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flirting?
so the other day,
well actually now a couple of days ago,
me, my girlfriend, my guy friend, and one of my closest (girl) friends, went out.
all the while i couldnt help but notice that my (girl) friend, kept flirting with my girlfriend.
she called her cute, and when my dude friend squished a bug that my girlfriend was looking at my (girl) friend sort of pretended to beat my dude friend up. in the car back home, my (girl) friend kept trying to talk to my girlfriend, and i was just livid that whole ride.
i didnt know if i was just being rediculous and over pretective or not, so i chose not to say anything.
im not worried about my girlfriend liking my (girl) friend, i just think that it was so rude to, (through my observation) flirt with MY girlfriend.
i dont know what kind of attitude i should display to my (girl) friend, or if i should confront her about the whole situation or not.
help??
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Dear flirting?,
Okay dear, well one of two things could be happening here based on what you've told me.
Number 1: Your (girl) friend might be a lesbian/bisexual. In this case, things would be quite tricky, and you might have to confront her about it. But not to talk about her "flirting". If she is bi then you should be concerned in helping her because she is probably very confused and lost. So until that gets sorted out, don't even bring your girlfriend into the subject. Just be there as a friend.
Number 2: This one is probably the more likely of the two. What I think is going on is that your (girl) friend is, as you said, very close to you, and she probably just wants your girlfriend to like her. So what you may see as flirting is probably just her trying to establish a friendship with your gilrfriend so that there is no awkwardness betweeen them. Does that make sense? Maybe its just a girl thing.
But either way, you need to talk to your (girl) friend and see whats going on.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Well, like the other person said..maybe she's bisexual? I don't know because, of course, I don't know her. However, honestly, some girls are just like that towards other girls..even if there not bisexual and/or a lesbian. I know girls in my school who do that to their girl friends all the time. I understand why you'd get annoyed with this though. In the car ride back home, it's possible (if your girl friend is not bisexual or anything) that maybe she just wanted to get to know your girlfriend! Since she is your good girl friend, she probably just wanted to learn more about her so she knows that you're with a nice girl. And, the whole calling your girlfriend cute..yes, it is probably weird to you, but again, many girls do that. I don't know why..they just do. It might have just been her way of being friendly. If you really do want to say something to her, don't be rude about it! You may offend her, and it's nothing to ruin a friendship over. Just say something like. "Oh, remember when we were hanging out that day with my girlfriend and stuff..you were very friendly towards her. Do you think she's good for me?" Or something like that! Just make sure whatever you say, it's not offensive and don't tell her you think she likes your girlfriend. I really doubt she likes her in that kind of way.. so just bring it up to her in a nice way to clear things up, and to make you feel better!
Hope I helped! :)
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is your (girl) friend bisexual?
if she is, she might have been flirting, but if shes not, then i can explain what this is.
usually, when you have a best friend, whomever the other is dating needs to be accepted of approved by your best friend.
so in other words, your (girl) friend might have really thought your girlfriend was a great girl for you, and wanted to show you that she approves of your relationship.
i know because my best friend is a boy, and Im a girl. we are so close and respect eachother, and if I start dating somebody, he always wants to meet him. i can tell if he likes my new boyfriend or not by the way he acts towards him.
same goes if hes dating a new girl.
so just dont be mad at your friend. shes just showing her approval and its better if they get along anyway because relationships are always hard when your friends and your new GF dont get along.
it shouldnt become a jealousy thing. If your girlfriend and your (girl) friend respect you, you shouldnt have to worry about a thing!
hope this helps!
steph =]
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