Gender:
FemaleMember Since:
July 30, 2006Answers:
359Last Update:
December 12, 2009Visitors:
25264Favorite Columnists
Cux
Solaris
H0LLY_W00D_FAME
Main Categories:
Love Life
Friendship
Fashion and Styles
View All
about
"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
advice
ok so like sometimes i'll be like "yah i'm kinda slow in the head" if i say something stupid and my bf will be like its ok you're cute. Or i'll ask if he's mad at me and he'll be like you're too cute to be mad at.
Is it just me or does that sound totally mean? like oh your personality sucks but you're physically attractive so i put up with it.
Nah.
Don't read too much into things like this. :)
It's actually really sweet.
Usually when guys say that, they're talking about the way you ACT is cute. But he's sort of talking about your looks too. He's talking about both.
Just know that he's not saying it in a mean way. :)
Hope I helped.
Okay so i was on the computer with my boyfriend and his friend and they were on some girls profile on facebook... i know the girl really likes my boyfriend and has since she met him. last september i was really jealous of her because they saw each other a lot more then me and my boyfriend do. But i got over it. Anyways they were looking at her profile and my boyfriend says to his friend yeah if she adds you im sure you could get pictures out of her i mean she sent me ones of her in her bra. So I didnt want to jump to conclusions i didnt want to accuse him of asking for them so i tried to keep myself from getting angry at him so i asked him if i could talk to her about it ( ive always been nice to her even though after we met in person she told all her friends i was an ugly slut... i told her i understood what it was like to really like someone that is taken and that i didnt hate her for saying that) anyways when i asked him he said no because im not supposed to know .SO, my question is do you think he asked for them or she just sent them cause they were flirting or whatver (ive caught him flirtig with her this december) do you think that they both agreed not to tell me about it and it slipped when he was there talking to his friend. he really seemed to shrug it off like it was nothing i dotn know what to do. do i bring it up with him even though he has a really bad temper and we have been fighting alot lately i really love him and i dont want to start a fight i just want to know whats happening, i know a picture in your bra isnt the end of the world but she still sent it to him and he still looked at it. hes like dont worry i dont have it anymore. BUT still im kind of confused. anywyas i was just wondering if anyone understood maybe whats going on in his head im not really sure what to make of this or how big of a deal it is. Thanks(:
16 f
ps: weve been dating almost a year
I'm confused.
Did she send it when you & him were DATING?
If she did, & he ASKED for them, it's a big deal.
If you two weren't even dating, it's not as big of a deal. & that's good that he deleted it. :)
DON'T try asking the girl! I doubt she'll even tell you the truth. She'd probably make something up just so that she can break both of ya'll up. Plus, she would tell your boyfriend you asked her about it, & he would be extremely mad at you. One, for making her mad at him. Two, for not trusting him.
Chances are, he's told one of his friends about besides that time you were there. If it really, really, really bothers you, see if you can find out from one of them rather he asked her for them or not. If they won't tell you, & you don't want to cause a fight with your boyfriend, I'd drop it.
If it wasn't when you two were dating, it doesn't mean anything. If he deleted it, he doesn't care about her. He cares about YOU.
:)
Good luck!
Hi, my problem is that people perceive me as someone who doesn't try to have fun or relax just because I take three AP classes and I put a lot of time and effort into my work. I only do work when I am required to do it; if I have free time, I will do fun and relaxing things, like any normal person would. It also irritates when people think that I spend more time than I really do on my work--I mean, just because I manage my time well and get my work done doesn't mean that I don't have a life. One of my classmates was telling me that when I go to college, I should balance a social life and school life, already making the assumption that I have no social life and no fun. My other friend particularly upset me when we were learning about Generalized Anxiety Disorder in AP Psychology, for she looked at me the moment our classmate defined it...just because I have a little concern over exams doesn't mean that I am a super anxious person. And the last thing that annoyed me is that my English teacher was like, "You should really chill over break." In a nutshell, I'm so freakin' tired of everyone acting like I work 24/7 and saying annoying crap like that; sometimes I have to convince myself that they're jealous to make myself feel better but it just makes me feel worse about myself. Does anyone actually understand how I feel? Because I really feel alone sometimes, like no one truly understands me. How can I get people to realize that this is not the person that I am? I'm just not!
Ugh.
That would annoy me.
