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Q: i cant for the life of me think of a good myspace display name.

my name is kayla

help please?

hmm i used to have that problem all the time. base your display name on something happening in your life or a nickname. you can use graphic or something like

kay&hearts ;

(no spaces i put a space so it wouldn't make the heart.. y ou can do spade as well. and a few other.

Q: Okay so I need new ideas to get my boyfriend super hard,
and I doubt this is possible but is there any way that a guy
can stop himself from cumming or hold it off a little? Thanks
in advance.

yeah it is. before he cums he pulls it out for not even a minute and puts it back in. and keeps doing after a couple times he wont be able to help it and he will explode a lot. it works for my fiance.

Q: My mom, jeeze where do i start.
Well, she kind of over reacts its like she worries for me. Example: i'll have like a project do tomorrow and she'll be all like "Do it now." and all concerned and I'll be all calm. Btw, I have a bad case of procrostitnation[sp?] It's not like i never get it done i do and she knows that too. i'm a straight A student and she's still concerned that i wont get it done.
Jeeze, dont get me wrong my moms nice and all and i love her to death. she just drives me crazy sometimes.

I don't know what I'm asking here ,but maybe you can figure it out and help me and what not. Maybe like give me some ways to beat procrostitnation[sp?].

you mother is concerned because she doesn't want you to fall behind she is probaly very proud that you are a straight A student and doesn't want you to lose that. to go to college to get ahead your career. your mom will always be on your case. when you get older you will understand on your own that she has meant well over the years and you will just appricate it .. its hard to explain and hard to think that will be true but it will.

Q: 16/f

i have this question about age differences. why is it that there are married people and people dating that are 10 yrs apart, but it's not okay for a 17 yr old to be dating a 21 or 22 yr old?
your technically allowed to date at 16 right?

i need some insight from people.
thanks. =)

It is because people believe all 21 and or 22 year olds will be forcing a 16 or 17 year old into sex, drugs, drinking, etc. when actully not all guys are that immature. towards the state its techinally illegal as well. but when i lived in Ohio it could be a 4 year difference. so a 17 year old could date a 21 yar old. and in missouri i was told it is 5 years so a 17 year old could date a 22 year old

Q: 17/f

I was at a party for a sports team, the guys are all quite close since they're away from home and spend countless hours together. I am interested in one of the guys on the team but I don't know him very well. In one class at (high) school, I sit near the guy I am interested in, but his teammate sits between us.

At the party things got a little crazy and the guy I am interested in wasn't paying a whole lot of attention to me. His friend, however, was constantly with me and we ended up making out until I realized what was happening and pushed him away.

Now the whole team is talking about the kiss. The team is away for two weeks, so luckily I don't have to sit beside those guys for a bit. According to some guys on the team, the one I kissed is interested in me (not surprising) but I do not feel the same about him.

How do I pursue the guy I like? His friend is very close with him so that makes things complicated, not to mention he sits between us during our only class together. How do I avoid further complications? I do not want to hurt either of these guys or ruin their friendship.

There isn't but i can say it seems people have cleared it up. You may seem to like the guy that you kissed but your so caught up in this other guy yout not giving him a chance. but like the other girl said if you think nothing will change simply tell him that. maybe try telling the other guy you are interested in him.

Q: So I just got braces. And I have a boyfriend and we kiss a lot? haha. But anyway, I havn't kissed him with the braces because i'm worried that something will go wrong and my braces will screw it all up. So is it really true that its really hard to kiss people with braces?!

I've dated guys with braces and it seems to be the same. if it makes you feel more comfortable tekk him your nervous about it. then kiss.

Q: Alright, this guy i like so incredibly much just broke up with his gf...and we've been hanging out and talking, were both 18.
but i dunno how i should get him to want to ask me out, or on a date or something without straight up asking...???

ah if i was in your situation i would wait alittle bit. give him sometime to get over her. because it could be a break although they say its over. your going to be hurt so much more after working hard to get him to ask you out or a date and they end up back together.. keep getting to know each other and take it slow Good Luck!!

Q: I like my ex - boyfriend and i know he likes me too cause he tells me all the time. but im scared of taking the chance and being with him again because it hasnt worked out in the past. and also my bestfriend would probably just tell me its a horrible idea. she tells me all the time that it would just be a waste of my time and i wouldnt be happy. i know its stupid but i dont want to disappoint her by trying things again with him. should i just forget what she says and try again, or listen to her cause she probably can see things i cant because i still care about him?

I think you should make your own decision although its great you respect her to think about what she is saying to you. If you two really like each other than it may be worth trying again (depending on the reasons it didnt work out before).. depending on those situations it may be best to move on although it may take awhile but at least you have a good friend to help you threw it.. think about why you broke up before and why you think it may be different this time. good luck!!

Q: My guy friend asked me out by a note 2 years ago and i never responded but i did like him and i still really like him. So i sent him e-mails over myspace telling him how i felt then and how i felt now and i asked him if he still likes me and gave him my number and aim address but he never responded to anything. i want to know if he still likes me or not and i know that he's single and now i don't know what to do. i really want to go out with him but i'm just confused if he still likes me or not. does anybody know what i should do about it???

