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I'm Samantha, 17, and I love to help others. If I'm not sure about something, I will tell you, but I will tell you all that I do know. =D

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This is probably a stupid question but I'm deadly serious, is there a way that you can pick your gender of a baby?

And I'm wondering how does your stomache decide to create a boy or a girl? Is it by something inside that decides? If so, how?

You cant be like oh I want a girl. That cant happen. But the gender is picked by the way the chromosomes match up. They dont really decide, it just happens. But really, the guys chromosomes make the baby a girl or boy. And the girls, make how many babies. =D

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whenever me and my boyfriend mess around he always tells me "oh this is turning me on so much" but he never gets a boner from it. what can i do OR SAY to make him really be turned on and not just saying it.

Rub this legs down by this pee bug(I call it that haha). Then act like your touching him, then stop, and then do it again. Tease him, esp. down around there!.. Stay Safe!! =D

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My bgf and i are really close and we are thinking about having a serious relationship together but im not physically attracted to him. is there a way i could become physically attracted to him? i think he might be to me im not sure but im not to him. also is it ok to date a guy who dated 2 girls you used to be friends with? cause he dated 2 of my old friends but they dont care if we date and we arent really friends anymore anyway. he didnt seriously date them it was just a thing but he and i want sumthing real and through all the relationships we have had we have always been best friends and kind of liked each other. everyone thinks we are perfect for each other and wants us to date but i dont know. also my mom doesnt want me to date him because he dated two of my old friends like i said. his family on the other hand really wants us to date and likes me a lot. what do u guys think? please tell me any thoughts you have and i will rate everyone!!! thanks!

It depends on how old you are. Im thinking your maybe 9th grade? So dont go and have sex with him to see if you can become attracted to him. I dont think you can be in a serious relationship without any phyiscal attration.
Dont worry about the two friends. If they werent months/year long relationships then its fine. I know those 2 weeks of I love you relationships dont mean a thing, so dont even worry. Go for it! =D

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I'm thinking about getting a tattoo (not at this moment, but within a few years)and I'm wondering where the area of least pain is. I understand its different for everyone and it's always painful to some extent, but is it true that it's less painful on more fleshy parts of your body and more on bone-y parts? I was thinking about getting it on my wrist...

http://www.umcs.org/chrismons/patterns/triquetr.gif

that but very small (like no more then an inch and a half all around) It represents the trinity, which is meaningful to me, and I want to represent my irish heritage so I was wondering if anyone knew what "past, present, future" was in irish/gaelic, or "father, son, holy spirit" or "simply blessed"
Those words would go around the triquetra.

I also want my ears piereced, but the problem is I've had them piereced twice but the holes closed both times (both because I got an infection and had to take the earrings out for a period of time)Do you think I'm just unable to have earrings? Is scar tissue a problem? I always wore hypoallergenic earrings and cleaned my ears once a day, so I really don't understand it.
Sorry for the long questions and thanks to all those who answer!

People say it hurts less with more skin(fat). My mom has a tattoo on her foot, and she said it hurt really bad. My sister got one on her stomach and she said she didnt even feel it really.

Your skin might be rejecting that kinda of earring. Try getting a differnt type. My one friend cant have metal, so she gets fake metal and its fine.

I hope I helped

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In the United States, if a girl has anorexia & she is under the age of 18, what is her rights?? Does she have to be admitted or can she choose?? any info on this?? ideas/opinions?? thanks!

I think when it comes to that, the girls parents would choose bc the doctors will find the girl unstable to choose for her own. I hope I helped=D

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13/f
I really want to get my belly pieced but my parents won't let me because they say i'm too young.I've wanted to get it done for a while what are some things i can say to get them to let me piece my belly?

thanx

I was 13 when I got my first one done. So coming from someone that has had it done that young, just tell them you will take very good care of it. If they still say no. Say well can I get it done for my birthday? Thats why I got mine. Im sure they will let you for your birthday.. I hope I helped! && remember if you do get it done, dont clean it to much. Three times a day & dont touch it. =D

