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Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.
I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.

Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.


I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.

advice

Ok, to start off, I've been dating my bf for almost seven months now. Things have been on and off with us, becuase we fight alot about stupid stuff. He is over dramatic and over reacts, and I try to hard to resolve it and get angry easily. Well after our four month anniversary something happened. He dumped me the day after prom for another girl. He cheated on me. And the two weeks that we were apart and broken up were hell. I missed him even after what he did and I tried moving on with another guy I had liked but things weren't the same. Well then out of the blue he called me on my birthday adn we ended up getting back together. I decided to do something I never would've done in the past. Give someone a second chance. And it was good for a while. But the past scars you in obvious ways. I'm constantly scared he will cheat on me, I don't trust him, and because of that we fight. Plus he is being incosiderate now and we are fighting again. Well this guy I have liked for 2 years is in the picture now and he is always there for me. We have been friends for a while and I don't know what to do. I really like him, he likes me, and I don't feel happy with my bf. But something keeps holding me back. I still love my bf, but I don't think things will work out. What should I do?

coincidentally my father is going through a simaler thing with his GF

its causing him way too much stress.

if youve lost trust its hard to build.
it's tough to know what to do.
but ive seen repeatedly that after a fight like that things only get worse.

you need to get someone better
move on from sadness to happiness

Solemnstar

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V-day is coming up, and I have /no/ idea what to get my bf! He loves music, and plays the trumpet/piano. I was thinking about taking him to a movie, but not sure his parents would let him go because they are /super/..well.. I dunno.. they're kinda weird. I mean, I don't know how to describe them. Anyways, any ideas? Mom suggested cologne (sp?) but i figured he doesn't wear that too much. Heeeelllp!!! (Please) :P

give him some music sheets for songs and some clening supplies for them so he can keep them in good shape.

if they wont let you take him you could always just have a night with him. i mean as long as you 2 are together it won't matter will it?

thats what i always thought valentines day was about:showing you love him......GOD I FEEL LONELY RIGHT NOW....:(


ok thats enough of that..

Solemnstar

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Everyone says that like it's just so simple. "Just get a new boyfriend!" HOW? If there isn't anyone that likes me, then how exactly am I supposed to get a boyfriend? It's not like I can just snap my fingers and have guys crawling all over me like everyone else, they just don't want to date me!

So... HOW? How do I just get a new one? HOW?

umm.no offense but you sound kinda desprate here.
you don't need to have a boyfriend at all times.
if you see it as a need you have far too few true friends.

if im wrong though.
you may need to just take it easy relax and see who drops out of the sky.

or visit the black market. im sure they've got something.....not from experiance of course.....

solemnstar

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alright now i need help boys are welcome too..well i have known this boy for 9 years and he's ok. we went out a few times and still to this very moment like each other. We're in 8th grade and are 14yrs old .but we can't go together (distance). Well he keeps doing stuff that really turns me off and i know i have to deal but how? Like he says stuff like just messing with me but it really annoyes me cause resently i've become pretty sincitive about his comments. so all and all technically we go together but literally we don't.I try not to respond to him like he's my bf but i can't help it which is making things worse. Confused and feel helpless! Pleez give advice.

P.S first time writing nixt time i'll try to make it shorter srry : /

i feel in this coflict of interests you talk to him.
he needs to know how you feel.
can't do much more then that.

Solemnstar

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im 14/f well like two days ago me and my brother got mugged and well there was three men and one grabbed me by my neck and tried chocking me so i kicked him in the balls when i tried to get back to my brother the guy had his knife on him and his friend was hitting him while the other guy was still trying to hold on to me...anyways my bro told me to run and i did after tht i found him coming back and he was bleeding we were both in a very bad state...and now its two days after what happened and ever since what happened when i come to try to eat this empty feeling is in my stomach and im not able to breath well and i cant eat and my stomach keeps hurting me and i start getting scared every time the dark comes or when i see or hear anything i get shocked and scared really easy my stomach really hurts me and i feel like i need to puke...is this cuz of the shock because before what happened i wasnt affraid of anything and belive me i mean nothing...and now im scared alot and i cant stand to be myself..i think there might be something wrong with me..i just need some advice or help ...thx

Awnser:it may be.
Theory:or it couls be a realtiy case of how you could have both died there.
Comfort:relax and you will get over it