He is probaly confused that you responded two years later. Give him sometime to take it all in. There isn't a whole lot you can do but wait it out. If he doesn't respond with in a few weeks ( and yes the waiting does indeed suck) maybe write him and apoligize for the whole two years to respond you know that kind of thing. Good Luck!

Q:
well i'm in a blah situation. homecoming was tonight, and i danced with this guy who is totally amazing. and it made me realize how much i like him. the problem is everyone would probably think i've totally lost my mind. and we don't talk, like ever. tonight was basically the first time we've really talked, and we only said like 2 sentences to eachother. but he's so sweet and gentle, and he gives me the cute little butterflies, and ahh. i don't know what to do. can anyone help me? id greatly appreciate it.

talk to him. get to be friends. than maybe more. take it slow.

Q: MY gf and i are together for almost 2 years, and now everyhings changed. i love her so much and i dont wan to lose her. i sometimes think that if she was not meant for me then i'll just end up my life because she's my life. it seems that our relationship is like a bomb waiting for its time to blow...everyday the clock ticks and the end is near for us. she always told me she love me but i could not feel it like before...was i too demanding for her to show it or she doesnt love me anymore? i am really confused and dnt know what to do..i wanted ending killing up myself so that i will not suffer the pain when the time comes..

You need to sit down with her and just tell her how much she means to you.. maybe buy her flowers and rent a movie or take her out on a date like a movie and dinner. or cook her dinner. show her you love her be romantic.

as for the killing you self. i have been throw that. depression. ive had to see counslers my ex keep coming back me being dumb id take him back hed cheat on me, call me names till i finally just got rid of him havent talked to him and i havent been happier now im engaged. what im really trying to say is life is full of suprises and everything happens for a reason weather its a good a reason but everything bad ther happens sooner or later a good thing with happen.

Q: Okay, so my boyfriend is obsessed with his car. He is constantly buying stuff for it. but anyway christmas, our anniversary, and his birthday are all around the same time. I want to get him three different things for his car. He has a '91 red hatchback civic. He wants neons, a police radar, and something. Where should I buy the neons, but waht other things. My dudget is $300 for it all.

I dont know much about this type of stuff but maybe try Wal Mart or Best Buy Something like that

Q: how I can get my boyfriend back when he only give excuses about seen each other again

GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT, AND IF IT DOESN'T WANT YOU BACK THAN IT DIDNT DESERVE YOU ANYWAYS!!!

Excuses are excuses he is just keeping you around on the side. if i was in your situation i wouldn't sit around and wait or beg. take a deep breath and move on.

Q: I asked someone to homecoming yesterday morning and got a "maybe" because he was already going to ask another girl... so I said alright, just let me know.

But homecoming is next week! (I know, I procrastinated...) So how long should I wait for him to get back to me?? I want a date so if he says no then I want to have time to ask someone else. So should I just ask someone else if he doesn't tell me in time?

Ahh.. hmm.. go up to him and let him know.. tell him what you wrote on here. Tell him you need a for sure answer because you do not want to go to homecoming alone.

Q: 16/f
I have never been kissed before. I have been dating my boyfriend michael for a week now and he knows that i haven't kissed before. He told my friend he tried to kiss me twice and i just didn't notice. Then today after we hugged, i stood there waiting and he never did and he told my friend "I tried to but she won't do it!!" I mean, i stood there waiting but he never did. Is this my fault? I'm just not sure what to do. I mean, i want to kiss him but i'm not really sure how and i get scared at the last minute.
What do i do?
Is it my fault?
How?
Please help! My name is lauren. Thanks!

No, you are not at fault. But make the move show him your not scared. After you hug him, place your hand on his cheek (some romantic thing) look him in the eyes a soft stare and lean in for the kiss... when you both start tilting your heads for the kill thats when you close your eyes. Good Luck!!

