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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me.

I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.

I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)

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When i was eating lunch with my friends,my other friends in the different table were looking for my friend and they saw my close friend hanging out with their friend and i heard them saying saying"gosh!why does she always take her away?"and her friend said" i know she she always do that!!" should i tell my close friend what my other friend told her? and if i tell her is that being loyal?

hey! hmmm sounds like you guys are in middle school, right? pretty much the worst time of my life and every other girls' life as far as i know.

anyway, i don't think you should say anything to your friend because it was just stupid gossip that doesn't really need to be spread. the other girls are obviously just jealous that your friend is talking to their friend, and they needed to comment on it in order to make themselves feel better about the fact that their friend isn't stuck to them like glue.

it's of no importance, but if you go and tell your friend, then the whole thing could turn into a mess and get you in the middle of a sticky situation. you don't want to be stuck in the middle of the whole "he said she said" drama, because it will only backfire on you. so my suggestion is, don't do it... stay out of it. those girls had no reason to say that, and even if your friend knows about it, so what? she can talk to whoever she wants, and the other girl can hang out with whoever she wants as well.

my little sister is in middle school and i always tell her one thing... if there is drama, stay out of it. if you hear gossip, don't repeat it, because then people will see you in a bad light and you could lose good friends. just stay out of it all... you will be much happier!! :) good luck!

what are the pros and cons of the razor phone (cingular)

hey!! i personally don't have a razor, but i looked into buying one a few weeks ago, and this page really helped! most people listed the cons and pros, so i'm sure it will be very helpful to you too! :)

http://search.reviews.ebay.com/_W0QQfvcsZ1785QQsoprZ43735263QQupvrZ3

if i get a reward from getting like 100 credits, which is like 20% off or soemthing, could i only use that reward towards jeans that ARENT on clearance/sale? and also could i use it if i buy like 2 jeans and a hoodie ? so then the total would be 40% off? please help and tell me anything else and ill rate 5's

hey! ok here's the deal... you earned 100 credits, so you are right that would be 20% off! this 20% off is NOT valid on anything that is redline or clearance... so you can only use it if you are buying things that are NOT on sale. there is an expiration date, so keep that in mind or else you will lose the rewards! and you can buy as many things as you want as long as they are not more than 250 dollars all together. so if you buy 2 pairs of jeans and a hoodie, and the total is let's say 150 dollars, you will get 20% off the total purchase, NOT 40%!!!!! so if you spend 150 dollars, you will have to pay 120 after your 20% discount! i hope all this helped and makes sense. if you need more information, go here:

http://www.ae.com/web/help/help_allaccesspass.htm

ok..well what HandyAndy27 said made me think..so timothy graduated last year from highschool and dosen't attend college, he has a job, his own apartment and car seem's he's got his life pretty mucg together...well think i started thinking about what andy said...i mean timothy wants me to move in right when i am 18 i won't even have money or anything to support myself but Timothy said he'll take care of that, that he'll take care of everything and that i don't need to worry. i mean thats great but i dont want his whole life to be centerd on me...i mean we love each ohter and i don't want that to happen to us you know? Timothy wants to be toegther as soon as possible, i mean he once said he would be mad at me if i went to college becasue that would make it longer till we could be toegther..but what kind of life will i have? Timothy works at some store like delivering things..is that the kind of life i'm going to have to live? i'm worried about my life too i mean how much will things chance if i move in with him? what kind of life will i have?

hey! ok we're living in a world where the divorce rate is 50% and everyone seems to think they are in love and will stay with their significant other forever. in a world like this, you CANNOT let yourself be dependant on someone... you need to have a plan in case things don't work out... because let's be realistic, half the time they don't work out.

where do you live? there are no colleges around you or anything? you don't have to live with someone to be with them, and you can deffinitely go to college while living with this guy if you really wanted to. if college is something you are considering, then that's great and you should deffinitely do it, no matter what this guy or any other guy says. it's the most important thing you can do for yourself in order to secure the rest of your life and never have to worry about money. there are plenty of jobs out there that don't require an education and pay very little... but let's face it, there are also many people out there who want those jobs because they don't have an education.

yeah, not going to college now might sound like the easy way out, but it's not. college is so much fun and such an experience that helps you grow, mature and find yourself in addition to getting an education. unless you want to be stuck with a minimum wage paying job for the rest of your life and struggling to make ends meet, then you will do what your heart tells you to do and go to school. it's a rewarding experience no matter how you look at it, so don't let a guy control you and try to tell you what to do. if he loves you, he will want you to be happy and do what you think is best. he is being a bit selfish, so do what you feel is right! don't ever depend on a guy for anything... being independent is the best thing that you can do for yourself in today's world! :) good luck!

