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Q: How do you know when a guy you've met is the right one? And after how long of knowing eachother,when are two people considered 'dating'? People can just be really good friends,right? What is the main difference between really good friends and boyfriend/girlfriend? I am a 17f

i know it sounds corny, but its easy to know when a guy is THE ONE,

its a feeling you get, like its hard to breathe when you think about them. you think about them constantly, you want to spend every moment together.

all my relationships have been good and long, but the best one is the one im in now with my fiance, weve been together for 5 years, lived together for 2, and we are getting married in december!

yes you can be just good friends. my best friend happens to be a boy.

in other words, when you find the right guy, your heart will know it with no doubts. if there are any worries or doubts, it can still be a good relationship, but he probably isnt THE ONE.

hope this helps! inbox me if you need anything! im here for ya.

steph 21

Q: so the other day,
well actually now a couple of days ago,
me, my girlfriend, my guy friend, and one of my closest (girl) friends, went out.

all the while i couldnt help but notice that my (girl) friend, kept flirting with my girlfriend.
she called her cute, and when my dude friend squished a bug that my girlfriend was looking at my (girl) friend sort of pretended to beat my dude friend up. in the car back home, my (girl) friend kept trying to talk to my girlfriend, and i was just livid that whole ride.
i didnt know if i was just being rediculous and over pretective or not, so i chose not to say anything.
im not worried about my girlfriend liking my (girl) friend, i just think that it was so rude to, (through my observation) flirt with MY girlfriend.
i dont know what kind of attitude i should display to my (girl) friend, or if i should confront her about the whole situation or not.

help??

is your (girl) friend bisexual?

if she is, she might have been flirting, but if shes not, then i can explain what this is.

usually, when you have a best friend, whomever the other is dating needs to be accepted of approved by your best friend.

so in other words, your (girl) friend might have really thought your girlfriend was a great girl for you, and wanted to show you that she approves of your relationship.

i know because my best friend is a boy, and Im a girl. we are so close and respect eachother, and if I start dating somebody, he always wants to meet him. i can tell if he likes my new boyfriend or not by the way he acts towards him.

same goes if hes dating a new girl.

so just dont be mad at your friend. shes just showing her approval and its better if they get along anyway because relationships are always hard when your friends and your new GF dont get along.

it shouldnt become a jealousy thing. If your girlfriend and your (girl) friend respect you, you shouldnt have to worry about a thing!

hope this helps!

steph =]

Q: How can i bruise my face easily?

what are trying to do? frame someone?

Q: Ok, I'll be turning 16 in March. I know it's a while away, but I already have my permit and I'm planning on getting a hardship. So, I've been kindof thinking about getting a car lately. The thing is, I hardly know anything about cars haha. I know it'll most likely be a used car because 1) It won't be as much of a big deal if I get a dink in it as it would be if it was brand new and 2) I want to help pay for it, but I don't want it to be extremely expensive, for the sake of myself and my parents. So, my question is, what kind of car would you suggest? I'm mostly interested in it's safety features, but I don't want it to be like a minivan or something that's too big for what I'll be using it for. I was thinking about a VMW Beetle, just because I've always loved their unique bodies, but I haven't checked the safety features on it yet. I really don't care about anything like heated seats or sunroofs or whatever. So yeah, suggestions please? Thanks SO much :)

its not my first car, but the car I have currently is a Dodge Caliber.

its really cute and sporty, its a 4 cylinder so its great on gas, but its a hatchback so its got alot of space like an suv. Ive taken it on camping trips, to the beach, lots of fun in this car! the inside is really nice and dodge has a good warranty. Used ones are very resonably priced AND it gets 5 star crash test ratings so its very safe!

heres a pic of my car! i love it!

http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=26340633&albumID=2270224&imageID=34175673

hope this helps!

steph 21 =]

Q: I wanna know everyones' opinions on age differences in relationships. Mind you, this is out of total curiosity, as a friend of mine and I were discussing this the other day. So I just want to know what you think, like, how big of a difference is too much, and what not.

ive witnessed a bad experience with huge age gaps.

after my mother divorced my step-dad, she started dating a 27 yr old! hes young enough to be MY BOYFRIEND. its gross

i agree that age usually doesnt matter but the larger the age gap, the bigger difference in maturity.

he was so immature, he ended up hurting my mom really badly.

hope this helps! =]

Q: ok, when i try to upload pictures onto my ipod touch, it doesn't seem to be working. :( i only want this one picture, me and my idol (christofer drew. :) ) well, anyway, i want to put it like as my background, instead of that earth.. i made a seperate folder, and i think its in there, but it says 0 pictures, in that one thing. :( i don't know why, & i don't know what i'm doing wrong.. can anyone help me out??

