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Q: does tmoblie have a phone with whee it slides open and theres a keyboard for texting?

not the sidekick, the blackberry, or the "dash"

thanksss. xo

I'm not sure if T-Mobile has it, but I know Cingular does. Try the T-Mobile website.

Q: Okay, I am not sure if this is an the right category to put this in. But I have a problem.

My boyfriend, of almost 7 months, dips. (Like copenhagen, tobacco, etc.) I have told him I don't like him doing it but he likes doing it and says it tastes good. He never does it when he knows I am coming over or he is going to be with me. And he always brushes his teeth and uses mouthwash all the time.

Should I still be mad about this?

I would say you should be more disappointed than mad. My brother dips and I was mad at him for a while but I just got used to it. Just try and tell him the dangers of it, how he can get cancer from it. It may turn him off it may not, but you might eventually have to learn to deal with it because it after-all, is an addiction.

Q: i have light blonde hair.
i wanna use a NON permanet hair dye that will turn it red. not a BRIGHT RED but natural red but not brown either.

Well, you didn't ask a question, but I advise you not to do that. It will not wash out completely with the color of your hair. It will probably leave an unattractive color after you wash it all out.

Q: this is a really weird question, actually 2 questions, but how do does 2 guys (a gay couple) have sex?? and how do 2 girls have sex??

Guys - Perform oral, and put it in each others bums.

Girls - Perform oral, use vibrators/dildos/strap ons.

Q: im a level one mod.
i know how level twos are chosen.
are there level threes and such also/

There's 4 levels.

I think only 2 or 3 people are level 4 mods.

Q: 15/f. when a boy asks you out in person, what are you supposed to say? you can't just say YES. that would be weird. what else can i say?

Yes is all he's looking to hear from you, not a little speech.

Just say yes and be all happy about it.

Q: i dont have any white nail polish and i really need some QUICK! i cant go to the store or anything.. how can i make some white nail polish or use some household material to paint my nails white? thankss

Erm, ummm, white out?

Q: Ok well i need a dress for graduation. Does anyone know any sites that have really cute like short dresses and not long dresses, and not realy expsensive? I have already looked at tilly's and target nothing really that i have liked, oh and roxy.

It would be appreciated.

Thankyou!

Deb would be perfect.
or Forever 21, or even Charlotte Russe.

Q: wuts applesause

It's a little program for AIM that lets you have a lot of colors for fonts and profiles.

If you want it, search "applesause for AIM" and you'll find it.

Q: ive never worn a tampon before because i dont know how to put them in. but i hate wearing pads for sports and they annoy me so much. how do i put it in and take it out? how long can i wear it for?. does it hurt? and can you really swim with it in and no blood come out? that would NOT be good! thanks

They have directions in the tampon boxes.

A safe amount of time to wear them is for 4 hours.

If you put it in right, it won't hurt.

And yes, you can really swim with it in and no blood will come out, which WOULD be a good thing. =)

Q: what does it mean to mastrabate?? when, what, and why does it happen?

Well, if you don't know, you're probably too young to know what it means.

To put it nicely, it's when people play with themselves.

Q: kaay welll i have an ipod nano and its like year old but when i try to put it on it says disk mode..is there a way to get rid of that or do i have to get rid of my ipoddd?

Let your ipod die, then charge it. Mine did the same thing, but I let the battery die, and it worked after that.

Q: Um this is weird but, I have to take birth control because of a personal problem. Well, basically, take the pink pills I'm fine, then take the four white pills I get my period, then take the pink again and its gone. I have to go somewhere next weekend and I'm supposed to take the white pills that weekend. I can't run around on my period, so would it harm me if I took those now and just change it around some? Sorry its weird.... ?_?

I wouldn't do that, because then you mess up your whole cycle, and you won't know when to take your white pills again.

Q: does anyone know where to get a fake lip piercing? haha. just for picturesss. thank yuu

You can't really fake piercing your lip.
You either pierce it or you don't.

Just go to a store like hot topic, and buy a couple rings, and put them on your lip.

Q: Has anyone heard about the new phone by Samsung .. the u740? It opens up like a flip phone and also opens like an EnV and has a QWERTY keyboard .. I was wondering if this is a good phone and what its qualities are .. like the camera and how good the pictures/videos are and if its slow and stuff because i get a new one on April 3rd .. Thanks!!

This site has plenty of reviews from owners of that phone =)

http://www.phonescoop.com/phones/user_reviews.php?phone=1060&r=21989

Q: I'm not planning on having sex the first time for a couple years or so atleast but I'm afraid I will end up regretting it later on. I'm just curious about the average age girls lose their virginity.

So basically I have three questions..

1. What age did you lose your virginity?

2. Do you regret it or are you happy with your choice?

3. What age do you suggest? (Please don't say when you're ready because obviously I'm going to wait until I'm ready but I'm talking like what's too young, etc.)

Thanks

14 :/

I wouldn't say I regret it, but I think I definitely should have waited longer.

I would say about 17-18.

Q: i really like your hair that you have in your advice column picture. my hair is the similar length and i was wondering how you style your hair in order for it to be like that because it is straight but also has some volumne.

thanks! and when i get my haircut soon how should i describe to my hair dresser the type of layers that i want? i want layers like yours.

Well at night i put it up, and straighten it in the morning. That's what gives it volume, or, you can use like hair clay, that works real well too.

And tell your hair dresser you want your hair really choppy and you want layers. Or, you can bring that picture of me in and tell her you want your hair like that. Doing that will be easier for your hairdresser to get a feel for what you want it to look like!

And thank you for complimenting my hair, hah. =)

Q: i really like how a lot of girls straighten their hair, but also have volume at their roots. or like when they put their hair up in a ponytail but kinda keep it poofy at the top. do you know what i mean?

if someone could maybe give me a picture and then steps how to get my hair like that it'd be GREAT!

I do this every night, haha.

Shower at night.

First, let your hair air dry till it's damp.
Put your hair in a ponytail and leave it up all night.
In the morning, your hair will be all like crazy and stuff, so just straighten it.

and wah-la!

if you want, you can put some hair spray in it when your done straightening it. It works for me every morning! =)

Q: What is the legal age you can move out of your parents house? Some people have told me 18 and some have told me 17. I'm in South Carolina if that makes a difference. Also, how would you tell your mom you were moving out without hurting her feelings?

16 to get emancipated.
18 to move out.

=)

***EDIT***

Here's a site about emancipation. =)
http://www.lsc-sf.org/problems/emancipation.html

Q: AHH i have never been sooo pissed off in my life.

ok so the thing is that im about to turn 16 in june and i have a younger sister who is 14 right now. ANd she said that our parents are gonna let her do Drivers ED this summer. AND They wont let me.
AND im GONNA be 16. SO not only they will let her Do it before me BUT she is YOUNGER too. HOW EFFIn unfair is that. I just like wanna KILL myself now. IM soo pissed off.

what can i do to stop this from happeing.
cuz there is NO way that she is gonna take drivers ed before me. THERE is no way.
how can i make my parents make her take it when shes also 16.

Well, then that means your waiting 2 years because she can't even get her permit when shes 14, unless the driving laws are different where you live.

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