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Are there any fans of Cynthia Rhodes?(Dirty Dancing,Flashdance,Runaway,The Curse of the Crystal eye,etc)I'm her biggest fan ever and I would like to know how to communicate with her,I don't know,anything,I need her to know that I'm her biggest fan and that I would just love her to come back to work one day,thanks for taking the time to read this. (link)
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According to what I've seen online about her (and I assume you've seen the same information), she is currently married to singer/songwriter Richard Marx and being a stay-at-home mom to their children. She has no official website and I don't find any current fan websites either. I think it's safe to say that she wishes to remain out of the spotlight for the time being, probably for the sake of her kids.
You might be able to get a letter to her by going through a fan club for Richard Marx, but I wouldn't count on her coming out of retirement anytime soon. Look at it this way - if she wanted to, she could have a spot on "Dancing with the Stars" in a heartbeat. She's likely staying out of the public eye because she'd rather have privacy than fame at this point in her life.
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how to judge a girl if she is virgin (link)
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I assume you're asking how you know if she's a virgin or not.
The answer is simple: she tells you, if it's any of your business, and you believe her. If you don't believe her, then there's no point in asking.
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How do I wipe out my laptop if I don't have a recovery disk? Is there somewhere I can take it to or buy something to wipe it out? (link)
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If you're taking about wiping the laptop completely clean and re-installing the OS from scratch, then this will definitely, 100% certainly remove any and all viruses. The virus that can live through a wipe & reload of the hard drive has yet to be invented.
HOWEVER, there are some things to keep in mind about this:
(1) You will need a disc from which you can reload the OS. If your computer did not come with this disc, you can still usually get one as long as your OS is legitimately licensed. Assuming it's Windows, if the computer came with it pre-installed, then you're OK. Contact Microsoft, have your licensing information handy (it's usually on a blue/green sticker on the machine itself) and tell them you need an OS disc. You might need to pay for it, but it should only be about five bucks.
(2) You will probably want to save your data (BEFORE you wipe the hard drive, obviously!), and this is where it gets a little tricky, because certain types of files can harbor a virus. You should be OK with Office documents, music files, pictures, and almost all types of video, but you'll want to be wary of zipped archives and definitely anything with a .exe extension. If you're not careful, you may end up restoring the virus along with your files. Use recordable DVDs instead of a flashdrive if you have the option; DVDs tend to be a little more virus-resistant, because they have no hidden system files.
(3) Make sure you have the discs and any license keys needed to reload your software as well.
It is not hard to reload an operating system on a drive; you just have to be thorough and make sure you have all your ducks in a row before you do anything which you can't back out of. Microsoft's official website should be able to give you more information; do a search for "Reloading Windows".
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Which proxy server shall I use that will allow me to access google sites? (youtube, gmail) (link)
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That depends entirely on the nature of your internet connection and is not something which can be answered without knowing a great deal more about it.
If you are unable to access these sites, but ARE able to access others, then they are probably being blocked deliberately. Changing your proxy server is unlikely to make a difference; the network traffic must still come through the same local router, and the sites will still be blocked (unless whoever programmed the router is clueless).
If this is your home network and you have not set up such blocks, contact your internet service provider and troubleshoot with them.
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I AM SICK! in all aspects, i am sick!.. emotionally, physically, academically, spiritually, and [soon] mentally sick...
i have lived trying to convince myself that everything was alright. i've tried to be the coolest person that i can be despite of my problems... and thankfully, for the past years i have overcome the pains and thought that these Pains that i have overcome made me a stronger person... but then, this notion has changed TONIGHT... these pains are hittting me back ('with a vengeance' as they call it) as if i've thrown them on the wall and bounces back at me. and i can hardly bear all of them...
i got friends [i think] but i can't tell them what i am going through for it's too complicated and nobody even seems to care... they keep laughing when i get serious and eventually i'll find my self laughing with them. that secanrio makes me forget both the problem and my attempt of telling them. that's why laughing to problems is all i did to overcome them. but that's another wrong notion i have made... i've realized how it's not helping...