I think I can help you here.

There's a couple of ways.

First, get the picture you want in a folder by itself on your computer.

Now: you need to be on itunes on your computer. Hook up your ipod. It brings up the ipod screen that shows how much space you have and stuff. Look at the top, and you should see tabs that say movies,videos,photos,podcasts, etc.

Click the photos tab. Click "manually manage photos" if its there, and also click the circle that says "from folders:" and has a list of your computers folders on it. Click ONLY the folder that has the one pic in it, then once its checked, go up to "file" in the left corner, and select "sync ipod"

After the sync is done, eject your ipod, click the photos icon, and it should be there!

Second way is much easier if you have wifi and your picture is online somewhere (like myspace or facebook)

While in wifi, open the safari browser, and surf the net just like you would normally. If the pic u want is on myspace, go to the myspace page and find the pic. Once the pic is on your screen, hold your finger on it for 3 seconds. At the bottom of your screen a menu pops up and says "save image" or "cancel"

Click save, and once its done, hit the home button, click the photo icon, and there it should be!

Hope this helped!! =]

Steph 21

Q: 16F

Could anyone list any good reasons why a guy would completely ignore a girl out of nowhere? Like this guy has known I liked him for several months andwe barely talked about it but we texted each other a couple of times and he truly made it seem like we were still good friends and out of nowhere he started ignoring me..it's been two weeks now. And he told my friend that it's because I'm boring and annoying but it really doesn't add up because in the conversations we had he was holding up the conversation more than I was, and it's relatively easy to tell when someone is annoyed with you and he wasn't. I did nothing wrong and I'm trying to move on from him but it's hard to when I have no idea what his issue is and he won't speak (I only texted him the first day it's started, and twice two weeks later, which is like friday and today. what I'm trying to say is I know my limit, I'm not nagging him to answer me). Also he completely freaked at my friend for telling me some of the things she told me he said about me (long story how he found out), like he completely FREAKED, and hes still mad now but he still is actually responding to her when she speaks to him...so if I did nothing wrong, why is he ignoring me? We've been past the fact that he knows I like him for a couple months, and that we were just friends. And me being annoying, and I admit i can be at times, hasn't stopped anyone from talking to me? And he's talking to someone that he's even angrier with? I mean he does tend to deal with things by not talking about them at all, but this is just ridiculous. It's just a really confusing frustrating situation and it seems simple to just move on and get over it but when someone is completely ignoring you out of the blue like that and you can't understand why its just not easy to. We were good friends and he was TRULY acting like it in the conversations we had before he started ignoring me. Can I just get some reasons of why someone would do this? Postive or negative, hurtful or logical, anything, just list anything you think could make sense.

This totally sucks and im sorry you are having to deal with it!

I know all too well how hormanal teenage boys can be and let me tell you, they say girls are hard to understand!? Guys are just as hard in my opinion.

I went through a similar situation with a guy. We talked for months and even went out on "dates" together. We had lots of fun and he was always the one calling ME. Then one day, I wake up and he just doesn't txt me. It was weird because every morning when I woke, I would have a txt from him that said good morning!! :)

I thought maybe he had overslept and just left it at that but it happend for a week! No txts. I thought he was busy so I tried calling. It rang once and he hit the ignore button so it went staight to voicemail. I know because when I was with him I had seen him do that when someone called that he didn't want to talk to.

I was really hurt and I had a friend ask and he said I was boring and he wanted to move on.

He always laughed and smiled and cuddled with me all the time so I don't see how I was boring.

Turns out, another girl came along and they started dating so he didn't need me anymore. :-(

Keep your chin up and give him his space. Don't obsess about it or anything, and just move on. One day he might end up back in your life!! Never know. =]

Hope this helps!!