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ok im on jv cheerleading at my high school. anyways, i just got my back handspring all by myself on the tumble track (the trampoline thing) at my tumbling classes. i am so excited! my tumbling coach kept telling me dont worry im spotting you. its weird but i cant ever tell when they touch my back, i just assume. but after i did it alone for awhile he was like i wasnt even spotting you. you did it by urself :D then i kept doing them over and over!! i am so happy, but now im thinking, well its going to be a lot harder to do it on the ground, right? i would really love to get it on the ground. is it going to be that much harder? and what tips would help me to transition from the tumble track to the ground without starting all over, and being able to get it quickly? thank you so much!

well, you have the motions down. It will be a lot harder, bc the trampoline was giving you bounce when pushing off. Stop doing them on the trampoline, bc these two twins in my grade were soooo use to doing them on the tumble track, they almost hit their head on the ground ever time they did it bc their arms werent strong enough, and may I add, they we;re SMALL. You need to stop doing it on the track, and start on the ground. Work on your arms, do push ups every day. Anything for get your arms stronger. I hope I helped

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Well, its kinda awkward to talk about this to my friends or mom. I like this guy, and i have no expirience, but he has a lot. I am 14, and i have never made out with anyone :\, and he had already made out with at least 5 people, and has fingered his ex, and my friend gave him a blow job.
Well, i think he kinda likes me and i want to make oout with me, but i dont want him to tell people i was bad, and i dont want to do it in front of people. What should i do??
Also, about the finger thing, well, i dont think it will get that far, but should i shave my vagina? Dont say, "Its up to you" just tell me what a guy would want...Sorry its so long, and thanks :]

Yeah, Shave. Most guys I think like it better. Making out really just comes. Yeah, you wont be the best the first couple times, but tell him that. Be like when your about to start making out, be like Iv never done this before, and then just go in for the kill.. Hahaha.. Have fun, but stay safe! =D

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okay so i started talking to this boy but he's 18 and im only 14 ill be 15 in 2 months but anyways he has a girlfriend for 2 years now and they fight all the time he really doesnt like her much he wants to break up with her but he cant me and him talk all the time we flirt alot and i think im starting to like him what should i do?

This kinda thing happened to my best friend. If you know that he likes you, and he said that he will dump his girlfriend for you, but not yet. Tell him to make his pick now. && if he doesnt, then tell him you cant talk to him anymore untill him and his girlfriend are done. Dont be his thing on the side. Tell him he has around 2 weeks or something. If you guys have kissed, tell him if he doesnt tell her, you will. You have to get it through his head that you want to be with him.. I hope I helped love! =D

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so m3 and my fri3nd are g3tting 3ach oth3r som3thing for christmas w3 mad3 a pric3 limit its 50$ do you hav3 any id3as? sh3s girly lik3s ch3erl3ading socc3r..pr3ppy shops at hollister abercrombi3 plac3s lik3 that h3lpp!

Try getting her hoodies and or sweatpants that say Cheerleader. Get her picture frames that say something like Best Friends on it and then have a picture of you two. Or at Hollister, get her some skirts, or really dressy tops. Get her a make up kit. Get her her favorite movie, or CD. I hope I Helped! =D

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14/f sorry this is long!

im a freshman and my brother is a junior. he and i have lunch during the same period and our tables are literally 10 feet away from each others.these are the guys that sit at my bros table:kevin,patrick,matt,ben, and jason. everyday kevin looks at me and winks at me. and he has like a scheming smile on his face when he does.and he asked me to give him head like 7 times.and i said no everytime.and he asked me to homecoming like 3 times but i kept saying no because i thought he was being cocky and i didnt believe him. he also gave me his number one day but i didnt think it was him..but i texted him and it actually was.and he was actually nice when we texted and i dont get him because sometimes hes nice and he flirts but other times he acts like a perv.. and i knew that i would start to like him and i do [[unfortunately]] but im not gonna let him know because idk what would happen.

but i really like patrick too..hes nice to me and me,him, and my brother hung out an entire afternoon and hes pretty cool.he talks to me and hes like tried to help me with my homework sometimes.

does kevin really like me or is he just being an idiot?and how do i get patrick to see me as more than just his friend's sister?

