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Hey, I am Cj from Belize. Some may also call me Christopher. Others call me crazy.

You probably never heard of my country before but that is alright. Check for it on a map, it is right under mexico. And please don't direspect my country. Many of my ancestors have fought to make the country independent. ANd so did my grandparents and my father. And when I am old enough, I shall give back to my country its rightful due.

I will answer your questions according to what I think, not what you want to hear or what others are saying. I think for myself. And If you don't or can't think for yourself....
stop wasting your time in life.

And if you hate my advice, please explain why so that I can improve on it. Don't tell me that I am stupid and that you hate me, because I don't care what you think of me.
E-mail: power_cjwaight@yahoo.com
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What are some good over the counter diet pills? (link)
No such pill exists.

eat less and exercise more, and drink more water.


Cj


OK, so me and my boyfriend had sex for like 2 minutes at the most!!! He didnt ejaculate or anything but i need to know if theres a chance i could still get pregnant!!! Please help, its urgernt!!! (link)
yes, small chance.

really small chance.

IN is highly improbable BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE.
SO the chance is still there.


Anyone know what slipknots latest album is? (link)
they have 4 albums

Make feed kill repeat

slipknot

Iwoa

Volume 3 : the subliminal verses

they have many more side albums, like LIVE or greatest hits or Darkness tour or whatever, but those are never of any importance to me.

And by te way, I believe slipknot has broken up.
They have finallly taken off thier masks.
I am not 100% certain on that though.


my girlfriend thinks that im too innocent, how could i change? I hardly know any sexual slang,ect. (link)
Personally, I would be proud to be considered too innocent.
but if you want to change, start small, with practical lokes on people. and yes, practical jokes are innocent, but have a rep of less innocent. SO it chould work out.
don't have any ideas for practical jokes?
how about tickling people when they are asleep.
(with fingers or feather, your choice)

but if you try them and it doesn't feel like you, STOP.

remain happy in your innocence. and if the girl dumps you, she is not good enough. you want one who will respect you for who you are. Don't change yourself just for the sake of others.

Cj


Iam 16 years old and I want to have sex so I could get pregnant becouse I feel like nobody loves me and if I have a baby iam sure my baby will love me is this normal? (link)
no
a kid is not the way to go!
be a loner.
There is peace in solitude.
and it is not normal thinking but then again,
what is normal?
why don't you just listen to some good music (killswitch, disturbed, linkin park), or maybe some KoRn to match the mood.
But that is one of the dumber things i have heard. and i have heard a lot of dumb things.
a kid will just F*** up your life more.
Find something alse to do.



Cj


Hey yall, well ive been getting into like rock, emo(sp),depressing, sad, songs....can anyone give me some songs of them(artist and title please) thanks everyone for your help.. i dont know what i would do without you all!! ill rate 5's (link)
basically
just listen to KoRn.

any song of thiers is basicallly sad and makes you feel suicidal.


hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks (link)
14 is a bit too young.
16 is a bit more appropriate.
sex and teenagers should never mix but they often do.
and it is a bit overrated.(both the sex and making out.)
this is my view.

But today, society is implanting lies into the weak. They all feel it is alright, but have no reason to prove it so other than "everybody is doing it."

they could make out, but not at random or with random people. MOst, (not all) of those who do so are sluts, whores (future whores). few self respecting people would be caught there at such an age.

It leads to misunderstanding. the making out makes them feel loved. they get distracted and lose sense of reality. then when they have taken down thier guard, some fool changes thier mind and breaks thier heart. the guy or girl i made out with (and/or had sex with ) never loved me. And the fools just do it again and again and again. I have no idea why they do so.

but if they are older, I believe making out is alright and it really depends on how far they get to sex without doing it is what matters. Feeling is wrong. hugging is not. lying on one another is not. licking or kissing in other places is wrong.

As i said before though, THIS IS WHAT I BELEIVE.


Cj


I would like to gain at least 20-30 pounds before April 11th, 2006 (my b-day) I am at least 120 pounds. All of my life, I have been skinny. I'm now 14 years old and in high school. Most of the girls are thick with boobs and butt. I got butt but nothing more. I'm a black girl and I'm not thick but long and skinny. If I were to gain at least 30 pounds (of thickness!) I would fill out my clothes better and feel good about myself.

1.) Can someone give me websites on how to gain pounds faster?

2.) Can someone tell me how they gained weight? (if you tried to gain weight and succeeded)

3.) You can also give food ideas!!!!!!