AP classes are hard. They give you alot of work, projects, etc. & most people IN those classes actually DO care about their work. Most people would know that, but apparently these kids don't? Just cause you actually do your work, doesn't mean you don't know how to have fun & relax. & if you only do the work that you HAVE to, that just proves my point even more.
Don't stop putting as much effort into your work just because of what they're saying. Are you quiet? Talk more. Laugh whenever someone makes a joke in your class. Show them that you actually have a sense of humor & know how to have fun. If there's any parties that alot of people are going to, go to them & have fun. & with what your english teacher said? She doesn't even know what she's talking about. She doesn't know what you do on the weekends & she doesn't know YOU. So, just ignore what she said. & as for your friend & the whole Anxiety Disorder? Um, most people ARE nervous about exams. Ha, I can't name one person who ISN'T. If you're extremely stressed about it, then I guess I could see what she means. But it honestly doesn't sound like you're too stressed about it. If it comes up in a conversation, just try to look bored & act like you don't care about it much. That way, no one can say YOU'RE the one stressing about exams.
But hey, at least you're gonna be the one who actually gets into college. :)
Good luck.
Ugh... GUY PROBLEMS... AGAIN. Haha. Well i will keep it short bc i myself hate reading long ones. Well i like this guy who is a friend. We talk a lot on myspace and aim. He's always the one to say hi first and stuff. Idk i kind of get the vibe he likes me but i'm not sure. we talk in person too but not so much lately. I really like him. Ok but some girl from another school asked him to her sadies. Ugh the little slut. Haha not really a slut. Ok so how do you think i can win him. Or just get him to like me. Are there any techniques to hinting i like him? HELPPPP
Does he have a cell phone?
If you talk on aim & myspace, just go ahead one day while ya'll are talking & say somethin like, "i gotta go, but i'll call you later," & then get his number or give him yours. Then, ya'll can talk on the phone or text. I don't know if that would help any, but it'd at least bring the two of you closer. There's no harm in that, right? & if ya'll are close enough friends, get a group together, & invite him to hang out sometime(movies, etc).
As for the whole hinting thing, don't be extremely obvious. Most guys get annoyed by that. Just be kind of subtle about it. Compliment him on something. Joke around with him (Example: you can JOKINGLY make fun of him or something. Haha, but not in a mean way though.) Make eye contact when the two of you talk. & just things like that. But don't try to hard -- guys can always tell when you do.
& chances are, if he gives you the time of day -- as in AIM & myspace as you said -- he probably likes you at least a little bit. :)
Goodluck.
14/f
I'm having a slumber party with some of my friends. 7 girls are coming. I'm inviting 2 girls from 2 different schools. I can either:
1. mail the invitaions to the ones that go to another school, and hand out invitations to my friends at school. But i could hurt someone elses feelings if they aren't invited.
2. mail everyone the invitations even tho it's only like a week and half away. Sorta silly. I'll look silly too.
3. OR just call everyone and hope to God they remeber. Or like even give my friends at school a little reminder sheet.
HELP
ALSO: If i send out invitations should I include my friends name on it who's birthday is 2 days before mine. Plus idk if I'm even going to invite her, because she might be having a party of her own. Plus she's pretty shy.
thanks!!!
Hm, this is what I usually do:
The week before, call whoever doesn't go to your school. Then the people that do go to your school, just hand the invitations to them when no one you're not inviting is in the room. Also, tell them who's invited & not to mention it to anyone who's not. & as a reminder, call them the day before, just in case.
If you REALLY are worried about hurting people's feelings though, just call everyone the week before. Then call them the day before as an extra reminder in case they forgot or something.
Have fun at the partyy. =)
i am a 16 year old teenage girl .. my parents are divorced and my dad is verbally abusive, like he says he doesnt love me and i dont have a relationship with him. im EXTREMELY involved in my parish and have gotten close with my pastor over the past 3 years, hes like a father figure. but i dont like it because i get so jealous when he even TALKS to another kid or asks for their help and not mine, im afraid he wont like me anymore. i hate this feeling of jealousy its like controlling my life. ive never had good self esteem but im afraid he will stop liking me and like someone else better. how can i make this stop and not feel jealous anymore?
I know how you feel.
My dad's the same way.
Except maybe worse.
So, just know that you're not alone & if you ever need anything to talk about, I'm here & you can just drop a question by in my inbox.
