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Breaking up
How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings? But without telling him the truth, he is bigger and i'm not physically attracted to that? We were friends before we started dating and i want to go back to being friends? Thanks!
16/f
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You can't break up with him without hurting his feelings. What do you mean "he is bigger"? Like, weight wise or something? You should never break up with someone because of anything physical.
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you can't break up with your boyfriend without hurting his feelings, unless he feels the same way as you do, sorry sister. i know he'll understand as long as you're honest. when you're breaking it to him (which hopefully youre doing in person) whenever he starts to get that pity me face say something positive like youre a sweet guy and all, but... blah. and tell him you still want to hang with him. the key is to tell him straight up how you feel so he doesnt get the wrong idea,so hopefully i helped you out at least a little:]
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I understand where everyone is coming from with their advice. I know you don't want to hurt your bf/friend. I will say this though. The love of a girl is strong inspiration. If you think you could be attracted to him if he lost weight then you should tell him. He is your friend after all. It is so tough to be honest all of the time. Why not just say something like "I just want to be able to hug you and be able to get my arms around you. I want that so badly." I think that may make him wake up. Whether or not you would want to wait is up to you. If you wanted him to change, you have to tell him. If nothing else, he will be healthier.
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Be honest with him.
Lying to him isnt going to do him any good. If you cant be attracted to him, as much as its going to hurt you, he deserves to know that. Because hes not going to change anything about himself that might need to be changed if you don't show him that the world is shallow and judgemental and that that affects things in his life.
The truth sucks, and yes, it will make him more cynical. But at least armed with the knowledge he might make a change that will make his life easier.
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you can always make it bitter sweet which wont hurt his feelings as much say something like
"alot of stuff has been going on with me lately and ive been thinking that maybe we'd just be better of just being friends again"
then say something like
"ill never regret being with you its just i want things to be simple again like they were when we were just friends"
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Don't tell him that he is "bigger", guys have trouble with anorexia, and bulemia too. Just say something like "I don't think my feelings match yours anymore. I really wanna go back to being friends. Okay?" and then like hug him or something. Hope I helped! Don't forget to rate!
-alex :]
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