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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
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Hi my name my name is jessica im 11 yrs old and im going out wit this boy that i think likes me but i dont know if i like him its hard cause i dumped him before so its just i have a feeling im not ready for a b/f and i tried to call him but he never answers what should i do?
Well, babe, you're sort of young to be having a boyfriend... I mean, I guess when I was that age too people where having boyfriends.. but you're 11, don't worry about anything right now like BOYS! Believe me, that's going to become your whole life in a bout 2 or 3 years... as of now, have em' as freinds, have fun with them, and if you're not ready... then the best thing to do is to tell him you just wanna be freidns...and maybe later on, when you both are older.. if ya'll still talk... maybe then it'd work out better.
there's a guy... we'll call him bill. :D he's 16, and i'm 14. he is the lead singer of my brother's band... he and i have had an INCREDIBLE friendship. we click REALLY well, and i care about him so much. i would do ANYTHING for this guy... and, i see myself married to him and starting a family with him someday. we are both into the same things, we both are crazy, and we both relate to eachother really well. he means everything to me. (sorry, i think we've already accomplished that... lol) anyways, he thinks that 2 years is too big of a difference, he treats other girls the same girls that he treats me, (like a princess) and i just wish that the arms that he throws around me could be around me forever. i want to wake up beside him every morning for the rest of my life.
i have it bad. help! -jessi
Well, two years isn't really all that big of a difference. But that's his choice. If you like him so much, then you should continue to flirt/hangout with him. If he's worried about the age gap it will be harder for him to open up to you, but in time, he'll give in.However, if he's treating other girls the same as you, might be a ladies man? There are a few of those guys out there who make every woman seem like she's the only one that matters, and you gotta watch out for those. Another thing that might make him hesitant, is that he's got to be close friends with your brother if he's apart of his band. *Singers are VERY SEXY*, anyways, so for HIM, there will be a few things that worry him about it, but if you stay consistant he'll give in hopefully! It seems you have very strong feelings for the guy, the only thing I'm kinda thinkin about is how you said he treats every girl like that... hopefully it wouldn't be an act. GOOD LUCK babe!
all my friends think my one guy friend is gay and i think so too..but he deny's it when we say nething about it..what do i do ??
I had the exact same problem with my best friend. Everyone knew he was gay but he just wasn't ready to tell. He eventually came out,and gained alot more respect for it. However, don't rush him into confessing anything, he'll do it eventually if he IS gay, it's not an easy thing for someone to come out and say. The best thing you can do is continue to be his friend, stick up for him when someoen calls him gay (EVEN IF YOU AGREE) and eventually he'll come out, when HE'S ready. We forced my friend too, and it's something I regret a whole bunch looking back on. Just don't hassle him about it...like I said, he'll come out some day, that is, if he's gay...he could just be feminine?
ok me and my bf have been going out for like 2 months and it seems like were like best friends instead of boyfriend and girlfriend... is that a good thing?
Well it depends on if there's any..umm how do I say.. intimate moments between ya'll. If all you seem to be is just friends, then maybe that's all you should be, happend with me and my boyfriend, now we're the best of friends...it just wasn't there. You'll know if ya'll are just meant to be freinds instead of in a relationship, but either way it's always a good thing to be close with your mate... so it might not be a bad thing, but a really good thing.
i dont live with my dad.my dad is mad at me.I dont want anything to do with him anymore. his friend tim from highschool is his best friend. and he is afraid to stick up 4 me. heres the story.... tims daughter (chelsey) and i have known eachother for 12 years.. just recently, we got in a BAD HUGE FIGHT. bad language was involved. and i got blamed for everything that we both said. and i told my dad its not fair that i have to get punished 4 somehting we both did. so he said he was gonna do something to me. so i refused to go with him. and my mom is stickin up 4 me.she is the only one i have. and like 3 days ago i got a call from my dad. he was tellin me i got grounded and i didnt. he told me to stay off the internet. he also asked y i said i hated chelsey and didnt want to be her friend any more. and i said i hate chelsey cuz the things she does to me. and i also told him i didnt want anything to do with him and he got mad at me and called me names. he also said im never welcome in his house anymore. he told me he would get me someday and hurt my mom.. what should i do? i have no clue. i dont want anyhting to do with my dad he gets into trouble with the law and i dont want anything to do with that or him. i think he hates me and i dont trust him anymore.. what should i do? this girl chelsey has also been tryin to be my friend but i dont want to be friends with her. she is also telling everyone she hates me and all her other friends filled my hole. now i hate her. im so confused and my dad makes my life miserable!!! help me please!
~Confused~
13,female
Well, one, your father shouldn't be threatning your family.
