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you can email me: xasktiffany@yahoo.comI like dancing, music, Jake Gyllenhaal, t-shirts, comedy, summer nights, funny movies, and photography.
I hate perfectionists, although I can be one, people who edit their pictures with peace signs and dumb quotes, and flies.
I like giving advice. I don't know if I'm any good at it. Nobody has told me either way.
Ask me whatever, I'll do what I can to help you out.
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ok ivebeen dating my bf for 8 months and his b-days commin up he's gonna be 17 years old and i dont have any idea hwat to get him! he isnt interested in anything really used to be in sports but doesnt want anything to do with sports he doesnt do much because his world is me pretty much not because i force it just because we are in love and im the only thing he cares much about.
what would you get your boyfriend and what do you think i should get him?
give as many ideas as possible
You can make him a collage of pictures of you and him and his friends.
Get him a picture of the two of you and frame it
Bake him his favorite cookies.
Take him out to dinner.
Ask him what he wants.
xxtiffany
hi, okay well my problem is about confidence. now everyone tells me without confidence, youre nothing. so i try to convince myself 24/7 to just be confident and comfortable. my main problem- no one ever asks me to be their girlfriend. ive basically never had a boyfriend before. now all of my friends tell me im so pretty, and i guess you could say i fit in with mostly everyone, and im pretty populaur. but if im so pretty, that why doesnt any guys ask me out? i mean everyday at school, atleast one person A DAY that comes up to me, says im so pretty. my bestfriend always gets guys asking her out, so being around everyone who always gets asked out, right infront of my face, kills me. it really sucks to feel like somethings wrong with myself. but my bestfriend also acts a little slutty. now dont think shes a slut, because shes not, shes just a "flirty person." so i thought that maybe if i was a little bit more flirty too, guys would consider me. well that hasnt worked, and now im just starting to realize thats not the kind of person i want to be. so im myself, and thats that. but i just dont get why there are no guys who ever like me.
i dont know what more to say.
please help,
thanks for reading.
First of all, you need to calm down.
Your main problem is really trivial, its almost shallow that that is your main problem when teens are suffering with anxiety, cutting, and teenage pregnancy.
I will be civil however and answer your question. Being pretty isn't everything. Sure, shallow guys go for the slutty girls with big boobs, it happens. Guys probably don't want to date you because they sense your insecurity, or you don't seem approachable. Forget about having a boyfriend. Be yourself and don't worry about what other people say.
xxtiffany
Please help. I'm 15 and I straighten my hair. I'm not gay at all! I just think it looks so much better when it's straight, and every morning I get up, take a shower, dry it, and straighten it. To do this I have get up at 5:00 every morning and I leave for school at 7:00. The problem I'm having is P.E. class. I'm good with sports, but every time I play it screws up my hair. I look really good with straight hair and I'm popular at my school, but now I have P.E. and every day my hair get reall messed up and curly. I've tried gelling it and spraying it, but no hair products seem to work. When I straighten my hair I don't just make it straighter, but I shape it and it looks really good.
I'm not gay at all. It's just when I started straightening my hair 2 years ago, I had so much more confidence knowing that I looked attractive. This year I'm at a new school, and I'm popular and girls like me.. but it's the 2nd semester now and so I have P.E. Every day my hair gets completly messed up and everyone wonders if I'm sick or something. Please anyone with any advice at all please help..
You say you have tried hairspray and gel?
That should hold it..but if it doesn't, I usually use Herbal Essences Dangerously straight finishing spray, and they also have shampoo and conditioner (dangerously straight)
It should help :)
xxtiffany
16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated.
If I were you, I would end the relationship. It sounds like he just wants your body, to put it gently. If you don't have anything to talk about, what fun is that? A relationship should be fun, not based around sexual acts (especially if you don't find them fun and you don't want to do them)
xxtiffany
Do you guys have any come backs to boys that say stuff like "If I could change the alphabet I would put U and I together" and then you say somthing like "I like it the way it is with a N and O." If anyone knows anything like this that would be much apreciated. Thanks.