"Too Much, Too Soon" said a Green Day song... and yah, i'm soon to burst. so don't be shocked if one day you'll hear from people that I'M DEAD....
PS- i'm a guy who laughs it all but this is a serious matter...pls don't laugh...
PPS- i'm not being EMO! (link)
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It is possible that there is something genuinely wrong, but you're not going to be able to self-diagnose this.
Start by seeing a doctor. I guarantee he won't laugh when you describe what's going on. See if you can identify some specific symptoms to tell him about, such as: Where are these pains? What is the nature of them? Are you having trouble eating, sleeping? Do you feel tired most of the time? Are there triggers which make you feel sicker?
He may recommend a psychologist. This is not necessarily a suggestion that it's "all in your head", but simply an acknowledgement of the fact that many illnesses have a psychological component as well as a physical one. You may wish to see a psychologist even if the doctor doesn't mention it, for that reason.
When you speak with these medical professionals, do not make light of your situation or use humor to defuse it. You must be totally honest with doctors in order for them to do their job and help you.
You do not have to live this way, but you do need to be the one who takes the first step toward fixing it, because no one else seems to understand the depth of the problem.
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I was told to go to a website and enter my SS# to get my tax history or something to that sort. Where's the website that you enter a SS#?
-clueless. (link)
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Do NOT do this! There is a 99% chance that you are being set up for identity theft. It's called "Phishing".
I'm guessing that you received an E-mail or something directing you to a website where you can enter your social security number and get information. Neither the IRS nor any other legitimate agency would EVER ask you to do this. I'll say it again, because it's important: NO legitimate agency, bank, or company will ever request your personal information via E-mail.
If you want to get information about your tax history, credit report, or any other personal and confidential information, the way to do it is for YOU to approach THEM, not the other way around. Do not respond to E-mails or other offers to provide this information to you. Do not click on the links in these E-mails. And above all, do NOT enter personal information like your social security number into ANY website unless you know for an absolute fact that it is legitimate and trustworthy. The fake sites often look exactly like the real ones, so the only way you know if you've got the real thing is if you type in the address yourself.
If you want to do anything online involving the IRS, go to www.irs.gov. That is the one and only legitimate website for getting information about your federal taxes. If you want information about your state taxes, go to www.(whatever your state is).gov - where you go from there depends on your state, but it shouldn't be difficult to figure it out.
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I have a computer in my house that has internet, but won't download things and there's something wrong with it, so I can't hook up wireless wifi. I already tried. I tried using an ethernet cord but it didn't work either. Why isn't wifi working? (link)
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If the ethernet cord isn't working either, odds are it's not the computer; it's more likely to be the router, or the connection to the internet itself.
The instructions below are for Windows; I do not know how to troubleshoot a Mac.
With the cable plugged in, try this:
(1) Go to the Start Menu and click on Run. (if the Run command isn't there, right-click the Start Menu, bring up Properties, and search around in there until you find the option to display the Run command.)
(2) In the Run window enter the following: cmd
(3) Hit Enter. A black window should appear.
(4) Enter the following command: IPCONFIG
(5) Look at the IP address. The diagnosis can be determined by the first number -
If it shows no IP address, but instead says "Media Disconnected", then chances are you've got a bad cable.
If the IP address starts with 169, then there's something wrong with your router.
If it starts with 192, then enter one more command: PING www.yahoo.com
If you get no replies from the PING command, then your internet connection is the problem - call your service provider.
If you do get replies, then the problem is in Internet Explorer's settings. Go to Internet Options in the Control Panel, click the Connections tab, and run through the Wizard.
That's pretty much all I can tell you up front; to diagnose it further, I would have to know the results of the above, or I'd end up having to tell you twenty different things to do depending on what you see.
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Katie holmes says they are stalking and trying to scare her.evil and they expose personal business if you choose to leave their cult or not believe in them, they also kill people and make it look like an accident? Is it true they are evil? What do they really believe in? (link)
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If Scientology is not an evil religion, then there is probably no such thing.