You could get him into serious trouble for saying something like he did. If you don't want to see him, that's fine. But don't forget that he IS your father, and that he does have rights to see you..maybe? Unless your mom has FULL custodiy your dad can do something, he can go the courts and say that your mom is not giving him time with you...ect. He can lie. If he's making threats like that, I would definatly do something about it. As for your friend Chelsea, how is she getting off so freely about everything that went on? She needs to fess up to her wrong doings too. Someone should also tell your father that FRIENDS FIGHT, the best thing he could have done is just stay out of it. But @ the same time.. you say you hate her, 12 years is A LONG TIME, do you really want to let it all go on this one fight? If you do, I'm sure there's a good reason, but try to look past all the hate you have for her and try and remember why you were friends with her for 12 years. If you can't think of a good reason, then it's probably best ya'll don't talk.
One of my friends is mad at me because she thinks i called her a slut and i didn't. I've said sorry but she wont except it. What should i do? I dont want to lose her friendship forever. We told each other everything and did a lot of things together. How can something so great be ruined by one little misunderstanding?
Well, when something like that comes around most of the time she wants to be friends with you too. If the friendship was strong before that, it wont be ruiend by a misunderstanding.Basically when it comes down to it, it's going to be her desision to save the friendship or not. And I'm sure in someway she beleives that you didn't really say it, she's just trying to stir things up maybe, see how much you care for the friendship. The only thing you can really do is DON'T STOP FIGHTING FOR IT. Continue to tell her you wouldn't ever say that, let her know how much you cherish the friendship, and tell her that there is no reason that you would call her that. Just keep fighting for it, I'm sure she'll come around... but you have to be patient about it. People can't hold grudges forever, especially if ya'll were really close.
I'm going into high school, and I'm a smart person (3.75 gpa) But VERY disorganized, I've gotten 2.6's on my report cards because I'll do assignments, then lose them, or procrastinate on projects. And I'm so afraid that's going to happen in high school, because I know how important high school is, and the college I want to go to is out of state and a VERY hard school to get into, and the other one, though not as hard is still out of state (I refuse to go to college in this state, I hate it here) and my only chance is probably a scholarship because it's just me and mom so there's not a lot of money.
I just need tips to help my organization skills, because I'll have a lot of sports and other things going on, and I know that I really need to get it together soon. And advice would be lovely.
Omg you seriously just described me in every single thing you said. I however have been in highschool. Mainly I'm thinking the big problem is procrastination, that's mine. When you think about doing a big thing you get lazy and just compeltly don't want to do it... I know how that goes. But for the procrastination part try to think about doing it in small amounts. For instance, if you have a project due in two weeks. Do something like... research all the information one day, then within two days start laying out your project.. then decorate in another few days. It'll make things much easier. But then the disoranized part, I don't know what to say, I'm the exact same way, a planner type thing really did help me, but then I got too lazy to write in it..(procrastination) I think you should get rid of how you procrastinate first, then move on to being more orginized after that. But a short story.. while I was in Jr. High my GPA had to have been around yours, once I got in highschool I did the exact same thing that I did in Jr. High... I failed 2nd semester of algebra..which was rediculous cause I knew it all and make an 86 avg. the first semester, and it caused my GPA to go down to a 2.7. Basically you definatly have to work harder in highschool. But I hope you do find a way to fix the problem, it'll become a huge issue if you don't!
does anyone know any good songs? i like alternative music. but i would like songs that u never hear, but have a good message or are about couples.
Alright I got a few....
Vindicated - Dasboard confessionals...
Echo- Trapt
What happend to us- Hoobastank
These Walls - Trapt
This is your life - Switchfoot
Freshman - Verve Pipe
Away from the Sun- Three doors down
Changes - 3 Doors Down
The Boys Of Summer - The Ataries
The Last Song - All American Rejects
The Ciggarette Song - All American Rejects
I Walk Alone - Oleander
Alright I got more, just ask if you need em'.
ok...i went out wit this one guy..for not that long but i still have feelings for him...should i c if he has feelings for me too..or just forgwt about him and move on....what should i do
~~~shortnsweetxoxo~~~
I'm going through pretty much the same type of thing right now. But I'd say get together with him, and maybe just ask to hang out... Then from there you should start with making your move... See if he responds to you flirting with him...
ok this boy i liked (mike) asked me out and i was really happy. he asked me to go over his house one day n i did. he asked if we were going to do stuff and i said yes. but i never mad out or n e thing .. can someone please tell me how to , and how do you no when they wanna make out or do something with you?