If they use that "I and U" thing, come back with "If I could rearrange the alphabet, I would put F and U closer together" Haha. You could always just say "clever" or "How original" and act really unimpressed. Sometimes I come back with my own pick up line, the guy always laughs!
Try this:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/75785/witty_comebacks_to_pickup_lines_for.html
Google search "comebacks to pick up lines"
There are literally thousands of site to chose from.
Good luck
xxtiffany
i've been shaving *down there* for a while now, but a day afterwards i always get red bumps and occasionally i accidentally cut myself there and i always have to wait like three weeks before i can shave again because it isn't long enough.
...does anyone know how to wax?
does it hurt?
how often should you do it?
Sounds kind of weird, but after you shave, try putting a little baby powder down there, on the part you shaved. It helps to keep the area less irritated
Hope this helps
xxtiffany
I need a padded/pushup bra, for A cup, or a very small B cup, for under $20, and not online, in a store. Any suggestions?
Try walmart, target, or kohls?
American eagle has some too.
xxtiffany
hi i have a little problem and need some help on figuring it out. ok, so apparently i have a "big" nose. like its not wide at all. its thin and long and sorta pointy...i always get REALLY self concious of it idk i wish i could just not care about it and tell ppl "oh yeahh i have a big nosee and blah blah blah" ... is having a big nose make you ugly? do boys find it unnattractive? how should i act like i dont care and that it doesn't bother me??? please give me some advice =)
Everybody has something they hate about their body. The most popular girl in school, who seems flawless to you, has something she hates about her body.
I hate my nose too, and my height, and my long legs. Chances are, your nose isn't half as bad as you think. People probably don't even notice, and even if someone does, just laugh it off, cause they are self conscious about themselves. Haha, sounds stupid but its true. Try to improve your self confidence by flaunting what you think is your best quality. I use my personality, and to me thats the most important thing. Don't worry about your nose.
xxtiffany
okay, i know some people have sex with there dogs (which i think is pretty gross) but my friend does and and was wondering if you could get preagnant from it. i'm like ewww, but she didn't know where she could ask, so i'm trying to find an answer for her.
What she's doing is illegal, tell her to STOP NOW.
and no, she can't get pregnant
xxtiffany
I'm looking to buy a new digital camera. I really like photography, so I would like one that I can use for different things, and also takes good pictures. I am on a budget, so my question is what are some good cameras I can buy for around $200?
I love my camera.
I wish it could do some other things, but it takes B&W, sepia, and a TON of other color filter options. Its a really good camera, too. Canons are supposed to be one of the best.
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5623012
Good luck!
xxtiffany
im 16 and im pregnant with my boyfriends baby.
i need a lot of help.
im NOT getting an abortion so thats out of the question, even if my boyfriend left me.
heres my backround information.
THIS WAS NOT A MISTAKE. I WANTED TO BE PREGNANT! my birthdays in early december, im a softmore, im currently living with my mother (hoping to move in with my dad) *parents are devorcing*, i have a dog that i will not leave without, i DONT have a car or licance YET, i come from an above middle class family, im a varsity cheerleader for my high school and i LOVE it, my moms sister had a child at 16 so my mom is always warning me not to, im a only child, and lastly, my parents are TOTALLY over protective.
here are the things i need advice on...
-how to i tell my mom
-how do i tell my dad
-am i too young for a house/apt. with my boyfriend (same age)
-how will i finish high school/ go on to collage
-should i start work/get a job
-what do i do about cheerleading. do i have to quit
-what should i do with the child while in school
-could i get home schooled for part of the pregnancy
-how can i hide the bigness
-how where do i plan everything
-how do i get parents support
-how do i get friends to understand
-how will friends throw baby shower
-how hide it from friends parents
-will parents but baby stuff or make me pay for it
-any other things that i need to know.
-if its a girl/boy
-baby names
although this not a "planned" preg. its not like it was like one day, OH IM PREGNANT. we decided this. and its a big responcibility but i feel we can handle it. please, i need as much help from anyone and everyone including boys, and girl, other teenage mothers, and older mothers. anyone who can help me. it would be greatly appriciated. thank you.