*~* please don't tell me how stupid this is because that won't change the way I feel about this. Please don't give me websites about how to gain muscles because I am already exercising. *~*

THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH IN ADVANCE :-* Lol : ) (link)
eat alot and eat unhealthily.
lots of fry chicken and oil based foods.
lot of carbs and sugar too. and a lot of sleep and laziness.
coke
macdonalds
fry chicken
ice cream
cow foot soup
steak, beef, and pork
eggs
FRIES


just be like that until the end of march. that is about 30 pounds. but you we will be fat all around. then for april try exercising and stuff, really intensely. and back to a normal healthy diet. you should lose about 10 of those pounds back during those 10 weeks easily.
this may not give the reults you want because it is very difficult to control where you are adding the weight. it may go somewhere you don't want it to.


ok, so i have braces and i got them in three days ago but i still can't eat and i'm getting really sick of putting the wax shit in and stuff and i wanted to know if there was anything i could do. but i can't take most medicines because it interferes with the one i'm already taking so....PLEASE help!!! (link)
ok
so braces in 4 days now.
you can't eat because the biting hurts your gum and your teeth? right?
well just don't chew. dink water as you eat then swallow it whole. eat bread based meal for the first week.
or cereal.
by week two it will hurt less.
the pain will gradually reduce from then on. It will stop hurting after a while, until they tighten it.
now the wax...
why are you putting it on?
you should only put it on if it pinches.
otherwise, you don't need it.
(if it pinches, where? at the back?right? that means the wire slipped, tell the dentist on your next trip and he can fix it, or chop off the excess (the dentist chops it off, not you).)

what kind of medicine are you taking?
i would reccomend simple pain-killers like tylenol and benadryl and stuff.

any more questions, you know what to do.


Cj


i know that you can take a test to see weather or not you've done drugs but if you did drug when you were 14 and then took a drug test when you 18 would it show up....don't worry i'm not a freaking idiot who would f*** up their life just to get a high and seem cool for a minutes so don't worry i was just wondering (link)
no!

the time varies on the drug.

things like alcohol are about 9 days.

weed is a bit more than 2 weeks.

caffiene is a few hours.

and cocaine is about a month.

tobacco is about a week.


If you knew a girl named Alexandra from Wisconsin, please contact me as soon as you can.
power_cjwaight@yahoo.com

whats up with that?
(link)
alright.

is hould take that down.

On friday the thirteenth of January, I recieved an email from her saying she was interested in me. SHe was pretty and sweet and everything. Sadly, she died in a car crash about 3 days later. And now she is gone and I can't bring her back. but i still wanted to know a bit more about her, so i put it up in hope that someone would respond and tell me a bit more about the path of my life which was not chosen.

I felt really bad at the time, it was so unfair.everything just seemed so messed up. people just die for no reason at all.I just wanted some answers. maybe someone to tell me she was still alive. Or a way to bring her back. (i kinda found a way but I am not messing with).
that message was a bit of hope for me. A desperate action by a disturbed person.

But I can't turn back time.
I guess i should remove it now.
as
I am over it.

thanks for asking.

Cj


I am quite small and don't have much fat on my body. I weigh 90 pounds and i'm about 4' 10.5'' I have very muscualar legs, arms, and shoulders. My problem area: my lower stomache. I have a minor pot belly. YUCKKK!

I'm in 7th grade and have a really busy schedule. The only time i could fit in some excercise would be when i get home from school, but im usually famished and need some rest. I'm not fat and i will never think that EVER no matter what. I accept who I am completely, but I do think staying healthy is important. I need help motivating myself to leg lifts and that crap. i don't like it! It hurts! What can i do to motviate myself and fit in an excersise schedule? (link)
you could always wait for puberty to kick in and solve everything.


Are seniors allowed to take freshman to prom if theyre going out?
thanks. (link)
depends on the school, which you forgot to mention.


