about

Hey. Its Ashleigh. Hm, I finally decided to change this thing.


I have an amazing fiance, and I love him with all my heart.


We have a 7 year age gap, but that doesn't bother us. He is 22 if you are wondering.


We have been together for 3 years! Which amazes us both. We got engaged on February 2, 2007. & we found out we were pregnant in around May. I'm due in January 2008.


This is my second column on here, my first one being "mayonnaise".


I have a wonderful twin sister, Alexandra. She has a column, but hardly ever uses it.


I love piercings, and I currently have a little over 20. I also have two tattoos. Before you ask my brothers own a tattoo shop which is how I got my tattoos.



I'm Bipolar, and ADHD. I also am OCD. I have Tourettes. I've also had problems with Anorexia and Bulimia. I've been in rehab twice for my eating disorders. And I also had a PEG feeding tube in my stomach for a while.


I live in Lizard Lick, North Carolina.


If you are wondering where that is, its about 15 minutes away from Raleigh.


My fiance and I are attempting to buy a house in Raleigh. Getting out of this town is a huge priority.


I do have my permit, so I can drive. :]


My fiance recently bought me a car that isn't a piece like my 280z was.


I now have a 2007 Honda Civic! :]


I'm home schooled, and I'm in the 11th grade.


And that's about all you need to know about me.


I don't give amazing advice, and I admit it sucks sometimes. I try to give advice based on my opinion, because I don't give a fuck what you think about my answer. Feedback is a must. :]

advice

hey so when i paste a "hide my friends" code in the "about me" section...NO ONE AND I MEAN NO ONE CAN SEE MY FRIENDS RIGHT???????

Yes, you are right.

Nobody can see your friends, and the only way that you can is if you go on YOUR privat page. (the one only you can see)

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ok so my address bar isn't showing up what should i do???

Hi.

Press F11 on you keyboard and see if that works.


It should though.

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ok everytime i shave my legs i always get bumps on them even after like 2 min i shave them. i use shaving cream and i wet my legs before i shave. what should i do?? oh and im also having trouble shaving my armpit hair i shave it bit little tiny hairs always stay. what should i do??

Hi.

Try a different shaving cream, one made for sensitive skin. Also, put lotion on your legs as soon as you finish shaving. Soak your legs before you shave.

As for the armpit hair, unfortunatly it grows in all different directions. Just, shave up, then down, then left, then right. That should do the trick.

Good Luck. :]

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which on do you like better. (just so i know) list them in order .. the first being the one you like the most
-thongs
-bikini underwear
-boy shorts

hmm..

-boy shorts
-bikini underwear
-thongs

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14/f
i have never had sex, but i just think that this is kind of weird.

Why did people wait so long to have sex? like i know the average age is like 16, 17 nowadays, but in the olden days why was it so like freaking sacred haha?

Hi.

Well, it is still sacred to some people. It all depends on the person morals, and/or beliefs. I know craploads of people that are still waiting for marriage and think a lot about being a virgin. Then on the other hand, I know a crapload that are not or did not wait for marriage. It really depends on the persons moral values. Peoples' morals just are not that strong anymore.

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ok. this is super duper embarassing.

i am 16, female. and i pee my pants when i laugh. like kinda bad. when i start laughing, i just lose control of my bladder. and then its soo hard trying to hide the (sometimes) huge wet spot on my pants. (i also wet the bed, but thats only once every 2-3 months so its not a huge problem)

i have tried using the bathroom like every five minutes: doesnt help AT ALL. i have tried thinking of something sad/not funny when i laugh: doesnt help. i have tried concentrating really hard on not peeing: doesnt help.

my social life has been affected by this: there is this girl i met at camp, and we became really good friends, but she lives like an hour away from me, but she has invited my to visit many times. i really want to, BUT SHE IS HILARIOUS!!!! ahhh!! (oh ya btw summer camp was hell for me: it was fun but also funny -> causes wet pants)

please help me. i am willing to do anything but get diapers (i wear tight jeans) and hang out with serious people. like i am actually a really humourous person myself, and it kills me to be scared to laugh.

Hi.

I'm not a doctor, so I can be wrong. But I think you have overactive bladder. There is a medicine that you can take to stop/help it.

You should try seeing a doctor, even though you don't want to because its so embarassing. But she/he is a doctor, and it doesn't bother them.

The other person had a good idea, Try wearing a pad. But than could get little uncomfortable after a while.

Seriously, talk to you mom and tell her you want to get a doctors appointment. Ask your doctor about overactive bladder and see what she/he can do about it.

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do guys like it when girls shave.. like down there?

Hi.

It all depends on the guy. Some do. Some don't.

Its completly up to you.

Although, you could ask your boyfriend what he likes, and just do what he says he likes.

Most guys I know like it shaved though.

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why does putting your hair up help your hair grow faster? is this even true???

Hi.