THANK YOU, for NOT having an abortion :)
1. You need to tell your parents calmly. They might yell, they might scream, but they can't change what happened.
2. Yes, you are too young for an apt. I believe you need to be 18
3. You can finish high school by asking your parents to help you raise the baby. If they refuse to help you or kick you out, you might have a problem with this one. You might have to get a job and find a place to live.
4. Bye-bye cheerleading.
5. Oddly enough, babies aren't allowed in school. Leave it home with your parents or your boyfriends parents.
6. You can't hide the "bigness"
7. You need to get support from your mother to help you plan everything. You can't take on such a big responsibility even though you think you can.
8. You should know that you really aren't ready for a baby. You should have answered all of these questions before you and your boyfriend decided to get pregnant. However, whats done is done. You can't change the fact that you will now be responsible to raise a child and send it off into the world. Seeing as you have "over protective parents" I am sure they will want to be with you every step of the way and offer support by taking care if it while you are in school and buying it things it needs.
as for names: www.babynames.com
xxtiffany
I've been hurt many times in relationships and I've lost trust in guys. I became one of those girls who led guys on and dropped them, made plans I didn't intend on keeping and said things I didn't mean. I did that even to guys I liked. Now I'm changing things but the weird thing is I'm realizing I'm really into this guy i screwed over manyyy times. He isn't the best guys, he smokes ALOT, skips class, and drinks but for some reason I keep falling for him. He was one of the guys I actually did like but I made plans and didn't follow through 5 different times so hes pretty much lost all trust in me. I don't really know what to do because I don't want to want him but I can't help it. Well he ended up being at this party I was at and we talked and I appologized and he was being really sweet and cute. He tried to hook up with me and I didn't because my friend was already mad at me cause she says I was dancing like a whore so that probably didn't help things, turning him down. Me and him are friends but part of me really wants more. Everyone says I can do better than him but theres something about him that I can't let go of. For some reason even though he isn't the best guy and he isn't very attractive i feel like I can trust him. I don't know if I should go for him and work my ass off to try and get him or I should just try and move on (which hasn't been working.)
Just tell him how you feel.
You'll feel scared, but if you never tell him you'll regret it later in life
xxtiffany
Im 15yrs old female.hes 16 yrs old.
i hav a best guy friend were really close and i wanted to know how can i tell if were just freinds or not.we flirt alot but he says he doesnt want to be in a relationship.he told me last week that he knows so muc about me that it seems like im his girl.but it was over a text so i didnt really know what his emotion was at the time.he asked me onto go to the movies yesterday but my mom said i couldnt go.he never mentioned the word date tho.but weve talked about if we were in a relationship before and he says it might b a good idea.we fight alot but makeup and laugh about it after.i really dont know how this is gonna end or whats gonna happen.
Ask him if he wants to hang out again sometime.
Tell him how you really feel about him. If he knows you really like him, maybe he will be ready for a relationship.
xxtiffany
16/M
I need some ideas on what to get my girlfriend for Valentine's Day. She likes cute, corny, romantic , or funny things. Budget is around $25-$50, any ideas are appreciated.
Thanks.
Make a CD of her favorite songs.
Buy her cute, cheap jewelry.
A teddy bear.
Flowers or candy.
A picture of both of you, in a cute frame.
Take her out to dinner.
xxtiffany
female. age 13.
one of my best friends ever is getting really depressed. and he wont tell me why. all i know is that it's about a person and a place. i really wanna know what's wrong. but he wont tell me.
and i respect his privacy. but everytime i talk to him he sounds all depressed. and it kills me inside to see him hurt. and i have alot of my other friends going through depression. it doesnt help that im getting a razor tomorrow. so i can cut.. again, the bottom line is. i need to know how to figure out how to find out what's wrong, i wanna be there for him. but i cant help him if i dont know what's the matter. i need help on how to find out how to figure out what's wrong. and i really wanna know if i like him as more than a friend. even though we're friends with benefits. i mean. please. tell me how to find out. PLEASE.
Before you help him, you need to help yourself.
Stop cutting. Get help, fast.
I know this will get a low rating, but it will be so much easier to help him if you are stable yourself.
xxtiffany
14/f
I'm going to be doing some waitressing soon. I've worked with the company before so I know that we have to dress all black.