The previous responder summed it up pretty well. It is a cult which was invented from scratch by its founder, L. Ron Hubbard, for the sole purpose of gaining himself wealth and power over those who joined. Their methods draw in those who are uncertain about their lives and desperately seeking answers, and from the moment they join, the stages one must progress through are specifically designed to alienate them from any support system they might have had and make them utterly dependent upon the cult. The cult also coddles and supports their celebrity members, knowing that they are crucial to the appeal of the cult to those who feel down about themselves.
The cult is known to visit horrors upon its members, particularly to children born into it who know nothing else. Look up "Aaron Saxton" on Google; he was a former member of Sea Org, which is essentially Scientology's secret police, and after he left the organization he gave many candid interviews about the crimes which he witnessed and, in some cases, committed. He speaks at great personal risk and puts himself into a very unflattering light, so there is little reason to doubt that what he says is true.
Even if all the negative publicity about Scientology is a lie, there is no denying the simply fraudulent nature of what they do. When one reads L. Ron Hubbard's writings with a critical eye, it is clear that it's all utter nonsense at best. At worst, it is an effective method of mind control and the source of horrible abuse against thousands and thousands of people.
Nearly all religions have their good points and bad points. Christianity, for example, has much in its history to be ashamed of, but has also been a source of comfort and relief to many. Scientology has NO good points - not one single beneficial quality. It represents the worst of what humankind can do to itself.
This is just my opinion, and I encourage you to seek out the facts and form your own opinion. But I believe that it IS an evil organization, and it is shameful that they have been allowed to grow and exist. There comes a point when religious freedom goes too far; the cult of Scientology is way, way beyond that point.
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Well my relationship has lasted like 8months, but during the 5th month we had many fights and break-ups. I had loved that boy and he says the same but i just dont feel it. We insulted ourselves in the end but got together as friends with benefits. He is always calling me names, stupid-dumb-bitch-etc and he says he is joking, also he is always calling me loser and he says out loud the things i hate most. No body of my family-friends likes him, so we are together hidden. My sister says is abusive mentally for him to say those "names" more then 5 times a day. Also when he gets mad at me just because i did something wrong he gets like sooooo angry, i get scared, he looks at me bad and say it's my fault even when it is not. He has never payed me anything i bought him food, tickets to a movie, and when im hungry and have no money he only buys food for himself and not for me. :( oh and his mom hates me to death...
I dont know what to do, it is so hard to move on, is he using me??? does he loves me?? should i stay away from him? :/ thanks (link)
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Yes, he's using you.
You are in an abusive relationship which you should end immediately. This boy is showing you no respect and it shows all the signs of getting worse, not better. The longer you stay in it, the more emotional damage you will suffer, and it will become progressively harder to leave.
There is nothing wrong with looking at a relationship and asking, "What's in this for me?" From the sound of it, the answer here would be, "Nothing." I can't think of any redeeming qualities this guy might have which would even halfway make up for what he puts you through.
When you break up with him, do it in a public place. He sounds like the sort of guy who might react badly to it, and you will want to minimize the chance that he will try to hurt you in retaliation for breaking up with him.
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I was raised catholic as a child but as I grew into an adult I became Unitarian. ( one who believes all )
I would like to wear religious jewelry but my question would it be wrong to wear all jewelry? Example; If I wore a jewish necklace and a bracelet with a cross etc. Is that misleading? I need opinions. I would like something to express myself... I understand they make UU jewelry but I wanted to know if it would make such a difference that way as well. (link)
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People will likely assume that you belong to whatever religion symbolized by the accessory they see first. If you've got a Star of David around your neck, and that's what they see first, they will assume not only that you are Jewish but that you are enthusiastic enough about it to advertise it to the world, and they probably won't even see the cross on your wrist. It's not exactly misleading to wear many different religious symbols, but it will be confusing to people; they'll either wonder why you can't make up your mind, or they will assume that you are wearing them with no consideration for their meaning, and that could be taken as offense.
If you wish to express your Unitarian beliefs, then I suggest something like a charm bracelet - that way, no one symbol will be portrayed as more important than any other, and it will demonstrate the unity and harmony of them all much more so than several separate pieces. Wearing the symbols separately would illustrate non-reconciliation of the various beliefs, which I understand to be contrary to Unitarian ideas.