Steph 21

Q: so I'm about to order clothes online, but everytime I do this, I end up being completely unsatisfied with the clothes. I'm not planning on ordering much, just like two or three outfits. is someone willing to help me out? I'll give you a picture of myself so you can help me decide what looks good on me and stuff, and whatever other information you need. I'd really appreciate it. Please leave your email if you're interested.

hey!

i think i can help you out here.

most good and reputable clothing stores online, have a special sizing chart that explains their sizes. (some stores sizes run smaller or larger depending on their models they use to create the clothes)

take your measurments. (there should also be a chart to show you exactly where to measure for accuracy) =]

once you have your size figured out, take a look at the clothes!

most good clothing stores online also have a "customer review" section where you can read how other people have liked their clothing.

all these things should ensure that you are satisfied with your awesome new clothes!!

hope i helped! =]

steph 21

Q: I'm on the yaz birth control. I've been on yaz for about 5 months now but was on something different for about 5 months before that. I take my pill everyday on time. I'm sexually active with my boyfriend though. We have sex about 3 times a week. Always with a condom except 2 times this past month. He pulled out before anything happened so i should be safe. But i'm on yaz and i was suppose to get my period yesterday ( the first day of my inactive pill) it's now the second day out of the four inactive pills, and i still don't have my period. I took a pregnancy test this morning and it came out negative, but i dont know how accurate it was because i drank so much water... Help!

i think I can help you here

Ok, most birth control pills take atleast 3 months to get into your system fully and thats only if youve been taking your pills everyday and on time. You stated that you have been doing that.

now if you look at the pamplet that comes with YAZ, look for something about high risk periods of time. On some birth control pills, the high risk time is usually the 1st and the 3rd week of a new pack of pills. Meaning that everytime you start a new month of pills, the 1st week and the 3rd week could be times of the pill that there is a larger risk of getting pregnant. it may not have high risk times though, but its always good to check.

you should ALWAYS start your period when you start your inactive pills. You could be pregnant, but its not registering on the test yet. Also, If you ar under alot of stress, this could mess with your regularity too.

the best thing to do is to continue taking your pills as normal, and in about 3 days, take another pregnancy test. if you are pregnant, you will want to know right away so you can start your prenatal care to keep your baby healthy.

hope this helps. =] let me know if you need anything.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21

Q: i just bought an ipod touch, and i was wondering if anyone could give me some helpful information about it, like experiences you had with it, and things i should be careful and stuff, i know the basics, but yeah, i just want to know any helpful information you have, about apps, itunes, ipod touch, etc. :)

thanks!

My fiance bought me an ipod touch on my birthday last year. The 16 gb.

Honestly is the best investment we've ever made. We use it for everything! I even hook it up to my car and there's no need for cds anymore.

Check out these fun apps:

Koi pond .99
Distant shore .99
Vampires live
Sol free
Arcade bowl
Millionaire
ReMovem
TextTwist
Taptap revenge
Labyrinth 3d
Checkers

Most of those are free apps I think.

You can put movies on it too! Next time u go to the store to buy a new release, look for the "special edition" and on the front it should say

"Digital copy included"

As long as it says that, there will be a code inside the dvd case and when you type that code into itunes, it downloads the movie to your itunes!

Again, its the best electronic device I've ever owned, its going to be hard for anyone to top this!

And congrats on ur new itouch. If you have any questions about how to do anything with it or itunes, shoot me an email!

Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

=]

Steph 21

Q:
What's the name of the contraceptive device where they jab a needle into your arse??

Because I want to get it, so I don't have to keep
taking the pill every day...
And I'd like to ask for it, but I can't just walk
up to the people and say "Can I get the thing where
they stick a needle into your arse?"

:|
Please Help.

I think there's a birth control shot called the depo shot.