Q: 16/f Okay, well.. the beginning of this summer I dated a boy that I dated about a year ago. When we dated the first time, we kinda just broke up and never talked about it. So then Idk, I missed him. He was a perfect boyfriend. Seriously, I don't know why I was so stupid to let him go. But that's besides the point. When we dated at beginning of this summer, we were only talking for a few days before that so it didn't make the relationship work that well. Well we broke up, it was a very nice break-up & we stayed really close throughout the whole summer. I liked him so much, I might have even loved him, I don't know. But we told eachother everything. It was like we were best friends. Towards the end of the summer he didn't talk to me as much and when he did it wasn't how it used to be. It hurt. SO bad. The first day of school I found out he liked my OLD best friend, and I asked him and he said yes, ugh i was devastated. Then i found out they were dating, and it was more the fact that he talked shit about her for a while becase she wasn't exact;ly a good kid this summer. at all. dirnking, doing drugs, having sex with random people.. ALL THE TIME! he knew it to. she told me and him. anyways i was so mad at him. like i was flipping out at him, and him being who he is never lost his cool with me once, and was always nice. and idk. but then i asked him if he could bring me home one ngiht from a football game, he said yes so me and him were talking and he told me how his girlfriend desrespects him, is very demanding, doesn't appreciate what he does for her and he wanted to break up with her. i was happy, bc i realized how much i still cared for him. well then he decided h e didnt want to break up with her. i was so mad. but then ni found out they broke up. for good. and i wasa like WHOA., i texted him for the first time in a while and we talked and he told me he was sorry for not reaching out and talking to me and missed being ym friend and stuff and i told him i still liked him. thenn the next ngiht i asked him if i would ever have a chance with him again he goes i honestly dont know since i just got out of a relationship but possibly, its hard to tell. iw as like okay, better than a no. then he texted me in the mroning at sch ool and apparently his ex told him i told her that me and him were going to go out yet i enver said that to anyone cause he didnt say he would so why would i lie. then i found out she calls me the GROSS GIRL. yet i never did anything to her, and she tries to act like i did. but shes the one that took a guy i cared for more than anything from me, and cheated on him and everything, but apparently im the gross one. this is confusing know, i just need advice on waht to do. thanks ♥

" YOU HAVE TO GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT, AND IF IT DOESNT WANT YOU BACK THAN IT DOESNT DESERVE YOU ANYWAYS"

It sounds to me as if this guy you really cares about doesn't know what he wants. He has been hurt by a female that he fell for. As much as it hurts you maybe you need to be there for him as a friend. Listening to him rant on and on about this girl may hurt but it him being able to have someone to talk to may help him relize you care about you. You to may always just be friends but there is always a chance for more. i would stay friends if i was you at least for now. As for this girl lieing. its a jealousy problem. just ignore him and dont let her know that it bothers you because it will get worse trust me hunny. Good Luck!!!

Q: 16/f
Alright well i have never been kissed before. I just got a boyfriend on saturday named david and i really like him. We "talked" for a month and a half before he asked me out. So, we know eachother well. He knows i haven't ever kissed a guy before and he told my friend that he wanted it to be a good one. Now, i don't know when he wants to kiss because he walks me to my classes and we hug and thats when couples usually kiss but i'm just not sure. I don't know what to do after we hug and i just don't know what to do or how to act or when he is going to do it and i am just really confused and nervous. I'm not sure when he wants to do it or what i should do and i am definatly not talking to him about it. Please help!
My name is rachel.

Well Rachel, when my fiance and I first kissed we hugged and looked each other in the eyes and he leaned in. He knows it is your first kiss so he will make the first move and lean in so when he does just follow his lead tilt your head and go in for it.

Q: well my friend's parents are getting a divorce because her mom cheated and she is leaving her current husband for the man she cheated and my friend doesn't know what to do and she's asked me for advice...but i don't know what advice to give her...the only thing that i told her is that things like that is a part of life...but i don't think it's good enough so if anyone else has better advice out there could you please help me??? thanx in advance

XOXOXO

She needs to think on the bright side. which is probly hard right now. maybe comfort her father and if she has brothers and sisters. What her mom did was her mothers decision and she will always be her mother. it might seem hard to think that way right now but she still should treat her mother with respect. tell her you will always be there if she needs someone to talk to.

Q: Okay! 15/ female.

so i like this guy alot, and he likes me too. we are talking so im happpy about that. but then he has this crazy EX girlfriend that starts drama with everyyyyyyyyyyyyy girl he tries to go out with so me and him were keeping it on the DL. but of course i told my best friends, and now this one girl who is good friends with his EX and is madly in love with him, she found out and told him she knows and bla bla bla, and that i told people so now hes mad at me! and i dont want him to stop talking to me and he is kinda really mad !

pleaseee help! asap

if he truely cares about you than it shouldnt matter if hes with you. drama will happen throw out your life.even when your 80 years old its part of life. a crazy ex girlfriend means she is jealous of you. if he truely cares he wouldnt let her get inbetween the two of you.

Q: so this is weirding me out now. theres this gut on my bus every sunday afternoon.

he's quite cute and seems to be my type. (shy, likes books, messy hair, wears hats :D)

and for the past couple of weeks ive had dreams about him while asleep and awake about him being my bf.

its really strange. like if i go to make a drink i'll imagine him next to me talking, joking, laughing and cuddling with me.

in the dreams at nite i feel like he could really know me, understand my and my problems and that i could talk to him about them and he could help me. i dont know what to do about it.

i dont know his name and have never spoken to him. this has never happened before so i dont have a clue.

im freaking out about it. should i act on it or not.

could i ever tell him about these dreams?

what if he turns out it be the complete opposite of what ive imagined?

i had dreams like that about my fiance before we actully meet and everything turned out perfect. i fall asleep thinking about him and thats what causes the dreams and during the day i still day dream about him. and i remember our first kiss and every kiss after that was like me melting into his arms.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.