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How do you add distortion to your guitar? This might be hard to explain if you don't have the samp amplifier as me but it's a fender amp.
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I am assuming you are a beginning guitarist. The simplest way is to purchase a distortion or fuzz pedal. You basically run your guitar cord into the pedal and then into your guitar. The second way isn't exactly a way. Some tube amps come to a breaking point where the sound will distort. It can be a great sound but I cannot say that you can get that sound with your amp. Also some amps will have built in effects. Do you know what Fender amp model you have? It would make it a little easier. It is very possible you cannot get a dirty sound on it. My best friends amp can't get a dirty sound no matter what you do to it.
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ok today me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months , we've had major ups and downs . but latley its just been downs , we love each other very much ; but we are so jelous its creating problems more nad more everyday , i cant even remember the last time we've went the WH0LE day with out one argument . its eaither always over some girl or some boy . we are very jelous & it kills me , we call each other bitches and ass holes it breaks my heart . we know we both love each other very much but we need help . i mean reall good advice . we both dont want this to end but its not lookin good .
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You two need to sit down and talk. I don't mean some long talk just yet. You need to come to an agreement to not be calling each other the awful names. Each time on of you does that it is just going to raise the stress levels. You both need to stop that for this relationship to be respectful. If you are just called a bitch, you aren't going to be very receptive to what he has to say and vice versa. If you both can come to an agreement to stop that some of the rest may get a little bit easier. But jealousy comes normally comes from one of two places. The jealous person either has self esteem issues or has trust issues. I think you both need to be honest and decide which causes your own jealousy. Once you know the root problem, it can be addressed. If he thinks he isn't good enough, you need to let him know that he is more than enough and that you aren't going anywhere. If you are worried because all of your last bfs have cheated, he needs to remind you that he isn't one of your exes. You are both jealous and worried. If a person will cheat, the other person in the relationship can do very little to stop it. It's been 9 months. If either of you was going to cheat you probably would have by now. Jealousy is very difficult. It's hard to stop worrying and it's hard to change our insecurities. You both have to talk about what you are scared of. It's only the two of you in your relationship. Nobody else on earth can fix it. Only you two can fix it and one of you can't do it alone. You can only get there with work, with patience, with love and with understanding. Instead of fighting and getting louder maybe work on getting more quiet when upset. Raised voices make words sound angry and hurtful. Just keep taking small little steps. Rome wasn't built in a day but you can get through this.
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I'm sixteen-female
I'm so lonely lately, I honestly dont know how to put myself out there, I dont know how to meet guys. I dont know what to do. There is a guy I like, but I dont know if he even likes me, we dont even know each other formally. I went into where he works, and we had a mini conversation that included a lot of smiles. But really I cant tell from that. I plan on going back to that store, just to see if I can talk to him, but I'll be "buying" something, so I can talk to him.
Anyways, the point is,
I dont know how to tell if a guy likes you,
I dont even know if that guy I like up there has a girlfriend. I'm sick of being by myself. (link)
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It is hard to approach someone at a store or workplace. You don't want to go in and buy stuff day after day hoping to talk. If you want to talk to him just try somthing simple. I'll give you the best introduction i've heard and it's not a line. "hi i thought i would come in (come over) and talk to you. my name is.....". It's honest. He would know right away that you aren't there for strictly for shopping. Plus if he has any clue, he will feel special. What happens after you start talking who knows? But it allows you in the door that first time. You also wanted to know how a guy shows when he likes you. I have a link here that has a list of signs for you.
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
For now, don't worry if the guy has a girlfriend.
Just try to talk to him and make an impression. If he isn't single now, he may be down the road. If you get this guy to where he knows your first name and you know his, odds are every time you go in the two of you will speak. This will give plenty of chances for things to happen. I hope i was some help. Good luck and happy hunting.
