I have had my fair share of life's lessons and learned from them. I come from a family filled with divorce and family problems so I have a rough idea on how to personally handle things.
As for matters of the heart I can tell when a relationship is or isn't going to work. I understand the importance of communication and give and take after spending around two years in a relationship were I almost ran my ex boyfriend's household and looked after his siblings.
I understand that in certain parts of the world I am not yet of legal age to have a sexual relationship and that in some religious circles it is frowned upon for an unmarried woman to do so. What can I say? I have been in love and I have expressed that love but I have always been careful to avoid any trouble. I know how most contraception works and how the system works so don't be afraid.
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I need help annotating this poem please. If there are any literary devices you notice please leave an answer. Thanks!
Selfishness
Search history, my boy, and see
What petty selfishness has done.
Find if you can one victory
That little minds have ever won.
There is no record there to read
Of men who fought for self alone,
No instance of a single deed
Splendor they may proudly own.
Through all life's story you will find
The miser—with his hoarded gold—
A hermit, dreary and unkind,
An outcast from the human fold.
Men hold him up to view with scorn,
A creature by his wealth enslaved,
A spirit craven and forlorn,
Doomed by the money he has saved.
No man was ever truly great
Who sought to serve himself alone,
Who put himself above the state,
Above the friends about him thrown.
No man was ever truly glad
Who risked his joy on hoarded pelf,
And gave of nothing that he had
Through fear of needing it himself.
For selfishness is wintry cold,
And bitter are its joys at last,
The very charms it tries to hold,
With woes are quickly overcast.
And only he shall gladly live,
And bravely die when God shall call,
Who gathers but that he may give,
And with his fellows shares his all.
Edgar Albert Guest
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Some hopefully helpful notes:
Third person form, abab rhyming pattern, metaphors describing the negatives of selfishness "For selfishness is wintry cold," yet soon contradicting with the hope of success of belief in christian religion, "And bravely die when God shall call,
Who gathers but that he may give,
And with his fellows shares his all."
Targets a young male auidence "Search history, my boy, and see", man to man advice on war?
1881-1959 poet's life time, old fashioned, dated piece of literature.
Edgar Guest began his career at the Detroit Free Press in 1895, where he first worked as a copyboy. He was soon promoted to police writer and later to exchange editor, and in 1904 he began writing verse for the Free Press under the heading "Chaff."
Above is the sort of thing I included in my a-level exam and coursework. I have a high grade English A-level and hope some of the above is of help to you. Try and pick out any themes you see cropping up for example 'weather' can be linked with 'wintry cold' and 'quickly overcast'.
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For some reason, I am only attracted to older men. I'm 19/f and guys my own age are just so unappealing to me. I'm working full time and I'm also in school full time, so it's possible because I'm around older people so much that I just don't relate to guys my age anymore. But is this weird? My last two boyfriends were 22 and 24, respectively. And I've been talking to this 30 year old I work with and I just don't want people to think it's weird that I can't be with guys my own age. Anyone have any opinions on this? Can anyone relate?
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I am 20 (just) and my boyfriend is 34, before that I was casually seeing a man who was 38 (just two years younger than my stepfather). I have always felt more comfortable talking to older people in general, my best friend in the world is a woman I met at University who is into her 50s.
I tried being with men my own age, I even almost married one but for some reason it is like they are on a lower level to me, I can't talk about things like 80s music or theatre shows without being seen as a snob.
It isn't your fault if you prefer the older man, I didn't realize until I was at work and met my boyfriend and realized I was into another man in his 30s, before that a 26 year old when I was 17/18.
My boyfriend and I have always said age is just a number but at the same time I have found it does come with draw backs. Like my boyfriend only goes out once a week, he spends alot of time in his living room and with his parents. There is also the fact that if you make it last with an older man you have to be able to expect that he is going to need physical help before you do and stuff like that.
Some people don't like it, that is fine I understand their opinion even if I don't agree with it. I am more likely to put our happiness before basic maths because that is the way I am.
Personally I think you shouldn't worry about it, its just like how you prefer your steak as far as I am concerned and I guess when it comes to men we prefer it medium to well done.
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I can't get over him.
I have a new boyfriend, and I moved into a whole different state.
But every second I spend with my boyfriend, I want to be with my ex boyfriend.
But I'm so over him.