Steph

Q: So back in June, i hooked up with this boy my age that i just met that night. He goes to a different school, but we know the same people and had heard of each other before. We were all drinking at this one kid's house, and we were kinda meant to hook up cause everyone else there had someone to hook up with so it just happened. But we talked a lot and hooked up a lot and even a little more, like he gave me a hickey. And i'm PRETTY sure he asked for my number, but I don't completely remember. We were talking about hanging out and stuff, and he acted like he really liked me that night. The only issue is, he never talked to me again. It really hurt me for some reason, because I have this problem that whenever i hook up with someone I become attached to them for a little. But when I tell my friends that I'm upset he never texted me or said anything to me and we never hung out, they just say 'who cares, it's just a random hookup'. Like no one thinks its a big deal to hook up with someone and never talk to them again, but personally I hate that. It's the worst feeling ever. He sseemed like such a nice and mature guy and everyone said he was, but I just don't get what I did wrong. I was thinking into it a lot, and I was thinking maybe I gave him the wrong idea because he was trying to do more with me and i told him I didn't want too and he was like 'sorry, sorry'. and then we just went to sleep. And then i got up to go to the bathroom and instead of laying back down with him i layed on a different couch. And my one friend was saying this might have made him feel like I did'nt like him or something, but really I wasn't even thinking about it like it wasn't a big deal at all. And now to make matters worse, he is back with his ex-girlfriend. They were done for about 2 months before I hooked up with him, and the reason I knew it was okay was that my friend hooked up with him the weekend before me. I feel completely used and I just think that he is one of those boys who just wants to get some whenever he can, considering he hooked up with my friend the weekend before when they were drunk, so now i just feel like shit. And i've decided never to hook up with a random person again unless I know they will talk to me after. And he told his ex-girlfriend that he hooked up with me because she wanted to know everyone he had hooked up with since they broke up. Now i just feel like one of those girls who hook up with people's ex's as a rebound, and i NEVER wanted to be that girl. I"m the type of girl who's all about playing hard to get and not being needy to boys and being independant. I mean i don't really feel that way, but I try my hardest to act that way in front of guys. So something like this has never happened to me and idk what to do. I can't stop thinking about it even though i should of forgotten about him a WHILE ago, because he obviously never thought about me again. the thing that pisses me off SO much is that i'm the type of girl who is not easy at all, and guys know that. I've worked so hard on making that my image and living up too it, because for some reason my worst fear is being 'easy' or a 'slut'. so, i play hard to get , sometimes i even come off as a bitchy to guys, because i am so afraid of being used or getting attached. And i don't get it, it's like this guy for example, his girlfriend is SUCH whore, she is the biggest slut i've ever met literally and i'm NOT just saying that, i mean she probably has diseases. and i am not at ALL, guys know that if they want ANYTHING physically from me they have to actually like me, except this night was an exception.i KNEW it was a bad idea to let my guard down for once. but of course, all i would do is make out with him because i would never do anything more with a random guy..

You need to be careful of the terms you are using in your questions.

In the adult world, "hooking up" with someone means having sex with them, so I almost made it all the way through your post thinking he slept with you.

As far as him not talking to you afterwards, its completely normal to go to party, make out with a guy, and him never call you after that. I asked my husband and he said that if he was from another school, or a different city, the chances are, it was a one time thing for him and he won't want to pursue it afterwards. He's in the "no strings attatched" phase.

I know it sucks. When I was 16 I went through similar situations. Just know that next time you go to a party, if you plan on making out with a random guy, don't expect anything past that night even if he does ask for your number. Chances are he won't call, but there's always a chance that he will, but don't expect anything. And don't read too much into it eaither. Its not that they may not like you, but they just wanted to have fun that night and nothing more...

Keep this info in mind next time you go to a party. You will feel better afterwards.

=] steph

Q: its rather embarassing but the other week my boyfriend and i (who have been together for quite a while) decided to have sex.

only.

he couldnt get it up?

nervous or something else?!

yes everyone else is right aboiut the nerves thing, BUT

also, if he happened to masturbate earlier in the day, then it could be harder for him to get it up later.

hope this helps.

=] steph 21

Q: can masterbation get you pregnant

seriously?

im not sure if you are just really young and dont know anything about sex or if you are seriously misinformed but i think i can help you here.

in order to get pregnant, a man has to stick his penis in the girl and cum inside her.

or if he gets cum on his finger and fingers her.

if cum enters the vagina any way, you can get pregnant. theres no other way.

steph 21

Q: so im 16 and i still wear pads...is that normal? i mean is there a certain age for girls when your suppose to start wearing tampons?are their some girls who never wear tampons?does it become unhealthy to wear pads after a certain period of time?and is it true that you can still go swimming on your period as long as you wear a tampon??thanx

i was always scared to use tampons at first, but then I tried one oneday because i really wanted to go swimming with the rest of my friends, and after a couple tries, I got it inserted correctly, and it felt ery comfortable! i LIKED them so much I never wore a pad again. but i still know women in their 20's who wont use them. and its perfectly ok. Its your choice. if you arent sure how to put in a tampon and ur scared, Ive actually helped another girl learn how to do it and feel free to email me if you want that same help. Ill explain everything you need to know.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