so, does being sexually active, in a doctor's opinion (like they ask you when you go), specially mean HAVING SEX, or does it mean having any kind of sex (ex. manual or oral)?

hi! when the doctor asks you things like that, it's usually so that he/she can check for any STDs and thigns like that. since you can get STDs from ALL kinds of sex, you should tell him/her about manual and oral sex. you can specify if you wish, but you don't have to. :)

Okay well as a young child i was raped multiple times by the same person. and out of the blue i get flashbacks and they keep on coming back to me. Like even when im watching TV lying down on my bed i picture him coming into my room and i freak out. Its been like a decade ago and it still scares me...if this is happening now, whats gonna happen when i want to do stuff with a guy? how do i get rid of it? i dont want to go to a therpist or anything cuz they just freak me out even more!

hey! wow im sorry that this happened to you... this guy should have been reported to the police, and if you still know his name or if he is around you should deffinitely file a report even if it has been a while. he needs to be punished for what he did, because it is absolutely unacceptable.

as far as how you should get rid of these thoughts you are having... well, honestly i don't know if you can ever get rid of them COMPLETELY, but you can deffinitely make sure they don't cross your mind every day and interfere with your life. from what you are saying, it seems like you never told anyone about this... you don't talk to anyone about what happened? you don't have to go to a therapist but you should deffinitely let someone close to you know what happened... someone that you trust. a really good friend, a school councelor or teacher, parents, other relatives... anyone. when you talk about your problem and share it with someone else, it will be out in the open and it won't be this deep dark secret that you have to keep to yourself and in your mind. it makes a huge difference, because it takes pressure off and lets you feel less alone. plenty of people love you and care for you and will be willing to help... even if it just means listening to your story.

as far as guys in the future... well once you let your problem out in the open, it will be easier to tackle this problem as well. you will want to take things VERY VERY slow with guys in the future as far as physical stuff goes. get to know them on a deeper level first, and once you feel comfortable with them let them know what happened. if they truly like you and care for you they will understand and will not pressure you to do anythin g that you aren't comfortable with. this will all be easier when you talk to people about what happened instead of keeping it bottled in, but just remember that most guys aren't like the jerk that did this to you. a guy that cares for you will never do such a thing! really it just takes time, but you will deffinitely be fine! just keep telling yourself that things will be ok, talk to people, and report this guy! i hope everything works out for you! :)

What is the maximum time limit to be in the tanning beds? If i go tanning for 15 minutes every day, how long will it take for me to get bronzed? (my skin is pale) When you get the spray on tan, do the people spray you or does a machine do it??

hey! ok first of all, the time you are allowed depends on the tanning beds and how strong the bulbs are. once you pick the place where you want to go, you can ask them what they recommend for a first time, and what is the maximum they allow. i go to the stand up tanning booths at hollywood tans, and the maximum allowed on those is 11 minutes... and when i went in for the first time i went for 6 minutes!

if you want a nice looking tan, then you CANNOT be going tanning every single day! especially if your skin is pale! i made this mistake a month ago, and went every day... needless to say i looked like a lobster and i was in so much pain i couldn't even sleep. yes eventually the redness turned into a tan... but the skin was so dead, it peeled away! so go 2 times in a row for a short time, then continue to increase the time overtime and start going every other day until you get a tan. after that you can go like every 3 or 4 days to maintain it. also, if you want you can use a little bit of sunless tanner (i use loreal sublime bronze) to even out your tan (your legs may be lighter than the rest of your skin) and make your skin look darker you can.

and to answer your last question, as far as i know the spray on tan is done by a machine! :)

I took the morning-after pill 5 days ago (2nd May), and felt fine afterwards. This morning I got up and my underwear was soaked in blood. It has carried on bleeding on and off for most of the day, and seems quite like menstrual fluid, although there have been no blood clots. My period is not due for another two weeks though. Can anyone tell me if this is a normal side-effect of the morning-after pill (a.k.a. emergency contraceptive)? Should I go and see someone about it, and if so, who.
Thanks! Oh and I'm from the UK.

