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Okay so e and my friend Heather are really close, and my other really close friend Mark likes her. But heather has a boyfriend, Jon. And so mark was like "can we have a three way converstation, but heather cant know im there"...so i was like "sure" but me and Mark like to prank eachother, and he said i was chicken to get him back. So, were all on the phone, haether doesnt know mark is there, and she sez some really mean things about him. So i immidiatley said i had to go. Then called her back and explained he was on the other line. She started laughing and we decided to tell him the whole thing was simply a prank to get him back for what he did last time (u dont wanna know). So now hes not speaking to either of us, btu its like when he pranks us its okay, but when we prank him....its like a sin! WHAT DO WE DO!!
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In a perfect world, it is only fair to be able to prank him back. But, you are his friend and know how he handles things. He may have low self esteem and use humor to make friends. This would also explain why he can't handle being made the butt of jokes or pranks. You do have to realize that even though it was a prank. Mark had to hear the girl he really likes say such mean things. Joke or not, that had to shatter his world. A simple "i'm sorry" doesn't mend things. He may have liked her even longer than you all knew. You know the guy so you all should know the limits to a joke with him. Everybody has a different limit and different things they can handle. Some guys can handle weight jokes and others cannot. It all depends on what he is touchy about and how touchy he is.
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You should really think about what you say, before you say it. When somebosy says something about someone without knowing they're there, then those feelings are coming from within and he might've picked up on that. He heard what Heather said about him, that hurt him. But for you to say that it was a prank is something even worse. Because not only have you really hurt his feelings, you've also damaged the realtionship between you two. You've got to understand that when he pranks you, it's for fun, but when he hears horrible things about him and you say it's a prank, that's really hurtful to everyone.
So, now i've done with the tricky bit, here's what you should do. Go to him and apologise, tell him that you didn't know that Heather was going to say that. Tell him that you didn't mean for it to be called a prank and you only were trying to soften it down.
Tell him all of this and a few other things to help you regain his friendship and trust.
Good luck in the future
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