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Recently, my boyfriend and I have gone to third base (which we define as oral sex) and I was wondering if I would be in any sort of danger of contracting a disease. We haven't gone further than that and we’re both firsts for each other, so I was thinking that we’d both be safe from getting anything. Could I be wrong? (link)
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If neither of you has ever had any sexual contact, odds are very slim that anyting would have been transmitted. I know you care about your boyfriend and trust him, but you never know where anyone has been. People lie. People with stds don't always tell their partners. But let's say for a moment that neither of has had sex. A small percentage of babies are born with herpes though. If the person giving oral has cold sores herpes can be passed. Now let's say he hasn't been honest about his experience then many things can be passed. The only ways to truly be safe are abstinence and being tested. Here are a pair of links that will help. You both really should be tested just so neither of you has any fear. It will be so much better to have no worries.
http://aids.about.com/cs/safesex/a/oralsex.htm
http://hivinsite.ucsf.edu/insite?page=ask-06-03-16
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Ok well I'm 17 years old. I'm 5'8 and weigh about 132 pounds. I work in retail (so im always walking around) about 3 days a week and about 4 days a week i go to the gym. I eat about 1000 calories a day (max). If I want to lose weight, am i eating too much? and what else can i do to lose weight?
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based on your stats you would want to eat no more that 1460 calories a day. you probably are eating just a little bit too little. but somewhere from about 1200-1460 would be idea if you're a girl. if a guy between then it would be roughly 1150- 1650
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how can you boost your metabolism?
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There are lots of ways to boost your metabolism, but also some you should try to avoid. Don't turn to things like cigarettes to do it. It works a little but the bad far outweighs the good. Also try to stay away from drugs if you can. One of the best ways to do it is to eat every several hours. For girls it is about every 3 hours and for guys every 5. When you eat it raises it so you should eat at least a little right after you wake up. If you don't do this your metabolism will slow until you eat again. Some foods raise it. Several servings of green tea has been shown to raise it and can help a person burn approx 78 calories a day. Spicy foods can help as well. It has been shown that things like hot pepper and jalopenos can raise metabolism for up to 3 hours. Exercise helps as well as weight training. Make sure to drink plenty of water. Extreme temperature can help raise metabolism such as in a sauna or in the cold can raise it by as much as 20 percent. These are just a few ways. I appologize for how scattered it is. I hope it is of some help to you.
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Hey there.
I've got this full-blown crush which isnt just a crush any longer. Met this guy about a year back, we studied together in the same institution but I got held back as I didnt get through so we're no longer in the same cohort but we do see each other on and off. Initially he was very shy and hardly said anything, but he became nicer to me. We even went out for a day's trip somewhere with a group of friends. But there's still this weird feeling which i suspect is mutual whenever we meet. It's funny cause he relates very well with my friends but with me it's a lil weird. We had a party for him and he was surprised as no one had done sth like that before, and so is now a lot nicer to my friends. Even with me, but the barrier is still there. How do I break that? I'm quite on the shy side myself and I think about him so much all the time but when I see him, I'm a different person..i pretend we're just friends and act like a clown mostly. So, i dont think i'm giving any hints of any sort though I want to.
This whole thing is very complicated but the bottom line is I care for him with all my heart, and I really can't judge if he even likes me, as a friend I think he does. But I'm attempting a close and good friendship for now, but thanks to the WEIRD barrier, we both act like idiots when we see each other. Please help.
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I don't know how at ease you are with him or how shy you really are. What has worked for me is this. At some point the person and I will talk about really hard things to talk about. It may be like deepest worries or fears or bad things that have happened. It an even be sexual fantasy stuff. The thing is, when you talk about something that is so personal, so daring then everything else sort of becomes easy. It's like playing a video game on the hardest level then switching to easy. It really does open doors if you can let yourself go there.
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Is it wrong to be with somebody but want to sleep with somebody else??? Even if you know you will never act on it, kinda like you wanted to sleep with someone but then got a boyfriend thinking you wouldn't want to sleep with that other person. But for some reason you still do. You can't help your feelings right so is it wrong to hide that feeling away???
