I'm Melanie. I'm 18 and I don't know what else to write.
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Location: Baton Rouge, LA
Age: 18
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so i like this guy who likes me back. he`s never admitted it but i have a strong feeling he does and my friend was with me last time i saw him and she is convinced he likes me too. i can`t get him out of my mind, but i know i shouldn`t like him. he`s in his 20`s and i`m 15. he is friends with my older brothers, who highly disapprove of me dating. also, i see him very unoften. the last time i saw him, other than this past saturday was the begining of june. but i can`t get him off of my mind and every time i see him, he makes it harder for me to forget it. should i forget him or should i wait and see what he will do? but he`s older than me, so should i just forget him? (link)
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At 15, that age difference is a big deal and very much illegal. If you think he really likes you, he will respect the fact you are underage and that your brothers aren't happy with that idea. The age difference thing is a tricky situation. My boyfriend is 21 and I'll be 18 in January. People give us a lot of grief because of the age difference, even though I'm legal in my state. No man that is 20 years old should have a strong interest in a 15 year old.
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I am having to make a decision about whether or not I stay in my relationship with my boyfriend of just over a year. To clear my head I wrote down the good points and the bad points. Could anyone take a look at this list and tell me what they think - does the good outweigh the bad or vice versa? Are any of the 'goods' enough to keep me with him, or are any of the 'bads' indications that I have to end it? What do you think?
Thanks
GOOD
It is comfortable.
I understand him absolutely.
He understands me absolutely.
I need him in my life.
He loves me and finds me sexy.
He never looks at other girls.
I can tell him anything.
He is my best friend.
I don’t think I will ever find the connection I have with him with anyone else.
He is willing to work for our relationship.
BAD
The sex is not satisfying.
He irritates me.
I have little respect for him.
I often dislike him.
He doesn’t know how to touch me.
I am jealous of him.
I think he is arrogant.
I don’t find him sexy.
His self-importance frustrates me.
I want him to be more subtle and mature.
He thinks he is wonderful.
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After you've been with someone for that long, the little things irritate you, but you have to decide if the relationship is worth it in the end. Maybe you could just sit him down and tell him you've been thinking about ending it because of some of the things he does that you don't like. Don't tell him the sex isn't good...maybe just give him some pointers or tell him of a new idea you've been having. The thing with long-term relationships is you have to keep things interesting or it will die away. Try some of the stuff y'all did when you first started dating. Going out to the movies, double dating, etc.
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ok so i have been going out wiht my new girlfriend for about 2 mouths now and i want to know a couple of things
1. on avrage how long do people wait to have sex
2. should we celabrit things like 1 mouth annaverys and if we do, how long do we do that untill it's to only a one year annavery?
3. she's a little new at haveing a boyfriend, she is my forth girlfriend, and i just want to know is there a way to make her more confuable with being around me, she already really cares about me and trust me,
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1-Everyone is different about sex. You should wait until she is ready to have sex.
2-My boyfriend and I don't really celebrate the little anniversaries. Sometimes we will surprise each other with little thoughtful gifts, but nothing major.
3-You just have to give her time to get comfortable with you. You just have to show her that you really care about her.
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A close friend of mine suffers from Bipolar Disorder, and he refuses to see a psychologist. He is in extremely depressive mood all the time and frequently talks about suicide. This really frightens me because I don't want to lose him. On the other hand, I'm not sure whether his suicidal intention is serious. When a manic-depressive talks about suicide, does he MEAN it? I desperately want to help my friend. I can't see him suffering. I wish I could make him happy but I don't know how. No matter how well his life goes, he is forever buried in his formidable despair. I feel helpless and inadequate every time upon listening his depressive thoughts. I hate myself for not being able to change my friend's condition. So here I am seeking advice from you guys. My friend just told me that he thinks about suicide every waking second and that I "shouldn't have any hope in him because he won't be around much longer". My god, I am so terribly worried about him. What can I do? Please help my friend! (link)
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Okay, advice from someone who is also bipolar. It's going to take a lot to get him to see a psychologist, but you HAVE to get him there. Every person who suffers from bipolar is different, but thoughts of suicide are EXTREMELY common. Before I realized I was, I would think about suicide all the time and I tried it twice. Thankfully I made it through and I was admitted into a psych ward for 2 weeks, but that's what it took to get me there. He's going to be very moody whenever you try to talk to him about it because he feels like something is wrong, but he isn't sure what. You are just going to have to be patient with him and just really try to listen to what he has to say. Sometimes that helps more than anything, but he still needs to be medicated.