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Hello! I just moved to a new town and I was looking for a new chiropractor but the only one listed in the phone book says they are a "Personal Injury Chiropractor" so... umm, what does that mean, exactly? Is it like a personal injury lawyer? Scammers? The Dr. version of an ambulance chaser? Any ideas? (link)
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For some reason, a while back, a lot of chiropractors started advertising their services as if they are a cure-all for all kinds of things from depression to cancer. It's all a fraud. Chiropractory is good for helping exactly ONE thing: spinal pain. And the jury's still out on how effective it is for that. Anything else that chiropractory seems to benefit is due to the placebo effect. This has been conclusively proven in numerous scientific double-blind tests.
A chiropractor is not a doctor; there is no licensing involved, no formalized training required, nothing. Anyone can put a sign on their door saying that they are a chiropractor. This is what makes the field so rich with fraud and deceitful practice. Certainly, there are some honest chiropractors out there, but there are also a lot of dishonest ones.
As for the "Personal Injury Chiropractor", one of the things about back injuries is that they are very difficult to disprove. A person can claim that they have hurt their back in an auto accident, and unlike most other kinds of injuries, a doctor cannot necessarily tell whether they are faking it; the cause of back pain can be totally undetectable. But, it helps in court to have someone confirm the injury, and that's where the Personal Injury Chiropractor comes in; he's a professional who can claim to be an expert and vouch for the reality of a back injury (even if it's not actually real, he can say it is and no one can prove him wrong).
My advice to you would be to go first to a medical doctor, preferably one who specializes in spinal issues and back pain, and then follow his advice. If you feel that you must go to a chiropractor, don't go to one who stresses the "personal injury" part; he's essentially an ambulance chaser, and his interest will lie in convincing you that you have a long-term back problem for which you will need many, many appointments' worth of "adjustments" - thereby paying for his vacation in Florida every year.
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My sister is 3 years younger than me and she hits me and pinches me and even bites me, I have scars from her and I have considered self harm as relief from the stress she gives me. She tells my Cousin (who is 5) to harm me and he does, I feel like I can't escape. I always end up with the blame and my parents don't notice or say they don't want to hear it, if she is hurting me and I hit her to defend myself she runs crying to my parents and I always get the blame, I want it to end but I feel like I can't escape, please help! (link)
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It is your parents' responsibility to protect their children, even from another child who is also theirs. Clearly, they are not taking your complaints to them seriously. You must therefore try one more time to make them see the situation for what it is.
Try approaching them not right after something happens, but during a calm moment - preferably a time when your sister will not be able to interrupt (when she's at a friend's house, perhaps). Try to keep your emotions in check as you explain the situation to them. Tell them that she is hurting you and that she is encouraging others to do so, and that she will not stop when you ask her to (I'm assuming that you've tried just asking her to stop - if not, then by all means do so!). You should tell them this as well: that you don't want to see your sister punished as much as you just want this problem to be solved. I can understand that you probably DO want to see her punished, but they might write that off as "sibling rivalry" or something. Telling them that you need their help to solve a problem should get them more engaged, and it puts you in a good light by showing that you're not the one trying to hurt someone; you're trying to put a stop to it.
If you have reason to think that one of your parents will be easier to talk to about it than the other, talk to that parent alone.
If they blow it off or don't take you seriously, then ask them flat out why they should think you are lying, and/or why they think it's not a big deal that someone is hurting you. That should put them on the spot and make them realize that this is a real problem.
If they point out that you've hit your sister too, admit that you have, and tell them that you understand that's wrong and that's why you need them to step in.
Finally, if they refuse to do anything, tell them that they're giving you no choice but to start hitting her back. They won't like hearing that, and they may punish you just for saying it, but you can point out that you're begging them for help and they won't give it to you, so you have no choice but to defend yourself. SAVE THIS FOR A LAST RESORT. If you start with this, or bring it up too soon, then your parents will assume that you are the instigator, not the victim, and that you're just looking for an excuse to hit your sister.
