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there is this guy in my class, that i'm not too sure if he likes me...but he complimented a flower in my hair and said it looked pretty, and sometimes when i turn around i see him lookin at me. does he like me? or am i just over reactin? (link)
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neither if he doesnt like you as more than a friend he definatly likes you as a friend most guys arent sweet just because they can be but some are when he talks to you if he actually looks into ur eyes thats a pretty good sign or when he looks at you and he looks back thats a pretty good sign too oh and most guys wouldnt comment a flower in your hair unless they wanted you to know that they notice you and this guy odviously does if u need to ask me something else about this feel free to im me gilmoregirl21291
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Someone help me please! I want to sleep and never wake up. I just talked to my friend about it a few minutes ago. He's the reason that I feel this way. But he said lets move on. He says he'll always be here for me. Please someone help me, I don't want to be depressed anymore! (link)
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the thing is you cant just not be depressed anymore i know how you feel you have a really deep pain in your heart not like sharp but still a pain and it goes through your whole body and you just want to be numb so you cant feel the pain anymore you dont want to cry but crying seems to be the only thing you can do and you try to stay happy but you cant trust me ive been there and back and there again and its no fun unfortunately its gonna take some time every time yall talk its gonna hurt a little actually more like alot until you realize that you dont need him anymore and you finally are able to move on im not sure if this is help or not but its probably how your feeling and probably how its gonna go if you have any more questions about this feel free to im me gilmoregirl21291
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A new friend of mine (been my friend for about 3 months) who I've had a crush on for a bit IMed me the other day. He told me wanted me to fill something out. He sent me one of those "would you do this with me? how do you feel about me? etc" surveys that I'm sure we've all seen. I laughed and tried to dodge filling it out. Then he finally said "Listen, I'll fill it out at the same time and we can send it on the count of three." So we did. Both of results were pretty much the same... we like each other as way more than a friend.
Things got ackward. He told me he was seriously blushing to break the silence... we both tried to change the subject and talk for a while, but I guess we both felt weird. Out of nowhere, he shifts the conversation to "I wanted to stay single for a while, so I'm mad because I have a new girlfriend." and I'm like "WHAT?!" and he told me about his new girlfriend, but didn't explain why after he asked someone out THAT DAY he would tell me he likes me THAT NIGHT. I can't figure this out. I'd understand if we were friends for a while, but we haven't been friends that long and we're not that close. I'm sad and don't know what to do. Why would he do this? Can anyone make any sense of him? (link)
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ok all you can really do right now is let him figure it out the important thing is you know he likes you and unfortunatly thats all you have until he figures it out for himself im not quite sure why he said that or why he would do that but guys are strange and in my opinion the source of all drama it sounds like hes pretty confused himself about what he wants right now give him some space and talk to him about it in a week all you can do for now is be a good friend
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why do guys find the need to have a skinny girl? it gets me mad when a guy is attracted to some skinny girl when he could have great chemistry and a great relationship with a different girl who is overweight?
sam with girls i guess. but guys seem to have a more 'strict criteria' (link)
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the thing is alot of guys are like that and we cant help it but i mean come on if a guy is shallow enough to be into looks alone do you really want him anyways? thats why long term relationships and serious relationships happen in ur 20's bc guys develop the maturity level to see beyond looks girls are more mature than boys when we are teens and thats why our criteria isnt as strict bc most of us arent into a shallow relationship based on looks alone. hope i helped!