Well, really there's no way to make out with someone... but since you're new at this, let HIM LEAD... and then once you get started just go with the flow.. ohhh but also, when you first start out, don't just stick your tounge out and go for it,and guys, they like to keep going with things, it'll probably last for quite a while.. but don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.
i know this isn't really important, but im doing a poll for summer school.. im not in summer skool, but were supposed to be doing this to get ready for our upcoming high skool year, and well here's my poll...
Bush?
or
Kerry?
moderators, plz don't rate this low, it's for skool, also please don't delete this Q!!!!
I know this is kind of late, but by all means, BUSH ALL THE WAY. I could write a huge response as to why we shouldn't vote for that sorry bastard Kerry. He's trashy and he would be a horrible president. Oh I love these kinds of polls... But since you're not asking why I won't state my case... but BUSH.. all the way.
I'm 15 right now and I'll be 16 this September. I am fixing to start high school 9th or 10th not sure since I was getting homeschooled. I want to go back to normal school though. Ok so I know I'm like all pretty and I have no problems with the way I look. So see the problem is girls have a problem with me. They are all like wanting to kick my but and crap for no reason and saying crap like "oh get a tan" and blah. What should I do? I think girls are totally jealous of me. I am afraid of going back to school because I wanna stay out og trouble now. Basically I'm wanting to go back to school to get friends and stuff. Since I'm getting homeschooled I lost all of mine. I am thinking about getting a job this year maybe I'll meet people then. What would u do?
Well don't even listen to those girls. There are alot of people who do that when they feel threatned by someone who looks better than them. Unfortunally, more than likley you won't be able to avoid them.. but don't go looking for them. If they really bother you that much then, if you're not looking for trouble you should let someone know. I don't know if at your school you have something called a "Saftey Net" But we did. Basically you can report them and say that you think they're going to "try and fight this girl named (your name here)", It causes you to not have to worry about them thinking you "told on them" and at the same time, It keeps you out of trouble. But don't be scared to go back because of them, and I'm sure you'll make friends, I hope nothing but the best for you!
Okay me an this guy dated for like 3 months but we been off and on and threw alot of shit for the last 3 year's .. hes been tellin gme lately how much he really loved me and all .. well hes in the army so its really hard for me to trust him being as im being told by everyone at home that hes messin aroun.. and hes stationed right now so far away from me .. but i thought that love was enough for us to stay together and all .. Well recently we broke up i told him i couldnt deal with the worrying all the time, and plus long distance sucks soooo bad , Well now he like wont leave me alone at all, he tol dme he cared for me too much to see us just be over .. but I did love him and all and i still will i just I met this guy whos younger closer to my age, and lives around here .. Hes like the perfect catch i havent found a flaw yet hes just a dream come true, Well i mean i dont kno what to do do i throw basically 3 years down the drain for this guy who seems totally worth giving up everything .. or do i go back to this ex of myne ? .. Im so confused .. so please hurry with the juicy help!
Well, yes, 3 years is a long time to be with someone, and in no way should you forget any of the memories you've had with him. However, I think you should go with the new guy. He's there, he's close, and you make him sound like he's a really awesome guy that fits your personality. Not many of those type of guy come around too often. You gave the guy in the army 3 years of your life, I'm sure there's terrific memories and of course you would be attached to him. If you go with the new guy, you're not "throwing your 3 year relationship down the drain", you're simply moving on to a new chapter in your life. In the end you just should think about which one would be more worth it, and which desision you think would OVER ALL make you more happy in the end.
A week after fathers day my dad punched my brother and my brother socked him back. Eventually the whole family tried to get my fathers fat ass off my brother. I slapped my dad and he hit my bro again, then when his arm came back, it hit me in my head and knocked me out. When i woke up my friend was right there and screaming at me to get up. My bro had run away. I ran outside just in time to see where he was going then i was knocked out again. I felt my moms arms around me and she lifted me up. I wiped my bloody face and ran to my house sreaming :get that son of a bitch the fuck out of my house!" When i saw my dad, his tooth was knocked out and his face was bloody. I told him to get the fuck out of my house and he said he'll leave when he wants too. I started crying again and fell to the floor. My dad didn't give a shit about me. He just fucking stood there.
I found out where my bro went and grabbed car keys. I fired up the engine and my stepdad came out and opened the door. My friend hopped in the back seat and i went in the front. We went and got my brother. He picked me up and started hugging me. We had never hugged before, because we weren't as close as we are now.
I have to get dental stuff and now my dad wants to pay for everything. I know im gonna have to see him cause he has to sign papers. I don't know what to do. Plz help!!!!
signed,
helpless
My gosh, that's extremely sad, I'm so sorry to hear about that. Well, if you're only 11 then it's something your MOM should have to deal with. They shouldn't force you to see him after what he did to you, not if you don't want to. But how are you handling everything that happend? Keep me posted, and if you need anyone to talk to about this sort of thing, don't hesitate to ask me questions, I've been sort of in the same type of situation. But i'm soo sorry, I hope everything works out for you.