Well, this pastor probably feels as if your his own daughter. But, he also has to help the rest of the church community, & that definitely does not mean he loves you any less. Try & remember that there's always one person who you loves you no matter what -- God. He never leaves your side, no matter what. =)
Try to talk about your problems with someone. Maybe you feel that these jealous tendencies are a private matter. In that case, try talking to a counselor at your school or something about your problem.
Good luck! =)
My boyfriend had been living at my house for almost a month. Everything was going great, he was getting along really well with my siblings and parents and everything. On Saturday my dad came home early from work and walked in on me and my boyfriend having sex. My dad got really angry and said "YOU CAN LEAVE NOW!" to my boyfriend and saying things like "HE'S NOT LEAVING FAST ENOUGH!" to me. I can understand how walking in on us having sex would upset him a lot and I understand that it's his house and everything and that we were being disrespectful and all, but at this point he still won't let my boyfriend back in the house and things are still really awkward between all of us. This SUCKS. I really miss my boyfriend living with me and we don't know how to make it right with my dad. What should I do? HELP!
Ouch.
Well, It kind of depends on your father's temperment. If he gets angry easily, give him a couple days to cool off.
I mean, I personally think you're extremely lucky that they even let him live with you. If I asked my mom or dad that, they would laugh in my face. Your parents let him live with you because they thought you two were mature enough to handle the situation (not saying you aren't mature. just stating what your parents thought when they allowed it). But now, your dad is angry, disappointed, & probably feels like an idiot for allowing it in the first place. First of all, give him at least three days of space & to cool off. Well, depending on your age, just simply tell him that you're growing up. Unless you're thirteen or something, he should understand that. Now, you've got to earn his trust back. Explain to him calmly (not whining or anything) that you & your boyfriend love each other & that .. yes, you both messed up, but you want a second chance to make things right. Explain to him that his trust means very much to you & you want to try & earn it back.
& hopefully, he'll listen & understand.
Hope everything works out. =)
ok well lately ive been noticing ive been starting to eat more and my tummy has gained a bit of tummy fat and i dont have the time to work out at all but ive seen on a sight that if you suck in and hold your breath for awhile and repeatidly do that that can help build up the stomach muscles and ive been doing a few situps like 40 a day i just would like to know what else i could do that doesnt take much time and WILL WORK!
please help
thanks in advance :D
To get a toned flat stomach you'll have to lose the fat that's covering your stomach muscles, & the best way to burn that fat is a combination of changing your eating habits, so your body stores less fat, & doing cardio exercises to burn the fat that's already there.
The site below talks about the proper eating habits to combine with your stomach exercises, & ways of increasing your metabolism to help you lose fat all over your body.
http://www.flatstomachtips.com/increase-metabolism-eating-habits.html
The best exercise you can do for your stomach is cardio exercises like jogging or walking (until you lose that fat layer, your stomach muscles will be hidded beneath it).
Exercising all of your body & burning fat all over WITH a proper diet is the the basic key to getting a flat stomach.
Start by walking or jogging 3-4 times a week to increase your heart rate & boost your metabolism. By boosting your metabolism, you burn excess calories and illiminate fat all over your body. You can also go swimming or whatever you like to do. As long as it burns calories, it's great. =]
http://www.flatstomachtips.com/flat-stomach-exercises.html
That tells you about the best three exercises.
Well, good luck! =]
There's a guy from school who had a big crush on me. He knew absolutely nothing about me, and yet he still liked me. He used to keep talking to me and trying to get me to go on a date with him. After a while we started instant messaging on yahoo, and I got to know him a little better. At first I thought he was kind of cute, but I wasn't really that into him once I got to know him. I didn't want to lead him on, so finally I told him very nicely that I would just like to remain friends. He got mad at me! Now he's not talking to me at all. I told him we could still be friends, but he doesn't care. And it makes me wonder, was he even interested in me as a person or did he just want me to be his girlfriend? Anyway, now I feel bad about rejecting him (even though I did it very gently, I didn't diss him or anything) and I don't even think we're friends anymore. What should I do now?
Give him time.
He's probably feeling disappointed right now. You didn't do anything wrong. It wouldn't be fair to put you in the position of going out with someone who you don't even like. & it wouldn't be fair to him to lead him on.
Just give him some time to sort out his feelings.