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i know the law of the difference of age in dating is but morally what should be the biggest gapin age of a relationship--a serious one (link)
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In my opinion, age doesn't matter. The government thinks otherwise though. If the guy is over 18, then it's illegal for him to sleep with someone that's 15. But like I said, age shouldn't matter.
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If someone smokes pot for about a week straight and stops 4 or 5 days before they are given a dip test for urine testing, will they pass the drug test? (link)
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Most likely not. Drink ALOT of water. I mean alot. It helps some people. It's worth a shot.
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I have a guy friend and I think we mutually like each other. The thing is, I won`t see him next year. What's an easy way to give him my # [don`t say email address/instant messanger] and what`s a way to do it without looking awkward. (link)
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The way I would do it, is write it down on a piece of paper 'nd give it to him. Be like "I'm not going to see you for a while. I want to keep in touch."
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anybody no ingredients to make protein drinks to help u get muscles and bigger. Or dus any1 no where to get protein powders like which shops and where bouts in romford, essex, ilford or barking? cos i wanna get some protein drinks or powder an stuff lyk dat. Please help i rate high (link)
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If you have a Smoothie King there, you should check them out. They have this thing called Muscle Milk.
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like this guy, like SOO much and no matter who i date or how much i try he's the ONLY guy on my mind. The thing is he's a popular sophmore, and im a not so popular freshman. but he's different from all the popular guys i've known though, like hes really caring and REALLY easy to talk to ..
I told him i liked him a long time ago but he said he didn't really no me well enough to like me.. so its been like a month and half and hes started to act different towards me like in gym we had to carry really really heavy boxes because we were doing reconditioning, and he offered to take my box, but nobody elses. and just like it came up in convorsation who he liked but he wouldn't say like it was a HUGE secret (my friends said its beacuse they think he likes me, but i dunno).
And yesterday when we were gettin out of school he was behind me, and he threw a nickel and it hit my back pack, but i didnt even realize anyone threw it so i kept walking. and three other times he threw pennys and i didnt do anything. and after he threw the last one he's like "Hey" and i turend around and "he's like im trying to get ur attention here and" and im like so why r u throwing stuff at me like kidding around and hes like b/c i can. then he asked how i was and then got on his bus .. but i dunno its just weird .. maybe im being to hopeful or could this possibly mean something? ... how do i tell if he might possibly like me .. or if he's just friendly .. (link)
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With guys..it's kind of complicated. Sometimes you are POSITIVE they like you..'nD they don't..'nD the times we are POSITIVE they are only being friendly..they like you. The best thing to do is just ask him. Be like hey I like you..you said you had to get to know me..well you have so do you like me? If it's hard for you to ask him straight up like that then try writing a note or get one of your friends to ask him or ask one of his friends. Hope I helped!
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15/f. i moved into a brand new house, and my bedroom is white walls with light beige carpet. Everything so far in my room is red - red bedspread, curtains, lampshades, etc. I want to know what color i should paint my walls cause white is so boring. But i'm not allowed to paint them red cause thats way too much red! i was wondering if hot pink was a good color since its a shade of red, but my mom says that won't match. so can anyone think of a color? Thanks. (link)
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try a pale yellow
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Hi, I'm 15 years old and I'm a female and there's this guy (Tom) in my class who I was dating for about 3 months but then I figured out that he was going out with OTHER girls, so I dumped him secretly. Now I'm falling for this other guy (Christopher) and I think he's falling for me, but then Tom said he appolagized and HE GAVE ME ROSES and it's SO hard to not love him but on the otherhand there's Christopher. I don't know who to chose! PLEASE HELP ME!~!~!~!~ (link)
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How do you secretly break up with someone? If Tom cheated on you, he'll probably do it again. I'd stick with Chris.
