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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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dont rd that stuff up there. ^^^^^^^^^^^
when i think about it the girl with the "abusive" dad, she is scared of him, cuz she tells me. and so is the mom. the dad is just a miserable person. if he does sumthin that make s me mad and she does nothini am definably sayin sumthin thank you! ur awsome~~~!
your welcome
but you can pretty much tell that he was just scared everything was going to fast? it kind of makes sense now.
like we dated for 8 months and his other two were not even a month.
he said i was more serious than him but i said we didnt have to use i love you because we are too young to know what that means. and if i do go with his pace. could he ever want to go back out or will he drag me along?
and im just suppose to give him space for now. im sorry i have a lot of questions. you just seem to know what you are talking about.
Its ok lol I unfortunately, have had alot of relationships and it wasn't them at all, it was me. The thought of committment and saying "I love you" was so serious and scary. I feel like I know this guy because I am like him. First you want to be his friend, this may take months to a year of just being friends, if he is ready to become a couple he will do it on his terms, just sit back and be patient while he figures out that he really does love you. It may take some time, but he will come around. The idea of love and seriousness just scares him, if he finds himself with you for a certain amount of time, he will realize it isn't so bad. I had a one of my ex-boyfriends contact me two years after we graduated, apologizing for everything he did. We became really good friends again, and dated again. It really does work, but the challenge is having enough patience to wait for it to happen.
yes i have a very close friend of mine. but when ever i go over to her house her dad bullies me. first i thought it was just teasing, but it got worse. and i love my friend, but she does NOTHING to tell her dad to 'stop!'and it aggravates me. i think the dad is obsessed w/ me. and i dont do anything to him. last time i slept over which was like a couple days ago he grabbed my face, cursed at me, flipped me off, and teased me the WHOLE TIME! i felt soo unfortable. soooowhat should i do? thanx xoxxox (keep in mind this person only does it 2 me)
Situations like this can't be ignored, maybe your friend is afraid to say something. Let's say for example, she stands up for you, and later she is beaten for it. I am not saying the father is abusive but this could be a factor. Most abusive children do not say anything to anyone if its the case. Some ways to avoid it is to avoid the situation entirely. Tell your friend, you don't feel comfortable being in her house because of what he dad does and says. There other things you can do like her staying at your house or you guys going to the movies. Also, another solution is to say if you don't stop bullying me, I will call services on you. Techinically he is doing what is called sexual harrassment, he doesn't necessarily have to do anything sexual to you to be considered a factor. I realize that you don't want to get her father in trouble nor her, but if you don't say something and stand up, it will continue and may get worse.
ok so i was friends with his boy. but this other boy, came up to me while i was talking to my friend; and got rly offended because of something i said which was tru, and he completly took it out on me, and said i liked this friend who is a boy. which was totally false. even if i did i never told anyone, so he lied! he lies all the time! so the guy friend asked me if i did liked him. i told him "no" which was true. we were back to being friends. but the other boy who lied about the situation said it again to get me mad. and i think that time the guy friend beleived the jerk. so now we haven't talked for a rly long time. what do i do?
Well, if he was your friend he would have believed you no matter what, end of story. But, it seems you see something in this friend so some ways you can mend the friendship. Having people who are pathological liars are hard to get around, but if you can prove or catch him in a lie, you can prove that you were telling the truth the entire time. Sometimes in situations like these, you have to apologize even when it isn't your fault. It may seem like alot of effort to help a friendship get on the right path, but if it something you want to do, this is the way to do it. The thing about guys is it is hard for them to see a girls point of view. The only way to amend that situation is to apologize for everything that happened between you too.
so then i need to earn his trust again? and if so how do i do that?
i mean i know trust is a hard thing to earn but that was never an issue with me and him. he always trusted me.