Do you have anyone who's mutual friends of the both of you? Get them to talk to him. Try IMing him a few days later & have what you want to say to him already typed. Then just copy & paste it, so even if he blocks you right after you send it, he'll still have to read it.
Good luck!
i feel so so so so bad.....
worse i put myself down because i feel exposed and embarrassed... i had two best friends.. a girl and a guy.
both just ditch me and basically cut me out of their lives....
it feels worse with the guy because he has done nothing to me but support me where as i have been annoying... i was going through the worst 2 years of my life and we met in college and we got along fast.. so i told him everything..... then things started getting worse (he is so homophobic) and when i move i made friends with a gay guy and he got pissed and though he was fine with it things began to go down hill (see my town believes gays "are going to hell" and he and my family are the same so it isn't that he is mad i moved and made friends he just thinks my values are different and i am "lower" than his level) any way so i after i'd spilled my heart and soul to him.... about my depression how my family went mad over my friendship with this guy (i am female btw! so it's not like i am "shaming" them) anyway so since i am pretty much liberal i got into this dark phase where i was on pills because i almost committed suicide...
i sent him an email explaining that that year was an experimental year (coz i tried a joint once and i know i shouldn't have i was curious) anyway so he backed of cold turkey and he doesn't talk to me!!!
i am pissed coz i feel i let him into my deepest and he flipped on me and thinks of me in an inferior kind of way...and the distance isn't helping... i am still "suicidal" according to my doc.. my parents don't know because they don't believe in therapy and i'd get in so much trouble if i told them i'm going....
anyway so thats the guy... the girl has been a bitch... i've known her since 4th grade but our parents don't know each other and just as our friendship was soooo tight between us it was that far apart with the parents (in a formal way meaning they don't know each other) anyway after i moved i got in some major trouble and got caught so i came up with a lie saying that i lied about the whole thing but my dad apparently has a secret device thing that records my fone calls and so when i called to tell her of my wild night out he flipped and i got beat for it.... anyway so i said i lied so i don't get killed (i mean i just got about 3 or 4 punches which is fine) i told them i lied to her and nothing is true... so not only did i get the punishment and lost all respect i wasnt allowed to talk to her... and i was willing to ignore that and do it anyway cause she has been the only one who stood by me..... so anyway when i told her she got mad and said how could i say something like that about her.. and she knows how i could have been killed for it or badly hurt.. i mean i know i was irresponsible and i learned from my mistake... anyway so she kept saying why me why me.. i told her because i trusted her... anyway so she ignored me.. i was cool with her cooling down but i apologized.. thats about the time when i was being locked up at home so i was becoming suicidal and cutting myself and all.. since all our communication was happening online she didn't take what i was telling her seriously.... and she stopped answering my emails and now she just blocked me from everywhere... i mean i tried and i told her i understood and i even cleared her with my parents and i told her that.... she just left me in the gutter.....
i am honestly so mad at her because i know she is mad too but she could forgive.... you know? i'm so mad at her i can't help but wanting to talk to her...but i sent a million emails so far and she ignored me.... i am hurt and feeling miserable... and counseling isn't helping anymore.. i feel so so lonely and i've lost hope in all people.. people are hypocrites.. no one really has the intention to help someone else..i can't tell my psychiatrist that i am thinking of ending it cause he may contact people and my parents will kill me... please don't tell me to talk to my family you are just wasting your time... i really need some kind of human contact... i feel so needy, self pitying, and desperate it is disgusting me but i can't solve my problems on my own.... some one help... the pain is so unbearable.. I'm sleeping so much it is unbelievable...
You know how you have those days where you'll wake up & your first step out of bed, you stub your toe, & then the rest of your day just spirals down? You start off your day bad, so you automatically have it in your head, "God, today is gonna really suck." Basically, this is what's happening.
Yes, I know this is incredibly long, but please take the time to read it. =]
Here's a few rules for you:
THINK POSITIVE! If the thoughts you're thinking aren't giving you a good feeling, then think about something else that will make you feel good. If you're stuck in a "negative" train of thought, fear & anger patterns can be interrupted by focusing on doing a math problem, counting backwards, counting in odd numbers, doing a sudoku puzzle, etc. Immediately then go back to picturing scenes/remembering things/imagining, planning stuff that makes you feel good/happy. =]
VOLUNTEER! Learn to be a giver. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself. Volunteer at a hospital or be a part of a program, which take care of patients in some way. When you leave the hospital, you will be so much happier knowing that you've done something meaningful, something someone else can appreciate. Give & it will be given unto you. Isn't it true that the happiest people we know are typically the ones who for some reason are always ready to give you the clothes off of their back?