It's a catering company so does all different jobs, but I know that the one we're doing is going to be quite glamourous, with a lot of people.
I'm not sure what to wear. How do I do my hair and makeup?
What about jewellery and shoes? I'm one of the youngest waitresses and very short as it is, so heels would make me look taller, but I can also be quite clumsy and I don't want to drop things.
What do you think?
x
Start off by wearing flats, especially if you are clumsy in heels. Dress nicely, but not overly formal. Wear natural looking makeup. The only jewelry I would wear is earrings, nothing too fancy. You aren't a guest at the event, you are just serving the people there. Look nice, simple clean makeup, little or no jewelry. You can always ask someone you are working with what they will be wearing.
xxtiffany
I am looking for a job, im 14...i am very good when i work in groups or with my hands i am VERY creative, but i am shy...and i know if i do get a job that i'll have to do the interview thing...is there any kinda "walk-on" job that pays decently well..(for a 14 yr old)
-thanks
Why not get an interview?
It prepares you for someday when you will have to get an interview, helps your public speaking, and it will help you increase social skill and charisma.
Not many places are willing to hire 14 year olds, most places look for 15 or 16 year olds.
You can try babysitting, which is the only "walk on" job there really is. No job will just hire you right off the bat. They want to get to know you. Just relax and be yourself.
xxtiffany
For my birthday in about 3 weeks my mom & her sister ( my aunt) are bringing me and two of my friends to the city for my birthday. I've been there a couple times and absolutly love it. I need some ideas of places to go, (no plays or comedy acts please, we dont have time even though id love to) But if you're from the city or go there often and know good places to eat or visit ,please share them with me. Resteraunts, Stores?
I'm already deffinetly planning on going to Sephora, Lacoste, TRL store, Times Square
Please give me the name & address if you can.
Maybe a website too?
Thank you.
Look for Alice's restaurant. It is a really cute little restaurant thats like Alice in Wonderland themed, but not really. They have tea and scones and things like that, so it wouldn't be a whole meal, but its a really fun place to go to
xxtiffany
high fashion like the kinds i see in teenvogue. i dont get it.. i love fashion but i cant afford like friggen 150 dollars for jeans, or 60 bucks for a shirt. why are they so expensive? its unnecesary since the materials used to make them shouldn't be that pricey. i mean i bet the designers would sell more if they'd lower their prices to reasonable.. and from 120 to 60 dollars isnt THAT reasonable. where are some cool stores i can go shop at that arent as pricey? i wanna get some new spring-ish clothes. i hear florals & other bright colors will be in, according to teenvogue? and i dont wanna hear from this advice about like following my own idea because i do, but from magazines i find ideas for clothing i never thought of but i still like. btw, 14/f. :) thanks.
Try Forever21.com
or ae.com
xxtiffany
16/F. I'm not ugly or anything, but in my group of friends, I FEEL like the ugly one. They're all so gorgeous! Boys constantly give them attention because theyre hot, cute, pretty, or beautiful. I don't get much boy attention because I am just blah. Here are my pictures:
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2pobfr4&s=3
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=351c10o&s=3
Tips, please!
Are you serious? You are SO GORGEOUS!
Maybe you just have a lack of confidence. See, I was in a similar situation. All of my friends looked like supermodels, and I felt really awkward because I am very tall among a bunch of short cute girls. I finally told one of the girls, and she was so shocked. She told me how she was jealous of how gorgeous I was. She told me to look at myself in the mirror everyday and tell myself I was beautiful and say one great thing about myself. It sounds REALLY STUPID, but it really does help. Haha. Guys think that confidence is really important in a girl, I've asked..hahaha.
You can try out new styles by switching up your wardrobe. Don't wear jeans and t-shirts all the time, try skirts and nice shirts. I'm being really hypocritical, cause I wear jeans all the time. Haha. Also, wear makeup to accentuate your natural beauty. Don't load on the concealer and 10 pounds of mascara and eye shadow. Wear cute perfumes and stuff like that. Hope I helped!
xxtiffany