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Best Guy Friend
Okay, so I like my best guy friend. Thing is, hes enagaged. He will call and ask if I want to go over to his house and play videogames. He referrs to the times when I go over to his house as "dates." He also says that he plays better when I am not around because when I sit next to him I make him nervous. He is always flirting with me. He will tease me, playfully hit me, and playfully kick me in the butt. He is also sensitive to my feelings, and is always trying to figure out what is wrong when I am upset so he can make it better. If he goes to the store, he will usually ask if I would like to go with him, or if I go to the store he will usually go with me because he said that he would feel bad if something happened to me. Also when we go out he will pay for me. I try to pay him back, but he wont let me. Also when I leave his house to go back to mine he will walk me out and watch me as I walk home to make sure I make it okay(we're neighbors. he lives like 2 houses down from me.)
Now him and his fiance have been engaged for almost a year now. They have not set a date, and they do not live together. They only see eachother on saturday, but other than that, they talk on the phone a couple times a day. She is leaving soon for another 4 years of college in another city, some 400 miles away and he is not going with her.
Before I ask my questions though, I would like to add: As much as I do like this guy, I would never get involved with him as long as he is with his fiance. I have no intentions of breaking them up either. If they were to break up, I dont want it to be because of me.
So onto the questions. Do you think he likes me? Do you think he is possibly having second thoughts about getting married? And do you think its weird that they are engaged but dont live together and havent set a date for their wedding yet??
I know this is kind of long, so I appreciate you all for taking the time to read and respond to this. Thanks!
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it is possible he likes you,and it is also possible that he has second thoughts to his marriage because as you say "they are engaged but don't live together and haven't set a date for their wedding yet".
You said you like him, But just be careful to your steps you said you have no intentions of breaking them up and you don't want it to be because of you. Hanging out with him that much and letting him treat you like his girlfriend will get you involved, cuz in the part of his fiance it hurts and might cuz them to break up. Just let him, and treat him as a friend if you don't want to get involved.
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He cares about you.
Everyone has second thoughts about getting married.
No, it's not that wierd.
What is wierd I gotta say, is the fact that you are allowing this behavoir.
I get that you like him, but you need realize that what you two are doing is something inappropraite. He is treating you like a girlfriend, you know it and you like it.
That doesn't make either of you bad people, but it still wrong.
It's wrong because it's unfair and disrespectful to his fiance but even more so because it's wrong and disrespectful to YOU.
Think of how you will feel when this guy blows you off and lives happily ever after with her. Or worse, marries her but keeps treating you this way.
Protect yourself and him from your own bad choices. Tell him to lay off the couple-ish behavoir.
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Well from that, I know he really cares about you and it is possible he has feelings for you plus second thoughts on his engagement. I respect you greatly for as much as you like him to not want them to break up especially because of you. I know how much these kind of situations suck.
Maybe, try randomly and jokingly bring up "so when are you two setting a date?" and see what his facial reaction is. And for a better reaction, try doing that when he is messing around with you.
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