Kevin might like you, but I think hes trying be more an ass then a "boyfriend". Hes probably just trying to get with you so your brother will get mad. He might put on a show infront of people, then be nice to you. I say dont go for it.
Try to talk to Patrick on the phone or something. Hang out with him, only you and him. See if he really likes you. Remember, some guys might not want to mess with their friends younger sister. Its like a guy rule pretty much. But you never really know. Good Luck =D

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i am interviewing a basketball player and making an article about it. i'm 15/f along with most of the players if it helps. but what should i ask...the season is just starting and its a brand new school so its their first season ever...what should i ask?
thx

-How do you think this season will go
-Who do you think will be your strong points in the team
-What do you want most out of this season
-Who do you think will be your toughest game this year
-What do you think of the coaches
-Do you hope that this season will give this new school a great name for sports.

I hope I helped!! =D

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This is a really long message, My name is Dylan and im 15. Ok about 3 weeks ago, i was on myspace and i had a friends request from someone i didn't know but they were the same age as me and had some of the same friends as me so i accepted and we have no classes with eachother but go to the same school, so we started talking alot a few days after that, i asked if she wanted to go do something at the movies, she said yes and gave me her number and i gave her mine. We each sent about 1,000 texts to eachother and we had planned on going the movies that next Saturday, and early on just incase she didn't know i said i didn't want to be strung along or get the wrong message . So it was Saturday and she had to cancel because of her dad and i believe she really did have to cancel but then later that night she said she really liked me as a friend, and i had a hard time coping with that, but she invited me to go to the mall a couple of times, but every time we go its usually with a few of her friends and its really awkward and she is really shy. But yesterday we went i guess as friends, it was me and 2 of my friends and her and 6 of her friends that went to the mall, i was talking to her friend and she said that Bethany (the girl i like) thought i didn't want to talk to her, and we all had originally had planned on going to the movies that night. So when it was time for the movies i thought i would do something big. We all went to the top but then everyone else decided they wanted to go way down further, so they all went and i stayed up there by myself trying to talk to her 1 on 1. But she didn't stay and i texted her to come up and talk to me, she said for me to come down there but i explained to her i wanted to talk to her and not everyone else but all she said was please come down. And i think i just keep making it more awkward. I feel bad and i honestly feel like i cant find a reason to get out of bed. I don't know where to go from here, please point me in the right direction! -Thanks

When your texting her, tell her you want to spend one on one time together. Have her come over to your house or you go to hers. Bring a couple of movies, buy a pizza and talk. Tell her how you like her. Ask her how she feels. Its better to do all this asking the questions in person, rather then texting. So you had the right idea when asking her to come up to the top with you. Hope I helped!

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i'm only a freshman, but i'm really serious about cheer, and i know it's something that i want do for a long time. even completive college levels
i'm already taking private lessons, but i need do to more
i'm not as flexible as i would like to be
are there any ways to become more flexible than just stretching?

and also, i'm 5'4'' and 125 pounds and i REALLY want to loose some weight and tone my stomach
any help on that?


thank you SO much

(and i'm working out three days a week)

Well for flexiablity, stretch 3 times a day. Hold each one for 30 secs. Then if your already in gymnastics then keep that up. If not try doing backbends, or even get into gymnastics.
-Also its a stretch but really helps with splits, lay on your stomache. Lift one leg up and have someone push it towards your head, striaght back, not to the side or anything.. You have to do this right, and theres not really a way to explain it to make it right. If it hurts like pain, then its not right. You should feel it pull your muscle, not cause pain.
Do each jump 10 times, twice a day if you are able to. Even once a day will really help!!
Start doing exercising for your legs to help your jumps, which will also get your legs more apart.
-Sit with your legs apart, and put one hand infront of you and one behind. (close to your butt and vajaja, haha) then lift your (right) lef up and move it in circles to the back. Start with 10(on each leg) and go up by 2 each day. Try doing this atleast twice a day. If not then its still going to help..
Your weight is fine. If your going to tone your stomache up, you will gain weight. (muscle weighs more then fat)
Do crunches. 100 a night. Or however many times a day. Start running. You really dont want to be a twig cheerleader. I think those look eww. And not even like cheerleaders.