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okay so im 15/f and i like this guy alot. i think i might actually love him too. hes 14/m, a few months younger than me. but my one friend things im nuts! i mean her perfect dream guy is taller and older than her. While i seemed to always like younger guys.. (not too young though) But i mean shes just like "well are you sure you like him? i mean its okay if you though he was cute but liking him?" and i think its just so frustraighting! and i know i shouldnt care what she thinks about him but i mean... it would be nice to just have her be like more supportive about it. what do you say?? and i'm so sorry this is so long.. ill rate (link)
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my friend is dating a 14 year old and shes 15 and her friend liked him. ok there is nothing wrong with liking younger guys as long as the age gap isnt too big and urs isnt if shes not supportive of your liking him chances are she never will be friends are weird like that she is just looking out for you or thinks you can do better not caring what ur friends think isnt always the best idea listening to what they say isnt the same as following what they say she may have a reason for what she thinks its not that shes not supportive its that she wants you to do the best you can and as her friend she wants you to be happy with that and know that shes happy w/ whoever your dating
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hey guys. I'm in a youth group thats hosting a halloween party next month. I already have an idea of what I'm going to be for it (its sort of a masquerade type thing) and I'm going to have like theater masks, a cape, and pretty much theater related outfit. But my question is, do you guys have any tips to help my costume? or maybe the party? (link)
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have you ever seen phantom of the opera bc it seriously sounds like the masquerade ball if you havent watch the movie or even just that scene and youll understand what i mean that really should help you alot
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Okay well Theres this guy that I really like ALOT. and well during like april may and june we were pretty much together (But not dating because he thinks its just a label, but I considerd us dating ;]) and well I liked this other guy more than him (well thats what i though) and I told him , and we sorta just stopped being togehter, we were still realllly good friends and everything and we still hung out..but now I started thinking about everything we did together and I miss him so much..and I told him that, and he told me that he thought of me as a really good friend.. but then the next day we hung out and he hugged me (like he did when we were together) and then he told me he liked me, and like the next week he was like i dont like you..and that went on for a while, and finally we started talking and everything and he emailed me and he said "im going away so you have to email me ALOT" and he put a kissy face there, and after his name he put a heart...I think he likes me and everything and I really hope he does because homecoming is coming up on friday and everything.. but do you guys think he still has feelings for me? (link)
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hes probably confused because when you told him about that other guy he was hurt and doesnt want to get hurt again so when ever yall get close he starts to worry and pushes you away again i think he does still have feelings for you. you need to find someway to comunicate to him that you still really like him and that you want to be together again
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is it ok if your boyfriend looks at porn? i thought it was, like i had nothing wrong with it. but today i found out that he sent a message to some girl on myspace asking for pictures of her "down below" is this ok? should i say something to him about it? what should i do? it was some girl that was not from around here.. and you know how like there's a lot of girls on myspace that only have like naughty pictures on there? it was one of those girls. i don't know what to think :-/ (link)
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the thing is guys look at porn i dont think it should bother you too much unless he becomes an addict or something and it starts to affect your relationship its really up to you to decide if its ok if he looks at porn if you dont like ther fact that he does tell him guys are just strange like that but then again its one thing when hes on websites its a totally different when he seeks someone out on myspace
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I am 13/f and am in the 8th grade (middle school). I have this tee shirt that I want to wear that I got from American Eagle and it says "Very Huggable" on the front, and "Very Kissable" on the back. Is that inappropriate for school, and would it be sending a bad message because I don't want to look like an idiot when I wear it on Monday. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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no its not in appropriate i have one that says cuddly on it from ae and no1 thinks a thing about it if you like it wear it if someone takes it literally tell them to back off
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i have a bf (well close friend) long story .. he is in the navy he is almost 21 i will be 16 in a couple weeks .. i want to know if this is okay that we are like in love with eachother when our ages are kinda far apart? also think about the future too when im like 24 he would be 29. he means everything to me. -Nikky- (link)
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the age thing is a big deal with everyone my parents are 7 years apart and if thats ok then why shouldnt 5 years be ok right? the thing is when people hear that a teenager is dating an adult whether its 15 and 18 or ur case 16 and 21 its ok that yall are in love besides if yall really love each other than age shouldnt matter even when ur 18 and hes 23 people wont think as much about it if it bugs you that much then just keep it on the down low for a while girls tend to be alot more mature then guys and thats why we date older dont give him up because of the age thing you love him age shouldnt matter
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Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.
Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators? (link)
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as far as the party thing goes ask her to invite some of her friends too and stay away from whatever you were talking about when you try to talk to her try to sit near both of them in the same class if your a teen i dont see how coed is discouraged maybe its just in the area you live i dunno but you could also talk to her in the hallway ask her to hang out at the mall or something be bold and out there its better then being shy because that wont get you anywhere now will it?
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this year I want to dress more preppy. What are some styles that look preppy? I rate very high! (link)
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go to hollister and american eagle any of the "preppy" stores in ur area its pretty easy to dress preppy pink is usually a good chance and if its got pink on it sequins those think metalic beads that are sewn on stuff kohls is a pretty safe bet if your looking for not too much money i love there juniors section they have alot of cute stuff also the new line of candies that hilary duff is promoting seems pretty preppy to me
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i broke up wit my exgirl a couple months ago but i cant stand bein away from her i want her back i feel like i cant live wit out her wut should i do? (link)
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fight for her do whatever it takes if shes honestly moved on and doesnt want you anymore then dont let her completely shut you out try to atleast be her friend i know its not the same because my boyfriend and i recently went through basically the same thing about a week ago and all i had to do was make it clear that i had made a mistake and i still wanted and cared about him im not sure if this will work for you seeing as its a girl not a guy but you could give it a shot chances are she may miss you too but youll never know until you make it clear that you want her
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what do you need to do to get attention from a guy that youve liked for like ever?
im 13/f and i like a 15 yr old guy
thankz
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the thing is he may not notice you until your 14 or 15 guys are like that but once your a year older or so itll hit him like a ton of bricks that your a teenage girl and trust me hes a guy hes gonna realize it and hes gonna notice it probably for you the start of highschool just keep your spirits high and trust me he will eventually notice you ive been getting that reaction alot lately and im a year older than you so just hang in there i know what your going through
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Hey.
