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advice

Aright well just 3 weeks ago...my b/f broke up wit me cuz he thought that i cheated on him, when he was the one that slept with sum chic that he met ova the net...so basically he's blaming everythin on me! So anyway...ever since he broke up with me ive been kinda wantin to go bak out with him, but i kno that if i do all he's goin to do is hurt me again! I mean i guess i still kinda love him in a way...but i hate him at the same time,cuz of all the pain that he has put me through...i don't even talk to him anymore! so like i said before i wanna go bak out with him but then again i don't! Please sumome help me!

Thanx,
lost and confused!

I think that's something you need to decide your self there isn't really any tips I can give you but my own personal opinion which is that you don't need to risk getting hurt again by going out with him again.
I mean cheating is bad but cheating with someone he met over the internet is even worse in my opinion.
I think you should try your best to get over him and find someone better. You were the one that was faithful to him therefore you deserve someone better than that.
Everytime you find your self missing him you should think about what he did to you and tell your self you deserve better than that.
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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Hi, can you give me any flirting advice for SHY people? Because i really like this boy (people have told me he likes me too but I don't know). It's just that when he looks at me I immediately look down in case he sees me blushing or looking at him, and when he touched my foot under the table I pulled it away. I wanted to keep doing it, but I dunno, I just got nervous I guess. Help please? Thank-you xo

There isn't really any tips for stuff like that you need to conquer it your self in your own way.
Everytime he looks tell your self you need to look back. Don't let your self put your head down but don't exactly stop and stare.
If he touches your foot under the table again look at him and smile.
I know it's hard conquering your shyness because I'm VERY shy too and it's really hard for me to communicate with anyone I don't know and feel comfortable around.
You just need to try your best to get over it and realise that if you don't you're never going to have a chance with this guy because he's never going to know that you like him.
Good luck
♥Em

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i have been seeing someone on /off for the last ten years . recently moved out because the depts are way to much for me, i know he cheats on me so why do i feel like i cant move on???

I'm sorry to hear that but you need to focus on some things when you feel you miss him.
1) Remember what he did to you and what he put you through
2) Think again about what he did and tell your self you deserve much better than to be treated like that
3) Tell your self you want and deserve a better man and belive it.

Just keep going over that especially the first one. Eventually you'll realise you don't need him to survive and you need to show the world that.
Good luck, hun
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hey! okay, today i went tanning for the frist time. i went in a medium ed for 10 minutes, and used the special lotion they give you. i came home tonight, more than 6 hours later, and took a shower. just one certain spot on me is red, actually 2. it's normally where i get sunburn. could i have possibly gotten sunburn , or is it like an allergic reaction to the lotion? i don't think it's the lotion, since wouldn't i have gotten taht all over my body? just wondering if it is sunburn how can i prevent it next time and put anything on it to make it go away? thanks!

It doesn't sound like an allergic reaction. It could just be a burn.
I don't know if you've ever had sunburn before but if you have you should know how it feels, right?
If it doesn't feel how it normally does then you should go to a pharmacy if you don't really want to go to a doctor.
If you go to a pharmacy you could show them where one of the red patches is and see what they make of it then they could give you aftersun or whatever lotion if it's an allergic reaction.
♥Em

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Do you really live in Spain? I saw your advice column when I was looking at some questions and answers. I've been to Europe(Italy,France,Austria,Germany,Switzerland), but never England or Spain.

Yup =) I'm originaly from England but I moved to Spain when I was 5.

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My husband seems to always have another female in his life..if its just a friend or an ex. he has a cell phone that he talks to her on alot.. they use to call the house..but it bothered me..so i said somethng bout it..now they call his cell. I mentioned to him that i noticed he always seemed to have to have another woman in his life..he tells me that i dont want him to have friends..but i told him i didnt care if he had "friends" just this girl thing is disrespectful i think. he told me that she was his best friend and there is nothing i can do about it..she disappears bout 2yrs ago ..all of a sudden she is in a bad relationship and pops back in..am i wrong for having a problem with this..is it right for him to have the hidden conversations..please let me know..relationship in jeopardy..

I don't think it's right of him to have hidden conversations if he's not hiding anything.
You should sit him down and talk to him and tell him that if he really cares about you he'd tell you the truth ask him why he's having these conversations in private because if there's nothing to hide then you shouldn't don't mind him having conversations with her infront of you. Relationships are based on trust and honesty as well as other things as you probably already know so just tell him that you'd hate to see your relationship get shattered over something you don't know about but have the feeling you need to know about. I hope he understands.
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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i can talk to guys fine in person i just sound so stupid on the phone i need some pointers on how to like start in depht conversations oh im 13 female

Just don't worry about it and don't be stressing over it or anything just talk about basics like how his day was or something.
Whatever comes in to your mind whether it's cracking jokes or asking questions.
Good luck
♥Em

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My girlfriend and I have been going out for 9 months, and its the first time I've loved anyone. Yesterday we were talking about looks and why it does/doesn't matter in a realtionship. She told me she wasint that physically attracted to me but my personality was enough. I didn't know how to react, I just smiled. She basically told me I was ugly and I dont know what to do. It sucks because I love her so much and I feel so low right now. I dont know what to do/what to think/ etc.