I also love cheerleading and hope to cheer in college. Good luck! =D

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ok i have a high metabolism so im naturally on the slim side and im tall but since i started working in a restaurant 8 months ago ive put on some pounds id like to lose and just tone up. i dont have much time to workout but if i were to walk briskly on my treadmill [maybe jog a little sometimes] 3-4ish times a week how would my results vary than if i were to run? because i really dont like running and plus im sooooo out of shape i get winded after 5 minutes. would brisk-walking still be good for me? at least until i can work my way up to runnin?

any kind of extra walking/jogging/running is great for you. Do it for atleast 45mins. - an hour 4 times a week. Or even more! You will see results, but probably not as fast as running. Good Luck!

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15/f okayy well my gymnastics tryouts are on wednesday and i dont really have a floor routine so i need to make one up. does anyone know any good floor routine music? (something i can find online or limewire or itunes..not something i have to buy preferably). also if anyone does gymnastics and has ideas for floor routines or has a floor routine they found online or would explain to me that would be great! (i can make up my own tumbling passes i just need dance stuff) THANKS SO MUCH!

Im not in a gymnastics like yours, But I am a cheerleader! Haha, so try finding music to like newer songs. Like solja boy, and so on. And put the dance in it, then go off and do a tumbling pass. I think your not allowed to have words in your songs right? If so then just look up Solja boy music on limewire or whatever you have. This is somethign cute I saw today at my competion. do a back roll on the ground and go straight up to a handstand, come out of it then do backhand springs. Try doing a matrics thing, like Ciara does, we did that today and the crowd went crazy.
Try doing a bunch of jumps. Like 5 in a row or something. Im not sure if you really spend time doing that for gymnastics, but if so, then that would be awesome.
Sorry I didnt really give all that much. But I thought I gave some good things haha. Good luck!! =D

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What do they usually have you do at tryouts for a freshman basketball team? (mens)
Please Answer =]
Thanks

At my school, the freshman try out for JV and varsity, but its all the same try out. They usually have you do drills, Like lay ups, shooting, dribbling, passing. Then they will probably let you play 5 on 5 for a half hour or more. Thats at my school, Im thinking its the same for every other school for the most part. Good Luck! && dont be scared! =D

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Okay so my basketball season is atarting and i need some advice on conditioning and eating right i want to be in top shape and stay that way. What are some ideas i should do to work on my basketball skills and condition. And What should i eat and not eat??

Just dont over eat. Start running, even after practice...

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well hes not that weird.. just kidding. he reads comic books, hes hella cute, and is really nice. its weird that i fell for him.. cause I fell for him because he was so unpredictable. like some things he'd do that you'd think a total loser would do.. and then he just keeps suprising you. hes also good at soccer and guys who play soccer are hott! like once in music (btw im in 8th grade) as a prize to bingo we could get some crappy mcdonalds toy my teacher has or extra credit. he won twice and he kept getting the toy and he was so excited to get it. and the way he talks among other things.. haha when i tell my friends they're confused at how i like him. he probably doesnt like me the same and im not like head over heels... I just think hes really cute, but not in a way that I'd want to date him.. I think. I'm not sure. is this weird?

Sounds like to me, you really him!! =D
You shouldnt care what other people think of him. If you like him, then you do. You cant help that. Try to get to know him more. Talk to him in class, and once you guys have been talking, ask him to hang out with you on a weekend. You really shouldnt care what your friends think, they dont share the same feelings as you!. I hope I helped && I hope everything works out!

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okay well today was me and my man's 1 month anniverseryy. :D and we havent kissed and we havent said i love you yet. we went out 1 time before and he had told me that he likes to say i love you first cause he was just like that and doesnt want to say it if he doesnt mean it. and now that we have been going outt for 1 month and he still hasent said anything yett, should i talk to him. or whatt? i started saying XO! and stuff when he gets home and texts me i say okayyy. XO! and stuff but he doesnt text me back. i dont want to sound all pushy and telll him i think we shoulld kiss and i think we should sayy i love you too each other. so yeahh helpp me pleaseee! :D

Falling in real love takes more then one month for most people. What you might think of love right now, isnt what youll think of it a couple years from now. You didnt say your age, but, Im thinking your 13-14. If im wrong,sorry. But at 13-14 you really dont know what love is bc you havent been in mainly long lasting relationships to really know.
But anyways, just make the first move when you guys hang out. I think its time to kiss!!.. Instead of I love you. Try alright, Love yah, Bye.. Its not as meaningful as I love you. =D

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