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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.if you drop one in my inbox, please try to be as detailed as possible (like your age & gender) so i can be as helpful as possible :D
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when your having sex for your first time, can a boy tell its the girls first time? like ive heard storys that you bleed but is that after sex like the next day or during. seems kinda gross if its during..
like other than not knowing exactally what to do..is there anyway a boy can tell the girls a virgin?
thankss !
Usually, if its a girls first time, she'll bleed during (when her hymen is broken, "cherry popped"). It's not alot of blood like your period, but it's some and guys usually don't mind.. because it's normal and unavoidable!
About guys knowing if you're a virgin.. they usually can't tell. Some girls ARE looser than others naturally, and some are really tight naturally. Guys might act like they can tell, but honestly, they have no idea unless they're your gyno. But of course (like you said) they can tell if you don't know what you're doing, not by 'down there'.
this is embarresing to ask but ive never seen like anyone elses vagina before and i feel like mines not normal. im probally just overthinking or whatever but is it normal for fluids to come out liek whenever?
and i jsut dont think mine looks right also.
can someone tell me what a normal vagina looks like or something i just feel like im not normal :/ blehh help please.
Those fluids are your discharge and that is perfectly NORMAL. as long as its not like yellowish or greenish, it's healthy. The vagina is like a self-cleaning machine!
I'm sure your vagina looks normal. Does it have two labias (the lips)? Then it's normal! Every single girl has a different vagina and they do not all look exactly the same. If you're worried about if a guy will think it looks weird/different, he definitely won't. Guys don't know anything about our vaginas, unless they're a gyno :)
So the thing is ive been going out with this guy for about 4 months this saturday. He was my friend before we started going out so i knew he had a "past". He really isnt a bad guy i just may be paranoid. Yah, lets just say that i was paranoid to the point that i look in his phone and found txt messages from another girl. When i confronted him he just said that his friend played around with him like that...Two days later he said that he told the girl todo that because he new that i would look through his phone. Well hes a flirt and it just hurts to see him talking to other girls he does it even when im around, he may not notice it but he does flirt. Well ive tried to stick this relationship out i really love him. He walked me home in the dead of winter at midnight because my bestfrinds mom wouldnt let me sleep over her house,He was suppose to be home by that time. He does care but only shows it when everything is calm. What should i do?
Well, I wouldn't give up just yet. Just please don't go through his phone anymore! Since he knows you do that, he might text MORE girls just to make you jealous. When you're together next, talk to him about all this, in a calmly matter. You could try "I know you're a flirt, but should I be worried about other girls or is it really nothing/innocent?" Something along those lines. Let him know you're just a little worried and would like some reassurance, but don't come off bossy or controlling. If you ask calmly and nice, and he flips out and starts getting mad, that's a sign he's not so innocent and he's on the defensive. If he thinks you're crazy for thinking that way or simply says it's innocent, then try to move on and be happy. One day at a time. :)
I've been tanning latley for my prom. It's this saturday..i'm getting pretty dark..but it seem's like my front side is darker than my back side. i use a tanning maximizer that they gave me the first time i tanned. i always lay on my back..am i maybe doing something wrong?
Is someone able to put the maximizer on your back? If you do it yourself, you're probably not able to really reach behind and cover your back entirely and put a good amount on. Before you leave to go tanning, have someone put on lotion/maximizer on your back or even at the tanning salon, if they could do it for you there. If you feel like the maximizer is the problem, try buying a tanning lotion instead at the store (not at the salon, since they charge 10 times extra lol)
how do some people get so many friends on myspace and by the way if u have one add me
email is- bunnbaybee@yahoo.com
Well, there's one way lol
Most people on myspace just keep adding people, mostly if there from the area or in their city. They see someone good-looking or with a cool profile, and add them. Then the friends list keeps growing, and they don't even know half their list. So, to be honest, the people who have thousands of friends, do not know most of them or have ever even talked to them.
okay so i dated this guy for about 7 months.
and we broke up 2 months ago.
and i am not over him..at all!
we still talk at least once a week.
and i have tried everything to get over him, i have tired not talking to him. moving on. everything!
nothing works.
i am getting really sick of it.
even my friends have noticed that it is changing me.
music is not helping me anymore.
it just makes me sadder.
when me and him do talk all he does is bring up are memories. and how much fun it was. and i dont want to stop talking to him agian. cause when i do it makes me feel so much better.
i really dont know what to do.