hey! yes, this is not something you should worry about... basically the morning after pill is like MANY days' supply of birth control all packed into one pill. when you take it, it causes ALL of your lining to shed at once (this happens gradually when you have your period), so that in case any sperm was able to get to the egg, it would not be able to implant and make you pregnant. so yes, bleeding a lot is normal because you are just shedding all the lining quickly... you may also experience really severe cramps because of the pill. if this continues for a long time and it doesn't feel right, then go see your doctor or local pharmacist and ask them about it. and remember that the pill is only about 70 to 80% effective at preventing pregnancy, so make sure to get a pregnancy test done if you don't get your period in a month or so. be careful next time and good luck! :)

okay i wicked love summer dresses but i dont no where to find them besides alloy i really want some cute ones can people please give me the store name or websites or link or soemthing please i rate high

1) wet seal!! make sure to check out all 3 pages

http://wetseal.com/product.asp?mi=1300&token=

also check out 579, charlotte russe and body central. you can go on their websites to find a store near you (if you can't figure out the websites just google each store name)! all 4 places i gave you have a LOT of dresses and they are all really reasonably priced! :) have fun!

Okay, so I've been a little depressed lately. Pretty much all of my friends have boyfriends or guys like them, and it seems like I'm the only one who doesn't .. and the thing I can't figure out is why no guys like me. Guys always seem to be interested in my friends and act like I'm invisible. I mean, I'm really nice(maybe overly nice at times) and I'm not selfish, unlike half the girls at my school, and alot of people tell me I'm really pretty. But, the thing is, I think I'm too mature for my own good and I'm not into drama or being all ditzy and loud to get a guy to like me .. but it seems like the loud conceited girls have guys. I feel like there's something wrong with me. I don't know, I just feel like no one really notices me and no matter how hard I try, every single guy I like always says, "Sorry, we're just friends." Ugh, should I just give up and not try so hard to find someone, or do something different for some guy to like me? Because it seems like I'm never good enough for anyone. Any advice? Thanks.

hey!! ok first of all, i know how you feel, and don't worry because EVERYONE feels that way at one point of their life or another. i can guarantee you that there will be no time in your life when every one of your friends AND you will be in a relationship all at the same time. that's just one of those things that you will learn to accept over time. right now they all might have bfs and you don't, but at some point down the road, you will have one and they won't... or another one of your friends will be the only single one and feel left out. it's hard but there are things you can do to fix this. if you feel like they are ditching you for their boyfriends or always bringing them along, then just explain things to them. tell them that you are happy for them but it makes you feel lonely that you are the only one still single, and if they are good friends they will understand and spend quality time with just you... no BFs!

now you mentioned all the good qualities about yourself, and i'm glad you haven't let this get to you to the point where you want to change yourself! there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and i can guarantee you that there is at least one guy that likes you but hasn't said anything, so you have no reason to feel bad. if you change yourself just to get a guy, the changes will only be temporary. he will get with you thinking you are something that you are NOT, and eventually when the real you comes out in the relationship, things probably won't work out... you will end up with the wrong guy. just be yourself and someone out there will LOVE it... there is a significant other for all of us, it just takes some time and patience to find that person.

also, don't be too desperate to get a boyfriend... just remind yourself that it's not that big of a deal, because it's really NOT! i broke up with a bf of 2 years because i WANTED to be single... enjoy being single while you can, because it really is something people take for granted and it can be SO much fun! BFs can be fun, but relationships are also VERY stressful... enjoy not having to deal with that while you can. you have to be happy with yourself, and you shouldn't depend on a guy for happiness... ever! if all you think about it getting a bf, you will be depressed about it until you get one... not to mention that guys don't like girls who throw themselves at them. they like competition and working for what they have, so if you are too available that will turn them off. a friend once had a bf that broke up with her because she was "too available" and always willing to go out with him every time he called her. he told her that her life shouldn't revolve around him and that she needs to have a life of her own outside of the relationship! remember that! :)

i know this is long, but one more thing... just because you want a bf, don't rush and SETTLE for a guy that you don't really like! it will be a waste of your time, and instead of being out there looking for the RIGHT guy, you will be stuck with the wrong guy that you settled for and maybe miss the opportunity to meet mr. right. if someone likes you but you don't at all, then don't convince yourself that you like them just because you want a bf. boyfriends are no fun unless you like them as much as they like you!

so remember, never ever change yourself for a guy (or anyone as a matter of fact), and don't feel discouraged... just because your friends have BFs right now, it doesn't mean that you should have one too. eventually everything will fall into place, just don't rush. and when that special guy finally comes along, it will be that much better because you waited for him for a long time. but don't let your happiness ever depend on another person... your life will be SOO much better once you learn to depend ONLY on yourself for happiness. don't worry about the things that you can't change... you have so many more years to live, and so many bfs to go through, so just enjoy yourself while you can! :) truusstt me!! ok sorry this is so long, but i hope it helped! good luck and don't worry!!