=]

steph 21

Q: Give me your honest opinion. Why do you think vampires are evil?

well they dont actually exist. but if they DID, i would only think they are evil if they kill humans. if they feed on animals, then they're alright with me. =]

steph 21

Q: Is it wrong to just ask a guy if he likes you because you are getting mixed signals or should i ask him who he likes and see if he says me

never beat around the bush with men.

the best and easiest thing to do is to be mature, and just ask straight up. you will get a straight answer this way.

good luck! =]

steph 21

Q: I have a "weak personality" as my parents have asked me to change. I get bullied and manipulated easily. In a group of friends, I easily turn into a butt of all jokes. I'm easy. I'm too nice, laid-back, and not very confrontational unless pushed too far.

I'm so weak that I even let a bitchy illegal female servant (under the employment of my aunt and the subject of my anger towards myself) boss me around and got me into trouble for 2 years. Until she got what she deserved when she got caught by immigration.

After her arrest last week, I figured it was the last straw for me. During those 2 years I couldn't fight her. She was illegal and under the employ of a relative. If I reported her, she would've backfired and told the police about my aunt on hiring her. My loving aunt could be jailed for that. Oftentimes I've thought of exacting revenge on that bitchy servant. However, I never had the balls to go to the immigration police because the bitchy servant has a deaf-mute son to feed back in her country. I didn't want her son to suffer from my petty anger. But why is it that it's still gnawing at me; I should've known how to stand up for myself.
I always use karma as an excuse to not be confrontational. But why does it feel like I'm wronging myself.

I want to be a bitch, someone who's tough and knows when to be mean. I don't want to be easy.
Whenever I tried being mean and confrontational, I feel guilty and I can't sleep at night knowing I hurt someone's feelings, even if they wronged me first.
How does one become a calloused, mean, bloodsucking bitch?
Does it mean that just because someone is nice and non-confrontational, then that person is a doormat?

*I apologize for the adjectives I used. I'm just angry today. :(

i know how you feel, i was very like you in highschool

instead of being a "bitch" think of it as being tough

next time someone says something rude to you, dont cringe and shy away like a dog with its tail between its legs, say,

i dont give a shit what you think. who are you?

and walk away. just stand up for yourself and people will stop picking on you.

as far as your friends go, i would say to get some new friends. if you have told them how you feel and they still dont change, they arent good friends anyways.

the only person who should control your feelings is YOU.

=] keep ur chin up. if you need to talk, inbox me anytime!

steph 21

Q: Well they're not my neighbours, they're my neighbour's neighbour; the house beside our neighbour.

They are SO loud and I'm trying to sleep but I can hear yelling (and they're family is just a normal family and the oldest kids are in high school) and it's driving me nuts! it's summer and I love the earth so I'm using my window but it’s SO loud. And when I shut it I can still hear them, which doesn’t help because it's suffocating in my room if the window isn't open.

They have loud music BLARING, it's almost 12 right now and I should have been asleep a long time ago but I can’t sleep and frankly, I'm getting bags under my eyes. My sister and I just have the urge to scream "SHUT UP!" out the window and duck but we'd be sinking to their level and disrupting the rest of their neighbourhood.

I am seriously thinking of walking to their place in my pajamas right now and yelling at them. What do I do? Oh, and ear plugs DON'T work! Like I get it's summer, but you got to think of everyone else around you when you're living in a NIEGHBOURHOOD.

im not sure where you live, but here in texas, it is ILLEGAL to be loud/disturb the peace after 10 pm. ask your parents what your state laws are and get it handled the mature way. it may seem crazy, but it will get them to be quiet and you will feel better when you sleep!

Q: I am 19, female. For years it's been like this.. my parents are always criticizing me over everything. I was going out with this one guy for two years, and we were engaged. I lost my virginity to him at 18 while engaged, thinking we were getting married. Well, he betrayed me and broke my heart. Awhile passed, and I met this new guy. We're truly in love, and really feel we're the one for each other. We just had that sudden connection and bonding that is so nice. We are starting to get serious though. I am loving this situation between he and I.

