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I started dating this guy about a month ago. We met at a bar and hit it off right away. We just became exclusive this past weekend, and I was really happy.

Unfortunately, a bundle of shitty relationships has got me paranoid about everything in a relationship. I've dated many guys, but always hesitated when it came to having an actual boyfriend.

If he doesn't call, I assume that something is wrong. Not even about him dating other girls or whatever-- but more so, the fact that he could change his mind at any moment, and I'll be back to nothing. It's clear that we want each other, when we're with each other. But, any time in between I spend wondering why he's not calling, and if it's because I did something wrong and it gave him second thoughts.

I don't want to push him away, or sabotage the relationship like I have in the past. I like this guy a lot and I want to make the most out of it and not worry about what he's thinking all the time.

So to my question.. what is it that keeps a guy from waiting so long to make a call? If it takes more then a few hours, when is it okay to just call him? It feels new, and awkward. But it mostly feels like maybe we rushed into things since I'll still too uncomfortable with my security.

Help?

maybe hes waiting for you to call him. he might be a little shy so he might wait for you to make a move.

Hey everyone, I'm back for more answers from you awesome knowledgeable folks. =D
So, the kitty I got Sunday has been incredibly sweet, greets me in the morning rubbing up against my legs and purring, is eating now, thank goodness, and using her litterbox faithfully, though I don't think the litter brand I have is that good (any suggestions are welcome). She would be the perfect kitten, except for the fact that I feel like she's getting kind of violent.
I don't know if she's teething, or if she needs her teeth brushed because her gums are itchy or what (I got her a toothbrush, she was fine with the paste, but won't open her mouth), but she seems to try to bite everything now. When I first got her, she gave kitty kisses and like, licked your fingers, maybe put them in her mouth for a second but never bit down.
She hasn't actually bitten me yet, but I don't want her to think that's okay.
My friend says her family's kittens "chewed on [them] too," and that they outgrew it, so maybe mine will too. I dunno, I just don't want her to think that's okay, y'know? When animals snap at me I get kinda scared, even if they're as little as my Luna.
She also squirms and fights when I try to hold her. She's fine being picked up, but if you hold her she squirms and pushes against you. I think she tried to bite me one time, but she missed. My other friend's cat was like that, but she never tried to bite. She just struggled really hard to get away.
How do you train a cat who won't eat treats? (Maybe the treats are too big for her? She's 11 weeks old)
Any thoughts? I'm so new at this, and really glad I have you guys to ask. Lol
-Siren =)

okay, well about the biting...my kittens do that too, theyll outgrow it though. the thing about her struggling to get away is because she probaly feels trapped and like if she wants to get away, she cant, so if she squirms the slightest bit, put her down, and then after a few weeks shell learn that youll put her down when she wants to be put down, so shell come to you and maybe even want to be picked up. if your kitten wont eat treats, leave it alone. cats arent like dogs wholl love treats. thats like if you dont like a certain type of food, but people try to make you eat it..it gets annoying. if she persist to bite though, try punishing her, like hitting her--but not so hard to where it hurts her and shell be scared of people, just enough to scare her. oh and about the kitty liter look for one thats made for kittens..the brand i use that works really good is cats pride, theres many different kinds like for kittens and multiple cats, etc. i hope i helped =]

Just a few days ago, I got a new pet bunny (I named him Pippin, and he is a Lionhead rabbit). He's very young, but it took him less than a day to get well adjusted to his new cage and our house. At first, he was very sweet, but recently he's been biting a lot. I don't mean chewing on the furniture; he's been biting me, my sister, and everyone else- and he bites HARD. At first it didn't hurt, but just a few minutes ago he bit me hard enough that I actually felt a little afraid of him, and I put him away soon after that. How am I supposed to train him to not bite people? It's a really horrible problem to have, especially if it gets worse, because we can't just have a bunny in our kitchen that we can't let out because he bites viciously. What can I do?

try punishing him, like hit him when he bites- but dont hit him hard, just enough to scare him. i hope this helped

i'm a sophomore and i know i still have time to think about what i want to do when i "grow up". but when i'm a junior i'm going to try and do a post secondary program where i go to college for part of the day and i get college credit, so i feel more rushed to figure this out.

i'm interested in fashion, and i know it's a hard thing to get into. i want to do something i enjoy so i'm not stuck with a job i hate for the rest of my life. so do you know any websites that help you with choosing? like career tests or something? thanks!

go on freecareerinfo.com and order the catalog/book...its free and it helped me...read the privacy policy, they said something about helping you with college-i dont rememeber exactly what it said but it was good....hope i helped =]

What are some good stores for plus size hip hop clothing?

look on catalogs.com....its not really a catalog, its a website where you can order it from..it has everything from baby phat to g-unit..its a great website. hope i helped =]

How can I tan my whole face evenly, without it being more tanned around the nose and cheekbones, and then being really light under my eyes?
Hope you understand the question lol
Thanks =)

try putting more suntan lotion (for the face available at target) around the areas where you dont want it to be so tan. or put higer spf on those areas...hope you understand what im trying to say =]

Where can I buy an eye lash curler that's super cheap? Are any sold for a buck? And are they safe to use? (Like no side effects such as after 5 curls, eyelashes will fall out). thanks

maybelline at wal-mart. you cant get them for a buck but they can be cheap. and there are no side effects...unless you poke yourself in the eye =]
but for any info you want look on the back of the package (and read the small print).