Okay, seriously and honestly, you HAVE to stop talking to him. It's "making you feel better" because it's like a drug and you are getting your fix, but the addiction is still there and will keep coming back. You will not get over him if you do not stop talking to him, period. Also, he's wrong to bring up memories of you two if he has no interest in starting a relationship again. He's leading you on and crushing you at the same time. I've gone through this, so many times. Trust me, the only medicine is time. Time and good friends. If you cut off communication (and of course you can tell him why you need to stop) and get involved with school or friends, you will get over all this. Do not backslide and answer the phone or texts from him. The only way to move forward is to really, truly let go of the past.
thanks for the advice but llike idk if i will. cause im taking other classes like evryyear and he is the only teacher that teaches them. i hvae a crush on him and i know he is single haha. its not like oh i want to fuck him its like i just want to hang out with him and get to know him. like there are days i can not stop smileing in his class. like what the heck? aha
Well hey.. if your of legal age, he's single and he's a good guy = no problem! Just be very careful and don't put all your feelings out there to him :)
my boyfriend and i got drunk together recently and got caught. now we're both grounded for a long time. my mom wanted me grounded for a month, and my dad just said i was grounded until he says im not anymore. -.-''
i have no idea how long my boyfriend is grounded. his mom at first said a month, and then she said two weeks, and then she said 2 months...im just confused.
i dont have a very big social life. frankly, i dont want one. i have a few good friends and a boyfriend and im fine. thing is, im not grounded from the phone or from my computer. im grounded from PEOPLE! i cant hang out with anyone for as long as my dad says, which could be from 1 week to 5 weeks. i usually see my boyfriend every day, and this is really getting under my skin. its a very hard situation for me. we cant even talk!
what am i supposed to do?? i hate being around my family in general, but around them ALL THE TIME and with no one else?!? someone tell me what to do, and quick.
I would say you're pretty lucky! When I used to get grounded, I had everything taken away, including phone, computer, friends. You just need to relax and realize that you can still go on the internet and call friends. For the time being, call your friends and talk so you have something to do. Can you still call your boyfriend or talk to him online? Because if you can, than that's still good. I would just realize it's not all that bad in the long run, and it'll go by quick if you don't sulk about it.
There's this new foreign-exchange student in my Spanish class. He's from Argentina (haha ironic, I know) and is living here with his cousin for three months. When he first came, all the girls flipped out because he's really cute, and the guys talked to him, too. However, now that everyone's used to him, not many kids talk to him. My teacher asked me to strike up some conversations with him because she know I'd be friendly. I also want to be friends with him. I've talked to him almost everyday that he's been here, but it's hard to do. I want to speak to him in Spanish so I can get better, but I don't know what to say! When I talk to him in English though, I feel bad because it's so much harder for him to talk to me in English, and he doesn't know some of the slang. What questions can I ask him without having him feel like I'm prying into his life?
I would definitely seem interested in his spanish heritage. Ask him about Argentina and if it was nice there and he liked it better than here. Tell him you've always wanted to go there (even if you haven't lol). Ask him to help you wish spanish! Ask him to translate some words from english to spanish. Just try not to use slang around him, and be sweet. You don't have to force a friendship or feel like you're being forced to talk to him. I think he would feel more comfortable if you seemed interested in where he came from and his language.
okay so i asked a earlier question about my hot teacher well i have more to say. so i have had this teacher for a hole tri now and its almost over :[ like this teacher is super sexy and if i was his age i would go for him in a heart beat. well its to the point now that my teahcer knows i think he is sexy and that i have a crush on him cause i like flirt with him in class but he completly flirts back :] i seriously think about him all the time and like have dreams about him. theres times in his class i have to stare down the whole time because when i look at him i cant help but smile :] i just want to like hang out with him but i cant cause he is my teacher and he is a little older than me haha, what do i do? like is this super strange and weridd?
Oh god no, it's not strange. I'm in college and we get some of the hottest professors. The whole attraction is the unattainable-ness of it. You know it's forbidden and you can't have him, so it builds this huge fire and it's just so hot. I know how this feels. You can be flirty and have fun with it all, but don't act on this crush. I've had a really horrible incident with that, and my teacher was married :O So, just remember the semester or year will be over and you'll have to move on. But relax, it's normal. You'll get over this crush the day after class is all over with, trust me! :]
Ok im 18 and i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now.In the begginning things were so great, he was everything i could ever ask for. He told me he loved me, and its not a word he just throws around, and he talked about wanting to get a place with me blah blah, perfectness.Then he got laid off his job and had to move back with his parents. Things have changed drastically, he is always so stressed out and mad. he cant get a job (we live in a small town) and he doesn't care about ANYTGING anymore. i have been so unhappy for like a month now,crying so much. he doesn't say i love you, he said he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship that he's not ready for that again(he was with his ex for 3 years, they broke up like a year ago) that he just wants to take it day by day. and also he possibly wants to move to utah...without me to live with his best friend because ha has nothing going for him out here! I am so scared of losing him, because i truley care about him so much and he does care about me too. i am trying so hard to make this work, and he is putting in no effort! i honestly dont now what to do? i cant just back away from it.Because he does want to be with me. i need advice!
