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difficult girl drama situation
18 f.
my 2 best friends and I are going to the caribbean over spring break. We planned this trip few months back and were really excited. But over the past months my 2 best friends haven't been talking. One is putting in effort while the other one is not. Now mind you its 3 GIRLS we're talking about, and if we cant all hang out I dont know what we will do. I've been friends with one of them for about 3 years, and the other one about 1 and a half. My friends cant give me advice on it because its such a rare and horrible dilemma. So what do i do? Just try and live through the awkwardness? Try and get them to talk? It seems like its going to end up being a cruddy trip anyway. Oh, and by the way, there's no way one of us could just not go, we all want to go really badly. This is what we get for being so stubborn I guess.
thank you,
scaredredhead
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you can bring both of them.. they might realize that fighting is not worth it and they can just enjoy the vacation. i was in this situation. It ended up that i made up with the girl who i had not talked to in years. Now we are best friends again. You can talk to both of the and see if they are willing to try and have a good time on vacation.
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Stick to the one who is trying to work it out, and let the other one know that she is going to ruin this trip, and all of the great memories you guys could have together. Don't yell at her, or anything, just really let her know how you feel. Tell her not to mess up a once in a lifetime opportunity because you guys won't be able to live it up like this when you have responsabilities. If she has a good reason for being pissed, tell her all the benifits of being the bigger, better person. Go for the guilt a little, too, becuase you are the one stuck in the middle, and you haven't done anything.
If all else fails, remind them both that you are going to have fun-no matter what, and you refused to be given any guilt trips about who you choose to hang out with at any given time, so if they want to continue the fight, you'll be the one who always has a friend to hang out with, while the other is sitting alone.
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Hmmm.. was there an argument between them recently? Or did they just stop talking out of nowhere? I would talk to them seperately. Ask them what's going on and what happened. You definitely need to get both sides of the story and see how each of them feels. If they don't want to tell you, tell them you're their best friend and you've got to figure this out and fix out. Try that first and if they both seem to want to fix it, get them together to talk. You guys are all best friends! You need to get through it together and remind them of the amazing vacation coming up. :)
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