-17/male

If you're that worried about it you should ask her what she meant. It might not be what you think it was. She might've meant to say she's not attracted psysically as much as she is personality wise.
Personally, I don't think you should worry it sounds like you both love each other and at the end of the day that's all that matters but if you're that worried you should definatly talk to her about it and tell her that it's been worrying you.
Good luck
♥Em

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i like a guy who is a year older than me. He's amazingly cute and a lot of girls like him. at the beginning of this year we saw each other at these student forum meetings at school and he always came and sat by me and talked and smiled-i could tell he liked me so at the homecoming dance i asked him to dance and it was great- at school we usually just say hi and smile in a flirtacious way during passing periods-but lately we don't say anything and i don't think he likes me anymore-how do i get his attention and get him to like me again?

See if you can catch him in a passing period and ask him if he's okay and/or if you did anything wrong seeing as he's not smiling nor saying hey to you anymore.
♥Em

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My boyfriend, Linds, and I have been together for about a year and half. Well, I still like him and want to be with him. But, there's a problem. There's a guy in my Physics class that I tend to flirt with ALOT and he flirts back. I know that I don't like this guy; I'm just extremely attracted to his looks. He's not a bad guy or anything, he's actually pretty sweet and nice but Linds is so much more than that (hott too! :D). I always tell myself that I'm not going to flirt with him before class but of course I do.


Well, this past weekend, we were at the same party that Linds wasn't at and we almost kissed. I stopped myself and I'm glad I did. I don't know how to stop this and I don't want to ruin such a good thing with Linds. I have no idea what to do. I try to stay away from him but it never works. Any help with this situation is really appreciated, thanks.

17/f

You could just try to stay away from him because it sounds like you and Linds have a great relationship and it'd be a bitch to ruin that.
If you don't want to stay away from him or can't explain to him that you need to stop flirting with him and he needs to stop encouraging you by flirting too.
Good luck.
♥Em

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K so I have a friend that is here(where i live) on weekends and I also have another friend that is here 24-7 and of coure there is me! So my friend that lives here all the time is really mean to my other friend! None of us go to the same school so it's also really hard to have a talk with all of us together. We fight A LOT and talk behind eachothers backs! It's HORRIBLE!!! I think befoe we know it none of us will be friends at all! What am I supposed to do to make this friendship work?

I think you all should get together and tell each other what you don't like about the other person and have the other person work on it.
I used to do that with my friends and unless we did it like all the time like every week it would work out fine.
For example me and you are friends and we sit down and do this thing and I tell you I don't like the way you always think you're right (it's an example lmao) so then you have to work on realizing that you're not the only person that's right all the time and vice versa.
Hope I helped =]
♥Em

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My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)

Okay first you need to stay away from this girl. She sounds like a right bitch and you definatly don't need her around you.
Next you could tell the other people that are starting to hang around with her that she'll start screwing them over anytime soon and that she'll start bullshitting about them. If they refuse to belive you just let them get on with it and tell them not to say you didnt warn them when it all starts going wrong.
Good luck
♥Em

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This guy seemed to like me for a while and so i made a move by subtlely flirting with him. thing is-i ended up falling head over heals for him. everytime i'd see him...my friends would make a really big deal-almost everyone knew i liked him...but after that he started to stop smiling the way he did...and now we don't talk or wave or smile...what happened?

Wow, that's kind of weird.
I'm not sure what happend but he could've gotten sick of people making a big deal out of when he saw you and stuff (if he even knew) or he could've got sick of waiting to see if you actually liked him.
I think you should try talking to him and ask him if there's anything wrong and/or if you did anything wrong.
♥Em

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First of all, me and this guy have been best friends for 4 years and have hooked up once. When I first met him, he had a g/f but that only lasted a month, and now he is back with her and they have been together for 4 months. Then me and him are together, we get along so good and I really like him. I think he feels the same way about me too because of how he looks at me at times and how when he talks to me and gentely rest his hand on my when he talks. Its burning me up inside because of how I feel about him and he has a g/f. I wanted your advice whether I should tell him how I feel. But I'm affraid that it might ruin our friendship if I do and he will feel akwared about being around me after. What should I do, just wait and see how things go with them or tell him how I feel and may lose his friendship because of it? I dunno what I should do. I think his relationship now is going pretty good and getting serious.