YAY my friend asked me if I wanna hangout sometime! I'm not a looser or anything but my parents are strict about me going outside even with my friends so i've never actually been out. And i have no idea of what we could od or where to go.

And ideas?

try the movies, mall, fun town (if theres one in your area), bowling, laser tag, some type of amusement park, to a pool, or something weird you guys love doing together...i hope i helped and have fun =]

15/f

is there anything you can do to make your hair grow? my hair will not grow, it's been the same length for months. i'm a vegetarian and ever since i became one a year and a half ago my hair turned to crap. it got thin and damaged really easily. anything i can do?

if you read seventeen (the magazine) look in the back where all those advertisements are at and there is this lady who has really long hair and shes sorta bent over a little bit...but yea anyways look for that and theres this number you can call to order some stuff to make it grow really long in a couple of weeks..its not that expensive. i hope i helped...by the way i think its great that youre a vegetarian =]

Ok, so next year I will be a freshman in highschool. Scary right? ha ha well, I really want to change before so that when I walk in, it's like "Woah! you've changed so much!". I know it's a bit early to start thinking about the first day of school, but if something goes wrong, i'd rather have enough time to fix it :). Anyways, basically, I just want to alter my appearance. Does any one have any suggestions? I don't know where to start... I'll post a pic of me:

http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff196/hitoast/002.jpg
(sorry 'bout the silly smile :3 i'm a dork)

and if you can't see it, my eyes are smokey blue/gray-ish and my hair is light brown with blond highlights :) if that helps at all.

Thanks a lot!

try going for a golden brown and layers. about your clothes...like that one girl said switch it up a bit but wear stuff youre comfortable in. hope i helped =]

does anyone know how to send a message from a email to a att&t phone..like to do it for verzion for to send a email to the phone it is your number like (1111111111@vtext.com) in the send to box.

i really need it.
if someone could please find it and answer asap
its really important =[.

if you have yahoo just click on new and then on text message and then in the address bar put in the number and type your msg.

Exactly how dangerous is it to skip a period while on birth control? I go to the beach in two weeks and I will also be on my period then. Is it okay to just go on to the next pack and skip my period? If so, do I have to make up my period and have two in one month? Will it definitely work? If it doesn't work, should I go back to the period pills? Or is all this skipping around too much? Sorry for so many questions, but thanks for the help!

it wont do any harm if you skip it a couple of times but dont skip your period for a few months at a time..it could prevent you from having babies. once you decide to go back on your period only stay on it for 1 week (or however long you have to stay on it) DONT make it to where its two in one month..thats too much confusion. and it will work. but i have to warn you if you skip your period once your breasts will be sore...if you skip it twice you cant even lay on your side. i hope i helped

Okay, so I'm not a caffeine JUNKY, but lately I've been drinking around two cups of coffee per day, mainly to keep alert while studying. I don't want to depend on coffee to keep me awake...but of course, I don't want to be worn out by mid-afternoon. I am planning to start a basic workout routine, like doing yoga or going swimming, and I am sure it'll help keep me energized...for now, once I sit down at a desk, I feel kind of tired after a couple hours or so.

But anyway, I have a couple of questions:

>>A) How can I give up coffee/caffeine without feeling lethargic and tired?
B)Any ideas on other things (only natural) I can eat/drink that will keep me energized? I have heard that green tea is good- any ideas on that?

Thank you!

a)give it up SLOWLY dont give it up completely all at one time...you know what i mean? just every day drink it a little less and start with and energy drink or whatever else you want to try

b)you can always try some kind of energy drink...there are lots of different kinds so if you want something natural im sure theyll have something =]

on a website im looking at, it says:

"Apparently, after about 45 minutes of intense exercise your body does not benefit any longer and all you do goes to waste"

so, heres my question. if i wanted to, could i do 45minutes at around 1/2pm, then go back at around 5/6pm and do some more? thanks

i wouldnt do that because its on the same day...the best thing to do is workout 3 times a week, but you can workout everyday but dont do the same thing everyday for 45 minutes. switch it up a little bit. i hope i helped

this is gonna get long, sorry.