Its not you that he doesn't trust, its himself. He distants himself from you because he doesn't want to let you completely in. You have to be his friend without pressuring him, but just hang out and have fun. If he wants to make it more, then you wait for him to make the move. If he is interested in more than friendship, he will certainly let you know. When you get to a certain point in a relationship, a guy doesn't like it when it gets to serious and they run away. But if you show that you are willing to go at his pace and not your own, then he will continue forward and not run away again.
so when talking to him, can i start to flirt but not do it right away? the normal casual talk but try to laugh and make jokes.
my friend said i should go back to the roots.
do what you want, but if he wanted the flirting relationship he would have come back already so your friend is wrong. you want to have a friendship with a bond, something he has never had before. he is guarding his heart and the only way you will get it is if he trusts you. flirting doesn't get you anything but flattery. i have had so many relationships i can honestly tell the outcome of pretty much all and what angle you need to take.
but there still is a possibility that i can get him back?
like is there anything that i can do to try and win him back?
Theres a good chance you can get him back. A method that has been proven effective is trying to be his friend for awhile. Within some time he may finally have the courage to admit his feelings.
so then just leaving him alone is key to getting him back?
and what would be the point of waiting?
Well if you continue to pester him, you will drive him away. But if you leave him alone without any contact, he will see what it is truly like to be alone and without you. When he sees that it is not how he wants to feel, he will come back. I don't mean literally sit around and wait for him. I would suggest dating around or hanging out with other people and wait and see if he comes back. But I guarantee that if you call, text, message him after he broke it off, he will permanently stay away. If he wants to be with you, he will make the effort to do so. If not, he isn't interested, but you shouldn't completely pine for him. Just date and have fun a little with the thought of him coming back.
Okay, so on facebook, everyone is doing the status' that say; "like this and i will say what i like about you" etc. and when i like my friends what they say about me is well... mean. I mean I know that sometimes they are kidding or whatever, but it really bothers me. They all say i'm mean. I'm not mean. I'm sarcastic but it is funny. It's not mean saracasim. And everyone is saying about how i'm mean etc.
Well I don't want to be precieved as mean. SO! How can I be nicer? I really don't think i'm all that mean, but I am willing to change if it makes peoples preceptions about me change.
I don't know what I'm really asking here. I just want peoples opinions on the matter etc.
However, I don't really want to change my self but I don't know.
Just help me!
It is true that people do become oversensitive towards sarcasm and jokes. If you making a joke about something and making fun it, it is fine. If you are joking about "someone" or making fun of them then saying "im joking", people get offended, embarrassed, or upset about it. Sometimes individuals take jokes and kidding around too far until eventually its not funny anymore. When you know you have gone to far, you will notice that you are the only one laughing. A way to be nicer is compliment your friends, ask about their day, etc. Though if you don't want to change then their reactions are going to be the same as well.
How old do you have to be to buy tampons?
There isn't an age limit on buying tampons because the age varies so much especially in todays society when it has to do the beginning of cycles.
how hard is it to get a guy back after you dated?
i dated my boyfriend for 8 months and its been a month since he broke up with me. i decided to give him some space cause i think he needs it. im the longest relationship he has been in the other two were just one month, not even. his reasons were that things faded, he didnt have time for things right then and that i was more serious than he was but i dont get how cause we were on the same page. i know casually talking right now is what is easy and is what i should do. but i do want him back. how can i make it seem like ive changed? i always use to get frustrated from not seeing him and i thought it was normal? im not sure though.
do i just talk to him and see where things go? maybe go back to where we began and talk like that?
The first serious relationship is the hardest and probably the most scary. He might have really deep feelings for you, but he is scared to let anyone in. I did the same thing, but it took almost a year to figure out I actually did love the guy. The best thing to wait it out, because talking to him might drive him further away. If you truly want him back, then let him come to you. When you know you are in love, you get anxious when you get ready to see the person and become extremely anxious when you are not around or see the person. It is perfectly normal and healthy to feel this way. If you do it right, it won't be that hard to get him back at all.
okay, so nobody wants to add me on advicenators as a friend...you seem pretty cool to me...i added you, maybe you can add me!
xobrittxo
I will try and do that lol!