What do I do? (link)
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I know you sound contradictory but I understand. It's like you have accepted that you are in love with your new boyfriend but your mind keeps wondering 'what if?'.
I spit with my fiancé 7 months ago and at first we saw each other every time he came home but that has stopped in the last 4 months or so.
My own trick is to concentrate on making my current relationship work by keeping my mind firmly on what I can do to make it work this time. I have started doing more chores and random acts of love and kindness like lunch and cups of coffee, just little things but they make a difference.
I guess you have to ask yourself what you really want as well. I have just suggested what to do if you really believe you are over your ex. If not maybe it is time to consider the possibility of going back? Try asking how he feels about you and build on it if there is a chance of you making amends.
It is too late for me to go back, I broke my ex's heart moving on so quickly and I do not expect him to forgive me anytime soon. I just want him to be happy and find a girl who will do right by him where I could not.
Please think harder about what you think is the best way to deal with this, it is about you and the man you think you will be happiest with.
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Hey I am 18/F
Well I haven't been a virgin since I was fourteen, I've had about three sexual partners all close boyfriends, I've been checked for stds and I am clean, I've been single for a while now so I've started to experiment with just myself, I've never had an orgasm before, I've had to fake it, sex never even felt especially good, sometimes it did, but not really. Well, I've been touching myself lately, and sometimes it feels really good but in a strange way, I like how it feels but for some reason I just have to stop like it's too much, I've tried to overcome it but I can't, sometimes I get really close and I feel like I am going to orgasm, but then I just pull my hand away and I can't understand why, is there any reason why? And if so is there a way to overcome this and reach my goal?
tips would be appreciated!! (link)
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First of all I am not going to judge the age of losing your virginity, every girl is different regardless of laws in the world because all girls develop differently at different ages.
Relax for a start, I had the same problem. Sex with my ex was great but it wasn't until I met my current boyfriend when I was over 19 years old did I have my first full orgasm and I agree with you on the feeling. I have lost count how many times I pushed my boyfriend away or off me and let me tell you that is quite something as he is 14 years older than me and I am only little.
I guess part of the reason I had my reservations was because I thought 'what if I am one of those girls who make a mess?' And I really wished that I could go all the way solo just to prove that I didn't.
For me, I overcame my anxiety because my partner understood and we had a connection. I just had to trust him and let the feeling take over because it wasn't like there was anyone else to judge me.
It is a good feeling when you do, I guess as you are on your own you will just have to tell yourself that it is going to be ok, play something that will relax you or get you in the mood on your ipod or whatever.
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I was wondering if asking the price of someone's wedding dress is considered rude, as in to most people. I asked one of my friend how much her sister's wedding dress cost while we were watching "say yes to the dress" and she said she can't tell me because it's personal. I honestly don't get how it's personal but then that's just my opinion, if she asked me, I would've told her. So do most people consider it rude or is it just my friend who thinks that? (link)
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Not so much 'rude' as just something you don't really ask the bride unless she wants to tell you.
Some people are fine with a simple wedding and some people like a big wedding..... and some people want a big wedding for a simple price but want their guests to think they are better off than they are and would be gutted if anyone knew otherwise.
On a wedding day there is alot of pride going on, there is usually a bride who has dieted since she got engaged and tells people she is a perfect size 12 when she has cut out the label that says '14'.
The dress to the bride is almost as important as the future husband, asking how much the dress is, sounds like asking how much husband earns in order for her to afford that dress which is another reason it can be classed as so personal.
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hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for fourteen months and we live together. it's just that, sometimes when he sees me texting, he asks me, who's that? you texting your boyfriend? and i told him that's very mean thing to say as u r my boyfriend, and he goes and laugh, says he's only joking. he also says, he doesn't care who i text and he's not bothered but still keeps asking who am i texting. guys, so is he jealous or just winding me up? thank you all. (link)
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It sounds to me like he is just taking an interest. My boyfriend used to do that kind of thing too and I am totally cool with it because I have nothing to hide from him, which is something he is not used to because his ex-wife hid things from him and that made him curious. One day he did find out she was having an online affair so I know that it is important to him that I tell him. It isn't a matter of 'he doesn't trust me', at the end of the day I'm doing nothing wrong and sometimes it helps communication if he knows what's going on between you and your friends and family.
From your post he doesn't sound jealous, I really think it is a case of curiosity and wanting to know you better.
