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more than a best friend?
uh, to begin -- i dated this guy, Jason, from 8th grade to sophomore year, but then we broke up. However, throughout that whole time, i was best friends with a guy, Chad. He was always there for me, and i could always talk to him. However, going into junior year [single, that is] chad and i went to the homecoming dance together, and from there he told me how he has had feelings for me since 8th grade. The first thought that came into my head was that i did not want to wreck our friendship. Sometime in December though, i started to get feelings for him. We were very good together, but we never officially dated because i thought that we were ever broke up, we would never be friends. Later in April, Jason broke up with his girlfriend, and wanted to give "us" a try again. I gave in, and obviously Chad and i ended our fling. Now almost 8 months later, i am still dating Jason, and Chad has a girlfriend. and i still have feelings for Chad, but Jason treats me so good. But uh, im just so frustrated because Chad has a girlfriend now and i am so jealous. Chad and i already discussed how we both felt towards eachother, but he got frustrated with me that i didnt do anything with my feelings towards him, and thinks Jason is wrong for me. It's my senior year, and college is just around the corner.. What do you think i should do? Should i give Chad a chance? I really just need advice please =D
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First off, my apologies for taking a few days to answer your question.
Who do you have more feelings for? I would say stay with that person, however, it obviously isn't that easy. Jason sounds like a great guy, but I'm afraid if you don't try something with Chad - you may regret it for a very long time. You have to think though, if you chance it and go with Chad - if things don't work out, you may never get Jason back again.
Also, it's difficult because Chad has a girlfriend. And if he isn't willing to break up with her, for you, then it isn't going to work either. So this is a toughie, but it just comes down to if you're willing to pay the consequences, go with Chad. If not, stay with Jason.
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First off thank you for inboxing!! i love that!!
I say that you should tell Chad how you really feel....smart guys dont wait around forever. If you dont say anything to him, you will spend your whole life wondering if he could have been the "one". Sometimes guys can see things girls cant. They are the opposite sex after all. Sometimes they can see the guy when a girl cant. And Chad apparently has some feelings for you, he just dont want to wait around for you. And i dont blame him. Not trying to put you down or nothing because im not! honest to goodness...im just saying this guy has waited for you pratically through highschool. And something tells me that he wont be there much longer. So if he is the one you want, dont let fear the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game. Dont be afraid to lose your best friend, because if he is truly your best friend he will stick around even if you break up! :)
xoxo
teardrops7
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Give Chad the chance to show you his true feelings towards you and then you can decide about Jason later and see how you feel about him. It's quite obvious that Chad really loves you and wants to be more that 'just a friend' to you. Jason i'm not so sure about but the indicator to me is that he still has feelings for you due to the fact that he broke up with his last girlfriend to be with you again.
But ultimatly, it's you who should decide whom you want to be with. Spend some time with Jason and Chad and then think about whom you think more about and think about whom makes you the happiest, because nothing is more important than you being happy in your relationship.
Good luck with the future!!!
P.S Thank you very much for being the first person to write directly to my inbox. I really appreciate it. Once again, good luck!!
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