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Shy Guy
Hey there.
I've got this full-blown crush which isnt just a crush any longer. Met this guy about a year back, we studied together in the same institution but I got held back as I didnt get through so we're no longer in the same cohort but we do see each other on and off. Initially he was very shy and hardly said anything, but he became nicer to me. We even went out for a day's trip somewhere with a group of friends. But there's still this weird feeling which i suspect is mutual whenever we meet. It's funny cause he relates very well with my friends but with me it's a lil weird. We had a party for him and he was surprised as no one had done sth like that before, and so is now a lot nicer to my friends. Even with me, but the barrier is still there. How do I break that? I'm quite on the shy side myself and I think about him so much all the time but when I see him, I'm a different person..i pretend we're just friends and act like a clown mostly. So, i dont think i'm giving any hints of any sort though I want to.
This whole thing is very complicated but the bottom line is I care for him with all my heart, and I really can't judge if he even likes me, as a friend I think he does. But I'm attempting a close and good friendship for now, but thanks to the WEIRD barrier, we both act like idiots when we see each other. Please help.
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I don't know how at ease you are with him or how shy you really are. What has worked for me is this. At some point the person and I will talk about really hard things to talk about. It may be like deepest worries or fears or bad things that have happened. It an even be sexual fantasy stuff. The thing is, when you talk about something that is so personal, so daring then everything else sort of becomes easy. It's like playing a video game on the hardest level then switching to easy. It really does open doors if you can let yourself go there.
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i totally know what you are going through, i felt the same way about a guy at one point, too.
well i'm not sure if this is possible for you or not, but the next time you hang out maybe you could watch a sad or scary movie or something, so the mood isn't so... goofyish? idk what to call it but i'm sure you know what i mean.
i just want you to keep in mind only like 80% of guys make the first move, so don't be afraid to speak up or get all flirty with him! the best of luck, message me if you have anymore problems:]
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