As for your cousin, the best way to handle that will be to see to it that your cousin likes you too much to want to hurt you. He's five years old and very impressionable; if someone is telling him to hurt you and then praising him when he does, then he will keep doing it. But a positive approach has more influence than a negative one. Be a good friend to your cousin, spend time with him doing what he likes to do, and praise him for what he does well. If he hits you at your sister's urging, put him on the spot and ask him why he wants to hurt you, why he thinks it's funny, and generally make him feel uncomfortable about it. If you play your cards right, he'll soon realize that you are a better person than your sister, and he won't want to hurt you anymore.
If everything fails - if your parents won't help, and your sister keeps hurting you, and there's nothing you can do - go to your school counselor about it (obviously, this will have to wait until school starts again). Tell the counselor everything, even the part about how you feel an urge to harm yourself. The counselor is required by law to take action if an abusive situation is brought to his/her attention. It would be best if it didn't come to this, though, so do give your parents one more chance to take action. If they won't, though, then you need to get someone on your side who will.
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what does it mean when a guy is hard ? (link)
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As mentioned below, the main cause of erection is being turned on sexually. However, that's not the ONLY cause. Especially during puberty, spontaneous erections can happen without any noticeable stimulus; they just happen. It's also common for most men to wake up with an erection ("morning wood"), which quickly goes down. Finally, for some reason, an erection will often occur when a man is asphyxiated; that is, choking to death.
But usually, it indicates sexual excitement.
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yesterday my friend told me a secret (shes 14/f and im 13/f) she said she watches porn. is that when people watch other people have sex? what does it mean when a girl watches that? should i let her keep watching it? (link)
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Well, it would probably be best if she didn't watch porn all that much. Porn is basically movies and pictures of people having sex, but the important thing to remember about it is that it's fantasy, not reality. Porn isn't about real sex any more than Indiana Jones is about archaeology. It's idealized, and choreographed, and heavily photoshopped - it is NOT realistic. Thinking that real sex is like porn is kind of like thinking that high school involves spontaneous song and dance numbers, just because High School Musical depicts it that way.
What it means that she watches it is that she's curious. Unfortunately, we live in a society where porn is the most readily available source of information about sex, even though it's distorted.
Insofar as whether you should let her keep watching it, there's probably not a great deal you could do to stop her. You could tell her parents, I suppose, but don't expect her to consider you a friend anymore after that. I suggest you let it slide. It's not the worst thing she could be doing.
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My parents are super religious, the kind of Christians who want to spread the word of God to the world, will willingly dedicate their whole life to God, believes in miracles and stuff like that.
The problem is I'm an atheist, so its pretty hard for me to cope with them because they'll be like "Why don't you just pray, you'll get through it" or "don't worry God is there for us"... It's really frustrating, and please don't verbally attack me about these things, I'm trying to get some advice.. (link)
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I am an atheist myself. I was fortunate enough to be raised by very open-minded parents, but even so, they seemed a little surprised and disappointed when I revealed to them that I was an atheist - and this was when I was 37 years old! Unfortunately, Atheism has a much-undeserved stigma attached to it, and too many people still equate it with "sociopath". So, don't expect your parents to take it well if you tell them.
My first piece of advice would be to NOT tell them as long as you're living under their roof as a dependent. You don't say how old you are, but if you're still living at home, wait it out until you are not. I can virtually guarantee that when you reveal your atheism to them, they will see it as their mission in life to "save your soul" - and if you're still living with them, you will never, EVER be able to get away from it.` So, as hard as it may be, wait until you are a financially independent adult with your own living space and the means to support yourself, and then tell them.
When you do tell them, give them what assurance you can that this doesn't make you an immoral person. Human decency and a good moral code do not come from religion; they come from within us, born into us as instinct because it benefits humanity to have such instincts. Tell them that their ideas of what is right and wrong are not lost on you; you have simply absorbed these lessons without the religion.
It will be pointless to argue with them about why you find their religion to be unsatisfying to you. Try not to be drawn into discussions about absurdities in the Bible or contradictions in their beliefs. You will not win those arguments. Religion isn't based on logic, reason, or fact; and the more you argue the more firmly set in their own righteousness they will become. If you MUST argue about it, try to keep the discussion on generalities instead of specifics, and steer it towards what you DO believe in rather than what you don't. For instance, rather than saying that you DON'T believe that we will be judged by God in Heaven after we're dead, tell them that you DO believe that we must all deal with the consequences of our actions in this life, and that our loved ones will need to deal with them after we are gone, and that you don't need the additional incentive of punishment or reward in the afterlife in order to be a good and decent person.
