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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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what does the gyno actually do to you?

The gyno can do a lot of differnt things. When people want to get on birthcontrol they sometimes have to see the gyno and he/she will prescribe what kind. They look at your vagina and see if anything is wrong. Those kind of things.

i still like my ex, and i wanna get back with him. but i'm afraid to talk to him about going back out because i dont think he likes me anymore. i dont know what to do. can you help meeee?

Well, first just talk to him about anything and just flirt with him for a while so he thinks you're interested. So, keep flirting and when you guys are having a conversation bring up the subject of you and him. If he likes you then go out but if he's moved on don't be upset about his decision. If he doesn't like you anymore, oh well. It's not the end of the world. You'll find another guy.

heyy, ok well here it goes.. i have a really big dark birth mark on my left leg, a little bit above my knee, on the front side of my leg. and im getting sick of girls wearing short shorts and skirts to school and all i can wear is capris cause im soooo embarressed about it. i want to get it removed, but yeah that probly wont happen for a while. do you know of anything i could use that will cover it up like make up or something that will last the whole school day? its really dark so idk if anything light will work. so if you know of any good cover ups or anything like that, then thanks soo much ! oh and p.s. if you know of anything waterproof that would help alot, but im pretty sure theres probly not any type of makeup like that that stays on in the water!

Make up won't cover up your birthmark. You need to stop being ashamed of it. You can wear shorts and skirts but stop being embarrassed. It's part of how you are and other people have things that they don't like, but they get used to it. Like I said, make up won't cover it. Foundation might for a little while but it will smudge and won't stay on.

what happens when a girl masturbates?

i was going to the bathroom today and i noticed in my underwear there was a tiny red spot and idk if it's my period or not? also when i wiped myself i saw another red really tiny spot on the toilet paper and it was sticky kind of like snot (i know, its gross) my question is that is this my period?

Yes it is your period.

hi i'm irish, and i burnnn super easily.
but i realy want to get tan this year.
any suggestions? other than self tanners?

For people who burn easly, they need to use SPF 15 or higher. If not that, use any sun screen tanning lotion that will protect your skin. You can lay out in your backyard for a couple of hours or you can eather go to a tanning bed or mystic tanning. Mystic tanning is really good and it doesn't give you spots. If you do go to a tanning bed, make sure that you use moisturazor every time you get out.

ok my ex im going to go see a movie with him on friday and he said he is going to hold my hand i say ok thats all rite and mind you i have a bf. and then in had a dream that i was going to kiss him and someone found out and told my bf and he was so upset i broke up with him before and he looked like he was going to die and i didnt like that so i invited a freind to come along so it doest look weird and she might not be able to come if she doesnt should i still go? or should i not go at all? i mean i love my bf but then im falling back in love with my ex so if i kiss him & find out i dont and love my BF does it make it ok to do? or should i even go through with this at all? idk but if i feel to do this at all i ocbiously dont have much feelings for my bf imean i say i love him but i dont feel that tingly feeilng when i see him hes just there kinda feeiling! what should i do plz help me!?

First, you're not in love with your boyfriend. I think you say that because that's what he might want to hear and what you think is the right thing. Dreams don't come true and sometimes, they don't really mean anything so don't let it scare you. If your friend can't come along, eather invite another friend or just go. If you hold hands and such, it's fine and it's not cheating. To me, it seems like you really want to kiss your ex to see if you have feelings for him still. You shouldn't have to kiss someone to find out. You should just know. If you kiss him and then you don't feel anything, of course it's not fair to your boyfriend and it doesn't make it okay. You should just try to figure out what you want and then make your decision. Maybe if you were single you'd feel better. Just talk to your boyfriend and see if a break would be a good idea. Just go to the movies with your ex and if you "love" your boyfriend, don't do anything to hurt him.

okay so my boyfriend is a little younger than me and hes not a virgin .. and hes cheated in the past .. but i just found out about all this today from his bestfriend .. so what should i do? .. i really dont like the fact that hes not a virgin .. and he just turned 14 .. so HELP !!

thnks chasity x

If you like him, what he's done in the past shouldn't destroy your relationship. I know he's young to have lost his verginaty but it was his choice and it shouldn't effect you. Just talk to him about it and ask him anything you want to know. Like I said, if you like him you wouldn't let it destroy your relationship. Good luck. :]]

okay, so i was banned once for like 3 days because i explain how someone can like hurt themselves [ although in the question they like asked ]. is it still possible for me to beomce a featured coulmnist? thanks.

Once you are banned, you can not become a featured columnist. It sucks, I know.

Guys what impresses you at the pool? im going tommarow and I really want to make a good impression on my crush! by the way I dont tan cause im african american

All you have to do is be fun. If you try to hard to impress him he will notice that and it's a major turn off. Be yourself and act how you normally do. Talk to him there and just have fun with him. Make jokes, play in the pool, mess around and just be flirty. Just don't worry about impressing him because I'm sure you will without even trying. Have fun!!

Hey. This is pretty nasty, but I discharge a lot. And I mean a lot. Is something wrong with me? Is there a way to control it?