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I am 23 and my boyfriend is 24, we have been together a year and 4 months, we really love each other and have a great relationship. Were both really close and comfortable with each other and tell each other everything. He is like my best friend and my lover. But here within the last few months our sex life has been diminishing. We used to do it probably 3 times a day or once a day at least, Now we hardly ever have sex. We have sex like once a week. He has a hard job and works 40+ hours so he always says he is too tired, or is feeling sick all the time and has lack of energy. I am always the one that instigates it and tries everything I can to spice it up and get him motivated and "in the mood" But he always stops me when I try, and even when I go down on him which usually guys wont turn down, he will even stop that! It's getting to the point where it is insulting and I start thinking if something is wrong with me. I don't think that sex is everything, but It definitely plays a role in a healthy relationship and I am not satisfied at all and I just do not feel happy. I don't feel like he wants me at all. It makes me doubt myself and his faithfulness. I start thinking if he doesn't want to do it at all with me maybe it is because he has found someone else, perhaps someone at work where he spends most of his time. One morning I was feeling frisky and started rubbing on him down there and he immediately stopped me and closed his legs together like a girl would. I asked him what his problem is, I know he isn't much for morning sex because he usually wakes up feeling really tired and unmotivated, but I was really getting my feelings hurt. It made me feel bad that my own boyfriend is rejecting me. I had a conversation about it with him and started crying because I got pretty emotional, he really hurt my feelings. He told me that it wasn't me that he just does not feel in the mood for sex anymore and that it doesn't mean that he thinks im not sexy anymore, it is just because he is tired and just does not feel like it. He said that he doesn't have energy anymore and never feels like he wants to do it. He even said that he dreads doing it! That comment hurt my feelings pretty bad. I don't understand what is going on, I mean he is only 24 and it's almost like he is going through some early stages of men's menopause! He said he would try to have sex with me and he did try and we had sex, but it just didn't feel all that great, because we werent really connected emotionally. I felt like he was just caving in to get me off his back, I didn't feel like he actually wanted to have sex with me! I mean, I don't get what he expects me to do, because I am not happy or satisfied and I cant make him want to do something he doesn't want to do, but I have needs! I mean what am I sopose to do? Get a sex machine or something? I cant just rely on my vibrator all the time! I would never ever cheat on him, I would feel so guilty and would not be able to go on knowing about what I did, it would just eat away at my conscious. I`seriously would not be able to even go through with cheating, I would probably break down and start crying and say I can't do this, But I am just saying, If I did cheat on him, he couldn't really blame me really, because he doesn't want to have sex with me! Most girls these days would cheat on their boyfriends if they did not satisfy them, because people cheat when they are unhappy! I am unhappy but I would never do that, but he is a great boyfriend emotionally! But he lacks being a great boyfriend physically! Please help give me some pointers and some tips! I don't know what else to do, I really love him but I am just so unhappy right now with our sex life. (link)
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I have recently come across the same situation. I love my boyfriend and our sex life has suddenly come to a hault between my stressful life and his own because he worries so much and hasn't been in the mood. We used to have sex 5 times a week but lately I have been lucky to get one or two a week.
Sex isn't that important when I look at what is going on in our life right now. I just moved back to my mum's, he's got to live with his seperated wife who is a total nutcase and is trying to prevent his parents from finding out certain things.
I think to start off with you need to work on that emotional connection and really make the effort. Most men I have been with love it if they see a change in underwear or dress sense like a favourite colour and go from there or as the saying goes 'be gentle with him'.
It might take time and I agree that forced sex is a bit of a pain unless you are into the whole 'just sex' thing. My boyfriend is 34 so I don't expect miracles anyway and understand the need for him to relax and he often says that I should have met him in his prime.
I hope some of this helps and good luck.
(I am 20/f)
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We use condoms and I'm on birth control and he goes inside me (with the condom on). Should i be worried about pregnancy? (link)
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It is unlikely you would conceive using two forms of protection. The condom is used to prevent sperm and infection from entering the vagina and your birth control deals with your own body and how it prepares itself for carrying a child. However no form on contraception is 100%, condoms can split and all kinds of things can affect birth control such as medicines from the doctor.
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My daughter is 13 and I'd like for her to start paying for her new clothes, accesories, and basically everything. Of course I would still pay for her food and keep a roof over her head. She doesn't have a job but she gets $5 a week for allowance. Do you think it's okay to make her start paying for stuff? (link)
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I think that is a little young to be paying for clothes and accesories, not just because she can't really get a job and get things for herself but because that means you could lose control of what she wears. She is a teenager and fashions these days seem to mean less and less material for younger clothes.