I know men, and when a guy says he doesn't want to be with you, he doesn't. There's no beating around the bush here, or secret hidden signals or agendas. I don't know how many times I've read "He's Just Not That Into You" and it's saved me a world of pain and mistakes. You might rate me low because I'm not saying the most sweetest answer or what you wanted to hear, I'm just honest. That's what you want, right? You have to let him go. If he wants to be with you, he will and he'll put in the effort. But right now, his answer is no and you need to let him deal with everything. Maybe when he gets his head together and figures stuff out, he'll come around again and things will be better. Who knows? It could happen. At this point, with what you have said, he needs to be left alone and you can't make him stay here or make him stay with you. You've just gotta be strong.
18 f.
my 2 best friends and I are going to the caribbean over spring break. We planned this trip few months back and were really excited. But over the past months my 2 best friends haven't been talking. One is putting in effort while the other one is not. Now mind you its 3 GIRLS we're talking about, and if we cant all hang out I dont know what we will do. I've been friends with one of them for about 3 years, and the other one about 1 and a half. My friends cant give me advice on it because its such a rare and horrible dilemma. So what do i do? Just try and live through the awkwardness? Try and get them to talk? It seems like its going to end up being a cruddy trip anyway. Oh, and by the way, there's no way one of us could just not go, we all want to go really badly. This is what we get for being so stubborn I guess.
thank you,
scaredredhead
Hmmm.. was there an argument between them recently? Or did they just stop talking out of nowhere? I would talk to them seperately. Ask them what's going on and what happened. You definitely need to get both sides of the story and see how each of them feels. If they don't want to tell you, tell them you're their best friend and you've got to figure this out and fix out. Try that first and if they both seem to want to fix it, get them together to talk. You guys are all best friends! You need to get through it together and remind them of the amazing vacation coming up. :)
14/f
ok, so my parents totally treat me like i'm four instead of 14. right now i was supposed to be asleep 1 hour and 40 minutes ago. i'm 14!!! most of my friends go to bed at 1 a.m.. all i want is another hour, mayne an hour and a half, tacked on. that's not much. but whenever i bring it up, my mom freaks. also, if i so much as mention boys, my dad goes crazy and starts asking for names, addresses, zip codes, where i met them, blah blah blah blah blah. and trust me, he's dead serious.
how can i make my parents understand i'm not a little girl anymore?
thanks!!! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
About the boy thing, I doubt anything will change how your dad reacts. They're just like that, especially until you get older. You're 14 and to your dad, your his little girl and he's just being protective.
About the 'bedtime' or curfew you have, you can probably fix this. Why does your mom freak out though when you bring it up? Do you ask to stay up really late? Do you talk to her when she's already in a bad mood? I would first think about all those. Then, make sure you ask her when she's in a good mood and it's not right before you go to bed. Tell her you're not tired at 10 or whatever time you're supposed to be in bed. Something like - "Mom, I can't fall asleep at 10 and I'm still winding down around that time... do you think I could stay up to just 11? I think it'd be better, since I am getting older." If you ask nicely, calmly and maturely, she should agree to that. Just don't ask for more than an hour! You don't want to push your luck :)
i just got mny tongue pierced 2 days ago. its still swollen, and i think it might be too far back? i kind of have to stick it out far to beable to see it. im not sure if this is because its swollen or not. will it look better once the swelling goes down? and how long does it take for the swelling to go down?
I used to have my tongue pierced... and it took mine a couple weeks to fully heal and be 'normal'. Was it done professionally, like a real tattoo/piercing place? Because they know what they're doing and where to pierce so it looks right. Wait until the swelling goes down and it doesn't hurt, and check it out again. If you still feel that it's far back, go back to the place and talk to them about it.
14/f
Ok so I need more things to do with my friends. I mean on weekends. Like the most we do is go to the movies and then go over to my house or something afterward. What else could we do? We've had bday parties and pool parties and some movie thing where they came over and we watched movies. I don't always want to go to the movies. Sleepovers won't really work if we want to include everyone since we have guy friends too. I don't really want to spend so much money either. We usually go to a movie where its cheap like 7 dollars. Is there anything else we can do? Thanks!
Since the weather will be getting better, it'll be easier to come up with ideas. You can get the group together to go mini-golfing (it might sound stupid, but it's fun and everybody has a good time and laughs) and you can also do bowling! Both of those are inexpensive. You guys can also gather all your money together and go out to eat at a restaurant. Not a real expensive, fancy one... but a nice one where you can hang out there and eat for an hour or two. Hopefully some of these will help or maybe give you more ideas.
okay i have a bestfriend who is 5 about to be 16 in march and she took 2 store bought pregnancy test and the results are positive and he babies father has been in her life since october 3 and she doesnt know if she wants to keep the baby or not and he said the decision is hers wat to you think she should do
It's really not up to any of us on here. It's truly her decision, and her decision alone. It's her body and her life. 16 is awfully young, way too young to be a mother, not to mention - a responsible and self-less one too.
