first thing; i do believe in love at a young age because when you are young and experience love, it is the most magical feeling in the world. even when you are older. but, when you experience it for the first time, most of the time it is when you are young. so, i can understand that. you can talk to me about this problem or any other. just send me a message :)

you can look at this two ways. i totally understand that different
places have different cultures. while here, in the united states, it might be illegal, there are places where these kinds of things are the normal things. there are places where when you about 9 years old, they marry you off with a fourty something year old man. now, i think that i truly gross. i'm sorry, but i wouldn't want to be in their position. however, you are not nine and he is not fourty of fifty years old. so, you can see it as something that is cultural. over there, the culture does not consist in caring about things like that how it is emphasized here in the US

you could also see it in another perspective. he could be a crazy phsyco maniac. some people are sick in their head. all they think about is sex and who they can have sex with. while some people are just crazy rapists that will get you on the floor and just do it, there are people that actually plan this stuff out and have strategies about how they will do it. they decide to lure girls in with charms. they figure that if they can sweet talk us, they might be able to get something out of us. so, we always have to know our place, as women

so, if you want to, you can continue talking to him over the internet or something and just talk to him. just have a conversation with him and if you see a crazy rapist in him, then i suggest that you back off fast! you should not be under these situations. your happiness is important and you should treat it like if it were gold. so, you have to think about what makes you happy

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i go to a private/catholic school. but, i know people who have made the switch. well, basically, it is different. it's a lot different. in a private school you are protected a lot and in a public school, it's different. there are so many more people and you are not as protected through the school. most people always claim to skip class and stuff, while in a private school, you couldn't do that because after they take attendance, if you're not there, they will call the office, and the office will all your parents. i could never get away with that. the whole school would find out lol. also, it's more like college because you are expected to be more of an individual and take care of yourself there. i mean, we are still children by law, which basically means there are laws to protect us like they still have to take care of us whether we are in a public or a private school. but, they treat you more like an adult and expect you to find things, buildings, and if you can't they'll probably expect you to ask for help. i don't think that they will make fun of you because you are new. it's that way in private schools because it's small and everyone knows eachother. but there are more people in public schools, and they might not even notice, well they will notice YOU but people studentd don't just go around looking for the new people for no reason. its totally ok. just be cool with everybody. be nice. and you'll be more than ok.

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haha of course there is lol. i got to a private ALL GIRLS SCHOOL and there still are. we talk to people from other schools. i go to a catholic all-girls high school. so, don't feel bad. and uniforms are cool. you don't have to worry about what to wear every morning and you kind of grow to love them

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ouch! lol. i agree with everyone else. put aloe vera on it

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well, he probably thinks that you're pretty and stuff. but, think about it. it's awkward! you guys have the same blood. imagine the children. i know it may be difficult. but think about it. do u have a brother? why wouldn't you date your brother? just think about it. like, i have this one friend that everyone thinks he's my boyfriend because we're always together and we always have a good time and sometimes he gives me that look also. but, he actually has a girlfriend. and i've grown to see him as a brother, because that's what he is like to me. and he tells me everything and he makes jokes and we always beat each other up. so, i guess that he does all that in a brotherly-sort of way. so, since he acts like that, that's just how i feel. you probably don't see that side of your cousin. you probably don't see that like you might in other family members. i don't know if you are only child. i am, but i can still see it in this guy. u know what i mean? i think that you should think of all the things that make him "brotherly" or "cousinly" to you and some things that you just find repulsive about him even though you still love him (like a cousin or someone in your family, that is) and just forget about this whole thing, because it's for your own good. you guys are related and this isn't the olden days where people married their families. and just pray

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i use to think that grinding was like super slutty but then this guy asked me to dance and he got behind me and it wasn't so bad. i was so worried and it's not like people think that you're a slut. it's like a way of dancing. well, atleast that's how people see it now at my school and stuff. don't worry about never having kissed a boy. that comes naturally. i mean, there's no more than that. it just sort of happends. so, dont worry about it. just sit back and relax and the person that will kiss you will come around and just kiss you lol. ok, the girl that puts her hand down the boys pants. you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. just because these girls do that, you don't have to. i mean, the grinding and the kissing, you don't have to do it if you don't want to. don't be pressured into it if you don't want to. guys might respect you more if you simply just tell them that you don't grind and if you do, they won't think any less of you. guys just want you to be you. so, whether you grind or not, it's up to you. it's not like anyone is going to judge you by that. and kissing, it's only natural. so, i guess grinding is too. i mean, it's just a dance! that's why, there's nothing wrong with it. i'm just saying that guys respect girls that give their opinions. and one thing is if you have the same opinions as them, but another thing is that some girls just agree with everything guys say and they make themselves inferior to them. all i'm saying is don't do that. but, there's nothing wrong with grinding or kissing. i don't think that you should put your hand down anyone's pants. lol. then guys will just think that they can get what they want from you. i mean, you can make them happy but don't let them mistake you. you seem like a lovely girl, so don't become something that you're not just to fit in. you don't have to stick your hand in anyone's pants to fit in. you are you and that should be good enough to them

