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Bed time rules-blah
14/f
ok, so my parents totally treat me like i'm four instead of 14. right now i was supposed to be asleep 1 hour and 40 minutes ago. i'm 14!!! most of my friends go to bed at 1 a.m.. all i want is another hour, mayne an hour and a half, tacked on. that's not much. but whenever i bring it up, my mom freaks. also, if i so much as mention boys, my dad goes crazy and starts asking for names, addresses, zip codes, where i met them, blah blah blah blah blah. and trust me, he's dead serious.
how can i make my parents understand i'm not a little girl anymore?
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I definitely understand where you are coming from because I've been there. Remember that your parents are not doing this because they want to make you miserable, they just care about you. A lot of parents could care less, so be thankful that they love you. When I was going to high school, I usually had to be in bed no later than 10. They want you to be well rested and to be able to function better during the day. If you talk to them about this calmly (when everyone is in a good mood), and discuss these things without anyone getting roused up, maybe you can figure out some compromise.
Your dad sounds like mine. I think that he probably wont like any guy that I do until I'm married. He's been there, done that, and he knows from first hand experience what males are like. Your parents are just protective of you, so give them the information. Show them by actions how you are growing up and are being a responsible, smart, young lady. If you start whining and complaining about it, they will know that they are right about you still being a little girl.
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About the boy thing, I doubt anything will change how your dad reacts. They're just like that, especially until you get older. You're 14 and to your dad, your his little girl and he's just being protective.
About the 'bedtime' or curfew you have, you can probably fix this. Why does your mom freak out though when you bring it up? Do you ask to stay up really late? Do you talk to her when she's already in a bad mood? I would first think about all those. Then, make sure you ask her when she's in a good mood and it's not right before you go to bed. Tell her you're not tired at 10 or whatever time you're supposed to be in bed. Something like - "Mom, I can't fall asleep at 10 and I'm still winding down around that time... do you think I could stay up to just 11? I think it'd be better, since I am getting older." If you ask nicely, calmly and maturely, she should agree to that. Just don't ask for more than an hour! You don't want to push your luck :)
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