LEARN HOW TO BE THANKFUL! Relax, calm down, take things a little slower in your life. Not one person out there in the world has everything. The trick to life is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. We cannot change the past, but we can enjoy today, & look to the future. But if we are prepared to take credit for the past and accept that everything that happened in our life, good and bad, has made us the person we are -- the battle is half won.
LIGHTEN UP! Many mental, physical, & spiritual problems in your life are all often caused by one, tiny six letter word -- stress. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things that are ENTIRELY out of your control! Learn to recognize these things & if you can truly do nothing about them, then just let them go.
LAUGH! Laughter is a powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful you can take things, the happier your life will be. =]
BE YOURSELF! There's no possible way you can please everybody! No matter what, don't let criticism worry you & don't compare yourself to other people! First of all, no one ever knows what other people are going through. Therefore, that's never a good/helpful thing for you to do. Try keeping a journal. Practice self-acceptance. Never do something you're not comfortable with. You'll respect yourself for sticking to your guns, & that self-respect will make you happy.
RELAX! Make a scheduled time every day for relaxation. No excuses! This is a wonderful time to go over any therapy that you're working on. Having a relaxation time or simply a quiet time every day strengthens you, allows the stress & tension in your life to disappear00, & keeps you more on a positive, even keel.
GET A JOB YOU LOVE! If you have a job you hate or dislike, seriously consider changing your job, or even changing careers. Having a job that makes you look forward to your day when you wake up in the morning is critical to a happy, fulfilled life. Making special time to enjoy interests, hobbies, and family, not only makes life happier, but helps us be more productive on the job.
CHOOSE THEM CAREFULLY! If you have friends who are treating you badly, then find friends that actually do care about you. When you're feeling sad, there's nothing like going out with your friends to make you feel better. Surround yourself with friends who are positive, encouraging, & helpful.
SET GOALS! & live up to them. When you accomplish a goal, it's a great feeling, right? We can always use more of those, can't we? =]
BE HEALTHY! Give your body/mind what it most needs in order to function in the best possible way. Eat a healthy, balanced diet & make sure that you get all the vital vitamins/minerals that your body requires for its best biochemical functioning. Get exercise! This will prompt the production of those "feel good" hormones (endorphins) that make you feel happy. Plus, there are all the other obvious fitness & disease fighting benefits, far too numerous to mention here.
Need anything else?
Just leave something in my inbox & i'll answer ASAP.
=]
GOOD LUCK!
I absolutely hate my ex best friend. But I'm obsessed with her. I've hated her for about a year because she was a terrible person, but I can't help but to peek around her facebook and xanga to see if her life is miserable. Is this normal, because it sure as hell doesn't feel healthy.
Ehh, I used to do that. =[
Hahh, I would think: Oh, maybe she'll be miserable too. Then maybe I'll feel a little better? But every time I'd check her myspace & whatever else she had, it just made me feel worse. So, finally I was just like, "Mmk. She's out of my life. I don't need her to bring me down anymore than she already has." & I stopped.
The girl's probably an insecure jerk who thinks she's "popular" or something, so she treats other people like crap. Am I right? =]
Here's what you need to do:
Everytime you get that urge to go "check up" on her. Just say this to yourself: "It's none of my business who's life she's screwing up now. I know this is going to make me feel worse." & just exit out of the website & go listen to music, go call your best friends & talk about it with them, write in a journal, go for a walk, go shopping, etc.
Good luck!
I have had my hair highlighted blonde 2 times before.MY friend recnetly did it for me and it turned out fine but i wanted it slightly lighter. SO last night i decided to die it again and its come out ginger!! i really dont no what to do my parents say im paranoid but im really not its pretty bad! its turned a carrot orangy colour, it looks so cheap. parents said you'll have to learn from that mistake and let it grow out my hair is shoulder lengh. I asked if i could buy a colour removing kit but they wouldnt let me as it damages your hair badly, but anything it better than this!! i really dont no what to do im not aloud to die it anymore either!! i use to be known as the girl whch lushious hair but im dredding going back so school.. sad i know.. please help!! its making me depressed!!