Hi! Thanks,
Yeah... That is what I figured and that is why I haven't talked to him in about a month. I called hoping that after three and a half weeks he would like get the hint. By waiting three and a half weeks to not speak to him, wouldn't that be long enough for him to want to chase me or by him not contacting me within this time from does this show that he isn't interested anymore. Another question is was I wrong to call him first last nite after about a month of no correspondence?
Thanks!
Guys love playing games, and sometimes it gets quite confusing! He would only chase after you if knew you were unavailable to him. Your single still right? That means if he wanted to have contact he could have you, but by dating someone else, that is what attracts guys like him. You weren't wrong to call him because you would have spent more time waiting for him instead of posting your question right? I will try and add you too. If I can figure out how lol.
im looking for a sports car to get but to start i dont even know what kind i want haha. i lovee the rx8 its my favorite car, but i need a front wheel drive car. i also like porsche bmw camaro, all thoes types, but none are front wheel.
im 16 and a girl. id buy the car used and buff it up, i already work on cars as in rewiring, painting, and vinyls, all that type. i go to a few car shows for my brothers scion. if all else fails il get a scion tc but he wants me to get a cool car we can use, but i need a front wheel sports car. itd mainly be for school, work and going with friends out alottt, not many car shows. can you help me pick good kinds of cars to look for? front wheel drive, sports car, and is there any other cars that have doors like the mazda rx8 as in two big doors then two tiny innerdoors?
Here is a website that takes you to a list of front wheel sports cars. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Front_wheel_drive_sports_cars. Out of this list the best one to go with is the alfa romeo gtv and spider in ym opinion. My dad also agrees and he has spent his life working on cars. But depending on the area you may have to go with a different brand.
My friend told me that her dad keep trying to feel on her....and she hasn't told her mother...she says he has even tried to finger her....she says she doesn't want to tell her mom until its the right time....what should she really do? Should I tell someone even though she asked me not to? I'm really scared for her!
Shes reluctant because she doesn't want her mom and dad to hate her. She feels that telling someone would cause more damage than anything but the truth is it could get much worse. I would suggest telling the police or someone about this. He maybe just feeling her now, but what happens if he rapes her? You would feel the guilt of knowing, not saying anything while you could have prevented the incident. It is much like suicide, you tell someone about it only because you want them to stop you. If didn't want people to find out, she wouldn't have told you.
ok so im 14 right now and i think i like girls and guys but im more turned on to guys so am i gay or bi? and i am single i really like this one guy but he is 17 what should i do about him? oh and im also looking for a nice 14 year old in western nebraska but a long distance relashionship is fine with me so guys or girls leave me your number tell me your name age and gender and ill text you
A bi-sexual always likes one side more than the other. They feel more comfortable with a gender more than the other. Age shouldn't matter, if you like the guy, try and see how it works out. If not, at least you don't have to wonder what would have happened.
Hi!
OK, about a month ago in class I started talking to this guy. Ok for the whole Spring Semester (from January until May) I never spoke to him and then one day while we were waiting for a student to get done speaking to our teacher he just started speaking to me. The same night I was trying to pick classes to register for Fall and I just Facebook Messaged him and he gave me a response and asked about my weekend and then after corresponding he stopped but added me to FB. About a week later we went to a concert unbeknownst to each other and the next day we talked about it and he walked me to work. So after IMing he gave me a few songs from the band's album. we exchanged numbers and then it came out on his end that he was interested. Ok, we started texting even after school ended and he went 6 hours away. I always was the one to text or call first. So I just felt that it was getting tedious for me to always initiate everything and for three weeks I quit texting him and then I called last nite around 12 and left a message. He still hasn't texted or called and the question is:
How long should I wait to get a response from him and if he doesn't respond doesn it mean he isn't interested and why would he not be after our history together?