My face is oily, and I drink a lot of water everyday, and it doesn't help. What should I do to make it better. Please don't say use proactiv or wash my face.

hey! one thing to consider is, do you moisturize (with a good moisturizer) every morning and night after you wash your face? if not, then you absolutely need to do it! the reason your skin is oily is because really, it's dry, and your body is producing it's own moisturizer (oil) for the dry skin. of course you don't want the oil there because it clogs pores which results in pimples, and it makes your face look shiny! when you moisturize, your skin will be well nourished and your body will have no reason to produce oil! :)

i want to ask this boy to prom. however he has told other people that he does not go to school functions & isn't going to prom (he doesn't know i want to ask him though). should i still ask? i think it would be awfully embarassing if he said no & i would feel awkward around him after. however there is no one else to ask & this is very last minute (prom is may 13th) & i want to do it before this weekend ends. some people say it's wrong to do over the phone & it's better to do in person, others say it it's OK. so first of all do you think i should risk asking him? & also, is it bad to do over the phone because i won't see him this weekend? thanks!

hey!! alright well he has said that he doesn't like to go to school functions, but that doesn't mean that he will say no if someone asks him! it's prom... it's the way to end the school year... and if it's high school prom it's the best way to end your high school career! you have nothing to lose if you ask this guy! so what if he says no? it's not because he doesn't like you, it's because he's not really into dances. but what if he says yes? then you have a date! as far as things being akward if he says no... nah, they won't be! you might feel weird about it for a few days, but it doesn't matter! it's almost summer so you probably won't be seeing him anytime soon anyway!

you are right though, you have to do it ASAP because he NEEDS TIME to get everything ready! if you want to go with him don't delay asking him for another minute! as far as asking him over the phone or online... who cares! do what makes you feel comfortable! you're not asking him to marry you, you're asking him to go to a dance with you. you can do it however you want, don't worry about what other people say! it's not their problem and it's not any of their business! :)

so call him up or IM him or meet up with him... whatever you want, and just ask him if he wants to go to prom! if he's hesitant about it just tell him it will be fun and he has nothing to lose, and that it would be a shame to leave high school without seeing what a dance is like! and remember, if he says no... blow it off and be happy that you at least tried! then go to the dance with your friends and have fun! don't miss out on it no matter what! good luck and HAVE FUN!! :)

Hey you've helped me with prom troubles during the last few weeks and i just wanted to tell you that i took your advice and asked that guy regardless of what my friend said, and he said yes! so now i have a date, and we talk great on msn but in person all we say is hi, lol any way i can try and change how i feel so nervous around him and maybe talk to him better in person. Thanks so much

aaww yay!! im glad u got a date! well i mean i don't know what his interests or your interests are, so i can't exactly tell you what to talk about! but i can tell you that the reason you have nothing to talk to him about in person is because you are nervous! you are worried that you will say the wrong thing... but he likes you if he is willing to be your prom date! if he didn't like you, and what you have to say and how you act, he wouldn't have accepted to spend the entire night with you at prom! keep telling yourself that and stop being nervous... open up to him, talk to him about anything, just the way to talk to all your friends! what do u talk to them about? you can talk about those same things to him... just be yourself! become more comfortable around him, so that you can have an even better time at prom. keep in mind that he is probably nervous too! on monday when you see him just ask him how his weekend was, what he did, stuff like that! maybe tell him a story of something that happened to you over the weekend, and he might do the same. seriously, just keep telling yourself that you have no reason to be nervous around him... that will take the pressure off and you will be able to talk to him like you talk to everyone else! hope i helped a little! HAVE FUN AT PROM!!! :)

Hi.. I am 15 years im a female and i just found out i was 9weeks or 2months pregnant and i dont know how to tell my parents cause i dont wanna be infront of them when im tellin them and its not a for sure thing that the dad of my baby is gonna be with me...

hey!! omg, im so sorry that you are stuck in this situation, but it's ok don't worry about it too much because it can and WILL all be solved!

first of all, you need to confront your parents about this as soon as possible, because you are already over 2 months pregnant, and if you are considering abortion at all (i am not saying you should or shouldn't... this is totally up to you) you need to have it done before the 2nd trimester starts (so you need to have it within the next like 3 weeks) in most states!

