. I am pretty positive he likes me because he doesn't act the way he acts around other girls so i am pretty sure he is flirting. Most of my friends and guy friends arent really friends with his group of friends so it isnt like i would just "run" into him at the movies. how do i show him that i like him besides flirting back? Thanks i really need this advice!!!!!!

Just tell him! Its that simple. Otherwise you will be waiting around for him to ask you out and that could take a while if he is shy. you could ask him to hang out sometime over the weekend as friends and see if it progresses.

Q: 15/f. lately i've been getting really upset because i'm 15 and i've never had a boyfriend, or a first kiss. i get really embarrassed when people talk about their boyfriends and their first kiss. and i'm always afraid that someone will make fun of me because i'm prude and never had a boyfriend. i don't know if it is something about my personality that is scaring some guys away. don't say that i shouldn't change myself for a guy because i would never do that (meaning dress differently or style my hair different). but i mean my personality. i'm a VERY organized person (like everything has to be neat) and i take my grades very seriously. is that a turn off? because sometimes i can become controlling if we are doing a project or something. what is something that i can do to become less controlling in situations? also i don't think that i'm ugly. so what is wrong? i also can get nervous talking to guys. OMG i'm just getting really frustrated with myself.

so basically these are my questions:
1)what can i do when people ask me if i'm prude knowing that i am?
2)how can i become less controlling in group projects?
3)is it weird that i'm 15 and haven't had a boyfriend or a first kiss?

sorry its so long...but thanks!

I had the same problem. I am 14 and never had a boyfriend until like a week ago. I still have not kissed a guy with out it being a game. I was thinking that I would be one of those ladies who lives alone except for her 20 cats! Haha. But honestly, you will meet someone who is right for you. And i agree with you that you should not change for anyone but yourself. I am also controlling when it comes to group projects, just take it slow and ask for others opinions. just relax and take deep breaths if you feel like you are working too hard. And if you are working with any guys, try relaxing by flirting a little! If someone asks you if your a prude.. just laugh about it and be like "yeah i am but i could change that if i had the chance" its fun and truthful unless you really want to be a prude for the rest of your life. And remember that guys like confidence!

Q: ok well there this girl i really really like... but she got a b/f but thats really not the problem because shes not to close and about to break up eith him ...well i tlak to her all the time but she acts like she dont really like me and if she does i really dont see it ...hoever some of her friends and her b/f all told me she does so i really dont no who to believe cause i really like her but i ask her to snowball and she like wait till it gets closer cause i think she wants to go with another guy so what do i do cause i really just want her to be happy!! 17/m

Based on the fact that her boyfriend told you that she like you.. thats a big deal. I would say ask her out once she breaks up with him. She is probably just nervous. If she says no, then I'm sorry but shes just making the choice that she wants and you did say that you want her to be happy.

Q: I would really like to get a job i am 14 and a great student, i have thought of babysitting but i dont no how to get into it, any ideas thanks
xox

Just post flyers in your neighborhood or in areas around it, saying your name and number and that you are good with kids or something like that and hopefully you'll get a few calls. You could also put flyers in peoples mailboxes.

Q: 13/f

My best friend *lets call her Megan* just recently told me that she got raped by her brother and cousin. Her brother was removed from the family but she didn't tell the police. I'm very worried for her. I wanna tell an adult but she said she'll kill herself, so i didn't. I guess what I'm asking for is whether I should consult someone. Please help.

Thanks in advance

I suggest tell her parents to not let her alone because of the threat and tell the police or someone. Her brother and her cousin need to be put in bars so they cant do it to someone else. Its very important for other peoples safety that you tell someone.

Q: hi! i really love your advice column! i'm 15.
you see, christmas season is near..and it's always my personal tradition to give gifts to the people who had become a part of me..

and this year.. i really need some great ideas that are BUDGET-FRIENDLY but unique for my teen friends..
i'd gladly take a great response from you.. thanks!

Aww thanks for the compliment!

Since going out and spending loads of money on christmas presents is a hassle and isnt good if you want to keep some money in your wallet. Try making something at home. If you artistic you could paint something and once it dries, scan it on the computer and make cards for a lot of people. Then you could get candies or something to tape to them. If cards aren't your thing, try looking in arts and craft stores. There are usually kits that you can buy fairly cheap considering how much you can make. You could make necklaces, picture frames, or anything really. Also, if you have a sewing machine, you can buy some fabric (try getting some from the remnants bin, they will be cheaper) and make a purse or something! There are many possibilities. If you don't like those ideas, ask me again and I'm sure i can think of somemore things.