Thanks
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P.S. i'm not a virgin so please don't give me the speech about sleeping with people at such a young age. if you don't i won't rate. (link)
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People have fantasies. This doesn't go away when with someone. Yes, feelings for a bf/gf do take away a little bit of interest normally. But, you're human. You will want to sleep with other people no matter who you are dating. Whether or not you ever act on it is a personal decision. Your thoughts are normal and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it. It's the restraining that makes you faithful not the absence of fantasy.
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He said he got me back by acting like a jerk every time i pranked him! I mean thats smooth but i know i really hurt his feelings and he just doesnt want to admit it. But he seems to be fine. I mean how do i prove that hes not fine, he already went and asked another girl out and i didnt even think he was done with this one! She said no, but i mean one girl at a time, last time i talked to him, he wasnt even over this girl, he claimed he would "never love again" (link)
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okay, so he just acted like a baby then. I sort of read everythign a little differently than it was.
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Okay so e and my friend Heather are really close, and my other really close friend Mark likes her. But heather has a boyfriend, Jon. And so mark was like "can we have a three way converstation, but heather cant know im there"...so i was like "sure" but me and Mark like to prank eachother, and he said i was chicken to get him back. So, were all on the phone, haether doesnt know mark is there, and she sez some really mean things about him. So i immidiatley said i had to go. Then called her back and explained he was on the other line. She started laughing and we decided to tell him the whole thing was simply a prank to get him back for what he did last time (u dont wanna know). So now hes not speaking to either of us, btu its like when he pranks us its okay, but when we prank him....its like a sin! WHAT DO WE DO!! (link)
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In a perfect world, it is only fair to be able to prank him back. But, you are his friend and know how he handles things. He may have low self esteem and use humor to make friends. This would also explain why he can't handle being made the butt of jokes or pranks. You do have to realize that even though it was a prank. Mark had to hear the girl he really likes say such mean things. Joke or not, that had to shatter his world. A simple "i'm sorry" doesn't mend things. He may have liked her even longer than you all knew. You know the guy so you all should know the limits to a joke with him. Everybody has a different limit and different things they can handle. Some guys can handle weight jokes and others cannot. It all depends on what he is touchy about and how touchy he is.
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16/f okay so my bf smokes alot. just going to get that out there right now. weed and cigs. and at times it seems that he would rather do that then be with me. like sometimes he wont come to school because he would rather go do that. and me and him dont hang out alot outside of school so its like if he is dropping school he is dropping me.... anyways there is 2 things i can do. i can tell him we need a break and that i still like him but he needs to sort out his priorities or i can stay with him and believe he will straighten up like he says he will.he says he is going to start coming back to school and be a better bf which he has lately.... i just need to know what the right thing to do is. i mean when he is with me he makes me so happy and i cant stop smiling but he does hurt me too :( so somebody please help me. i want the most effective way and if he doesnt want to be helped and keeps it up i will break up with him and move on. but fully breaking up with him right now isnt an option, he means too much and i want him to knoe i am here for him. so please help me if you can and thanks in advance (link)
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You need to drop him and make it clear you are because of him smoking. If you just ask him to quit, it won't work. He will just pretend to and sneak it anyhow. Should you really have to change someone this much? I know school seems like a waste of time to most. But the people that end with the nice homes are usually the ones that put out extra effort. He'd rather get high than even show up. That's worse than the losers that go and do poorly. You can do better. Let him be somebody else's mistake.
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i have a problem
i cant dance!
Ive tried to "go with the music" but cant, HELP! i hav a dance next week (link)
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First off, don't worry. At the very worst, you will be one of many bad dancers on the floor. You want to be good so it can happen. Your best bet is to ask your older sister if you have one or a good friend's older sister. Girls are more comfortable with dancing, so they will know best. If you wanted, you could just slow dance and that isn't much more than 2 people holding each other and shuffling your feet. If you have the nerve to try, you have most of the battle won.
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How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings? But without telling him the truth, he is bigger and i'm not physically attracted to that? We were friends before we started dating and i want to go back to being friends? Thanks!