now the hard part... how to do it. well just remind yourself that this is an uphil battle, and telling your parents is like taking that final step to reach the top of the hill! it's the hardest step... but once you tell them, things will just become easier because they will help you very much!

one thing you can do is tell a school councelor about this... schedule an appointment and tell her about the situation. then ask if she can have your parents come in and meet with her... when they come in for the meeting, you can go too and tell them in front of the councelor. this might make you more comfortable if you have an adult who knows about your situation be with you and help you explain yourself to your parents. see if the dad can come too... it's his baby and it's just as much his responsibility to tell your parents as it is yours!

if this doesn't sound like a good option, then try and get the courage to talk to them one on one by telling yourself that things will only become easier from that point on. sit down and tell them something like "i have something really important to talk to you about... please don't freak out and make it harder than it is, because im in a difficult place in my life right now." then go ahead and tell them! there will probably be yelling and crying... they won't know what to do when they first hear the news, so don't yell back. just let them get all their feelings out, and then you guys can sit down and talk and figure things out.

still not liking your options? write them a note! write a letter and tell them it's something important but you don't know how to tell them. hand it to them, sit down and wait for them to read it. once again, be prepared for the worst, but don't freak out and yell... just wait for things to calm down!

this may seem like an impossible task, but believe me, everyone has different problems to deal with and this is just the beginning. it won't be easy, but once you tell your parents, they will help to make your life easier and figure out the best thing to do for you! i wish you the best of luck, remember you can get through this! i hope i helped! :)

my parents are pretty stict. i know it seems like a long way away, but i need to start working on this now. i turn 16 in september and get my license in october. it would be my dream to get a car 4 christmas. my parents already told me i cant untill next summer.. not this summer. how can i change their minds??? and the car i want is pretty cheap! 10,000. i need advice

hey! well this might not be what you want to hear, but if you've already tried talking to them and they said no, then i wouldn't do it anymore or you might get them mad. you don't want to come off as being unappreciative of what they are already willing to do for you! you may think they are strict, but having them buy you a 10000 dollar car a little over 6 months after you turn 16 is in no way strict!

first of all, the car is not cheap, considering the fact that most 16 year olds either don't drive, or drive their parents' cars.... or drive a car that's falling apart and isn't worth more than 500 dollars! haha notice i said MOST... im not talking about all the crazy spoiled kids on my super sweet 16 on mtv.

second of all, i think it may be a better idea for you to get your car in the summer, and not the winter right after you turn 16. that way you will be able to practice your driving for a couple of months and get really good before you have to drive your car around. not only that, but do you really want to be driving your new car around with a new license while it's snowing outside and the roads are bad? (im assuming you live somewhere where it's not 70 degrees in the winter)! i know i hit a few things here and there when i first started driving, so do you really want to risk damaging your car because you wont have much experience yet?

if you're still not convinced, then maybe just ask a few more times and maybe tell them that you are willing to do extra work around the house or get better grades in exchange for getting the car earlier! basically just do something that would make them happy and make them reconsider! but i have to warn you that it won't be easy... parents always freak out, become overstressed and get really overprotective when their kids start to drive (especially the first one)!

but no matter what happens, hey at least you're getting a car! look on the bright side... some people are 20 and are still riding bikes! :) good luck!

well i like this guy and today i said "i want to go to the movies on friday" and he said . can i come, ill take u with me? doesent really sound like he likes me but what do u think im so confused i hate these games :(

i think he likes you, if he wants to hang out with you outside of school! don't worry about whether it's a date or not... even if he wanted it to be, he was probably too shy to put it that way! just go and have fun without worrying about what it is! if he didn't like you he wouldn't even ask to go with you at all, and since you like him too that's great! :) don't stress over a title... go out, have fun with him and see how things go from there!

oh, and if it's just going to be you too... then yeah i'd say you can call it a date! ;)

okay i seriously think i have a problem in the love life area. im a very down to earth girl and im attractive and popular at my school i guess you could say. there are plenty of guys i could have if i wanted them but its like i'll like a guy for a day or two and then the next day im like what was i thinking? and i'll avoid them by all means possible and i hate it bc i feel mean and im not a mean person. for an example i met a nice guy last saturday but today at school i went down a completely different hallway just so i wouldnt have to see him and i feel like hes getting too clingy too soon. i cant ever like a guy for more than a day or so. but i really dont understand bc i'll flirt with a guy and then they think i like them and i hate to lead people on. what could possibly be wrong with me? and what could i do to try and stop that feeling