My fiance has a sister that his a hair stylest.
She says the wrost possible thing for you to do is put your hair up. It breaks off the hair, and makes it harder for it to grow.

So, if you are trying to grow your hair, AVOID putting it up.

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--- BIIGGG MESSS --- ---L0NG ST0RY---

Okey so basically.~14/f~

i met this boy about 2 months ago,
how we met i was bout to fight him over the stupidest thing L0L [anyways] we'v hung out a few times like i know him &n he knows me & one night my friend kiki got in a fight with him & thay where madd at eatchother so i was like yall are gay stop fightin; so yeaa i got really madd & walkd off then my friend scoot & the boy i like came up behide me & thay was like why aint you with kiki & i was like cause i'm madd at her but then he said something & i was like i dont carree & then scoot was like your actin funny, & i was like i'm madd & then the boy i like said if you want me to live you alone i will [didnt sayy anything] & thayy buugg`d me to death about leavein me alone thay askd me again i was like do wat you do. & then thay left well later that night my sister ask`d him if he liked me & he said -- yeah a little bit - *hesmiles* well theres more two that storyy. --
wanna know ill tell. but later on that--

but lately iv been soo busssy wit cheerleading i didnt get to go over to kikis house & hang with them i found out he was moveing!

& so yeah he moved but not far from where i live. & i guess you could sayy i miss him --.alot.-- like i dream bout him ([ i know prettayy lame ]) allwayyss thinkin about him 24/7 i told my self to get over him but something wont let me. i wouldnt call it inlove just idk what it is.

i havent seen him for awhile or talkd to him i dont even know if he has a girlfriend
but everyone else in my hood has seen him.

Hi.

Wow, that really sucks. :[

Okay so, I'm guessing you don't have this guys phone number or screen name. You need it. So you should probably talk to your friend scoot and ask him for it. Then call the guy yourself and see if yall can hang out. Guys love being asked out.

I'm pretty sure that you can make everything work out. Just ask for his number or screen name. Then contact the guy yourself. You will have a better chance of him actually knowing that you like him. Never rely on someone else for them to tell someone you like them.

So, just don't give up. Get the guys number, call him, ask him out to a movie/dinner or something. Everything will work out. I promise. :]

Good Luck. [let me know how stuff works out]
Feel free to leave something in my inbox too.

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i am going spray tanning at a place with my friend....not the kind that you do at home kinda stuff... any tips? i dont want to and up being orange. what do u do? i would like to know asap if that is possible!!!

thanks!!

Hi.

Since you are going to an actual place, and not doing it at home, there is not much you need to know.

Just make sure you stand still, and don't move.
Also, don't move until you are dry. Make sure you do not touch/rub yourself until you are dry or during the spray process. If you do that, your tan should come out beautiful.

Good Luck. :]

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when im masturbating when i get a orgasim it only lasts a couple of seconds. does that mean i have something wron with me and will my orasim only last a couple of seconds when im having sex?

Hi.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Everybody gets different orgasms.

As for how long they will last when you have sex, is going to depend on how aroused you are. For me, I have longer ones when I have sex.

It all depends on the person really.

But no, nothing is wrong with you.

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one thing: if he's 7 years older than you & he's 21, then youer 14 ?! WTF I'M 14 HOW ARE YOU DATING A 21-YEAR-OLD

anyway i dont want you to get banned for IMing back for something stupid like this, so i'll ask you a question.

i used to be friends with these two girls, except i dont really want to anymore. i'm the reason why they are friends & now they aren't MEAN but they're not especially nice. should i just ignore them or try to make up?

Hi..Well yeah, I'm 14. Yes, he is 21. I've been with him for 2 years and the 23rd of April is our 3 year. I love him. I'm engaged to him, and we are getting married July 24th. I could get mad at you like I normally do people that say that, but I'm tired of getting banned. So, I'm just gonna say, don't worry about my choices.


Now, to your question...


You should probably ignore the girls. They are the ones not being all the nice or whatnot. Don't try to make up with them. You havn't done anything wrong. In fact if you wasn't for you, then they wouldn't even be friends. So don't worry about it, and move on with your life. :]

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If I want to make it look like I have a fake lip piercing or a fake nose ring, or even earring, where can I get those??

Hi.


http://www.bodyjewelry4sale.com/nonpije.html

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I have chocolate, and you know how you can talk with the phone open or closed? does anyone know how to close the phone during a conversation without hanging up?

Hi.

Just put the phone on speaker, then close it. That should work. If not that read the book that came with your phone.

Let me know if that works. My twin sister has a chocolate, and thats how I know to make it work.

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Do boys act differently around you when hes with his friends, like in a meanier way?

Hi.

First off, Thanks for asking me this question. :]

Well, I'm engaged and my fiance' doesn't treat me any different around his friends. In fact, he loves to show me off.

He was my first long term boyfriend, but other guys I've been with treat me the same around their friends. If a guy does treat you meanier, then you shouldn't be with him. To me, it means that he cares more about his friends.