It may help you to make your case if you can find a secular philosophy in which you can believe, not only so that you can show your parents that you aren't some kind of deviant anarchist just because you don't believe in God, but because they will ask you, "What DO you believe in?" and you'll want to have a better answer than "I dunno." Atheism is not a religion; it is a single, isolated lack of belief. If that's all you can bring to the table, then they will conclude that you lack a foundation for ethical judgement (and they may have a point). I suggest that you look into the principles of Humanism (read the Humanist Manifesto III first; the first two are rather outdated).
Another assurance that you can give to your parents is that "nonreligious" does not have to mean "anti-religious". In other words, you can point out that you have no problem with them believing as they choose, and ask only for the same in return.
But the sad truth is, you probably won't get it. Religion takes a deep hold on the mind, and no amount of reason or example is likely to show your parents that you can live very happily without it. They will probably be adamant about "fighting for your soul" and they likely won't ever give up for as long as you live. Hopefully, you can find a way to coexist. If not... well, don't look for encouragement in the Bible:
"He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." (Matthew 10:37)
These were Christ's own words to his twelve disciples. Hopefully, your parents won't put too much stock in them.
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my mom is very suspicious she is a little mental (link)
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My boyfriend and I have tried having "kinky" sex. He really likes it and so do I but thats just it...I want it to go a little bit further.. I want him to be more rough I guess. I want him to literally like almost be mean to me. I want him to be a LOT more aggressive and treat me like his slave basically. I just don't know how to tell him.
I don't have any issues telling him what I like or telling him to pull my hair, I just feel like what I really want is taking it a little too far How do I tell him this? What if he thinks it's too much? Is this a weird sexual desire? Because I seriously want it a little degrading almost.. I just don't feel like this is really normal. I've looked on sites like cosmopolitan and I didn't find any advice on anything that I want. (link)
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It's not abnormal. What you're describing is actually quite popular. It is not weird or indicative of any sort of disorder on your part. It is perfectly natural to get turned on by succumbing to your sex partner's power over you, and as long as it's always mutually consensual and no one suffers any actual injury, it's all fine and good.
The way to approach it with him is slowly. First of all, come up with a safe word so you can let him know when he's going too far; this will make him more comfortable, because he will know that unless he hears that word, it's all consensual and it's what you want. Give him a few specifics insofar as what you want him to do, but also encourage him to come up with some stuff on his own; you will probably enjoy it more if you don't know exactly what's coming. And, take it a little farther each time until you reach your comfort level.
It's also important to reciprocate; make sure to give him what HE wants from time to time, and don't always make it about the kink. Make sure you show him you can still enjoy regular, vanilla sex with him, because that will assure him (and you!) that it's more about WHO you're having sex with than WHAT you're doing.
And remember than anyone who condemns your kink as weird and perverse is probably either secretly doing it themselves, or wishing they could.
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Hi there.
I have a question and I hope someone on here can answer it.
First off, my boyfriend is 19 years old, all his life he hasn't had a great memory (he's never had any brain damage, head trauma's, ect) but he did have ADD; He got put on medication for it, and he just stopped taking it because his sister made fun of him; and called him a zombie.
Anyways, we've been together for almost 2 years, and it's starting to worry me. He gets so upset because when I ask him to do something for me (clean, laundry, pick up something, ect) and he says he forgot; and I'll say he's using it as an excuse; he says he really isn't, and he can't help that he forgets, and if he could remember stuff, he would. He doens't like forgetting.
For example, He works 8pm-5am and sleeps ti'll about 2:30pm. I work 8am-6pm; I'll text him on my lunch break and I'll tell him
"Hey, can you clean up the room, and start the laundry"
When I get home NOTHING will be done. He'll be on the PS3 playing basketball, and when I ask him why didn't he do it, he says he forgot.