By all means with her $5 ask her to buy perhaps her own hair aaccesories but at thirteen I believe parents should take responsibility for the clothes their children wear and make sure they are clothed.
My own mother went to extreams when I was at college and university, she made me work, support myself with clothes, food and so on and give her housekeeping despite not receiving any benefits from it.
Your daughter will soon be wanting to impress the boys, it is what teenagers do and I am sure you do not want her to get into any trouble.
Hope this helps.
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Our 16 girl wants to date a 20 year old man who dropped out of High School, doesn't have a job, lives with his mother and is not very intelligent. Our girl is in middle college and gets straight A's.
This all started 3 weeks ago. She lied about his age and the nature of the relationship. One week in we discovered the truth and decided that we had to intervene. After speaking with both of them about how it was not only an immoral, but possibly illegal relationship, he was quick to point out the legal age of consent in our state is 16. We told them to wait until she's 18. He seemed rather upset, so the next day I went to his social network page where he had posted the following:
"me plus you equals violence, creepin up behind you I'm stalking you silent, dressed in all black I'm the nighttime assailant, grab you by the neck and stab you with my nine inch, knife, quick like, I end lifes, no strife, i mean i need just one swipe, and then I wipe, your existence away, I'm the evil son, so let me in to play." I also found older posts of murdering people and my favorite" My penis is a weapon".
Though her mother was with me on keeping them from dating, she is now thinking supervised visits is a better option to divert a possible Romeo/Juliette scenario after we discovered that there were over 1400 texts between them in 9 days. Her thinking is the more time they spend together, the more likely the girl will be to discover that the price charming is really a toad. I think a forced separation is in order complete with GPS activated on her cell phone so we know where she is at all times (she has a car).
I am very saddened by all of this because I had a close relationship with her. I have spent a long time explaining why dating him is a terrible idea and that we are really looking out for her and trying to protect her. Since I was the person who told them to stop, I am now the worst person in America. I know after a period of time she will someday be able to appreciate what I am doing, but for now she thinks I am mean and stupid. It would be helpful to be able to give her reason's on why dating a 20 year old man is not a great idea since my reasons have not resonated with her.
I am totally stumped on what to do in this situation and welcome some new ideas.
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Teenagers! Especially girls my friend can be difficult. I understand your concern sir from the age and personality of the man your daughter is dating. I respect your understanding of the Romeo and Juliet curse and your decision to keep a close eye on your daughter just incase things to turn out not the way they expected.
I know this will hurt but the best way is to let your daughter figure it out for herself, the only way we learn is through personal experience and from the sound of things it will only be a matter of time before your daughter realizes what kind of man her boyfriend is.
When the time comes that she does realize, you have to stand by her and support her, ask her if she would like your help with him.
You are her father and what her to be happy and it is clearly your gut instinct that this man isn't going to do her any good. I have always believed that most parents have an additional sense when it comes to these matters.
Explain to her that it isn't so much his age that is the problem but the type of man he is. After all I am sure if the man was working and was responsible enough to tell you that your daughter his safe with him then things might be different but quite clearly he isn't that type of man.
I hope you can put things right with your daughter and that she comes to realize what the man is like sooner rather than later.
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My boyfriend is a gorgeous guy who is well mannered (yes sir no sir yes ma'am, no ma'am to all adults) He is athletic and really smart (straight A's in school)but for some reason he always wears his paper napkin tucked in the collar of his shirt when he eats and I don't think that is what most 16 year olds do when they eat. I have not done that since I was 10 years old. Should I say something to him about it. My mom thinks it is cute and told me not to say anything because it would probably embarrass him. I have seen his younger brother (14) do the same thing at dinner one night so I guess maybe his parents require this. What should I do? (link)
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Honestly it isn't that uncommon. I suspect your boyfriend has old fashioned values (which personally I adore also) Regretably it is hard to come by a guy who is polite and takes care of his appearence (by making sure he doesn't drop dinner down his shirt with the use of a napkin, it is both a little old fashioned and practical) unless they are a little bit older.
If it bothers you by all means ask about it but I wouldn't ask him to stop it.
