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The Right Thing...
16/f okay so my bf smokes alot. just going to get that out there right now. weed and cigs. and at times it seems that he would rather do that then be with me. like sometimes he wont come to school because he would rather go do that. and me and him dont hang out alot outside of school so its like if he is dropping school he is dropping me.... anyways there is 2 things i can do. i can tell him we need a break and that i still like him but he needs to sort out his priorities or i can stay with him and believe he will straighten up like he says he will.he says he is going to start coming back to school and be a better bf which he has lately.... i just need to know what the right thing to do is. i mean when he is with me he makes me so happy and i cant stop smiling but he does hurt me too :( so somebody please help me. i want the most effective way and if he doesnt want to be helped and keeps it up i will break up with him and move on. but fully breaking up with him right now isnt an option, he means too much and i want him to knoe i am here for him. so please help me if you can and thanks in advance <3
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You need to drop him and make it clear you are because of him smoking. If you just ask him to quit, it won't work. He will just pretend to and sneak it anyhow. Should you really have to change someone this much? I know school seems like a waste of time to most. But the people that end with the nice homes are usually the ones that put out extra effort. He'd rather get high than even show up. That's worse than the losers that go and do poorly. You can do better. Let him be somebody else's mistake.
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This is harsh, but reality.
You need to move on. Your boyfriend will likely not ever stop smoking weed for you and not because of you, it's more important to have weed than you. It's not that you aren't good enough to turn him into a great boyfriend. So many girls are stuck with guys who are on drugs and they take forever to learn that they don't have a future. So, if you want to look for a guy with goals and a future, don't go for guys who smoke weed because you don't deserve fighting through out an entire relationship with someone.
You seem like you are a great girlfriend, but you can honestly be a great girlfriend to a great boyfriend. And while your boyfriend may be a really nice guy, he makes bad choices that effect you. Breaking up with him is 'fully' an option, you just don't want to use that option. Love won't fix everything. If relationships were only based on love, we'd all be happy in relationships right now without worrying about problems like cheating, or weed or abuse. I hope this helps you a little.
-TheTeenGirl
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Your boyfriend is a loser. The more quickly you figure that out and get out of the relationship, the better off you will be.
I'm sorry, but its the truth. Hes already starting a habit of allowing substance abuse to ruin his life. He is not learning how to be a functional person without the drugs and you would be smart not to get caught up in that.
Honestly, yeah you like your boyfriend. Exclusive attention from someone is always flattering. But I guarantee you that any guy you find yourself interested in is going to make you feel that way. Don't settle for him just because you arent sure about being alone right now.
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You need to talk to him, seriously. If he can't keep up a good relationship then why stay in it? I think there should be some limits and some kind of priority schedule. You need to try and keep him to realize there are more important things to do than just smoke. It's a bad habit and if you get him to stop , that would be even more better. Honestly, smoking will get you no where except addition and in debt because you end up wasting so much money on it. I know they say they will change and start making better decisions, but that's only saying it. You can't trust just words, they don't mean to, but they end up just breaking their promises and betraying you. Alot of people get hurt trying to fix a relationship, but really they should have just left it because people can't always change...even if they say they were. Good luck and hope I helped.
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