There is nothing wrong with you and it's normal. You can't really control it and make it stop but you can wear panty liners so it doesn't get all over your undies and you can change them whenever so it doesn't start to smell. You're probablly going to get your period soon.

i really like this guy and my friends were trying to gethim to hook up with me at this dance... all we did was grind 2gether but no kissing and i was really bummed out. he told a few of my friends he wanted 2 but wants girls to make the first move... is that true? should girls make the first move?

another 1... he sed he liked me to my friend and that he was gonna ask me out... well its been 2 weeks.. do u think hes still up for it?

Girls don't have to make the first move but guys like it when we do. We might feel akward doing it, but it's basiclly the same thing with them. Some guys feel weird if they kiss first because they are afraid of being rejected and feeling stupid. It's same with girls. He might be waiting for the right time to ask you out. 2 weeks isn't long at all so he probablly is still up for it. Just wait awhile and don't lose touch. Ask to hang out and make sure you guys keep comunicatating over the summer.

how can girls get loose? like, what causes it. and is it bad.

Uhm, the vagina.. getting loose. Think about it. Girls get lose by sexin too much, masturbating, vibrators.. that junk. I don't know if it's bad, you tell me.

Okay well im in 7th grade going on to 8th and last summer i was going out with this boy and it was like the maybe 2nd or 3rd time we went out ( and he was also my first ''real'' boyfriend when i started middle school), but this time i really liked him more then ever and he liked me the same. and something happened and i started to like someone else and i dumped him after 4 in a half months. he's still liked me ever since, and now i'm single and it's ben awhile since we last went out and i think i'm starting to get feelings for him again :/ , i don't even think all of my feelings even went away from the first time we went out and i don't know if i what to ask him out or not. because i kind of like to be single, but sometimes i don't and i'm so confused whether i like him, like whenever i see him i think of something to say to start a conversation just so me and him can talk, and whenever he sees me at my locker before lunch, he comes up to me and helps me open my locker and then walks with me to lunch, like he's not the hottest guy i know but i kind of think that we had to much in the summer to just forget about it and move on. i don't know what to do , i am so confused. help?

First of all, you need to make up your mind about what you want. You want too many things at once and it's not going to work that way. You're messing with his head by making him think you like him and then you tell him you like someone else.. and then you like him again. Make up your mind and stick to it. If you like him right now and want to be single, you shouldn't be rushing into a relationship because you don't want to lose him or something. It's going to make it worse because you will be trying to force this relationship to work. Stay single and keep talking to him and flirting with him until you're ready for a relationship. Make sure you commit to it. You shouldn't be confusing him anymore. Just take it slow and don't try to push anything further. If something should happen, it will.

i didnt know what to put this under hehe... anyways i was on aim a few days ago and this random person IMs me the s/n was tree or something like that well he started out like hey whats up what r u doin stuff like that then he asked me where i lived (i didnt tell him) then im like ok bye im blocking you then hes like wait and im like what he's like what's your breast size? i blocked him right after that then im like omggg i was so scared could this have been a predator?? im still scared to this day because ive never had a message like that what should i do? thankss you give out greatt advice by the way!

You can never know who you're talking to online and I can't tell you if he is or isn't a predator. He could be but it also could of been a boy you know that was just messing around. No matter who asks you things like that, don't ever give ANY of your personal information over the internet. Even if it's your screen name or something, don't. If you get a message like that again keep blocking them and if it continutes tell someone because that person could be doing the same to other people. I don't want you to be scared but just be aware of the sick minded people out there and just keep safe.

i wear thongs everyday and i got my period and i dont use tampons yet, can you wear a pad with when ur wearing a thong during ur period?
please help!

You can but it's a very bad idea. You will leak and it's not comftrable. I suggest you start wearing tampons.

if you have cyber sex are you considered virgin? or are you not?

I think if you used common sence you would answer your own question. Do you even know what cybering is? Wow.. people these days. Yes, you're still considered a virgin.

hey, well i like this guy..but i know he would never go out with me. its not because im ugly or fat or anything..im not. its because im not as popular as him. im definatly not a geek or anything.. im friends with alot of popular people.. its just that hes more popular than me. why are all guys and girls like this?? all the really popular guys will only go out with the really popular girls. and the other way around. im sure this happens alot, but my school is reeaallyyy bad when it comes to this. do you have any advice for me??? what should i do? just move on and forget about him? please helppp!

Honestly, you should just move on because you're wasting your time liking a jerk. You deserve better even if you don't think you do. I don't really know how to tell you why some guys and girls are like that. I understand what you mean though. Maybe he just likes you as a friend and doesn't want to go out? Or maybe he's just a shallow asshole. Just move on and try to look for better guys with better personalities. Just don't worry too much.

i always wear my hair in a pony tail i only wear it down mostly at my house or like hvery once in a while its alwways up in a pony tail. will wearin your hair up make your forehead bigger? that pony tail is a loose one.

No. Where did you hear that from?

what is TSS? i know it has something to do with periods

Toxic Shock Syndrome.

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