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i need advice, i am real shy around women , i can't talk to them and i can't even look at them and how am i going to find the one for me , if i am shy around women and i tried everything not to be shy, even my friends and family tried to help me, what should i do (link)
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Hi, 20/f. We do not bite, at least not all of us. One of the best ways to go about finding someone to go out with his by forming friendships with the opposite sex. It works both ways. You must learn to walk before you run.
My own boyfriend for example was just a mate at work, we just got talking now and again and found we liked the same films (so we started going to the movies alot), we both liked coffee (I introduced him to the nearest starbucks) and so on.
Eventually we found out we were both similar and quite attracted to one another and other feelings came into place, but it wasn't instant, these things never are.
To start with just ignore the fact that we're women (yes I know it can be difficult with some) but talking and listening is a good place to start.
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Im 15/F i never understand when people say he didn't finish in me or he used the pull out method. what does that mean!? like im guessing it when you guys fu*k and then he stops but i don't get it? (link)
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The term is withdrawal method. It is known as a more artificial type of contraception but it is not 100% affective.
It involves having sex without any form of contraception (condom, pill and so on, known as artificial types of contraception) but the man has to pull out before he ejcaulates inside the woman.
It involves a large amount of self control on his part.
Hope this is the information you were looking for.
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14/f
i have to shave my vag!!! i have done so before but only a little because i get all itchy and get red bumps. How should i shave it without this happening? what is the right way to shave it? thanks so much! (link)
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Skin irritation is quite common as it is quite a delicate area of skin. I can suggest shaving in the same direction with a gelled razor and shaving cream and perhaps applying a delicate moisturizer after you have done this to prevent itchying and irritation.
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Hey everyone(: 14/female so anyway I have a boyfriend who i love very much!(: and I tex him every other day just so i can space things out so i can have something to talk about. Now tho when we text a lot of it is just yas and yupps and hehes and thats all, I dont really know what to talk about anymore, So I need some ideas on what to talk about! and also he is always calling me sexy and beautiful stuff like that but I dont know what to call him haha! sometimes ill put baby or babe then before i send the message I erase it because i feel like what if he thinks im stupid i dont know why but, ya so if you have any ideas on what to talk about then i would love that, and good names too! -Thanks(: (link)
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First of all you will be pleased to know I am not going to patronize you. I am 20/F and remember having a boyfriend or two when I was 14.
You can ask him how his classes were that day, his strong subjects and weaker ones. Try and learn a little about football, his team or whatever sport he likes, guys love it when girls actually understand their likes and dislikes for example my boyfriend loves WWE wrestling and I did a little research and until I confessed I hadn't seen a single match or show before I met him he had no idea!
As for names if he is calling you 'sexy' and 'beautiful' feel free to do it back but maybe swap 'beautiful' for 'gorgeous'. Either way I am sure he'll tell you if there is a name he doesn't like that you use.
A name I tend to use alot is 'honey' mainly because my boyfriend started it and it got stuck in my head. I tend to use 'love' or 'dear' when I am being sarcastic or my patience is wearing thin haha.
Hope this helps.
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So I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 2 months now.
Next weekend I'm going to meet his whole family for the first time, at a dinner. I guess his mom asks how we are doing and everything, and I've briefly met her once. The thing I'm worried about when meeting his whole family is our age difference.
Everyone always makes a big deal that I'm 3 years older than him. But really, we're perfect for each other. People don't make fun of me, but they just joke around saying things like "Ha ha you cradle robber!" Things like that. I'm worried what his whole family is going to say. I know there is going to be a joke or few and I never know how to handle it! I'm a pretty shy girl so I just kind of laugh it off. Or the question from families are always "Why would you wanna be with him!" Like joking around but I never know how to respond.
Any advice on how to handle comments like these?! I obviously want to make a good impression on his family. (link)
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I personally don't think you have anything to worry about from his family, at least the older members of the family because most of us believe that age is just a number.
I am 20/Female and my boyfriend is 34 years old. I too was terrified when I met his parents, I was scared they were going to think I was after his money or with him because he was still married and not really mine to have.
As long as you make it clear that you love him and he is happy with you, you should be fine. At first mind what you say to people and give brief answers.
As for the comments from others just put them to the back of your mind. I have personally been called all sorts and asked if I have been to the old folks home lately. I just manage to laugh and say I prefer my men on the other side of puberty.