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sorta a complicated question
please give advice asap i need it (14/f 8th grade)

ok heres the people i am going to use in my question
Kelli=bestfriend who i tell everything and which i am very close with and she is mature, less than me, but still mature ( friends since 7th )
Kara= bestfriend who's been my friend 6th grade, WAY less mature than me, but shes deffinately one of a kind..i can't talk about sum things with her that'd i like to

ok in school we have teams, four teachers to a team, and 8 total teachers, which means your on one team or the other, the last two years i've been in classes with kelli ( which means were on the same team ) and the last 3 years me and kara have been friends but on different teams. being on different teams basicly lowered your chances of staying friends..but me and kara pulled through and stayed friends

me and kara really never got into fights, even tough her mom and step dad fucking blow! i hate them, but thats WAY besides the point

me and kelli havn't been talking on the phone everyday, talking to each other a ton @ school, sitting by each other @ lunch, or hanging out really. sumtimes in literacy kelli tottaly ignores me..but yet shes not mad @ me...its hard to explain..it seems as if me and kelli are spliting apart, and she knows too much about me to not be friends! lol
but its really killing me, and i don't like spending the ngiht @ her house bc its gross!

i don't know how to make her not ignore me, i hav ethis feeling like when somebody hangs out WAY too much, they tend to get madder @ each other easier...so i am ''taking space?''

i just want to know how to make this friendship last forever..and did i forget to mention, kelli HATES kara!

that pisses me off..but girls will be girls

please help! i need it!

people change.
sometime for better sometimes for worse.
0people will hate each other sometimes for stupid reasons.
from what i can tell you need to find common ground with these people and then explain about how badly you want this friendship to last.
dont let this die out if you can help it.but in the horrible circumstance it does not work you need to see forward not back. going over the past and wishing for it accomplishes nothing.

Solemnstar

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ok im going to make this quesiton in short form cause if i didnt it would go on forever. as i get older i realize friends should be just a lil more for joking around or for sharin inside jokes or saving seats on the bus 4... should a friend be someone that you have a shoulder to cry on when ur depressed or u just broke up.. and theyll help you sincerely? cause when i try this with my so called "best friends, sarah and alyssa" they like are you ok jackie and im like no.. and they are like making awkward faces and like ok. i just want to know if ill ever get a special friend! im still young

"friends come and go but enemies accumulate"

anyways you cant just find a person like that. they find you.
like my friend ryan. ive known him for 7 years and we tell each other everything.

mostly stupid ideas we have but...


zzzzz.zzzzz..zzz

HUH!? what?

ooh right your q.
umm probably

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omg my keyboard is soo messed up!! my y=z, mz shift and 2 is ", mz 6 and shift is &, mz seven and shift is /, mz eight and shift is (, 9 and shift is ), and 0 and shift is =. Theres even more wrong!! God i hate it! How can i fix my keyboard??

i dunno.
1 go to a guy to get it fixed
2 change the keys around

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me and my freinds have been discussing having sex and what it feels like. NOT that any of us have had it. and than my freind who is a lesbian asks how will she be able to have sex with the same sex. i mean neither girl has a THING. and now my freinds only want to talk about sex. i mean we are 13 hello. just so you know i am not in a slutty group or whatever. these are just my really close freinds from elem. i mean it is REALLY gross. all they want to talk about is what an orgasam feels like. i mean not that i am not curious, but talking about it in school.

ok ive got to say first off this is kinda gross your right.

lesbians have"sex" by rubbing there"areas"together.

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ok i nedd help like now please please please.
ok right well my skin is normally so good its always been soft and clear but when i do get a spot i get one HUGE one and for the past 2 days my faces has gone into total breakdown.... i have like 4 spots and theyre quite red and then i have an old on ethats not a spot anymore but a red scarwhat do i do!!???? im going out to dinner with loadsa friends tonight and i dont know what to do please tell me the best thing that will get rid of them in like 8 hours please im just drinking water and not wearign any make-up as a detox but please help a fast spot clearing hting and i dunno if i can pop down the shops just anything please!!!!!!! sorry long but ill rate really high
thanx
xxx

it might be you are sweating out an illness like a flu that you caught and your skin is reacting to it.

id recommend seeing a doctor to be sure

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I'll admit, I am only 14, but I love the military. I have wanted to be a fighter pilot dating back to when I was five. My father recently retired from the Navy, and I want to join USAF, but I can't. I have diabetes. I find is very discouraging and discriminating that diabetics can not join. If one wants to join, I think the oppurtunity should be there. Right now, I am in Junior Air Force ROTC and my high school. I love the class, and I we (the "flight") were informed that if we joined the service, we would automatically be started at a higher rank than the others. But I do not have the choice to join, and I am considering to write to George Bush explaning how I feel. Should I?

well for one thing i think its discrimative that wiccans are not allowed to practice their religion in the army so write to him about that too

yes all others are alowwled to(as long as it is not mourning about the enemy i think)

HONESTALY i am completly against G.W.B becaus ehe is involved in worse things then the watergate scandal. have you ever seen farnheight nine eleven?