my ex and i dated for a almost 17 months and we were amazing together. understood each other, never once fought in all that time, just completely compatible. but we broke up in november for complicated reasons. i started dating another guy in january/february who i had been sort of crushing on since august. things went way down hill and we started fighting alottt, mainly because of his jealous, obsessive ways. we're currently on a break/broken up but still kinda together. basically, we just dont have the title right now but we act the same and are hoping things will get fixed. my ex has not dated anyone else. we still love each other, and we know it. we were each others first loves, talked about getting married, everything. and i dont doubt that we still will end up married. we still talk, he tells me he loves me, and i resist from saying it because of my current guy. my mom and i were talking tonight and even she told me how great my ex and i were together. i wanna tell him soo bad that i will always have feelings for him, and that i hope one day we will end up back together, possibly forever. just everything ive been keeping in since the breakup. the only thing that's holding me back is the current sorta-boyfriend. i love him alot, but i know it's not gonna be forever. when we're not fighting, we're great together and he's so much fun, and we've wanted to be together ever since we met. but i feel like i just really need to get this off my chest to my ex. last night he said he loved me, i was playing around and said 'naww you dont'. he said 'yeah i do, i know you dont love me anymore, but i still do'. that almost killed me. and i wanted to say all this then soo bad! but i feel as if that wouldnt be loyal to the sorta-boyfriend. i would never cheat on him, especially with my ex. but ARGH! they dont like each other, so they dont talk, so im not worried about word getting around if i talk to my ex. i just dont know if it's the right thing to do. i want him to know im still here, ya know? i figure technically im single, so i dont know what it would really hurt, but a part of me is saying it would be wrong. like i said, i love my sorta-boyfriend, and it would break my heart if we broke up for good, so it's not like i would immediately go running back to my ex, but in the future, i can totally see it happening. and i know he would give anything to have me back. gosh i just need someone to help me.

i would break up with your current boyfriend because, like you said, you fight all the time, hes jealous and obsessive, and you and your ex are a match made in heaven basically, if you guys never fought and loved each other, etc. your ex is probaly the right one for you so dont waste that chance on someone whos not.
hope i helped

my boyfriend lives in florida while i live in illinois.
we talk on the phone at night cause from 9-2 its free.
i was wondering if we talk past 2 if it counts as long distance
he has tmobile and i have verizon
if i talk to him on my house phone will it be better or no?

yes it does count as long distance and calling someones cell phone from your house phone costs a lot...call his house phone (from your house phone) and it shouldnt cost that much.

well so there is this guy and i think i should slowly start to talk to him less. its rather complicated but i just dont kno if hes really that great a person and used to do bad stuff and i think he might just say what he thinks i want to hear. so ya i think it might be best if i closed off from him a little. but i really like the guy attention and having someone to talk to! i dont have a lot of friends here because i just moved here tho i do have some friends from when i used to live here but still. part of me wants to keep talking to him but the other part knows its best if i dont get really close to him. plus i dont want to lead him on because hes already kissed me but i told him that was a mistake an stuff and hes actually brought up us dating in the future and stuff. thanks! :)

if i were you id follow my intuition...its always right. if you think he isnt a good person STAY AWAY FROM HIM. i know its going to be hard but stop giving him false hope. i know what you mean that you like his attention...get it from other guys-it works. the thing is you probaly like MALE attention(even if you dont know it yet), but not necessarily his.

Me- 16-female
Boyfriend- 17-male
we've been dating for almost a year and my idea for our year since we havent taken many pictures was take one of the pictures we have and put it in a little frame for him and then put it in a box with a shirt he'd like along with our favorite candy that we purchase and eat together quite frequently which happens to be gummy worms & put a few bottles of his favorite pop and maybe an energy drink in there and give it too him that way does this sound like something you would enjoy to get?
would you give this to your boyfriend for your 1 year?
((moneys an issue for me))
which is why i cant go all out like he does for me.i love him

please give me your imput and maybe some more ideas of things to add to make it extra amazing! =D

i think that that is an extravagant gift!!! any guy that doesnt appreciate this gift is not worth your time!

I need to find two dresses gor my 8th grade graduations walk and the promotion walk. But i cant find a store or online store tro find a dress. Im 14/f and 5'10' yea i know im tall lol and 125. can anyone pleaseeeeeeee give me some websites o and i need cheap dresses under like 50. THank you sooo much! :]

try this page http://www.edressme.com/under50c.html

it has lots of cute & cheap dresses for every occassion

Ok, so, last night I finished the last pill of my first month on Yaz. Well, I've been having breast pain. They've been really sore. [I know it can't be because of my period, because it's never dont that before, and it wasn't even close to time for me to start] At first I thought it was because of the pill or something, but, they were sore at the beginning of last month, before I was even on the pill. Should I see a doctor? I'm 15, if that might make a difference for anything. Do you think they might be getting ready to like, grow or anything? Thanks!

haha..yea it did that to me too but im not on the same pill as you...but yea your boobs are just growing (i went from a a-cup to a c-cup in 1 1/2 months). and youre probaly going to gain a few (or a lot) pounds so try to control your eating habits.

hope i helped =]

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