please help!
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hey! well first of all there's nothing wrong with you, everyone has some kind of a problem involving their love life! but what i think is happening is that you are too picky, and that is causing you to like a guy for 2 days and then look too much into it and drop the whole thing. i'm not saying it's a bad thing to be picky... but you may be missing out on some really nice guys that you could get along with really well! what you should do is pick 3 things that you absolutely need to have in a guy... and they can't be too general either. for example, maybe you want a guy that can make you laugh, is smart and does well in school, and isn't very immature. then every time you start to like a guy, just see if he has those 3 things that you must have in a guy... if he does, then relax, don't dig up any more dirt on him and try to find out bad things about him, and just give him a chance! what's the worst that can happen? everyone has some flaws, but if you just pick 3 things that your guy needs to have, you should look past all the other flaws and still be happy! :) hope that helped, good luck!

i was straigten my hair this morning then all the suden I heard something in my neck.. Now I can't move my head without it hurting really bad I don't know how ti'm doing this..I have to hold it with my hand or it hurts.. it hurts on the right side all the way up to my ear(i think)... please help me what could i do to make it stop hurting!!!

oh no! i hate when that happens... you probably just pulled a muscle because you moved your head the wrong way, or too fast or something! it happens all the time... really all you can do is just keep massaging it with your fingers to get the muscle to relax a bit and try not to lay on that side when you sleep if it hurts too much! it should stop hurting in a day or 2... but if it doesn't even feel a little better after 2 days, then maybe go see a doctor! but i really don't think it's anything serious... i mean yeah you're in pain but it's not like you're dying or anything! haha don't worry it happens all the time! :)

i was just wondering if anyone knew any good websites that sells used razr phones , that are kinda cheep and that wont rip me off?!?! my service provider is dobson cellular and i am not on a contract, i have a prepayed account with the little sim card thing! please anyone?!

pretty much ebay is the only way to go... and you don't need to search specifically for "dobson razors" because i highly doubt you will find that! what you need is a phone that is "unlocked" and will work with any service provider! just put your sim card in there and you should be good to go!

but i have to warn you, a lot of people are bidding on them, so the prices can get pretty high... and always look at the shipping prices before you bid because some people sell the razor for like 80 bucks but have 100 listed for shipping! :) good luck!

Hello,
My sister is a single foster mom for infants in Mass. She told me how she is taking a drug that tricks her body in to thinking she gave birth, so she will start to produce milk. She is planning on breast feeding the infants in her care. If the child does not take the breast (which is what is happing now), she pumps the milk and feeds it to the child with a bottle. The foster care office has no idea, and my sister has never been tested for any disease that she could pass on to the infant through the breast milk. I know that this is against foster care policy, and it could be considered as a form of abuse.
So my question is, should I report her? At best case her foster license will be taking away and nothing else will happen to her. At worst, she could be made an example of, and sent to jail for child abuse, and have to register as a danger to children. She works as a nanny, and hopes to open a day care out of her house someday. So this could destroy her life. If I do this I know that my mother and sister will disown me, and I will never be spoken to again. However are the babies in her care in danger from her? She would not "harm" them, but is being breast feed from a stranger with out permission harm? What do I do?
Thanks
Tess

hey! ok this is a bit of a tough situation, but your sister is family... she obviously loves you and trusts you if she told you what she is doing! if you go behind her back and make the rest of her life hell, then not only would she and your mom never forgive you, but i don't think you would ever forgive yourself.

your sister is not doing this to harm the babies (even though it is possible that she might, but she doesn't see that possibility), so why should she get in so much trouble over it? she is doing what she THINKS is the right thing to do, so you need to make her realize otherwise.

research the issue a little more, and see what kinds of laws exist and even examples of women who have been caught doing this, and what has happened to them. show her all this information and tell her that you are worried that the rest of her life could be ruined if she gets caught. tell her that she could also be putting the kids in danger, and she loves them and cares for them so why does she want to risk such a thing? you have to make her realize that it is wrong and illegal, and it is not worth the risk! why would she risk her entire future just to breast feed the babies? nothing is wrong with baby formula... im sure it's a lot safer than some pills bought over the internet! you never know with drugs... they always come up with all kinds of studies that show things about them years after they have been out on the market! so if she cares for the kids and her future, tell her to stop this nonsense right away!!

give her some time... talk to her about it ALL the time for the next couple of weeks, maybe one month. if she won't listen to your mom, explain everything to her and have her help you convince your sister! if even then it doesn't work, then you can go ahead and contact someone and report her. good luck!! :)

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