i think yes you should write but i also think more people need to inquire into his past freedom of speech right?

i also belive that G.W.B needs to explain why he without any evidance that osama bin laden was there bombed iraq and the says that the usa is friends with them all the while saying they are against them and will find nuclear weapons.

i know this is all one opinion but hes at war with terrorism not iraies.
GWB will suffer greatly for his crimes.

did you know theres a curse on us prsedent?

every 20-22 years a presdent is assainated in office GWB is next

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What is the difference between goth, punk and emo? Also, can you be christian and goth, or punk.

my blog has a few articles on this

http://wwww.Solemnstar.blognow.ca

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Ok so my parents keep on asking me what i want for chrismas!!! I dont know what i want
I am 13 years old....tom boy...i DONT want grly grl stuff...i dont wear make up!!!
The only thing i know i want is a pair of shoes that are shocks!!!
Can you please think of some thing i could like for chrismas
EVERYBODY who answers will get a 5!!!
Even if i dont like that stuff!!!

candy.i love ferro rocher (sp)

i dunno umm cds?

i dunno you so i cant give a good awnser but maybe a cimputer update?

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whats your favorite thing to have a girl do to you. cus i mean i tried stuff w/ my boyfriend and he didnt respond too much. any tips of what exciting things to do?..thanks.

eww

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a guy asked me if i drink but i only drink beer.. so is that considered "drinking"

ah beer "the cause of and solution to all of lifes problems"

yes.

i cant say much more to this.

he might mean if you drink obbessivly tho

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Every night for the past week or two, I've been having really bad nightmares. Two of the nights I've had nightmares that I was in a car accident. The other two nights, I've had dreams that I killed someone I love and tried to hide their body, then realized what I did was wrong and felt scared and guilty. I looked everywhere online to find out what these dreams mean and why I keep having them. Can someone tell me what all of this means? I rate 5's for all answers.

k first off t may bee what you are eating before bed. check for patterns. 2 perhaps make a dream catcher.3 it could represnt a secrest you are trying to hide needs to be shown(the second dreams). and the first dreams may be a spirt trying to contact(thats a slim possiblilty tho)or you are seening a futere vision or past life.

man my spelling sux

Solemnstar

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Your Funny. lol. Hi!!!!

i dont think i can give much advice to this but see a professional

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im deepresed and im failing every class and report cards are coming out and my dad will be hella pist what should i do i will rate 5 if you give me a good answer

ok. well first off.
you need to appiy yourself. you need to show you can work hard. you will get in trouble but it is your own fault.

work hard.
do well.
and he will forgive you

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so i skipped school and there was weed and alcohol im 13 female by the way..
and anyways.
i was good i didnt smoke because its disgusting.
and it was only 33% alcohol..
anyways my freinds turned out to not be freinds.
and so i was like.. im tired. then this guy goes oh here ill take you upstairs.. and show you where you can sleep.
so we went into the room yes we.. and he locked the door we were on his parents bed.
and he started making out with me.
hes 15.
and im like EWWWWWWWWWWW because he was so fugly.
and yeah he was on top of me..
then i stopped thinking omg what do i do.
then he took of his pants..
and started making out again..
and then he put my hand yeah you know.
and made me give him a handjob while makingout.
then he took of my pants.
And got on top of me.
and i pushed him of
and was like no!
im not going to have sex with you.
im a virgin.
and im afraid to have sex..
i didnt say that but yeah
and then hes like i love you.
suck my dick.
I KNOW ISNT THAT SO DUMB!
and im like no.
and hes like.
yes then you wont have to do anymore.
and im like NO.
i was thinking if i dont want to do anymore i wont do anymore.
and then he tried to have sex with me again.
i pushed him of.
and left to go get my twin brother and pretend i was at school.
what is this??
rape??
peer presure
im freaked out.
PLEASE HELP ME!

1.its rape
2.good job standing up
3. go to court.
4.HI!
5. be careful what you say.
i knew this girl once and she told about being raped. no body whats to be with her.
im not tring to scare you but be careful.
i just know you need to deal with this and find out how you feel about it.
you dont like the feeling but you might not have had to if you did not skip class.
theres a lesson there.
tell your parents.
lying about it will make it worse

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Why do girls help a guy cheat on his current girlfriend, then date him after they break up? They've already proven that this guy is totally willing to cheat, so do they actually think he wont do the same to them? Are girls really that stupid?

uuuuuummmmmm.YEAH!!!!
this question awnsers itself.
the guy wants somebody. thy get the person they want to help them lose the one they have.then the cycle continues
its like one of those nature channel

documentaries

yeah

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huh?! oh sorry.

k bui

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