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Shes my friend...What should I do???!!!
16/F I have a friend, whos a girl, we have been very trusting to eachother and respect eachother for that reason so she spent the niqht with me and thinqs qot a little wild when she asked if I wanted to sleep with her. I really was speechless when she asked me this. I said yes and ive always liked her so I decided to qo down on her first (ive never did a qirl before, but ive always been curious). She told me it was a secret and I cant tell anyone so the next day we acted like nothinq happen, but I cant live like that I need to tell her I really like her, but im afraid of rejection so what should I do?
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For what it is worth I would say you both had a bi-curious experience "(Ive never did a girl before, but Ive always been curious)." This does not mean either of you are lesbians. You may have liked it more than she did or she may have liked it and does not know how to deal with her feelings.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with experimentation at your age. It is part of finding your sexuality. It is not a time to label yourself sexually.
I have known both boys and girl who have had gay sex all through college and then gone straight heterosexual after college. Why? Simple, for girls it was safer and more available as well as relieving sexual needs. For guys, again the more availability standard applies. On college campuses, at least when I was in college, guys out numbered girls as much as 4 to 1.
We all have sexual urges, this includes teenagers. Same sex, sex is safer, more available and parents think nothing of allowing two or more teenagers of the same sex behind closed doors together. We tend to forget what we were like as teenagers.
My advice is to find a time and place to talk to your friend about what happened. Don't start the conversation with I liked what we did; rather ask her why she asked you and how she felt afterwards. If she asks why simply say you curious as she hasn't said anything since and your just wondering if something is wrong. Then go from there. If she says it wasn't what she expected and doesn't want to do it again leave it at that. If she says she liked it then you can tell her your feelings.
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First of all I'll admit this is out of my area as I am straight but I can suggest that you first ask her about her sexuality and how she feels about it before you tell her how you feel about her. If she wants it to be a secret it either means she doesn't know how she feels about it or she scared of admitting how she feels.
If she admits that she is gay or bisexual then try and bring the matter up again in private so as not to break her trust, assure her that what you did wasn't horrible or anything to be ashamed of, everyone deserves to be loved.
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