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14/f

my boyfriend, josh is 17.
his best friend, and my best friend, blake is also 17.

so, ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 months on the 5th of august. and i met blake about a month before josh and i started dating.
i really love my boyfriend. and he says he loves me. but i dunno if he does. sometimes. he just doesnt sound sincere. blake on teh other hand, when he says i love you. its so definate, and i KNOW i can trust him. it just seems like blake cares so much more. and it worries me sometimes.

blake lives about an hour away from me though, while josh lves liek 10 minutes away.

i hung out with blake on friday night, we held hands, and he held me. and it was so great. hes the best hugger in teh world. and although he can be a sarcastic asshole sometimes, hes still so amazing. but he doesnt know that, hes reall not confident.

josh is pretty confident, he has low-ish self esteem.

but since friday, ive been thinking about my relationship with josh. i know i love him, but i dont know if its that kind of love anymore. and i think im begining to have feelings for blake.
and it really worries me, because i dont want to do that to josh.

also, i havent seen josh in about 2 weeks, because hes in africa on a missions trip.
so that may have something to do with what im feeling.

i just really dont know what to do, and id liek an outsiders opinion.
help would be much appreciated.
thanks in advance.

If you read everything you wrote, then the choice is obvious. Choose Blake. You shouldn't stay with Josh when you have feelings for another guy, especially if your loosing your feelings for your boyfriend. Don't let me tell you who to be with though. This is your decision. Think about who you really want to be with, who you couldn't bare to lose.

Also if you stay with Josh you might regret what could have happened and what you could have had with Blake. He sounds like a great guy, and you trust him. That's very important in a relationship, it also sounds like he really cares for you.

On the other hand, you're not sure if you love your boyfriend. Love is a sure kind of thing...you don't love him. You're not even sure if he loves you and you don't trust him. Not good. Think about all of this and make a Pro-Con list for both of them. (Just kidding. I actually did that once to help me choose what guy I wanted to be with, but you don't have to.)

I believe there are different types of love. There's a difference between being in love with someone, and loving them. I honestly think from what you wrote that you would be so much happier and have a much healthier relationship with Blake. But that's just my opinion. Just make sure you're picking the right person for you! Follow your heart and your instincts. That's all I can really say.

Let me know how it turns out. I'm seriously curious to see who you pick!

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hi
im bra size 32A
and all the bras that are 32A in womans and juniors department have to much padding in them.

i cant buy bras from the kids scention cause they only go up to 32A but thier really tight arround the prat that goes arround me.


i want bras that dont overpad, cause you can tell a diffrence when i wear sportsbras and cuped. and i dont want to look fake.

and please dont say just to only wear sports bras, cause i only wear them to sleep or exersize, and im not comftrable wearing them arround cause i dont like how they make my breasts look. =/

umm any ideas?

There are many different types of bras. Next time you go shopping just look at the different types. I'm sure you'll be able to find a 32A that's not padded and doesn't make you look 'fake'. If not, then look in a different store.

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ok so i have this big group of friends and this guy max i know is dating amanda. im friends with both of them but ever since they've been dating i've been hooking up with max behind all our friends backs. Just recently some of our friends have been getting a little suspicious and only 2 of them know. i know its bad enough wat we've already done but me & max have been moving pretty fast and i feel like i'm ready to have sex with him. I really wanna do it and so does he but he won't break up with amanda. what should we do? what should i do?

k thanks

Honestly... You are being a horrible friend and Max most likely doesn't care about you at all. You're acting like a slut, you're better than that. You need to fess up and find a guy who actually wants to be with you (just you) and not just sleep with you on the side.

Max probably just wants a physical relationship with you because he's not getting it from his girlfriend, which he's cheating on with you by the way. So he's also being a terrible, unfaithful boyfriend.

If Amanda finds out then you'll loose her as a friend, but you're betraying her anyway so you shouldn't care when she realises what you've been doing. Because she will find out eventually, whether you tell her or not, and karma will come back and bite you in the ass.

How would you feel if your boyfriend was cheating on you with your best friend. This whole situation is Jerry Springer worthy. How could you do this to someone you supposedly care about? You don't even seem sorry for what you've done and still do. You need to think about what you're doing, break off the whole tryst with Max, and go to confession and pray to God for forgiveness.

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well im thinking about going tubing with my best friend and her boyfriend(who is also my best friend) and my boyfriend.we are all like really close best friends and i think my friend looks better in a bathing suit than me. i have talked to my boyfriend about it and he says you know idc what she looks like its no big deal.but what if hes just saying that.help ):

Don't worry about it, sweetheart. If your boyfriend hasn't done anything to loose your your trust, then you should trust him and have faith in him. Innocent until proven guilty right? Besides if your best friend thought something was going on and she really was your best friend she would tell you. If your boyfriend really cares about you then he won't care what your friend looks like in a bathing suit, and he already told you that. So you should listen to him.