She's lucky to have a best friend who cares and is there for her. Let her know she can confide in you, and tell her to really think things through. She needs time to herself so she can make a good decision. I hope she will also tell her parents so they can get involved and help with the decision process also. Friends and family are crucial in this kind of situation.
okay so on friday me and my boyfriend had sex kinda it was like only a couple of minutes haha of course we used a condom (YAY safetey) and it was my first time that a guy ever put his penis all the way in. ya it hurt like a bitch but not to much so an hour later when i came home i used the bathroom and i started bleeding like a little bit it wasnt tons of it but you know and iknew it wasnt my period becuase it didnt look like that kind of blood ( i just ended my period the day before though) and im still kind of sore now and its sunday but only when i wipe. just wondering if thats normal.? and i want to do it again on friday like till we finish or he does idk if it will feel good for me or will it hurt still or less? will i bleed again? when will it start to feel good?
Ahh, this is my expertise lol Of course you're a little sore. I hope it's not like, horrible right? If it only is a little sore and it only hurts when you rub there or wipe (like you said) then it's perfectly normal. BUT, if it continues to hurt, than I would skip sex on friday since you haven't healed completely.
When and if you do it again, it will probably hurt a little but definitely less than the first time. You're still tight down there and have only had one experience, and that was only a couple minutes. So don't get scared if it hurts a little again! You won't bleed though, because that happens when you're hymen is broken ("cherry popped") and that's already happened.
Every time you do it, it'll start to hurt less and feel much better! It'll start feeling really good probably around the 3rd or 4th time, when your looser and more comfortable. Make sure you guys get some foreplay in there so you're wet and it'll hurt even less. Don't worry, everything you said is all normal. Good luck! And keep using condoms, you're responsible. :)
hi.. require a info. I want to know what are the best brand in lingerie category for women, i wan tto give 2 my girl? what are the stuffs women would like to wear generally 2 feel comfortable, i want to surprise her?
Also, is there any chances of getting diseases if i give oral if she is unshaved, is it good to ask her as i am concerned about hygeine?
Hey. As for the lingerie, I'd go with Victoria's Secret. All girls love their bras and underwear, and they're very sexy. Usually guys shop there for their girlfriends. You'll definitely find something there for her.
About the oral and unshaved, there is always a chance of getting a disease when you do any sexual activity. If she's shaved or not, there's always that possibility. If you personally want her to shave though, I would just mention it nicely to her.. like "it'd be awesome if you shaved down there, that's really hot" or something along those lines. Just be careful! If she's letting you give her oral though, I doubt she has a disease because she's your girlfriend and if she's trustworthy (only you would know that) and you've been together for a long time, i'm sure she'd tell you if she had a disease. Good luck!
I am 15 years old. I am sophmore in high school and i feel like all the classes i take are useless. I know what I want to do as far as my career and classes like chemistry have nothing to do with it. I was wondering are there any ways for me to study behavioral profiling, learning how to do it and get better and what not. I know I cant take online college courses but are there any free ways of doing so, or any good books?
There aren't any 'learning how to do it' kind of things. I'm in the field of psychology right now and in college, so you're definitely going to need to go to college. I know those classes you're taking now seem useless and a waste of time, but you got to get through them and graduate. Once you graduate, decide what college has the best psych, sociology or behavorial science department and classes. Once you get involved in those classes, you'll have a better idea of which direction to go in and what major best suits that sort of career. If you definitely want to have a career in behavorial profiling, you'll probably need a BA or Master's to get a good job. Good luck!
im desperately looking for another job and have filled out 7 applications in the past couple weeks. only two of the places said they actually WERE hiring but i wasn't hired. the other places didn't say they were hiring but are "accepting applications", which pretty much means there's no hope right? anyway, should i call the places that said they're accepting applications to check up on my application, or if they're not really hiring do they even look at them? and also if i do call, what should i say because obviously it'll be different than calling a place that IS hiring. thansk
I would call the places that you've filled out the apps. for and are actually interested in. Call and ask to speak whoever handles job hirings/interviews [probably a manager or administrative assistant] Usually managers like confidence and people who WANT the job, just don't be pushy. Call and ask if they received your application first and ask if they've made any decisions or if they are hiring at all at this time, you can say you just wanted to know since you have to call back some other job opppurtunities and give them your answer. [This works because then the manager will assume other employers are interested in you and might pick you up right away and ask you to come in for an interview] You can deff. call, just make sure you're polite and confident.