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Q: We've been together with my bf for 1 yr and 1 month and recently we had a fight(a big fight) two days ago.And in the next day, he wont call me,text me or even visit me at my house...i miss him so much because everyday he wud visit me in my house...and that night i texted him that are we still together? and he doesnt text back...today i texted him that im home now, will u visit me and he didn't...i really really miss him...i cry a lot bcoz i totally miss him...what should i do?forget him?or should i stay in this realtionship?

i will rate 5...promiz

jean

I think you should walk up to his door. If he's not there ask whoever was there, when to come back. He can't avoid you then. Talk to him about your fight.

Q: My brother is getting married next month. He lives in Washington and we have to fly there for the wedding. I am scared to death to fly and I really don't even want to go if I have to. Should I say something to my parents? Should I just go and hope it doesn't crash? HELP!

You shouldn't be scared!!! It's mmuch much more dangerous to drive in a car than an airplane and I'm sure you do that every single day!!! I think you shouldn't mis your brother's wedding because then what kind of sister would you be?? See him on his big day and overcome your fear of airplanes. I'm sure the flight attendants will try to do the best they can to comfort you.

Q: theres no dance places around where i live but i LOVE to dance. i want to lose weight and be motivated to dance and stuff. how do i do this? what should i do every day to be a good dancer? what are some good songs to dance to and not ONLY rap but some is goood too. thank you!

Are you sure there are no dance places? There are probably some places similar to Curves. I think they have like "jazzercise" type things you can do. You can't become a good dancer without a dance teacher, so if you can't find dance studios then maybe find a privite teacher. Dance is a great way to make you legs strong and it's great excercies for your whole body too!!

Q: my *area* down there is constantly ITCHY!!!!!!! i don't know why! *female* i can't have crabs because i shaved the hair off it. i'm not sure if that was a good idea but once again, i really don't want to ask anybody in my family because they might make fun of me or embaress me etc. its REALLY itchy please help!

It's probably from shaving. It itches like hell afterwards so i wouldn't be surprised if thats the cause.

Q: I recently asked a question about suade shoes. Now I found a pair of shoes I like. They are white etenies with checkers on the E. The only problem is when I looked on their online store they didn't have them in my size. So can anyone give me a website that has etenies? Thank you in advance.

Zappos.com has etenies and every other kind of shoes you could think of. They even havee free shipping and free returns. I love that site!!!!

Q: ok well my feet are shped very "dis-formed" lets say. they have webbs between them just like a duck and when i wear flip flops with all my friend i feel left out. they really make fun of me. what should i do??

signed,
duckie

YOU are not the only one with gross feet. there are so many people with weird toes and stuff. You know how I know? Because they all wear flip flops!! Be comfortable with yourself and wear flip flops if you feel like it. If they make fun of you just laugh along!! Not many people realy look at your feet anyway.

Q: Today at Cheerleading camp we have to dress like the 80's people did and i have no idea what they wore...i cant go out and buy anything or nothing though...do you guys have any quick and easy ideas??.....thanks! ill rate 5 if i get an answer before 8:30 a.m. (thats when i have to be there.)

I think they wore big shoulder pads so you can stuff your shirt with some cloth. I think they wore bright colors too! I don't know but thstd what i ot looking through my mothers closet.

Q: My mom doesn't want me to have suade sneakers. She thinks they'll get ruined in the rain. Do they? If they do does they water proofing spray really work? Is there anyway I can convince my mom to let me get them? Thank you.

Suede shoes are horrible!! Your mom is right. I had them and they were gross in less than month. I have never heard of waterproofing spray, but it might me worth the risk if you really want suede shoes that won't look bad.

Q: OK, my problem is a bit weird. I'm 16, and that's normal, at least I hope. Anyways, I relised on my vacation last week that I never want to get married. And this isn't one of those "Oh, you're still too young to decide" things. It is one of those impulses that I know I'll have for the rest of my life.
Yet, I still want a child when I'm older. A few years back, I had another one of these impulses which told me that I do not want a child of my own, but I want to adopt.
I really don't know. Is this normal? Or is something wrong with me?

I don't think so. A lot of people decide to be independant because they don't want a man in they're way. Or some people just don't find they're special someone. It's not weird at all! Maybe you are going through a phase and you will change your mind. Or maybe not. My sister is only 10 and as soon as she figured out how babies were made she doesn't want to get married anymore. That has nothing to do with it so whatever. The point is...NO you're perfectly normal in your beliefs!

Q: Hey, I'm 14.f and something has been bugging me. So many people have been starting to have sex, and i think its like, pathetic, how can teenagers, want to give blow jobs and hand jobs, i mean hello, its kinda weird for 13-16 year olds to do that at this age in my opinion. Does anybody out there agree with me that this stuff is stupid at this age? There have been so many questions on here about sex and hand jobs and everything and i think it is plain out pathetic! Teens shouldnt be worried about that kind of stuff at this age. Does anyone out there agree with me at all?

Thanks-

Amen!!!

I'm with you girl! Whats the point? Most of the guys people do stuff with, will just end up leaving them!!! And don't think you're the only girl who knows what right because there's plenty of us out there!!!