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with the fridge handle frm our old fridge. its made out of metal. i really don't think she has the right to be doing that regardless of the things i do which are not that damn seriuous. i have no life. she calls me ugly, talks about my lips being big and makes me feel really bad. i graduate in june and i think i need to find the courage 2 tell her i want 2 go dwn south and go to school dwn there so i can live with my aunt in miami. it's just so hard. she tells me i need 2 get out and she's not responsible for me but she always contradicts her ownself. she still treats me like a child. i know if i was to really decide to leave she wouldn't let it be just that she's all talk...my aunt is now worried because she thinks she's going to hurt me (which she says...she threatens to kill me! often) what should i do?????
by the way my sister is eight and they are actually close. it's only me that this happens too....she rarely ever puts her hands on her. matter of fact when i was her age i got hit for the smallest things

Hi.

Well, it short term, yes, you are being treated wrong. If you are under 18 you need, and I stress need to call the cops or social services on your mom[?]

You are being physically and mentally abused. Nobody deserves that. You are gradutating this year, you don't need her adding onto your stress.


As I said, you need to call the cops or social servises on your mom.

As for you wanting to go to college in Florida, go ahead and apply. Do what you want to do. Its your life, if you want to go to college there, then go. Don't worry about her.


Please get yourself help.

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Is it wierd to call a guy babe? cause i was talking to him online(nd we were flirting, he's really hot and i plan on hooking up with him), and he was like, g2g love you, and i didnt know what to say so i was like, ttyl babe.

is that wierd?

Hi.

No, its not wierd.

I call my fiance; babe, baby, sweetie, honey, poopsikins [don't ask] and he loves it. Most guys do, so don't sweat it. :]

Good Luck with you two! :]

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I can't rite poetry,

Hi.

Here is a few that I like/wrote. You can use them.
I think you should use #2. It seems right.

1:
Walk with me, the path of life,
to explore every bend of the road
Enjoy with me the beauty of life,
along its wonderful way

Find comfort with me, in each other's arms,
when grief crosses our path
Find strength with me, in each other's strength,
when despair lies in wait

Laugh with me, a single true laugh,
to enlighten another's distress
Cry with me, a single true tear,
to understand true happiness

Cherish with me, the wonders of life,
as they need to be preserved
Rejoice with me, in the mysteries,
of what is yet to be

Find peace with me, in each other's souls,
when the world has gone insane
Find love with me, in each other's hearts,
until this life has been fulfilled

And when the path comes to an end
I hope we can say from within
We've known the beauty of true love,
our love came from within


2:
I've known you for only
a short period of time,
but I feel as if
I've known you forever.

I tremble with joy
at your every touch.
The feel of your hand taking mine -
I want you to hold it forever.

I glow with happiness
every time you're near.
I want you near me now,
I want to be with you forever.

My knees grow weak
in your loving arms.
I want to stay there,
I want you to hold me forever.

My body melts
with every kiss you give.
Just the thought of your lips on mine -
I want you to kiss me forever.

My heart jumps
to know how much you care.
Knowing that it is so much more -
I want you to love me forever.

[you should really use that one.]

3:
For the first time in my dismal life
I feel love flow in my heart
the same heart once thought cold and lifeless
fills with glorious joy and happiness
because of a man
whose spirit is full of passion
his eyes that shine like sapphire stars
filled with warmth and beauty
a voice that brings happiness to my sad existence
I have never known love until now
because of the way he touched my heart
took hold of my depressed soul
and showed me the beauty of life's wonders
everything that I thought impossible
all seems to be within my grasp
I see everything in a new light
because of something I thought unworthy to feel
to feel love's tender kiss
and I bask in its beauty so
because of the feelings of a man
whom I would love now and forever

Hope you like them. :]
Good Luck, Let me know what you like/choose.


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my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months today and i was wanting to know what should i get him for our 3 month anniversary and i wanted to do something really special for him but the problem is that i don't have any money what should i do?

p.s.
If it would help to know how old we are i am 18 and he's 16.

Hi.

Wait till you have to get a 3 YEAR anniversary like I do in a few weeks. :D lol.

Anyways..IDEAS.
-Make a scrapbook of pictures of you two together.
-Write I poem. [if you can't leave me a question in my inbox and i'll get you one]
-Mix tape/cd.
-Giftcard to his favorite store.

For my fiances 7 month, I took him out to eat a Hooters. He thought it was hillarious. He loved it though, and all his friends liked it.

I highly recomend that, its fun. :D He'll love it.

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I'm 14/f

I have a really small chest and I wear the bras that like don't have bra cups and I wan't to know what the smallest size cup bra you can get. Because i think i'm growing out of the ones i have now but i'm not sure if the cup bras will be to big on me.

The smallest are training bras.
You should probably try some of those on. You can get some that don't look that childesh.

Then there is a 30A. Which is nearly impossible to find, but you can at some places. Then theres 32A and so on.

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