Ok. I know 2 ppl who when they are around me act like they like me but they really hate me. They don't want to be mean to me and tell me to my face they just like to talk to me behind my back. Should i try and talk about them or just tell them off or ignore them?? Plz help me!!
Don't ignore them! Tell them straight up you know how they really feel, and get rid of them! Don't be friends with them, and tell them things. That will just give them more room to make stuff up and talk about you. Tell them to quit being cowards and tell them to tell you how they really feel to your face.
Okay im like 12 and i have this boyfriend that we'll call danny, i wanna kiss him so bad but i don't wanna make the move. I want him to. What should i do? I really love him!
-wanna kiss
p.s.
i rate real good!
Ah well, maybe not make THE FIRST MOVE, but give him signs that you want to kiss him... flirt with him and then hopefully he'll get the Idea and go for it!
HeY! Besides taking Midol or asprin, what a good way to realive or get rid of cramps?! ThAnKs!! I really need the advice! =)
Alright, take Naperson... Ask your mom about it.. I think it's a prescription unfortunatlly, but if they're that bad, Naperson will relieve your cramps NO MATTER WHAT. It's like my best friend when I get cramps..
okay well here it goes ... well i went to the fair w/ a few friends -n- we were in line for the zipper -n- some girl behind us, she looked about 17-18, started talking to us and well she asked me if i played softball and i said i did and then she asked me my name and i told her...and then she goes well do you know who i am and i said no and she held out her hand for me to shake it and said "well i'm your sister, crystal" and it kinda scared me cus i haven't seen her in 8 yrs., she gave me her number but i don't know if i should call her b/c i'm scared to get to know her b.c we are half sisters and she knows my dad and i don't...so wut do i do????? PLZ HELP!!
By all means, CALL HER! Let your mom know what's going on first. Obviously your sister wants to see you! I don't know my father, nor have I seen my half sister in over 12 years, this oppurtunity won't come around again! You will definatly regret it if you don't... you can get to explore a whole new family that you've never met... she's your blood, definatly call her, don't let something this awesome and special pass you by!
hey. i have no friends becuz my x best friend got the whole elementry school on me becuz i talked to her boyfriend on the phone becuz i asked him wut the homework was. i have no life. wut should i do?
You're quite young. But we all had boyfriends even in Elementary school, or most of us did. But listen, you should tell her that you're only in ELEMENTARY, and that if she's a true friend she wouldn't let a GUY especially at the age you're at, get in the way of ya'lls friendship. And not everyone can hate you in that school... if you're in 4th, or 5th grade, then elementary is almost over for you... and jr. high will soon begin.. there you will make more friends, true freinds hopefully. And ALSO, if this is your first time you've had ppl turn on you, BELEIVE ME... it will pass, ppl wil forget...
OK, im just gonna get to the point so that i dont take forever. i personaly, think that im fat and ugly, and i get made fun of alot, which sucks. i really try not to eat alot and exercise, but then i just like keep eating or dont exercise. im outa shape and in no sports. i mean i like some sports but i suck at them and outa shape. i wanna be in sports but ^^. so idk wut to about this whole situation. i mean im 12 and about 5' and like 105.....it may not sound like a lot, but i am truly fat. ok well thkx, hopefully you can answer this asap! thkx
~sad~
Well, one, you're in regular condition for your age! Babe I don't know who's making you think you're overweight but you're not I gaurentee you. BUT, if you want to do something about it, then first. Anwser me back... which sports do you like? And... are you a male or female? Listen, if you're not good at those sports that you like... you're still young, 12, that's when sports in school's are just beginning for you. Try to stick with one sport, the first one that comes in your mind and sticks out the most. But try and let it be a sport where you could get a substancial excersize amount. Like my personal favorite, Basketball... It will definatly whip you into shape. Or even if you don'twant to work at that level, if you're a guy, baseball, or a girl, softball. It really doesn't matter, whatever sport you think you would like to play best. Then, after you decide which sport is right for you, you MUST STAY COMMITED. Try and get some friends to play with you. And don't listen to those people that make fun of you. They don't realize the hurt they're causing, but just keep in mind that one day they will get revenge on them for doing such cruel things to people. And i'm not saying that you should be the one to do that by any means. If you want to "get back at them", do it by prooving them wrong... What you want to do is going to take hard work and determination. Sports are definatly a good way to get excersize. And really, you should ask a friend, a close one, to help you out. Having friends is always the best way to get something accomplished, if you have someone to have your back, you can get much further in what you want to do.