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I understand where everyone is coming from with their advice. I know you don't want to hurt your bf/friend. I will say this though. The love of a girl is strong inspiration. If you think you could be attracted to him if he lost weight then you should tell him. He is your friend after all. It is so tough to be honest all of the time. Why not just say something like "I just want to be able to hug you and be able to get my arms around you. I want that so badly." I think that may make him wake up. Whether or not you would want to wait is up to you. If you wanted him to change, you have to tell him. If nothing else, he will be healthier.
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okay so my ex [the same guy who hurt me 2 times before/took my virginity/and so on] and I have been talking as friends he broke up with his ex [the one hes been going back in forth between me and her with] i was so happy!! you have no idea how much i love this guy but im afraid to love him cause idw to get hurt again [he said he would never hurt me again and that before he just wasnt sure but now he knows] i think he loves me i'm almost positive =] seriously but im still not sure i just dont want him to leave me for her again. i just want him to be the 'one' i told him i WILL NOT go out with him untill he knows what he wants but we're still talking [and kissing after skool] but we do everything on the down low cause i know everyone will be so dissapointed...im just still not sure if im doing the right thing by giving him another chance...i just dont wanna give up on something that might be meant to be (link)
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You are definitely emotionally attached to this guy. He probably isn't. If he was, you wouldn't be on here wondering what to do. He just seems to be telling you what you want to hear. I would step back and make him work at least. Personally, I think you should just find another guy. If you were buying a car, would you want a brand new car with nothing broken, or would you want one that requires all sorts of work? I think this guy is at best a "fixer upper". This guy is going to keep hurting you because you allow it.
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i've liked this guy since i was in seventh grade & i'm a sophomore in highschool now; he's a bit older than me and my parents would kill me if they knew i was hanging out with him.
but i'd been friends with him since i was in 4th grade, and we've been keeping in touch since then.
so we hung out in secret twice, after the 2nd time he asked if i wanted to hook up with him... of course i said yes.
so afew weeks ago, he picked me up from a friend's house and i FINALLY hooked up with him, after all these years of liking him so so so much. he's all i would talk about, think about, and he was just my world. when he dropped me off we even kissed goodbye, too. afterward he said he really enjoyed it and was really glad it wasnt awkward. that just made me insanely happy right?
well after that, he stopped talking to me. we'd make small talk here and there, but nothing's been the same... he doesnt call me sweetheart or anything anymore:(
i even asked him if something was wrong and he totally denied it too. he said stuff like "i've been busy with school and work and everything" and that kind of thing. and after a bunch of one worded responses, he'd ignore me completely, and days would go by with no word from him
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i've been a little stalkerish and he's been going about his normal life, which includes ignoring me now. what should i do? he's literally breaking my heart, i can't get over him i just see him as the perfect guy for me. . . and i'm not interested in anyone else at all. PLEASE help me i'm so sick of feeling depressed all the time. (link)
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It does sound like you were used. He wasn't too busy to hang out with you before you hooked up. All the mystery is gone. Frankly, in his opinion you have nothing left to offer him. With guys, you should only give a little taste at a time. Your best bet is to move on. I don't mean to sound so harsh so I do apologize. But let's say he just wanted sex with you. He's had it. Now, he will just look to have it with someone else. If he does want love, he will have no respect for you. He will think you are easy and you do this with all guys. Leave him alone. Give him space. Perhaps he will come around. If he does, he may be doing it just to get laid. I just don't see his opinion of you ever changing. As a guy, after you've had sex with a girl, it's kind of like flipping through the tv channels and seeing a movie you've already watched. Guys will just go to a new one. I'm sorry you had to learn this this way but it is a good learning experience.