Alrighty my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting over the stupidest things such as whos right and whos wrong. He hates Green Day but i LOVE them and when i got my ticket for the concert he got pissed at me. But i KNOW he loves me and i love him so much i dont wanna lose this. Our 3 month "anniversary" is in 11 days and im so happy with the relationship. But i think his trust issue is getting in the way. And i dont mean for that to sound mean cuz im not TRYING to be. But i NEED him to know he can trust me. Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany then felt SOO bad for doing it. He has had a rough time growing up and feels like he cant trust many people. What can i do to help him know he can trust me...with ANYTHING?
Thanks for any and ALL advice!!
=)
-*-Hanny-*-
P.S. SOrry its so long.=/ (link)
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its not that he may not trust you he just may be afraid to get too attached because hes been hurt in the past tell him your always there for him when he needs you re assure him that u want him alot of relationships about the time of 3 months get a little rocky for a week sometimes longer but once you work things out i promise you they will only get better my boyfriend is VERY similar he basically only has me so just be there for him thats all you can do and thats all he can expect from you
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Me and my boyfriend (Greg)have been going out for almost 6 months.
Before I had no friends, and at the beginning of this year I started to hang out and become friends with his friends.
Then we started dating.
We are together almost all day every day,
because when I hang out with my friends, he is there too because they are his friends also.
I'm not saying I'm tired of this, I love being able to see my boyfriend all of the time. and I love him more than anything.
I can't help it if we have the same friends.
Is seeing my boyfriend every day unhealthy for the relationship? (link)
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its not that its unhealthy but it may gat that way he may become to attached or you may be attached the reason people try to put space between them is so they dont get sick of each other if hes getting on ur nerves you should just talk to him and try to work the spending all the time together thing out if you dont mind all the together time and he doesnt then theres nothing wrong with it just dont let things get out of hand
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okay 2 yrs ago a boy moved to cali that i really liked and hes moving back!! i get to see him on wed. but i have changed and so has everything else so what do i do?
p.s i stil like him and iwant him to like me too!
13/f (link)
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be open minded you may click or it may just not be a match made in heaven youll never know until you go and see him just be urself dont try to be who you used to be because thats nto who you are anymore be urself who knows yall may have an awsome time and fall head over heals for each other good luck with that!
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13/f he is 14/m
Theres this guy that i've been talking to online for about a year. We eventually exchanged cell phone numbers and have talked on the phone. He is really nice and I find myself feeling in love with him. I know people probably think internet love is a bust but that's how I feel when I talk to him. He isn't one of the guys that wants to have cyber sex either, just to talk. He's always there when I need him and he's very sweet and he is always looking out for my best interests as well. I want to meet him but I don't know if I should. He lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on taking a train to visit me. I know there are some freaks out there, but I don't think he comes off as one of them and I also know to be careful and if I were to meet him I would bring a friend, of course. I don't know what to do, the train station is public but the town is small so not a whole bunch of people would be there. Please give me advice. (link)
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theres nothing wrong with the internet thing it can come off weird but you shouldnt get to attached at first if you do go and meet him make sure you bring a friend just in case he may be more of a friend then a boyfriend u may be mistaking love for caring or maybe not who really knows the reason internet love can feel like a bust is after a while people become vulnerable and restless with a need for the other online relationships usually fail doesnt mean theres not hope for this! i think you should try to meet him and bring at least a friend if not 2
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I have this t shirt that all the kids at my camp signed. but now i want to make it look cooler. What can I do to make my shirt stand out? (link)
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decorate it! do that thing where you cut the sides and tie it if the shirts big enough to do that if they all signed it you could get those colored sharpies and decorate it a bit it all depends on how much room you have left
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ok i had asked a question this morning buti have to say something else that i need advice on that happened tonight...
ok well i just gto home from a party and this guy tommy asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he called me a tesse and alot of other guys called me a tease b/c i wouldn't let them do ne nasty stuff to me the tommy took me into a room and put duck tape on my mouth and then un zipped his pants and mine...and then he took the rest of my cloths off and made me stand on the bed naked he was just lookin @ me...then he fingered me and raped me and he told me that if i told ne one that he would do it agian and kill me...there was no way for me to go b/c hes a football wresaler and really strong...by the way im 16 and he was 18...i don't want to tell neone because hes on of my moms ex boyfriends son and she treats him like a son and i would never think that he would do nething like that...HELP what should i do? (link)
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go to the police im afraid if you do talk to your mom about it she may confront him about it and id hate to know what would happen if he found out you told but go to the cops first then your mom dont go in the same room alone with him just dont be around him if hes not there than he cant hurt you just get help before it gets out of hand
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