Oh, I know how you feel.
I've had so many issues with coloring/highlighting my hair, I've lost count now.
First of all, don't let it grow out. Hah, you'll freak out about it foreverrrrr. Plus, it'll probably take over a year to grow out.
Go to a professional salon -- try & see if you have a friend who goes to one to get their hair colored or highlighted & has had good results in the past. Yes, those cost way more than normal salons, but it's better than having your hair screwed up again. Ask them what they would suggest for you to do. Whatever you do, DO NOT strip your hair. It dries out your hair way too much. If you go to the salon, like I suggested, it depends what color your hair is. When you go, DO NOT LET THEM DYE YOUR HAIR! Just tell them to highlight (foils) & they'll bring out a color chart & pick your colors. I would pick two -- pick a color very close to your natural color & pick a color a shade darker. That's what I did, & it looks way better than it did the first time. Hah, mine was dyed RED. Yeah, I almost cried. Haha, anyways, if they freak out about the cost, just simply tell them you can pay them back. You can do chores around the house, babysit, have a yardsale, take some money out of your account at the bank if you have one, etc.
Good luck!
latley i have been feeling like the world is out to get me. i feel like this is the worst year of my life. and ill tell you why. the boyfriend of almost a year broke up with in the beginning of the school year b.c well he said he doesnt know. so thats great then like a week after that i find a new guy from our school and hes just wikid hott and being upset as i was i made out with him. and the ex thought i didnt love him so he didnt ask me to be his girlfriend again. then the hott guy i hooked up with is flirting with other girls and my parents hate him and are arguing with me about him so i just forgot about him was hurt that another guy hurt me but w.e....then my ipod got taken away by some teacher i got it back with out getting a detention or iss or phone call home so it was all good but made me nervous as hell. through the year i have made new friends they are known as the popular girls and when im with them i dont know who i am im not acting like my old self i miss me i dont even know me any more. then a couple weeks lata a teacher for some stupid reason thougt i lied to her so she called my parents so they grounded me until febuary 11 now if thats not pissing me off enought they are always yelling at me to do this whats wrong blah blah blah and yesterday we got the report card and fisrt semester i had social and i almost failed and it was the only class that i was doing horrible in i tried my hardest to do good but apparently not i could of done better my dad says so now im not alowed to do sports get a job go out nothing. from what he says so im stuck froever my mom messages me on facebook and i dont know if she says im grounded or wat but but she had the topic of the message GROUNDED and the message saying report card? what the hell. so thats just great. and my mom is having all these secrets and i dont want to hear them idont know what they are about but they are worrying me. so im just sick of it and you know its been the worst year ever when someone says to you "wow you are having a bad year". i try to be happy putting a stupid facke ass smile on when really i just want to scream for help i dont know what to do my gpa for school needs to be over a 80 to get a phone and rite now its a 74 and its pissing me off to no limit im trying hard i have 80s and above in all classes except fucking social nd social is over with but i have a feeling if i dont have like a 90 in all classes now that the grade average is going to keep me the same and that means no phone. which scuks i need something good to happen im sick of this i want to cry all the time. and my dads always like wheres the smile whats wrong but if i tell him hell just get mad and ground me some more wich is o so fabulous they are yelling at me for stupid shit and grounding me like i just murderd a cat and left it in the middle of the living room for all to see. i have a problem and i dont know if its something i can control but i dont like the way im living i just want it all to stop but one thing comes to another and its all coming down on me like bricks. what do i do. plz help i cant do this ne more. :[ i need to be my laughing old self again where is she.?
Ohh, wow.
This was my year last year.
Except multiply it by 92348230.
That's how bad mine was.
Okay.
Well, with the boyfriend thing...I know how hard this is, trust me. But the best thing for you right now is to just try your best to forget about him & move on. Find another guy to like. A nice, normal guy who seems like he'd be honest & a great friend. =]
With the friendship with the 'popular' people. Ah, been there so many times. We all got in a huge fight last year & my mom let me skip school for a day to simply think. This was the advice someone gave me. "Think back. Try & remember the last time you laughed the hardest, the last time you were truly happy & could just be yourself. Think about who you were friends with. THOSE are the people you need to be hanging out." So, my advice to you, try that. It might take a while to go back to those people, but it's not impossible, & I know it will help you alot through this.