Thanks
This may not be what you want to hear, but if he isn't responding, he has moved on. It would seem this guy was after one thing and when he didn't get it, he gave up. Guys are jerks when it comes to things like this. The best thing if he is still interested is to find someone else. If he sees that you have moved on, he will come back. A man likes a challenge and if he feels he doesn't have one, he loses interest. The only way to know if a guy is truly interested is if he initiates the conversation and does the asking etc. If he stops, then thats it. :)
Heyy! Okay so about curling my hair... Idk what the best type of curling iron is! Also that is cheaper than 20$ ik that sounds cheap but my hair is about to my shoulders and layered with side bangs. Also when I curl it I don't get how to curl it. I know you are probably thinking "Is she stupid!" but everime I do it my hair just has one curl that flips horizontily out. And the bottom tips get a crease in it. Also with straighting my hair. I know how to straighten it of course. But the thing is since my hair used to be longer like to the end of my shoulder blades. I have a conair pin straight wet to dry straighter(it's red) and about 2inches thich. What is a good straightener that works really good and doesn't cost over about 30-40$ about?
If you go into Family Dolla, you will see a straightner that kind of looks like a flat one for about 10 dollars. I use this same straightner and it works wonders for me.This one should only have two buttons on it. As for the curler, they should have a good in there also. What you do to make your layers flip out is wait for the curler to get really hot for effectiveness. Take a comb so you can separate the hair, take the curler, clip it on the end of the piece you have divided with a comb, and twist it upward. While it is curling your hair, spray it with hair spray so it will stay. Also, make sure your arm is straight and not angling because it will curl whatever angle your arm is. I suggest waiting at least 15 seconds before letting the hair go. Then you just use the same process for the rest of your hair and don't curl big clumps at a time, but in small increments. I would say about this length -------
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I need help! My bf and I have been dating for about 5ish months. I am not ready for intercourse condsidering I am only almost 14. I don't want to show him anything or him to show me anything. I also don't want for him to touch any of my private parts or vise-versa. He is kinda hy an basicaly I just want Jim to want to touch me basically.I mean when we are sitting sown or something together he will put his arm around me an stuff. But I just want him to get turned on by me. I mean it would be something I can do in front of people tho cause we don't get alot of alone time. I there anything I can do to make him really turned on so he stys interested In me? I know he is faithful but I want him just to stay interested. (also it's be great if I can do whatever it is do he doesn't think I'm a slut or sumthing because I really don't want him to think that or anything like it. Thank you in advance! :) :)
also as many answers a possible woul be great! Even if I have already rated someone elses answer it would be amazing if I could get everyone opinion!!! :) thank you lots!!!!
The best thing is to buy the body wash and lotion you find in bath and body works because the scents are really strong. They even have shampoo and conditioner, some of the best smelling ones are warm vanilla, irresistable apple, cucumber melon. A guy loves when a woman walks by them smelling extremely good. A guy also loves when a girls hair is down for them to play with and it also helps with the scent too. Mostly if he sees you are confident and feel good about yourself, he will feel the same way. When walking, always try to be in front of him, that way he can at least check you out while you guys are walking. If you have the chance if he is sitting down, get up and purposely walk in front of him. I guarantee these things will work.
Last night I came downstairs really late and saw my dad on the computer. I was walking through the house to go to the kitchen for a drink and saw that he was on some sort of video-chat with another woman. She had her top off though and my dad was typing to her.
Today I sort-of tried to see if my dad would tell me anything about what was going on last night. I said to him, "You were up pretty late last night. Was everything OK?" He said he was up getting some paperwork done for work. I couldn't really do any more confrontation about it but he didn't seem nervous at all.
Over the past month I've noticed my dad coming home late from work and taking private calls in my parents' bedroom sometimes. My mom doesn't seem to think anything is strange but I'm wondering if he is cheating on my mom.
Should I talk to my dad about this and tell him I saw him chatting with a half-naked woman? Should I tell my mom about what I saw? Should I stay out of it completely? I don't want my parents to break up or get a divorce so I want this to be handled properly but I don't know if I should bring it out in the open first. Advice?
You keep it a secret, your mom is going to resent you for never telling her. But she will also resent the fact that you told her but she will realize it was better to be told than to live a lie. The best thing to do is do some digging around and find hard evidence that he is cheating. He maybe looking at dirty sites or something like that which is completely normal for any man. I wouldn't say anything to your mother unless you have physical proof that he is cheating because you just accusing may backfire really badly.