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so my school has a bowling team and i'm sure others do to so like when are try outs? like what month? becasue i have no idea when a bowling season would start. and anyone with experience is it hard? i really want to like join a team and highschool and i have literally tried everything

14/f/gonna be a freshman :]

Bowling isn't that hard. You just have to be consistent every time you bowl, pay attention to what you're doing.

http://www.angelfire.com/nv/bowling/tips.html

::Jasmine::

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Does anyone know how long the running time of "The Gossip Girl" is?

60 minutes, with commercials. Without probably commercials around 42 minutes.

::Jasmine::

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the tv series.
what channel is it on? and when? please someone tell me. thanx bye

It's going to be on the CW, that's channel 6.

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I am over a week late for my period and I am sexually active. I have been having nausea and tiny cramps, my breasts have been sore for a couple days now, and I have been having more headaches and been more tired. Could I be pregnant and is it too soon to take a test?

If you have sex you can get pregnant. Even if it was protected sex. It's not to early to take a test. I suggest you take a test as soon as possible, and make an appointment at a clinic to get a test done also. You are showing some early signs of pregnancy, so I think you might actually be pregnant.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/symptoms-of-pregnancy/PR00102


::Jasmine::

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ok i just found out that my 17 year old friend is in love with me and im 13...i asked him if he knew about the age difference and he said that he didnt care....any advice?

That is a big age difference and a weird age difference, but if you're okay with it and you like him then that's all that should matter. I wouldn't suggest a 13 year old going out with a 17 year old because you're both on different maturity levels and at different places in your life, but it's honestly up to you. If you do decide to go out with him just don't let him pressure you into doing anything you're not ready for.

::Jasmine::

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how much can a human lift?

It depends on the human.

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okay there is this guy i like, we hung out last week for the first time. (met through friends)A very cool kid we have a lot in common. I got out of the car and i gave him a handshake and thanked him for the nice evening. I mean it was our first time meeting and i began to like him so i didnt wana rush things. He hasnt talked to me since last thursday. I left him a comment, he didnt return one and i just called him now and he didnt pick up his phone. Do you think he isnt interested?

Well give him some time, you left him a message right? Call again and if he doesn't anser leave another message. If he doesn't call back after another week, then he probably isn't interested.

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ok..well..i feel really stupid and embarrassed to be asking for advice on this one, but i dont know how to tell my mom i want a bra. cause i wear sports bras...but umm..i need like a real one. haha. and me and my mom arent really open and we dont talk about things like this. and id feel so dumb telling her i wanted one, let aloe go shopping with her..er...

thanks :)

You really shouldn't feel dumb at all, every girl has to start wearing a bra at some point. Just walk up to your mom and tell her that you need to go shopping for bras. She doesn't even have to shop with you, just pick out the ones you want. It won't be awkward unless you make it awkward. It's not like she's going to laugh at you or refuse to take you shopping.


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Hey.
So my girlfriend invited me over to dinner with her parents next week.
She said that her dad was very nosy and would want to know everything about me.
Where my parents work, What im taking in school, Where I want to got to college, Etc.
Its fine with me that he wants to know everything about his daughters boyfriend. I am prepared to answer all the questions except the one about where my parents work. When he asks im going to say, “My dad owns his own company, my step-mom is a Doctor of Environmental Engineering, and she also runs part of her parents Oil Company.”
Is that too descriptive? Should I be like “My dads owns a company and my step-mom works for the Government.”

Thanks

Cody*

Just tell them what your parents really do, you don't have to give them every last detail or go into description. It's not like her parents are going to hate you becaue they don't like where your parents work. He's just trying to get to know you. And you won't be bragging, if they want to know more, they'll ask. It can't be that bad.

::Jasmine::

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Well.. this is probably going to make me sound like such a low person but when I remind myself that you don't know me it doesn't matter so here goes: I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months. He's my best friend and I love him to death, we spend alot of time with eachother and I wouldn't want to sacrifice him for anything but I realize that a friend of his has a crush on me, and I sort of like him too a little. And we flirt and I'm not sure where it's going. I told my boyfriend a friend of his liked me, we flirted, but not who it is or that I like him too and I'm in a world of hurt right now. =P Oh well, won't remember when I'm 30 anyway.

Just because you love someone that doesn't mean you're not going to find other guys attractive. It's just a crush, remember that. You love your boyfriend and your boyfriend loves you. This probably won't be the first time you have a crush on another guy, just don't forget what you have going for you, and how much you love your boyfriend. Don't do anything you'll regret.

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what are some bands like fall out boy, the academy is, boys like girls, and plain white ts? theyre my new addiction haha

Story of the Year
The Used
Say Anything
Panic! At the Disco
Taking Back Sunday
Cute is What We Aim For
Saves the Day
Less than Jake
Brand New
Something Corporate
Hawthorne Heights
Lucky Boys Confusion
My Chemical Romance
The Starting Line
The Sleeping

The first six are the best.