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don't RESTRICT yourself of any foods. just have things in portions. i don't think that you have to lose weight. and well, i think that it is a bad idea to restrict foods from yourself. if you only want to lose three pounds, that's one thing. but, you can't let yourself lose more than that. the reason you might wear a medium is because you either have bust or because you have a long torso and if you wear a small, it will be too short. i don't think that you need to worry about losing weight, but if you decide that really want to, don't diet by restricting yourself from foods. just have them in portions

some people don't get cramps as bad as others. sometimes they feel like a belt is tightened around the inside of your bikini line

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it depends on how much tea you drink. but you have to make sure you get a weight loss tea. not just regular tea. if you drink as much as i said, you will probably lose about 5 pounds the first week like all the water. then you might lose liek 3-5 the next week, etc.

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good luck

yeah and it makes you more cranky. it effects your pms a lot

yeahh. i love it! you will probably see some results in about a week or two. i agree with the other person who answered. it does give your face a nice glow and it makes your skin feel healthy and look healthy. good luck

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super slimming tea

u can get it at the grocery store

drink it with breakfast, before lunch, lunch, before dinner, dinner, and after dinner

and eat but eat small portions

run every day while listening to your favorite songs

good luck

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well, it's something that happends naturally when there your in a romantic situation. so, get in to a regular romantic situation where both of you have kissed before. then, slowly slide your toungue into her mouth. there really isn't much to it than that i guess. good luck

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i think that if you want to learn how to cook more things that you should get a book on it. maybe a book or different kinds of recipies

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well, go to "edit answers" and i think that if you click on there, you might be able to write back to him through your answer. i'm not sure if you can do it after it's been rated but if you can, just ask him for his advicenators inbox and ask him who he is. it might actually be someone that you really know. i know what you mean. i can totally understand that you don't know who it is, and you don't want to meet up with someone if you don't have a clue who it is! so, be very careful. but it might be someone you know so ask who it is

yes. and run every day. not only will it help, but you will feel good too

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well, i'll give you the bad news about high school first. in high school, it is less likely that someone is going to come up to you and just let you into their group and tell you to come join them. i mean, unless it's a guy that's into you or something. but, i mean like groups, you know? you have to walk up to them and make friends with them. that's the positive side lol. that you an do something about it. it's not really that bad. all i'm saying is that you have to talk to people and stuff

about your sister- people might just think. oh that's her sister. but, i don't think that they will judge you to the point that they will think you are her. if you are not like her, you're personality will shine through and people will accept you and love you for who you are

getting lost- don't worry. i felt the same way. but, you find your way. you get use to it and eventually you find everything okay. don't worry about that because the teachers will probably not be super strict about being a little late to class the first couple of weeks because they understand that you are getting use to the place and the rooms

science class- i think that is awsome and don't worry about the people in your class. i think that it is a good thing to becone friends with the upper classmen because because they are good to have there. they will protect you and stuff. but, don't get me wrong. the upperclassmen aren't bullies or anything, but if you are scared of getting bullied or somethingm, that will make you feel better

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well, when you breathe in, breathe in through your nose and then you breathe out through you're mouth letting out the air slowly. i think you should go for hiim ;)
good luck

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well in my school we take the psat in sophmore and junior year and the sat's in senior year. it is a standardized test that that tests you on your skills in different subjects and is sent to the colleages that you apply to. your sat scores are very important but at the same time, there is nothing to sweat. from my understanding they are just common sense questions

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somebody who feels very strongly about love and believes that love conquers alol. someone who is very romantic

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I started this column when I was 15 years old, so you'll notice that the advice has gotten better and better. I've always been interested in counseling and I started this column to gain experience. But, I found a lot more than that. I found a support system of caring and loving people. I received a degree in child development and currently working towards becoming a school psychologist. So, I hope you can feel confident in trusting me with your questions. This is more than just a fun site for me. I look back on my own questions from years ago, and I laugh when I read about my problems at 16. I've really come a long way! I'm relatively young, but I've had several experiences in life that have aided me in helping others. I hope to use those experiences for the greater good and help others who are not in their ideal situation!

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