With your mom & the whole "secrets" thing. Oh yeah; I know how annoying that can be. That happened last year, except it was both my mom AND my dad with secret thing. They were arguing & my dad was freaking out so much, I just said to myself, "you know what? screw it. they can have all the problems they want, but i'm not getting in the middle of it." & I talked it out with my cousins & my close friends, & I'm dealing with it all pretty good right now.
Take the time you're grounded to study. Get your parents to quiz you, so that way if you fail the test, you can simply say, "Well, you know I studied. So, you can't get mad at me for that." That's what I started doing. Hah, even if I studied, I was still failing the tests. I felt pretty stupid.
Buuuut, anyways, pick a day that you're free in the next couple of days. Grab your ipod, wait till it's a little bit warm outside, grab a jacket, & take a walk to get some fresh air & sort everything out.
Also, try keeping a diary. Trust me, it helps alot.
Good luck! =]
I'm a singer. I have to sing for five hours three nights a week for my job and after about two hours my throat starts to hurt really bad... does anyone know what I can do for this?
- Try a lemon and water drink. Squeeze some fresh lemon juice, or use bottled juice, and combine with water. Add some honey. Heating the drink with the honey is most effective.
- Try making hot tea. Add a good dash of lemon juice and honey. Inhale the vapors while drinking the tea.
- Gargle with warm salt water (1 teaspoon of salt per glass of water).
- Try using throat lozenges or hard candy.
- Try sucking on popsicles.
- Use a humidifier during the day. Use a humidifier in the bedroom at night.
- Avoid pollution. Where the air is bad, try to keep away from it or go somewhere to have a break from it if you live in the midst of it. Stay indoors during smog days but remember that indoor air pollution can be even worse, so air the house when the smog has gone.
Goodluck! =]
So im 15. and i have this friend named well lets call him alex. Me and alex are best friends we talk everygiht on the phone for three hours. and we used to date for two months. i still like him kinda. and i am the type of person who is very dependant i need somone. And i cant loose them. When i break up or loose someone it takes me a while to get over them. So back to this friend he treats me like shit. I have to bribe him to talk to me by sending him pictures but i need him. I really want to get away from him because hes just makiing me more sad but i cant. How am i suppos to let go of him and walk away before he hurts me even more? any advice would be great thanks so much.
"The only people worth fighting for in life
are the people who are willing to fight for you."
Well, I both applaud your determination to end this relationship & understand your difficulty in doing so. It`s hard -- epecially in a situation like this -- to walk away from a relationship, no matter how bad you know it is for you.
You want to do the right thing for yourself, right? Well, try thinking ahead. Five years ahead. Yes, fast-forward your brain. It`s 2013, & you`re still scared to leave this guy for the reasons you talked about above. He`s still stringing you along, promising pretty much nothing at all. Scary thought, isn`t it?
Since I`m pretty sure you don`t want that to happen, try to leave the relationship & do whatever can take your mind off of it -- hang out with good friends, go shopping, go to the movies, work out at the gym, do volunteer work -- helping others will make you feel better about yourself, trust me.
"You have to know that you`re a good person & a good friend. What`s meant to be will end up good, & what is not, won't. Relationships are worth fighting for, but sometimes you can`t be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you. If they don`t, you just move on & realize that what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you. Hopefully, people realize great things when they come around & don`t lose something real. Always fight until you can`t anymore, & then be fought for."
Good luck! =]
i am so depressed right now. my best friend and i got into a HUGE fight that we both kind of started and it's making me so confused. after getting out what we both needed to say, i had this really long heartfelt apology because i hated the fight and knew that someone had to step up and be the better woman. then she said that saying sorry wasn't good enough, even though it wasn't just any apology! i really meant what i said and she threw it back like it was worthless. i understand that saying sorry doesn't magically make everything all right, but what else could i do? she really seems on the verge of leaving behind the whole friendship, but i'm not ready for that and i want to fight for it. i'm so sad because i feel like there's nothing else i can do. i'm reeaally really depressed but she doesn't care. what else can i do? please im desperate..
Eh, well, what exactly was the fight about?
Sometimes people just don`t accept apologies as quickly as others. Other people could`ve hurt them in their life that simply made it difficult to trust people & if you broke that trust, then she probably has no clue what to do. I`d say just give her time if she`s the person that can`t handle being pushed into doing something that she doesn`t want, cause sometimes ... that can just make it easier for something like this to happen again.