OR
We'll be watching TV, and I'll get up to go make the bed and pick up our room (we live with my parents) and I'll ask him to do the dishes- he says he will, but he NEVER does. He says he forgets.
Maybe he's lazy, or he really has forgetful memory.
Idk.
Also another thing;
Since we've been together for 2 years, our 'sweet' moment have kind of disappeared--We use to send each other sweet texts and such, and now he doesn't. I mean, I know he loves me but I'd like to be showed every once and awhile. I still do sweet things for him, but only get them in return when i ask for them; he says its because he never thinks of it- could that be from his memory? or would that not apply? Personally, I don't think that applies. You shouldn't have to remember to be 'sweet'. I mean, dont get me wrong, hes affectionate, and always tells me he loves me and stuff, but I'm talking about sweet texts, love notes, flowers, a random card, ect.
Any help?
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I have ADD myself, and one does tend to forget to do simple tasks. Generally, I will fully intend to do something, but get involved in something else instead, and time will pass without my really realizing it. I will also occasionally agree to take care of something without really paying attention to what it is, because I'm focused on something else and I'm saying "OK" just to get the other person to stop talking. This isn't something I'm consciously doing to be rude; it happens because there is distraction going on. So, if you want him to hear you, don't try to compete with the TV; wait until a station break or, if you can, pause whatever's on.
However, ADD only excuses so much. There comes a point when that sort of behavior is just plain thoughtlessness, not mere forgetfulness or distraction. If it is literally true that he NEVER follows through on anything, and that he ALWAYS forgets, then he really is being lazy. He needs to start pulling his own weight, plain and simple. Your relationship will only go downhill if he continues to do nothing to support it, and you continue to be placed in a position where you must nag him.
It's also entirely possible that he is suffering from depression, which often goes hand-in-hand with ADD. It isn't helping that he works a night shift, which can contribute to to both ADD and depression by throwing off one's natural biorhythms.
There is more than one medication for ADD. Perhaps he would get better results with a different one (and while he's at it, he needs to tell his nasty sister to butt out and stop making insensitive comments about something she doesn't understand). I take Adderall XR, as does my daughter; it works well for both of us, and by adjusting the dosage one can get results without becoming "zombiefied". He might also benefit from an antidepressant. I would imagine that changing his working hours is probably not a readily available option, but it might not hurt to look into it.
When he starts to feel better in general, hopefully some of the romance will come back. At the moment, I'm guessing (based on my own experience with such things) that he's feeling too down to put in the effort. He may also feel resentful of you for trying to get him to do stuff AND guilty because he knows that what you're asking him to do is not unreasonable. He's stopped being romantic because he doesn't feel romantic, and it DOES take effort to keep a relationship alive. Right now, it sounds like he's putting all the effort he has in him toward just getting through each day. Fix that problem, and the romance and sweetness should come back on its own.
Good luck!
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I enjoy acting and stage managing, but I do not know which to pick. I have bee working with this one director for 2 years now as a stage manager, but I want to audition for the play he is doing. Will he not trust me as a stage manager? Should I audition? (link)
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It strikes me that you should go ahead and audition. If the director questions it, you can tell him that you do enjoy acting, and beyond that, you feel that it will make you a better stage manager if you can go through a production from the actor's point of view. I don't see how he could find fault with that.
Now, if you're not a very GOOD actor, that's another thing. You're clearly a reasonably good stage manager, or he wouldn't have wanted you to do it for two years. But I see no harm in auditioning.
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What are some good birthday quotes for friends? I need to write a card and I can't think of ANYTHING! (link)
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"Congratulations on having advanced another year closer to your death."
"Be sure to celebrate this birthday just as you did on your very first one: get naked and scream at the top of your lungs."
"You have completed your (number)th free trip around the Sun! Please be seated, the planet will be departing shortly for the next trip."
"Thanks for taking the trouble to read the card, but you can go ahead and open the present now; I don't mind."
"You are receiving a boring, hand-made card because I didn't think a picture of Snoopy on cheap cardstock was worth $3.50. Don't worry, I spent the extra money on your gift."
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