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lost & confused
ok, this is going to be kind of long... I am in a relationship with this perfect guy, he seems like the perfect guy for me!! :) and i have never been happier in any other relationship. so we just hit our 4th mnth, and this is my 3rd relationship in my entire life. and i have never kissed a guy before (as in with tongue and all), untill i dated this guy, and so he is experienced and has gone up to third base, i havent gone anywhere, only 1st base! nothing compared to him.. the problem is, i dont want to move to second or third base yet, because i dont like my boobs being touched or any type of oral sex or groping and etc. whenever we kiss he touchs my back and so that is the only place he touchs, im happy he respects the fact that i dont feel comfortable being touched anywhere else, but i dont want to 'deprive' him of anything, because i am happy with where we are at the moment, and i dont want him to just bear with me even if he wants more out of this relationship. i believe he should be as happy as i am because we are both in the same relationship and together. i told him to tell me if he wants more from me, he said he will tell me, but i feel he is too much of a nice guy to actually tell me the truth, whether he wants more or not, and being afraid to lose me he wont tell me what he truly wants. besides the fact that we have hit our 4th mnth and he probably expects more from me than what he already gets... so help me!! i want to keep him and not lose him, he is too nice to tell me the truth, whether he wants more from me or not. and so.. please help!! any form of opinion or whatever will definitely help in a way i suppose.
thankyou!!
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He wants more.
I guarantee it.
All guys want sex on some level. Some guys have lower sex drives than others. What that means to you, is that he might definitely be the kind of guy who never mentions it even though he wants it.
4 months without a tongue kiss is a while by most people's standards. Now is the time for you to figure out if you WANT to do these things with him at some point. You know, do you want to go further than a close mouthed kiss.
Once you know that, you can figure out trying to start pushing your own boundaries or not.
But yeah, all guys want it. Thats universal. I guarantee you that if you offered him more he wouldnt turn it down.
The trouble here is, will he wait? I cant tell you that. Don't know him, how he thinks, or what specifically he wants and is comfy with and how much he wants it. Talk to him. Try to figure that out.
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if he's a perfect guy for you, he will care about your morals. don't feel like you have to do anything, just because he's gone farther than you. if you're comfortable with going farther, go for it! otherwise, don't. he should respect your decisions. if he doesn't, then he isn't the right guy for you. good luck, and make smart choices!
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