It would be cool if only boys answered this question as I guess they would know best...
What do guys look for in girls? Hair, makeup, clothes? A certain way of acting? Anything that you guys like? I rate, and thanks in advance (link)
ok
this is what I look for in a girl.
She doesn't have to be pretty but she can't be ugly. Also, being pretty or beautiful is different from being sexy. I personally do not look for sexy girls. I only look at them. THier sexiness will atract too much competition w other boys.Also if they are sexy in public, that means they are promiscious or they will cheat on you. I don't want my gf to cheat on me.
She can't be fat. SHe doesn't have to have a body like sillohuette of the girl on a mudflap.
Also, I like to see girls with long hair. THis is basic instict(I think). long hair is feminine which is attractive.
Contrary to popular belief, guys like brown and black haired girls more than blondes.
Also, guys want girls shorter than themselves.
Acne is a real turn off too. NOt to mention body odor or bad breath.
Also, I don't like girls that wear makeup. nor high heels. If you wear makeup, it shouldlook natural. Skirts are pretty attractive too.
THat is about it for looks. as i said before, looks aren't everything, so long as you are not ugly, looks are basically unimportant.
what matters is personality.
Smart girls are attractive, no boy (except those other jerks) likes the dumb blonde. (dumb is the operative word here)
she also has to be friendly, smiling alot. THe angry girl thing will only land you in the arms of a guy looking for sex.
she also has to be mannerly.
However, she cannot be girly,
crying about breaking a nail and crap like that is all rass to me.
don't ever talk about girl power or crap like that either.
she also has to be athletic. (not really) but she isn't ome of those girls who don't get any exercise either.
so basically it is a mix between looks and personality, personality being more important.
so not fat, not ugly, smart, friendly, rarely ever angry. and NOT FLIRTY. that doesn't work.

that is only my view. other guys may differ. My friends and I have almost this exact same view. Non of us look for girls sexually (even though we may look at them sexually), we are all in the top 15 in academics in school, and we are very nice (cool)(even popular) people.

BUT EVERY GUY IS DIFFERENT> THIS ONLY A VIEW THAT GUYS LIKE ME HAVE!


Hope that helped. If you want any point clarified, just send one into my inbox.

(you know, you should search questions to see if other people already asked it before you retype a duplicate question. I am getting a little tired of seeing and answering this one.)



Cj


well im 15 and im Latina and well i cant find any good websites the i can chat with other latinos im already on bebo and myspace and migente but none of them can help all it is about is making ur page look good and i dont know how to do that on migente anybody kno anyother good places i can try thanx
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who says you should only talk to latinos?
you can talk to asnybody.
bored?
get up, get out and go play!
Verb!
it's what you do!
righteous way to become unbored
stop wasting your time chatting and do something productive for a change.
ride a bike!
go star-gazing!
do your homework!
study!
take a jog!
get a job!
go shopping!
whatever!
just do it!
there is life beyond the internet!



Cj


Does anyone know if the Invisalign works? I was thinking about getting Invisalign instead of braces...has anyone had any experience with it? (link)
in theory it works.
but in practical application, it is not so great.
it only works on some people and it depends if the dentist knows what he is doing or is just pretending he knows what he is doing.

I reccomend the metal ones.

they work better and help you to develop character.

Cj


What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss? (link)
average is about 13.

but it is popular not to get one until ages 16-21 too.

don't follow the crowd into something you don't want to. just chill and it will come with time.
I am 15 and have never been kissed, and I don't see one coming in the close future either. so just relax. and don't cave into pressure.

you are your own.
you are no-one other than yourself.
you can think for yourself.
Don't let other's think for you.
and worse yet, don't let society think for you.
so just delete this question, cause other answers will make you feeled pressured.


Who watches American Idol?
Who's your fave?
Who do you hate? Who do you think should get voted off? (link)
who cares?


What does "pop your cherry" mean? Like I know it has something to do with a hymen...what I'm not exactly sure what a hymen is!! Like does it just happen when you put something...up there? Does it hurt? Like what IS it? And is that a way someone can tell if your a virgin or not?? and i rate. (link)
it is a thin membrane that is up there. poppin your cherrs is when it breaks, burts, rips, or whatever.
it could happen from riding a horse, climbing trees, sports (ballet even), and or by having sex or masturbating. yes, mastubating is putting something up there.

It is traditionally a way of telling if one is a virgin or not. it will be broken if she had sex before.

when it breaks, it bleeds a bit, so men would have sex with thier wives on thier wedding night on a white sheet. If blood stains are found on the sheet afterwards, that means it was a virgin.

It even usually works if it was previously broken doing something aother than sex (or masturbation.) cause only a piece of it breaks when you break it climbing or riding. it will finish breaking on the wedding night and will still bleed.

don't worry, it is supposed to be rare to break without something going up and breaking it. and it shouldn't hurt.
Oh yeah, tampons might mess with it though.


Ok i know this is a strange question, but the opinion of others is always valued. There is this guy i like, and i think he likes me too, because everytime he walks by me he looks at me and when hes nearby me and talking to me, he'll look at me as if i was something he's never seen before. So my question is, the look men give women when its like they've never seen anything like that before, what is its deeper meaning behind "the stare"???? Thanx (link)
it means your pretty.

and he does not have enough courage or there is some other factor holding him back.

but it is his way of telling you that you look good.

Cj




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