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rape
Okay well as a young child i was raped multiple times by the same person. and out of the blue i get flashbacks and they keep on coming back to me. Like even when im watching TV lying down on my bed i picture him coming into my room and i freak out. Its been like a decade ago and it still scares me...if this is happening now, whats gonna happen when i want to do stuff with a guy? how do i get rid of it? i dont want to go to a therpist or anything cuz they just freak me out even more!
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Okay honey listen my real name is Shaniqua and I was raped by someone I did'nt even know but my best friend set me up and Im Telling you for almost a year I have been to school because I was always depressed and everyday I would wake up and see it happening again I was scared and felt alone but sooner then I thought I was gonna go crazy that's why i decide to get help and trust me Im starting to feel better and it is a big relief you think about it but not that much and I think you should go to counseling for people who have been raped and it helps I would'nt even lie to you and even though I don't know you I dont want you to end up like me no friends and being afraid and then you start hating being around alot of people and trust that's the worst feeling of my life and trust me if you wanna talk personally you can write me at Salena_galena@yahoo.com
and even though the counselors freak you out your not going there for there health your going for yours and they dont pressure you to talk and they tell you that but they want you to get used to them and then you can open up and they will be there as long as you want them to but please go take it from someone who understands you and know what your going through and im here to talk to you about anything Ive been through alot for a 17 year old and trust me you would think im in my 30's.When you try to do stuff with a guy your be scared your not gonna want him to touch you kiss you or hold you or do anything and it's gonna bring back flash backs and it's not supposed to go that way ever since I started going to counseling I 've been able to talk to my boyfriend and im no longer afraid to be touched or anything and I dont have flasj backs to much either my life is starting to get better everyday because im going to counseling gettin my life back together and trust me I dont think you want yours to get even worse so please go it would really help plz i know how you feel so go so you can move on and be happy with out falsh backs okay
Yours truley
Bella
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You could go to theray because it will help you even more with your problems. I'm really sorry that you got rape by the same person if you ever need to talk just go to my email address.
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I'm sorry honey, that is just awful. You really do need therapy though, otherwise that psychological impact that this has had on you will only get worse and worse. I can't stress how important this is, just try a few appointments and see how it goes.
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Being raped is a really horrific event and when you've had something that bad happen to you, you need professional help with your mental health.
Yes, I am talking about a therapist even though you don't want to go. Not all of them should freak you out. You have to get one that can help in this area and just give every option a try. These flashbacks will no go away on their own. The excuse you're using not to see one is typical. Therapists are not freaks and they aren't people who try butting into your life. They are people who want to hear you and help you with it. They never force information out of you.
Besides, what other option do you have at this point? You can't wait for these flashbacks to go away because they won't and you know that. This is something that will lay in your memory forever and that requires a lot of help you need to deal with the pain.
-TheTeenGirl
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hey! wow im sorry that this happened to you... this guy should have been reported to the police, and if you still know his name or if he is around you should deffinitely file a report even if it has been a while. he needs to be punished for what he did, because it is absolutely unacceptable.
as far as how you should get rid of these thoughts you are having... well, honestly i don't know if you can ever get rid of them COMPLETELY, but you can deffinitely make sure they don't cross your mind every day and interfere with your life. from what you are saying, it seems like you never told anyone about this... you don't talk to anyone about what happened? you don't have to go to a therapist but you should deffinitely let someone close to you know what happened... someone that you trust. a really good friend, a school councelor or teacher, parents, other relatives... anyone. when you talk about your problem and share it with someone else, it will be out in the open and it won't be this deep dark secret that you have to keep to yourself and in your mind. it makes a huge difference, because it takes pressure off and lets you feel less alone. plenty of people love you and care for you and will be willing to help... even if it just means listening to your story.
as far as guys in the future... well once you let your problem out in the open, it will be easier to tackle this problem as well. you will want to take things VERY VERY slow with guys in the future as far as physical stuff goes. get to know them on a deeper level first, and once you feel comfortable with them let them know what happened. if they truly like you and care for you they will understand and will not pressure you to do anythin g that you aren't comfortable with. this will all be easier when you talk to people about what happened instead of keeping it bottled in, but just remember that most guys aren't like the jerk that did this to you. a guy that cares for you will never do such a thing! really it just takes time, but you will deffinitely be fine! just keep telling yourself that things will be ok, talk to people, and report this guy! i hope everything works out for you! :)
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