i'm rebecca from jersey and i love music. i've had some bad/weird/traumatizing/heartbreaking experiences in the past... but i do the best i can to help people with their problems, so please, feel free to ask me anything:]
Gender: Female
Location: new joisey
Occupation: none:p
Age: 17
Member Since: December 7, 2007
Answers: 10
Last Update: September 2, 2008
Visitors: 1703
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Hey, I'm 16/f. I live in a small town, mostly full of old(er) people.
Anyhow, all my life I had been a loner because i spent most my days in the hospital in a different province. Long story short (sorry this may end up long in the end), I had kidney failure at age three, spent up until like age 5 in hospital, was on dialysis, got a transplant when i was 7, and now i go to hospital in different province about twice a year. So I never really had time to make any real friends.
At school I would always sit on this one bench outside at recess because i wasnt good at making friends and people didnt want to 'hurt' me (which wAs kind of them) after my mom told everyone i had sugery. Everything kinda went downhill from there. Then one day everything changed...
This girl came up to me, and we became best of friends. Had been for six years. I was so glad to finally have someone to be TRUE friends with. True friend being someone you can trust, someone you can share everything with, someone you can relate to, someone who loved you for who you are. I'm not saying im chubby or anything, im not on so many meds and im really quite skinny now. Fair size skinny not anorexic or anything. Anyhow,
She even told me i was her best friend, and we really were. We shared secrets, hung out, had sleepovers, had 'friend' talks, did school projects together, did eachothers hair, nails. I could list TONS more. We really did eVeRyThInG together.
Then she decided to dump me for my brother. I always knew she had a crush on him but one day she ended our friendship. Just like that. Her parents are fake christians basically. They 'follow' the bible but do everything opposite. Since my bro is not christian they wouldnt allow their daughter (my 'friend') to date him. So once they started, my brother and 'friend' kept it on the down-low. From me as well.
My brother really is one of the biggest jerks in the world. I cant stand him for very long because he does everything a typical teenager does, and MORE. Blasting his music, talkin back, pushing,he drinks and hangs out with the 'bad' crowd, etc. He's 17.
Everyday after they hooked up My brother and her would neck and kiss,make out in front of me and my family, and do all that gross stuff. I wish they'd have more respect for others at least. she did not care that she just ditched me to spend every waking moment with a loser.
She comes over everyday now basically and hangs out with him, making everything we did together seem like such a lie. She doesnt care that she totally crushed me. I've only ever had one true friend, but the truth is she never did care. You know? Guys were more important, even though she goes through them like dirty socks. Shes a player.
For the longest time after dating my brother she kept copying me as well. Buying a laptop because i did (her parents really bought it for her, i buy my own things with my own money), buying a dog because i did (her parents bought hers for her), buying a new sweater because i did (once again, her parents), getting a job at the local grocery store because i did, excetera excetera.
I know theres more people out there... somewhere. But for now i am confined to my small little town and I cant really go anywhere till i get my licence. In November.
At my school, you basically have to smoke, drink, be 'popular', be a slack-off, be everything bad, to fit in. And i just wanna be me unfortunately. Sober, clean and drug free. Moving is not an option, and besides, i only have about two more years including this one that just started.
Im sorry but I can't stand her anymore. She is my brothers slut, my sisters 'best' friend, and my moms fourth child (even though she does find 'her' irresponsible, which she is.)
What can I do now?! ... Please help!
And thanks for reading my long.. long story :)
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i'm so sorry to hear about all of this! i'd give you a hug but obviously that would be impossible being as we're in different states. i wouldnt want you to think that your entire friendship with this girl was a lie... as much as i hate to admit it, people change. it could be a really sad/frustrating thing to deal with, especially in this case. sometimes ya just gotta be optimistic, sweetie. like in this case. maybe if you two were still friends, you'd have ended up JUST like her. i dont think you'd want that:/
i'm so glad to hear you dont wanna change yourself though, that's so great! don't let other people take that away from you! most of those kids at your school that party and do mad drugs will prob end up living in the streets afew years from now, and you will be successful and happy! i know it. to make friends, sometimes you just gotta confront someone and compliment them. like 'hey! i really like your outfit' it may sound lame and may seem out of the question by once you start making more acquaintences, it'll all be worth it! you're obviously a wonderful person, so good things WILL come! just don't crush your own hopes with what's happened in the past, okay? hang in there sister, i hope i helped outt!:]
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i didnt call up or show up at work today..i work at mcdonalds and have been there for 9 months and i have ALWAYS shown up to work, except just this once.
what happened was that i got into a really big fight with a family member and so i just went out the door and stayed at a friends house because i just couldnt handle it. and i couldnt get to work today so i just didnt show up ..
i dont know what to say to them when i work in 4 days again! i feel really bad about it because i let the nicest manager down. please help, should i tell then what happened or would they not believe me?