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ive already asked for help and noone responded, here it is again.
im in my 40's/male. i was married for about 20 years with the most amazing women known to man.
i have cheated on her with about; 10 different girls, but only had 3 actuall girlfreinds. we have been seperated for about 1 year; im now with my girlfriend she caught me cheating on her with. she doesnt know about the others.
also my 2kids (wife) basically hate me and i never see one of them.
since no one resoponded back to me before im going to make this short.

basically, i still love my wife and im now cheating on my girlfriend with her friend. i want my wife back!!! p.s we are going through divorce. help!!

If she's the most amazing woman known to man why the hell were you cheating on her? She has a right to hate you. Now you're with her friend? That's a fucked up way to gain her forgivness and get back together with her.

If you really want to be with her you're going to have to stop cheating on her... for good. You need to get your children and your wife and talk to them... no beg them for forgiveness. Then you need to tell them that you'll get a therapist, because you definitely need one.

You need to talk to your wife, tell her what you did was a mistake and that you only want her. Tell her you love her and you don't want a divorce. Ask for another chance. And even if she does give you another chance and forgives you, don't count on her actually trusting you for a while. And don't expect her or your kids to act the same way around you again. You *really* messed up. I highly doubt things will ever be the same between you and I doubt they'll forgive you.


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hey.

my friend is going to watch my guinea pigs [2] while i'm on vacation. i'm going to be gone 19 days [give or take one day because of timing] & she said that she's never petsat before so whatever rate i think is fair she'll go along with.

uh, well, what rate should i pay her? i dogsit & get paid $10 a day, which is kind of ridiculous. so i mean, i have to poop the dog, take him on walks, etc.

the guinea pigs only need to be fed & made sure that they have water. sometimes, they scatter bedding on the floor, but only a little & it only happens when they jump up in surprise.

also, i really don't want to pay her a LOT. cause we're a little tight of money & such. would $7 be good? or should i not say "this is how much i'm paying you per day" & just give her the total (which will seem like a lot) amount of money in the end?

thanks!

I would say around $5 a day. It would be different if you were only gone for a short period of time, you could pay her more per day. In the end $7 a day would be $133 and $5 would be $95. Your decision.

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what are the earliest signs of pregnancy?

Tender, swollen breasts
Fatigue
Slight bleeding or cramping
Nausea with or without vomiting
Food aversions or cravings
Headaches
Constipation
Mood swings
Faintness and dizziness
Raised basal body temperature


http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/symptoms-of-pregnancy/PR00102


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Okay, so here's my problem:
I have a friend, and she copies everything I do. I know she's doing this because all of a sudden, she's into EVERYTHING I'm into...and she never used to like everything I liked. Now she's like a mini-me and it's annoying. She even tries to friend all the friends I have on my myspace, and she doesn't even know them! Also, sometimes I think she's trying to outdo me. If I go out and get a CD or something, she'll go out and get the same one plus another one I wanted the next day. I've tried confronting her about this, but all I get as a response is "whatever" or "that's not true!". I'm really fed up with this. I'm afraid to end our friendship though, because she doesn't have many friends anyway. What should I do?
14/f

Awww... She admires you, but if it seriously bugs you then talk to her about it. Don't just bring it up once, sit her down and talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel and also how you think she has changed. Maybe she doesn't even realise wwhat she's doing, maybe she does.

If she continues what she's doing and if you feel it's nesecessary to end your friendship, then fine. Don't feel guilty just because she doesn't have many friends and don't stay her friend just because you feel guilty. It's not fair to either of you.

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Help! I feel completely torn between my best friend and my girlfriend.

Okay, this is really gonna sound confusing, I think... Well, they basically hate each other. My girlfriend hates my best friend because my best friend likes me, I think... Because she even told me recently that she liked me.

Anyway, my girlfriend hates her because she flirts with me a lot and stuff right in front of her... and my best friend hates my girlfriend because she doesn't think she's right for me.

I thought I could have both my girlfriend and my best friend, but everytime I am even nice to my friend, my girlfriend ends up thinking something completely different.

Well my girlfriend was all quiet one day and when I asked her what was wrong she told me that she thought I was gonna break up with her because of my best friend, which I would never do.

Everything's okay between us now, but now my best friend thinks we aren't that good of friends anymore...

I really want both of them... I want my girlfriend and my best friend. PLEASE help. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Well if I was your girlfriend I wouldn't like the fact that your best friend was flirting with you all the time in front of me either. Your best friend probably thinks that your girlfriend is not right for you because she wants you too.

Your girlfriend has a good reason for hating her, she probably thinks your friend is a threat to your relationship. You should tell your bestfriend that you don't like her in that way and that you would appreciate it if she stopped flirting with you around your girlfriend.

Explain to your girlfriend that even though you're nice to her that doesn't mean anything. Tell her that you guys are just friends and that you want to be with her. You shouldn't have to pick one of them, but if your best friend doesn't back down a little you might have to.

Best of luck.


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