Q: Hey everyone! On Tuesday my whole grade is going to a theatre to see a Christmas Carol. We are supposed to dress nice because we are representing our school, except nobody actually told us how nice we are supposed to dress. So my question is, what type of clothes should I wear so I look nice if people dress up but I don't look too weird if people don't dress up. Thanks in advanced &hearts

I say jean skirt, and nice blouse and nice flats. But you might want to ask your teachers.

Q: i was thinking of getting my 12 year old cousin this bag from abercrombie for christmas: http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10101&catalogId=10851&parentCategoryId=12103&childCatgroupId=12103&categoryId=12148&productId=2&langId=-1 in white.. && i was wondering if it would be to big for a 12 year old ? im buying it for her as a purse, not a bookbag. thanks!

I think that would be good. A 12 year old needs a tote for going on field trips and sleepovers and all.

Q: ok. so i bought black leggings to wear with my jean skirt. but i just dont know what to wear with them.

right now i have 2 choices.
choice 1.
black flats
black leggings
dark jean skirt
dark grey long sleeve shirt w/ white and greyish flowers on it

OR
choice 2
black flats
black leggings
dark jean skirt
light purple wife beater tank top
black jacket that has blue and purple on it

which one sounds better? tried them both on and i cant decide

I think choice one. But whatever you feel better in, go for it

Q: I love my boyfriend. He is the greatest! We talk all the time like on the phone and in school. We both never really talk about like holding hand and kissing and stuff like that. We've been going out for 8 months and we've never kissed, held hands, hugged! I'm in 8th grade and he is repeating 7th. I think we're afraid to do that stuff because he is my 1st bf and i'm his 1st gf. If we kissed, it'd be both our first. I really want to but he's afraid to, and that's why i haven't kissed him yet. Why are we both so afraid to? We both want to, but we just can't! Wht????

Just kiss him. I dont know how else to say it. If you want to kiss then you just gotta go and do it.

Q: The other day I was thinking, and if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and you kiss a friend. Like the person is totally just your friend and nothing more.. is it still cheating ?

I think if its a peck then its fine, if its more.. than its kinda cheating.

Q: Lately ive been having large amounts of trouble sleeping im only 15/m andi just cant seem to fall asleep ive lied in my bed for hours on end with my eyes closed and i cant fall asleep even if im tired idk why im having so much trouble. can someon please give me ideas to help me the sooner the better b/c its 1 am not and argh!

Something is probably bothering you. Try to solve any big big problems in your life. Also try doing a ritual before you go to bed. Like take a shower, then watch tv, then read. Or something like that. Try not to talk on the phone or on the computer because that wakes me up more.

Q: I have two cousins, a boy who is 12 and a girl who is 14. Their parents wont get a divorce but they hate each other and are both alcoholics and smoke, but refuse to get help. When their dad comes home, which he only does about twice a week, he screams at their mom (Who is usually drunk at the time.) and at my cousins. Normally, he throws and breaks things.
This past week I've been having terrible dreams and waking up sweating in the night. I remember parts of them, but in one of them their dad had just walked in and was already screaming at my aunt and my cousins. He began to get very angry and threw things at my aunt, who was crying. Then he went over to my cousins and started yelling at them. He was hitting them and throwing things at them. They were both screaming and crying.
In another dream, he had locked my aunt in a room and left her there. He then got a gun and found my cousins. I remember there was a shooting sound or something, but then I woke up.
The dreams seem so real. I've been at my cousin's house before when my uncle has been drunk and screaming and throwing things so that makes it even more real because I know he can do those things when he's angry and drunk.
I'm scared that he might actually do something that could really hurt them. I don't know what to do. I want the dreams to stop and to know that my cousin's are safe. They wont answer their phone.
Is there some way that I can stop these dreams and/or find out if they are okay or not?

You need to tell someone ASAP. Your aunt or your cousins could get seriously hurt. It sounds like the parents need to be put through counseling and a little AA and the kids might need some counselling too. But you really really need to tell a parent or an other relative or a teacher or a counsellor.

Q: every year i start off the school year being shy. last year i finally opened up and grew out of being shy and now that its a new year im back to being shy and i hate it. i can talk around my friends and stuff without a problem, but people i dont really know too much like my classmates, i cant open up to them. they either do all the talking and i just stand there looking like an idiot not knowing what to say, or i just neveer talk to them. i dont want to be shy but every time i try not to be shy i feel like everyones staring at me. I DONT WANNA BE KNOWN AS THE SHY GIRL. all of my friends know that im loud and stuff, but the rest of the people dont know i exist cuz im soo quiet. what can i do to break outta my shell and just let loose?

Same problem, here. Well not exactly, I dont have that problem that much anymore. Just talk. Remember that you are great and you are pretty, nice, and smart. Then you will have more confidence and be able to speak up and get out there.

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