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if your manager is as nice as you say, just explain it to him or her. if you don't feel comfortable with that, i'd just say there was a family emergency or something. i hope that helped at least a littttttttle :]
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I'm getting my haircut tomorrow so I've been trying to look for pictures to kinda see what I want. The only problem is, there are no good websites! Does anyone know of one with pictures that are actually cute? :) (link)
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not sure if i'm too late, but it depends on your style. if you want something edgier, you should go to soompi forums.com i think it's an asian thing but it's really inspiring they have alotta cool lookin doos on that site :)
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Hi i am a 17/F i have been a bisexual for 5 years now and i want to tell my parents but i dont know how? im afraid of their reaction. also People give me and my gf shit all the time how can i deal with out kickin ass (link)
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try to tell your rents straight up that you're bi, they'll still love you the same... the longer you wait, the more awkward it might get. and everyone gets shit for something, just ignore them, or if you wanna fire back, or jus tell them what it is about them that pisses you off. OR just be like why do you even give a fuck about my personal life
but thats how i wuld handle it. i hope i helped you out!:]
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How do you break up with a guy without hurting his feelings? But without telling him the truth, he is bigger and i'm not physically attracted to that? We were friends before we started dating and i want to go back to being friends? Thanks!
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you can't break up with your boyfriend without hurting his feelings, unless he feels the same way as you do, sorry sister. i know he'll understand as long as you're honest. when you're breaking it to him (which hopefully youre doing in person) whenever he starts to get that pity me face say something positive like youre a sweet guy and all, but... blah. and tell him you still want to hang with him. the key is to tell him straight up how you feel so he doesnt get the wrong idea,so hopefully i helped you out at least a little:]
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how do i know when a guy likes me if he don't talk to me my sis told me he said he did like me but i don't know if i should belive her! (link)
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it really depends, if you find him randomly checking you out or something all the time it probably means he likes you. so if you don't want to say anything yet, just smile and work up from that. i really hope i helped you out at least a little :/
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So, this guy liked me freshman year of hs. and i liked him too but nothing ever happened with it. now i see him in the halls and at games and stuff and we always make eye contact. but hes not in any of my classes and none of my friends are friends with him so i dont have connections. so, how can i get to know him? its not easy for me to just walk up to him randomly, and that might be a little akward anyways. should i send him a message online? i dont wanna seem creepy because i dont know if he even notices me anymore. ahh what should i do? (link)
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definitley message him online, especially if he's been making eye contact with you and you don't feel comfortable using the direct approach. nothing's going to happen between you two if you don't say anything, by the looks of it... i totally think you should just casually ask him to hang out like"hey its been awhile we should chill soon" or something as simple as that
wishin you the best of luck!:]
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okay, what i want to do is dye my hair firetruck red with the tips green for christmas... i've already done the firetruck red using loreal permanint hair dye... now i want to do this as cheaply as humanly possible. my idea is to go ahead and re-dye my hair the red... then peroxide the tips, and do kool aid with the green, so i can easily change it later. i've been dying my hair crazy colors for over 6 years now, so i'm not afraid to mix things up, but i haven't found any GOOD advice on how to do the tips.... don't tell me not to do it... i know it isn't exactly cooth to do it this way, but i've always wanted to try it. positive feedback would me very appriciated, thank you for your time. (link)
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wow i never even heard of using kool aid that's a pretty rad idea
wel if you really want it to come out nice i'd have to say bleach the parts you want green then use hairdye from hot topic or someplace like that... but i can't guaruntee that it'll be cheap, i'm sorry!
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Hey there.
I've got this full-blown crush which isnt just a crush any longer. Met this guy about a year back, we studied together in the same institution but I got held back as I didnt get through so we're no longer in the same cohort but we do see each other on and off. Initially he was very shy and hardly said anything, but he became nicer to me. We even went out for a day's trip somewhere with a group of friends. But there's still this weird feeling which i suspect is mutual whenever we meet. It's funny cause he relates very well with my friends but with me it's a lil weird. We had a party for him and he was surprised as no one had done sth like that before, and so is now a lot nicer to my friends. Even with me, but the barrier is still there. How do I break that? I'm quite on the shy side myself and I think about him so much all the time but when I see him, I'm a different person..i pretend we're just friends and act like a clown mostly. So, i dont think i'm giving any hints of any sort though I want to.
This whole thing is very complicated but the bottom line is I care for him with all my heart, and I really can't judge if he even likes me, as a friend I think he does. But I'm attempting a close and good friendship for now, but thanks to the WEIRD barrier, we both act like idiots when we see each other. Please help.
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i totally know what you are going through, i felt the same way about a guy at one point, too.
well i'm not sure if this is possible for you or not, but the next time you hang out maybe you could watch a sad or scary movie or something, so the mood isn't so... goofyish? idk what to call it but i'm sure you know what i mean.
i just want you to keep in mind only like 80% of guys make the first move, so don't be afraid to speak up or get all flirty with him! the best of luck, message me if you have anymore problems:]
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Hey =)
I have short black hair and its all pretty much the same length since my layers have grew out. It's also pretty flat cos i straighten it all the time. I have naturally curly hair but can never really wear it curly because its too short and even when it goes curly as my curls are tight ones.
I was wondering what people advise me to do with it style wise to make it a bit more exciting as well as making it look nicer?
I know its not a very important question but it bothers me that it's always soo boring as my friends all have gorgeous hair and im working on my self-esteem at the moment
Thanks in advance =)
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maybe you can grow out your bottom layers again then bleach it or dye it whatever color looks good to you, but leave the rest black... but it really depends on what your style is i suppose.
you could always get hair extensions, or work with what you got and go crazy with hairspray or mousse... dont be afraid to try something totally out there, have fun with itt :]
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