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thanks for the advice for "am i showing signs of becoming bi?" it helped but how do i ask my bisexual friend about my bisexual thoughts if she thinks im straight cuz ive lied to everyone when they ask me, including her.
please, how do i ask her for help to understand what im feeling if she doesnt even know the truth? (link)
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that is a delicate matter. personally, I'm a straight guy so I never have to go thru what you do. I will do the best I can to help you though. it sucks having a problem and not being able to go to your closest friends. personally, the closest thing in my life to that would be if I was interested in a girl that is way out of my league. I'd not want to admit what I think or feel to anyone because they would think I'm foolish. but not saying anything means nothing can ever happen. it is a little bit alike. you want to say something but you don't want judged. you don't want this to get out at the moment. I don't know if you have interest in your bi friend. but lets look at the situation. is she the type of girl that would gossip a lot? if she is, then perhaps you shouldn't go to her period. but if she is kind and understanding, then I'd say to try to hang with her alone. that way if you were to have a personal conversation there are no other ears in the room. let's say you are talking and she is talking about a specific girl or about liking girls. maybe just ask something simple like "when did you know you liked girls?" then just say that you've found yourself wondering about girls. I hope you don't mind me asking you a few questions here. maybe I can help you a bit better. when you think of girls, is it just a bit of attraction? do you find yourself wanting to date a girl or liking when your girlfriends brush up against you? what I'm getting at is do you just like how they look or do you know you want more? because, if you know you want to experience either dating or having a physical relationship with a girl then at some point you will need to come to grips with that. maybe now is not the time to experience these things. this is stuff you will need to decide. one thing you have going for you is that so many girls are open about it nowadays. maybe you aren't ready to talk to your bi friend just yet about it. maybe you just need to take a baby step prior to telling someone in your immediate circle. here is an idea. most people belong to a social networking site like myspace, facebook, myyearbook. if you do already, then browse profiles for bi girls. make sure the profiles look legit. there are lots of guys that pose as bi girls. but lets say you you find 10 profiles that you like and trust then just shoot them an email saying you want to make some friends. pick girls not too close to where you live. this way you feel no pressure about opening up. but just talk to them and as you do, admit that you are curious. maybe you just have to hear yourself say to somebody else that you have these feelings. but I think to some extent that may help you become a bit more comfortable with your sexuality. maybe you need to go thru that before you can talk to your friend. I know you are scared. you don't want your life to change to the worse. you don't want to tell your friend and feel like you made a mistake. you'd feel like you opened up such a can of worms. I do think that more than likely, she would be a bit understanding though. I don't think you would get a disappointing look. I don't think you would be disliked by her. your straight friends may not understand. but she should. I do want to help you the best I can. So feel free to keep the emails coming. I'd be glad to do what I can to make things easier for you.
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Can someone please help me translate this!
PLEASE!!
Any help is totally fine..
Sirenes
Nunc Ulixes ad insulam Sirenum navigat.
Sirenes erant feminae pulchrae quae corpora avibus similia sed capita puellarum habebant.
Carmen dulce canebant,qup naves ad saxa in quibus Sirenes habitabant atrabantur.
Ulixes alium dolum efficit!
Cera in auribus ponitur (carmen audire non possunt);
nautae Ulixem ad malum (mast) navis ligant.
Hoc facto, solus Ulixes carmen Sirenum audit, et sua navis et nautae tuti sunt.
I was given some hints.:
Carmen dulce canebant, (qup naves ad saxa [in quibus Sirenes habitabant] atrahebantur). This sentence has three clauses.
a/trahe/ba/ntur-- compound of traho hoc facto- this having been done
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i'm not going to be much help because i dont know latin. but going by word similarity i would think this is portion of the oddysey (sp) the sirenes are prolly the sirens ulixes is probably ulysses. navis is similar to the navys.
ulysses also goes by the name odyseous ( i cant remember the proper spelling for this) one is the greek version and one is roman though. but if u went on wikipedia it would probably have a quickie summary to help you.