Q: I have a 10 gallon tank and I have 6 fish. Little ones. I know that the perfect temperature to have in the tank is 74/76 degrees. Right now, since it's so hot where I am, it's up to 80. I've tried everything to get the temperature to go down to normal, icecubes, removing warm water and adding cold. The temperature will go down for a few minutes then it just shoots right back up! I have two questions: 1) Does anyone have any other ideas on keeping the tank cool other than what I've been trying? and 2) Is 80 degrees DANGEROUSLY high for my fish? They are regular fresh water tropical fish. I have 2 Neon Tetras, an Angelfish, a Honey Gourami and 2 Zebra Danios, if that helps any. Thanks in advance!

I think you should move the tank to a cool place, like a basement. Or try any place in your house that is usually cooler. I don't know much about fish, but 80 degress sounds a little high for a fish tank. Like you've said I think you should keep it up trying to keep the tank in the 70s.

Q: im nauseas all the time...does anyone know how to get rid of it?or what to eat?

Pepto Bismol!!!!

Works every time!! Or try some tea. THat always settles my stomache.

Q: A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!

Just say "I thought it was just going to be me and you". If you're frind doesn't respond to that then I would just live with it. You may end up making a new friend! the Jersey shore is really nice and you are going during a good time so I would go! You'll have loads of fun even if someone else is there with you!

Q: OK, my hair is just about shoulder length, maybe a little bit longer. It's thick and reallyyyyy wavy and frizzy. If i straighten it at night, like right before i go to bed, shood i keep it up or down overnight? Which will help it stay straight?

I'd keep it up. I have the same kind of hair as you, and my hair stays straightened and there isn't even a crease from the ponytail holder.

Q: i was wondering if you should shave above your knee's and if you do will it turn all gross like when you shave below your knee?

I RATE 5'S

It doesn't turn out all gross. It's barely noticeable when you haven't shaved in a while. If you have blond hairs though, i wouldn't shave above your knees because it takes up more time and you can barely see the hairs!

Q: Hey, im on a diet, but i have no idea what foods to eat.
I kno veggies and fruits and no white bread.
But like for actual meals, what should I eat?

I have to make a grocery list for my mom so it would really help to have this info asap. Thanks will rate high.

You could make some wraps with grilled chicken, and some other veggies. Just avoid putting mayo in it because its fattening.

For breakfast try some cereals like Special K. Use skim milk with it because it is the healthiest milk. If you can't stand skim milk try 1%. Add bananas or strawberries.

Make snadwiches with whole wheat bread.

Good snacks include yogurt, dried fruit, granola bars, veggies and dip, or celery with peanutbutter.

Good luck on your diet!!!

Q: Other than Jansport, what are some good brands of backpacks? I'm going to have a lot of big books and binders this year and I need a bookbag that will last me all year without tearing or the zippers breaking. Thanks.

I have a Sierra Mountain backpack and it held up well all through last year.

Q: i dont feel comfortable telling my mom i got my period...how do I tell her? what do i say so i dont feel so embarassed?

Well, since you get embarassed easily, slip a note in a cabinet. Like, one in her bathroom or a place she uses a lot. That way you don't have to talk to her

Q: Recently I was given a box of sweet potatoes from a friends garden. Does anyone have any recipes ideas for dishes I could prepare to use them. NO SWEET POTATOE CASSEROLE RECIPES PLEASE! Also, any recipes that could be prepared and frozen for later would be a big help.

I'll rate 5 for good answer!

My favorite way of eating sweet potatoes is just baked in the oven. You wrap them in tin-foil and put them in the oven until they get mooshy. Then you cut it down the middle and heap somme butter inside. YUM!! I don't know what temp to put them in the oven but i would try 350ºF.

Q: this will be very long..sorry! well me and my boyfriend have been going through a lot lately..and hes been wanting to me to prove to him how much i love him cause sometimes he wonders! so i went out of my way and paid my friends sister to take me to the mall so i could get him a bracelet he wanted carved with our names on it! so i spent like $74 on that and then i found the cutest card ever! well then since last night he has been acting kinda distant..like we couldnt really talk or anything! well then today he had to go help his grandpa so i thought no big deal ill talk to him when he gets home! well i looked at his buddypic thing and he took my name off and just put he had a girlfriend and added some other girl on there too which scared me! so i texted him and said something..no response! so then i called his house and he talked to me and said hed get online in a minute! well then he tells me hes going on vacation, he just got a job, and hes doing modeling so we wont really talk anymore so he thinks its best for now if we go on a break and i prove to him how much i love him! and he said after i send him his stuff he will read it all and think about it! and he said he cant talk on his cell cause his aunt wont let him and now he cant get on the computer either for like a week! it kills me so much cause ive never felt this way in my life..hes supposably bought me a promise ring and everything else! well i IMed that girl that was on his buddypic and seen what was up and i guess shes in love with him or something! and he was talking to her with me and i found out another girl says she loves him too and im so scared that he will move on although he keeps telling me he wont and those girls are too good of friends! i wanna believe him but its so hard! well i have his password for everything n he has mine too..well then he decides hes gonna change his AIM password and now i dont know what to think..im so scared something might be going on! i just dont know what to do! i have done nothing but cry since i found out! he told me after i send his stuff he will write me a letter back and i guess thats how we have to talk for now! i really dont know what to do cause im use to talking to him all day..it kills me so much! and i dunno what to do! do you have any cute ideas i could do with his card and bracelet that i can send through the mail? thanks so much!

You have definately been going through a tough time!! Just write something on his card that will make him remember all the goods times you had together and how much he means to you. Maybe then he will think harder about the descisions he has made and maybe you two wil get back together. I'm sorry if thats not the advice you were looking for!! I tried my best!

♥Arielle