Try EVERYTHING. Call her, text her, leave her a long msg apologizing. Write her a letter -- the length really matters cause it shows how much you care & how much effort you actually put into it. Buy her a nice gift. Make her a CD of songs about friendship, apologies, etc .. then attach a note or somehow record you saying, "I`m sorry." Send her a long e-mail about all the good times -- first paragraph, then say you know whatever you did was wrong -- second paragraph, then apologize -- third paragraph, & make the title like "PLEASE DON`T DELETE!"
Good luck!
Call me crazy, but I think it's absurd that some people do not believe in love. After seeing all the good things people can do for each other and just seeing the love people have for each other everyday, I just can't believe it. Maybe it's because I'm a Christain and I've simply been raised to and have witnessed all kinds of love myself. But can someone please give me some insight?
Well, I believe in love. =]
Maybe they grew up in a family without love, you know? Maybe they`re parents died. Maybe they`re parents divorced. Maybe they were abused by their family. All kinds of things along the lines of that could`ve happened.
Or sometimes the people that someone truly loved hurt them & they thought that they would never find anyone better or were just simply hurt too much by it, so they stopped believing.
Hope I helped. =]
Im very interested in getting a digital camera
and ive heard some about fujifim
are they any good?
what are some of the plusses and minuses in having a fujifim
all advise will be useful
thanks a bunch
=DD
I have one & I love it. =]
It kinda depends on the type, but they`re all good.
The Fujifilm camera that I have is pretty quick to start up & shut down. It`s more pronounced when shooting when in low light or when there`s alot of contrast to the scene/background, but if you prefocus the camera, it`s great with focusing so that it can get pictures of active objects without getting blury like most of the other cameras I`ve tried. The cameras are also sized decently and the menus and everything are pretty easy to read.
http://www.imaging-resource.com/MFR1.HTM?view=FujiFilm_reviews
You can go there & scroll down to the bottom with the big list & read some of the reviews if you want.
Good luck! =]
I have worked with this guy for over 9 months and we work in different departments. He comes into my department alot to look up stuff for his job and I catch him looking at me often. But when I smile or look back he quickly looks away. He talks to everyone else in my department but me. I am somewhat shy and do not know what to say to him but I really like him. I know he is single because he came to our Work Christmas Party alone and he kept staring at me there too!! If anyone thinks he like me back then what can I say or do to make him talk to me?
Uhh, well, I don`t know.
He could be staring at you cause...
A) He wants to talk to you but he can`t think of what to say or is too nervous.
B) He thinks your pretty or something.
C) I dunno. He could just be weird.
But personally, I think it`s A. =]
Haha. Well, he doesn`t seem too shy, unless he`s around you. So, that probably means he likes you. I`m not really sure if there`s a way you can make HIM talk to YOU. I think you`ve gotta talk to him first, cause for some reason, he`s way too nervous to talk to you. & since your shy, that`s probably hard cause you don`t wanna make yourself feel like an idiot. The next time you catch him looking at you when he comes to your department, just smile & ask him if you can help him find whatever it is that he`s looking for. Then you can help him & just introduce yourself from there.
Good luck!
okay i am like so sick of where i live. the people, the things, the places, EVERYTHING. i just hate it. i want to move farrr away from here. i hate winter. i want to move to like florida or cali or something. what can i do? im only fifteen.
Ah.
Felt the same way before. =]
Alot.
Okay, so this is gonna really suck to hear, but there`s nothing you can really do. If you feel this strongly, maybe you can bring it up with your parents. Nothing bad could happen from that, right? Just don`t lose your temper, act serious about it, & try & show them that this is something that`s very important to you. Every parent wants what`s best for their child, don`t they?
Hmm. It sounds like you`re very, very, very, VERY bored. Haha, how about going to the movies? Going bowling? Going to the mall? Go to a spa? Get your nails done? Just pick a day -- saturday probably will work best -- & go out with a group of friends, by yourself, your family, or whoever you want every week & do something like that. Or just go for a walk every other day, cause that reduces stress & it`s at least something to do.
At school, try & find a new group of friends. Just look for a group of people who look like they`d care about you, have fun, & are actually nice, normal people. Trust me, there`s at least one group you can find. You can never have to many friends, & people are always looking for more, so I bet they`d love to have you as their friend. Or you could always join a club at school or something? =]
Good luck!