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Okay, Here's The deal. I Am 15, female and I Am dating A guy who is 16. We go to the same school and he will be leaving in about 4 or so months. We have been together 6 months and still hardly any of my mates like him. Him And I always get abuse from them when we're togther, like they pick on him and stuff or make comments. And even when i'm alone and away from him my mates say things about him that upset me. I now dread lunch and break times in school because he comes to see me and my mates go all funny and block me out. I hate it. I would go with him to his mates but i don't really get on with them and i get shy around them.. I keep thinking about moving schools.. but it would be bad cos i have exams.. then there was dumping him but i don't want to, he makes me happy and i love him. Then there was asking him if we could meet after school but i was worried he would get annoyed cos it would sound like i want to avoid him.. then there was asking for a break in out relationship for a few months but i think i could loose him that way.. The problem is i get affected by what people think of me and i hate it, but i can't seem to stop getting affected. I just don't know what to do anymore. I hate school life.. i like my mates but i love my boyfriend too.. I feel kind of stuck and i get really upset about it.. I just want my mates to be civil to him at least.. then school could be easier. I don't need them to like him, just be nice and keep their thoughts to themselves.. But i can't see that happening.. What can i do? Help needed ASAP.. x (link)
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If he makes you happy you should stay with him as long as you can. It is very hard to find somoene that both treats you well and keeps your attention. I will say this though. You're friends aren't very good friends. When you invited your bf into your circle, your friends should do all they can to make him feel welcomed. Your circle of friends is no different than your house. If 4 people lived together and one invited someone over it would be expect that everyone treat the guest well. For whatever reason your friends either don't like the image your bf creates for the group or they don't like seeing you happy. You shouldn't care what your friends think. What is odd is that friends aren't always the best people to give us love advice. They want to break us up from the good people and want to try to get us back together with the bad ones. If they are good friends they will come around. If not, then you deserve better friends.
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I am caught in a dilemma: do I go to graduate school, or work for a year before making the decision to apply?
I recently graduated from the university, with a B.A. in International Relations. I realized that my main interest is to write for either a magazine or newspaper (print or online).
My main concern, however, is that I have no journalistic experience. I understand that some Journalism programs accept some students who have little to no background, but I would like to gain some experience, either through a job, or internship (which is more likely).
I do not know if it is better to gain experience beforehand, or just go straight to a graduate program, in order to gain that experience. I am pretty stumped...
I am now leaning more toward waiting a year before applying, to gain job experience (pretty much any field) and to do freelance or paid writing. At the same time, I don't want to think back and wonder why I hadn't applied earlier.
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Personally I'd say Grad school. If you get a job and start your life it will be difficult to put on the brakes and go to Grad school. It's too easy to get caught up in the moment and to worry about the day by day things. One year goes by quickly and could turn into 3 in a blink of an eye. I'd say to go to Grad school just so you never have to say "what if". I don't know which way would be better for your career. I don't know of such things. I just know how life works out though.
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this guy Cameron is one of my friends and I thought he liked me because 1 .the talked to me more than all the other girls and 2.my school went to a hockey game and I was looking for a place to sit and he saw me looking around and he was like waving at me
okay then I was sitting a seat away from him and he came and sat next to me
so I was talking to my friend Nichelle on the other side of me and I was like I'm gonna "fall asleep" and "accidently" have my head fall on him shoulder ... and I told her to look at him when I was " asleep" and see his reaction ...
so he was smiling
then later I was like buuuur I'm freeeeezing and he gave me his coat ...
then when we were walking home I was havin a smoke and he was like eww you smoke blah blah thats gross .
anyways then when he went on his own way ,
and I said to my friend Josh I might asm him out and then hes like ...
and then I decided not to ask him out yet
and everyones like DONT go out with her blah blah blah and I was like I wasn't going to ask him out
and they were like ya right blahhhh blahhhh
so do you think he likes me ?
because I want to ask him out now ...
but I don't know if he likes me !
rawr =\
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More often than not, any guy that makes a point to do the gentleman type things he has done has interest. If he talks to you more than other girls it's the same thing. Basically if he treats you differently than other girls then you kind of know. I do agree that you may want to do something about the smoking if you are serious about him.
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