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he's depressed.
female. age 13.
one of my best friends ever is getting really depressed. and he wont tell me why. all i know is that it's about a person and a place. i really wanna know what's wrong. but he wont tell me.
and i respect his privacy. but everytime i talk to him he sounds all depressed. and it kills me inside to see him hurt. and i have alot of my other friends going through depression. it doesnt help that im getting a razor tomorrow. so i can cut.. again, the bottom line is. i need to know how to figure out how to find out what's wrong, i wanna be there for him. but i cant help him if i dont know what's the matter. i need help on how to find out how to figure out what's wrong. and i really wanna know if i like him as more than a friend. even though we're friends with benefits. i mean. please. tell me how to find out. PLEASE.
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I understand what you're going through. My best guy friend is depressed. We talk about it and sometimes it is hard. He doesn't always want to talk, and that is what you're friend does. Maybe he isn't ready yet. You just need to be there for him. Let him know that you care a lot and when he's ready you'll listen, but don't push him to tell you anything if he's not ready. Just make sure that when he does talk, you're listening. Now, about yourself. Don't cut my dear. The last thing your friend needs right now is you losing your mind. Be stable for him. You have to try to be positive around him and when he's depressed, try talking about fun things, or things he is interested in. Do fun things with him. I like to have my friend come over a lot and we'll watch movies and take funny pictures... just stuff to take his mind off of his problems and show him that you can have fun and not everything in life is bad. Hope I helped. I can tell you anything else you want to know if you message me. :)
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ok. First off, don't cut. Trust me. Things will not be pretty in the future if you do. Counciling, weird looks from friends & family, and all that other crap will come from it. Do NOT do it.
As for your friend: give him some time to himself, at the most a week. Ask how he's feeling after that period of time. If he still doesn't spill what's up, try to tell him that he is one of your closest friends, and you are concerned about him. You just wanna see if you can do anything for him. Don't try any relationship stuff until everything is all worked out. And if nothing above works, slip an anonymous note to a teacher or adult. Depression is serious stuff and should be resolved quickly. Just make sure if u do give the note, make sure no one knows its from u or sees it. I hope this works, and best of luck to you.
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Before you help him, you need to help yourself.
Stop cutting. Get help, fast.
I know this will get a low rating, but it will be so much easier to help him if you are stable yourself.
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