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i cannot stand my life anymore. i am 13 and NEVER had a boyfriend. my friend is 12 and has had 7 boyfriends and hooked up with 2. i feel like if i stay so lonely then i will seriously die of a broken heart. i watch my friend hook up with her boyfriend and wonder why wont anyone do that to me? why? im pretty, im sweet, im nice, im flirty. why the fuck am i single and prude? i tried to get my so called 'friend' to find me a boyfriend. she told me 'find your own goddamn boyfriend' i cant stand this. she wants a guy, she gets him, why cant she help a poor innocent girl who will die of loneliness find a boyfriend to love and who loves her? please help what can i do to get a boyfriend and not be so lonely and depressed? thanks sooooo much (link)
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A little dramatic...
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I live in Utah and I expect everyone to have big opinions on my religion because it is different. My boyfriend is LDS (morman) and I am Lutheran. We have breifly dicussed if we were to get married, where would it be at. He wants a temple wedding and I want my chruch wedding. There is no way I would convert. But we seem to argue about this a lot. I am scared I might lose him because of this. How can I settle it without losing him? (link)
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Have you thought about having it somewhere besides a religious building?
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my friend has depression and shes not taking her pills and she doesnt realize it makes her worse. she thinks it makes her better. and we got into a fight and we are over it now but i dont want this to happen again. she thinks the pills dont help but they do!!! and i dont want to lose my temper and say "WELL IF YOU TOOK YOUR PILLS WE WOULDN'T BE IN THIS SITUATION!!!" because i know thats mean. but i dont want to just sit here either?
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Maybe your friend doesn't want to accept the fact that she really is depressed. I recommend being patient with her and trying to talk to her about what she is depressed about. Maybe you can help her realize she does need to take her medication..in a subtle way.
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okay this is semi long so i am sorry but i really want advice: my mom died when i was 3 and i went to SO MUCH counseling. family,alone you name it. i stopped around the end of 3rd grade. but now that i am a teenager i realize how much i want/need a mother figure. i have my grandmother and i love her dearly but its not the same. i try to talk to my friends but they cant really relate and i feel bad making my problems their problems. i sort of want to go back to counseling but it costs SO MUCH and i am not sure i need it....
help me please? (link)
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I know how you feel. I never had a mother figure around and my dad tries so hard but sometimes you just need a woman to talk too. I recommend talking to a close friend's mother you trust or maybe a counseler?
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okay to start off i know i am not FAT. but i am 4 foot 11 inches and weight about 105. and i dont care what the scale says i care about the way i look. being so short for my age and having a regular appetite for my age doesnt help. i play 2-3 sports but i know i dont eat very healthy. i just dont like the way my stomach looks...my friends all say i am fine but really they are my friends what are they going to say?....
please tell me if you think i am just exaggerating or i should eat healthier/exercise more but PLEASE do it nicely...(i.e: dont swear and call me an idiot) (link)
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I think the best thing for you to do is to keep eating regularly but eat smaller portions. That way you aren't hungry..If you continue to do that the size of your stomach will shrink down. It's the best way to diet, if that's what you want. It doesn't seem like you need to exercise much more..so just try eating less at mealtimes and snack on fruit. I did that and I lost 5 lbs in a month. My doctor says that the healthiest way to diet.
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ok i get my perdiod very irregularly. i have had it for like a year and a little more and every time my period comes later than the last month. is it just because i have a long cycle or should if balance out soon? thanx i rate high (link)
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Most people say that your period will eventually regulate. Sometimes it doesn't. I recommend discussing it with your family doctor and getting their insight.
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14/female
A lot of people at school thinks my life is perfect. it is far from it. i wont get into too much detail and make this too long but i have a few good friends that i love but there are so many morons that get mad because i get good grades or whatever. i just wanted to know does this go away in high school? or will people still asume my life is great because i get good grades?
thank you
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Sorry to break it to you but high school isn't much better.
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