If they ask why you want to be with him just tell them what you like about your boyfriend (leave out anything sexual of course)
Hope this helps and good luck.
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ok so i still dont know what to give my bf for christmas. i know its early but i want it to be speacial. he like rock music and hes pretty muck a punk but i love him stil what should i give him??????? (link)
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Hello, so a punk into rock music. I am thinking his favourite band/artist on a t-shirt or something he'd wear or something in the shape of a gituar like a chain or something. If you're well off maybe some tickets to see a band later on in the year because then he has something to look forward to. Give it some thought.
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I'm 21.
Last night me and my boyfriend spent the night together. I've never given a guy a BJ before. I had my period so we couldn't do much, so I was giving him a HJ and decided to try giving him a BJ because I'm so comfortable with him and it felt right.
At first I thought it was going to be disgusting, but it wasn't to me at all. I was fine with it. The only thing is- I GOT BORED! I was doing it, and doing it, and I was like okay this is boring ..not to mention I was getting tired!
Is this normal? I know he was enjoying it by what he was saying, but I don't know how I can keep doing it without being so bored haha. (link)
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To be honest, yes it is quite normal doing the same thing over and over. The main thing to remember while you're doing it is that he can't last forever!
As a 20/F just like you despite it being my time of the month I have no problems giving but it does get to the stage where I think I wish it was me getting some one sided pleasure.
Can I suggest going half and half? As in half BJ and half HJ? It tends to make things a little more interesting and I've found that guys do not last as long.
Better still while you are doing what you are doing it is a good time to make lists and think about what also needs doing. Many a time I have found myself thinking about the week ahead while I am pleasure giving or thinking about old memories.
Another idea for you is to maybe try thinking of an unrealistic crush while you're doing it like a favourite actor or singer. It adds variety but keep it to yourself incase he gets a complex.
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I'm 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend whose 22 for over 5 months. We've had a few problems, mainly minor but so far things are going great.
There is one problem though when we're having sex he won't take off his shirt. Actually make it where he won't let me see him without his shirt period. I actually tried pulling up his shirt because I wanted to try something new, and as soon as I did that he pulled his shirt back down.
When I asked him if I could see him without his shirt off, he said no. I asked him "Why not? I'm not your girlfriend," again he told me no.
He's the only boyfriend of mine that I've never seen fully naked. He does have a lot of body issues, he's overweight from playing football and has never been able to take off all of the weight. I'm used to when I'm having sex actually getting to see the guy naked.
He loves me and I love him, we're both very much into sex. He's seen me naked and topless a bunch of times, I would like to have the opportunity to see him naked.
Is there anything that I can do to get him to feel more comfortable about taking his shirt off in front of me? (link)
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Hello, I am 20/F also and have a similar problem but it isn't the end of the world. For me it didn't matter what I said, what I did or pointed out that I am no oil painting either, the shirt stays on in bed and during sex.
I guess what I am trying to say is it is probably one of those things you might have to accept like an over-active kisser or someone who sleeps naked. They do it because that is the way they are and the only way they feel comfortable and for me I wouldn't like to take that away from them.
At the moment to try and get my fella's confidence up we're taking more walks together in hopes that it shifts some of that weight in order for him to feel comfortable naked (although with me my other half is 34/M and believes he peaked about 2 years ago) Perhaps try a similar thing or join a group with him?
The fact that he keeps his shirt on, yes it is different as also I have been with guys who go completely naked but as I love him it is something I have learned to accept.
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16/F I have a friend, whos a girl, we have been very trusting to eachother and respect eachother for that reason so she spent the niqht with me and thinqs qot a little wild when she asked if I wanted to sleep with her. I really was speechless when she asked me this. I said yes and ive always liked her so I decided to qo down on her first (ive never did a qirl before, but ive always been curious). She told me it was a secret and I cant tell anyone so the next day we acted like nothinq happen, but I cant live like that I need to tell her I really like her, but im afraid of rejection so what should I do? (link)
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First of all I'll admit this is out of my area as I am straight but I can suggest that you first ask her about her sexuality and how she feels about it before you tell her how you feel about her. If she wants it to be a secret it either means she doesn't know how she feels about it or she scared of admitting how she feels.
If she admits that she is gay or bisexual then try and bring the matter up again in private so as not to break her trust, assure her that what you did wasn't horrible or anything to be ashamed of, everyone deserves to be loved.
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