Problem is, is my parents. I can never talk to them without them critizing me. They treat me like a child, making me do chores all the time, doing their chores, threatening to spank me all the time, force me to stay at home when I forgot to do a chore, and control where I go in my car. When I was out job-hunting a lot (I am laid off), I would need their gas credit card to get gas. Well, my dad would scream at me if he saw that I got a soda or two while getting gas. He'd yell at me when I got gas and forgot to inform him.

So now that my boyfriend and I are getting serious, I would like to tell my parents about the situation, and how I feel about him. But I am scared to because with my ex, they criticized me. I didn't even tell them yet that I am not a virgin anymore. Last night coming home from seeing my boyfriend, they wanted to talk to me about the "Sex talk." Mad because I am 19, and know what sex is.. but they think I know nothing about it.

Today, I cried because I wanted to tell my parents about some ants that got in my room. They yelled at me for that. I am sick right now, and they wanted me to clean. I have done most of it, and my dad checked up on me and saw I wasn't finished so he started yelling at me. Right when I tried to respond, he slams my door.

My mom used to be a severe alcoholic, now she drinks heavily once or twice a week (not sure if that's still considred alcoholism). When she's drunk, she triew to find me and she hits me, and yells at me. My dad doesn't drink, but he is stressed from having no job so he takes it out on me. My parents blame me for everything that happens in the house. If a diet coke is gone from the fridge, I get yelled at, and I don't even drink diet coke.

I can't tell them anything, I feel like a young child in this house. My younger sister gets to do what she wants. She smokes, and plays video games all day. My parents know and don't care. I personally prefer not to drink, smoke, or do drugs, I attend online college full-time, and I do spend my time on this advice column giving advice; but today I need advice myself.

I am trying my best to get a job, and leave.. my boyfriend is going to find a place after he gets home from Myrtle Beach which, and comes back next Sunday (not this coming one). When he does, and I move with him, I lose everything.. so I guess I am screwed. I can't move in with anyone else for that same reason, plus no one will take me in temporarily.

Please help me, and give me advice on this matter. I just feel broken and helpess, when I am trying my best to stay strong.

Thanks in advance.

hey,

i think i can help easy some worries.

I have been through alot of bad things in my life, but of the most recent, was my senior year of highschool....

My mom was in her second marriage, and when i was in junior high, she was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and severe depression. in order to make ends meet with her new medical bills, my step father took a job with the government and had to move to Iraq to help with military. he would only be able to come home 2 weeks out of the whole year....

well while he was gone, and we started getting good money, my mom started abusing drugs and not even opening bills anymore. she did drugs on top of taking her medication and the side effects were severe halucinations and paranoia.

He was gone for years and I tried getting ahold of him to tell him what my mom was doing several times, but my mom would always catch me and i would get in big trouble. the bills werent getting paid and i had to start taking care of my little brother. alot of responsibility was on me and I felt like i was the adult. on top of everything, my mother started accusing me and my little brother of creepy things like crawling in her bedroom on the floor in the middle of the night, and even accused the neighbors husband of breaking in our house when he was out of town on a business trip!

then she started cheating on my step dad with a guy who was young enough to be MY boyfriend, and when my stepdad came home unexpectedly, my mom was caught.

everything blew up from there, they split up, and they both moved into seperate 1 bedroom apts. that left me no place to go!!

So I was a senior, about to graduate, and I was couch surfing for almost 3 months. The DAY I graduated highschool, I starteds my first job and I never looked back. Ive been independent ever since.

im sorry for the long post but i wanted to give you some background info before I gave you advice, so that you knew that Ive been through a similar situation. heres my advice

work work work as much as you can. I got laid off too and dont have a job right now, but find a decent affordable apartment and get out of that house as soon as you can!

this is a toxic enviroment for you and if you dont get out now, if can damage your adult life.

living independently is VERY HARD. but if you are willing to sacrifice alot of things, it will be worth it in the end.

today I am 21. Ive lived on my own since I was 17, and have been through many tough times. My fiance Chris and I have been together since my sophmore year so hes been with me through all those bad times.we live together so financially its easier, but right now like I said Im unemployed so theres alot of stress on his shoulders.

the best tip i can give is to plan plan plan. dont worry about what your parents are going to do. you cant live in fear anymore its not right.

Email me for more advice, Im taking up too much space here.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

im here for you. please email me.

steph 21

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Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com