You should wait a week or two before talking to him about it see how things go because you could be mixing up the signs. I used to think a guy was for me when he used to rest is hand on mine and look at me right in the eyes really deeply and stuff and turns out I was very wrong.
After waiting for a bit tell him how you feel but letting him know that if he doesn't feel anything for you you still want to be friends and you don't want him to feel weird around you and let him know (even if it's not true) that you don't want to ruin his relationship with the other girl but you had to get it out of your system because it was bugging you and you had to let him know.
Best'a luck, hun.
♥Em

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well on friday night i went to the movie with my best friend and we saw a scary movie, and well i was like leaning up against him and i would always hide my face in his hood whenever i got scared, and well his mom picked us up afterwards, just me and him, but we went with like 10 other people, like 5 girls, 5 guys, but they were going out and we werent, only 2 other people werent, so i walked inside and my dad was like, so which one was your date? and he was like hastling me all night. and then i went over to my best friends house on saturday and he told me that his mom was doing the same thing, and then she took us to the movies again that night, but this time it was just me and him, and she was like, "you know i think you guys should consider it because your really cute together" and personally i think so too because we both have brown hair and he's a tiny bit taller than me, and well i didnt say anything, but anyway we saw another scary movie, and i dont know how it happened but we ended up kissing? and my brother was there and he saw it and he got us a ride with his date's parents so while we were in the car his date was like, aw guys come on i swear you two are so cute together. well we didnt think anything of it. but yesterday i went bowling with my brother and we had to take our baby cousin so our other cousin who's our age went too, and my best friend called me and he asked me if i could hang out and i told him what i was doing, but my brother was like, "no you should go hang out with your boyfriend" and my best friend heard it, so he asked me out today, and in school we were hugging and we got in trouble?? but anyway i'm REALLY afraid we're gonna break up, i mean, he tells me he cares about me and he loves me and his mom has always liked me, but i dont know im really scared our friendship wont last. do you have any tips how i can get over this??

sorry its so long.

That's so sweet & congrats on getting together with him.
Anyway, I think you should try talking to him about it telling him about how scared you are that you guys are going to break up and that it's going to later ruin your friendship. There's really no other way you can sort this out. It takes two for a friendship and a relationship so you both need to work on it together.
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do??

I'm so sorry to hear that.
You could try doing something to take your mind off it for a bit, I know it's easyer said than done but getting over someones death is a hard and sometimes very slow process.
Eventually you will get over it just think, your ex boyfriends brother wouldn't want you to be sad, would he?
Just think positive thoughts and stuff.
Good luck, sweetie.
♥Em

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ok, im 15/f and i think i like one of my really good guy friends. he flirts with me all the time in math or atleast it seems like he does..one of my really good friends cant believe i like him..what do i do cause i dont know if i can talk myself out of liking him like i do a lot. please help!!

You could tell him how you feel which I know is easier said than done because admitting your feelings to someone can be hard and it takes guts but it's worth it in the end knowing whether the guy likes you or not.
If you don't want to do that you could just ask him out and you guys could go on a 'friendly' date to the movies and if something happens it happens.
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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well i guess i have been sort of seeing this guy for the past like month or so but we arent bf and gf. im 17 hes 20 if that matters...anyways he usually texts me while im in school and picks me up and we hang out every monday and we also hang out on like friday and other days too but the point is every monday i believe since i met him we have hung out well todaii he didnt call me or text me or anything so im not quite sure.. the last time we hung out was on friday and he didnt act any different and what not but im confused on why he didnt call me today maybi he wanted to see if i would call him ? so basically my question is do u think he still wants to keep hanging out and maybi he didnt call cuz hes busy and should i call i him even tho its too late to hang out today?

The only person that can answer the question 'does he still want to hang out with me' is him. You have to call him. Even if he's aim wasn't to see if you would call it doesn't hurt to actually call and see if he's okay or what held him up. He might've been busy and you're jumping to conclusions straight away. Just call him ask him if there's anything up since he didn't come to see you or anything.
Good Luck, hun.
♥Em

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Im 15 and still havent.."madeout" w/ a guy..is that bad?

Of course it's not bad.
There's no 'age limit' as to when you should've made out with a guy. Don't rush in to things do it when you're ready.
♥Em

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Okay well last night I had my bf over and we got sexual.. Well to get to the point we wern't gonna have sex so we just fooled around.. Well he came(spelling error lol) and he was down there when he did it.. He made me go in the bathroom to check if ne got in but I dont know.. I dont know what to do. and I dont want to tell him I am scared. I am a 14/f

It's not likely that you're pregnant but there is a possibility.
A pregnancy test would be a good idea.
♥Em

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