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History repeating itself..
okay so my ex [the same guy who hurt me 2 times before/took my virginity/and so on] and I have been talking as friends he broke up with his ex [the one hes been going back in forth between me and her with] i was so happy!! you have no idea how much i love this guy but im afraid to love him cause idw to get hurt again [he said he would never hurt me again and that before he just wasnt sure but now he knows] i think he loves me i'm almost positive =] seriously but im still not sure i just dont want him to leave me for her again. i just want him to be the 'one' i told him i WILL NOT go out with him untill he knows what he wants but we're still talking [and kissing after skool] but we do everything on the down low cause i know everyone will be so dissapointed...im just still not sure if im doing the right thing by giving him another chance...i just dont wanna give up on something that might be meant to be
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Hunni, this sounds exactly like me and... from experience... let me tell you. He needs time to figure himself out first. He isnt sure what he wants, and he is hurting you in the process.
I think it took me literally about 9 tries with a guy before I ended it, and... I still find it hard at times.
What you have to know is that if he truly loves you and it is "meant to be" then it will be safe for you to let him go, because... in the end, later on in life, it will come back to you.
I know this all sounds so "cliche", but its true.
My ex is now a Marine, and he still hasnt grown up enough to find out what/who he wants. Its pathetic. And, when guys get in this cycle its a crazy mess that you dont want to get involved it, and grankly, isnt worth fighting for until they come to their seneses.
So... take some time to yourself. Be happy with who you are... and let him go for a while.
The history is going to repeat itself as long as you continue to let him back in. You have to literally "break" the cycle.
I know it will hurt. Best of luck! Let me know if you need anything.
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You are definitely emotionally attached to this guy. He probably isn't. If he was, you wouldn't be on here wondering what to do. He just seems to be telling you what you want to hear. I would step back and make him work at least. Personally, I think you should just find another guy. If you were buying a car, would you want a brand new car with nothing broken, or would you want one that requires all sorts of work? I think this guy is at best a "fixer upper". This guy is going to keep hurting you because you allow it.
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heres the deal, if you know everyone around you will be dissapointed, you should REALLY re-think all of this. Personally, if he really loved you, he wouldn't have been confused in the first place. Guys try and keep us girls as their fall backs in case things with another person don't work out. Yes guys do get confused and not just guys but us girls too make mistakes when it comes to relationships.. but if he was so confused he shouldn't of been dating either of you. he should've been friends with you both not going back and forth in and out of relationships.
theres so many guys out there and as much as you love him and want things to work, you need to be prepared to just move on in case. i wish the best of luck and i really hope this time he means it, but dont let him have it all so easy. make sure he knows your not playin when it comes down to you guys getting back together. dont have him just tell you he wants to be with you and only you, make him show it.
if everyone around you is going to be dissapointed because they know what hes done to you, or they dont think too highly of him, then he needs to step up and show them that he does mean it. a guy who really cares will you do anything to be your everything. (:
good luck girl,and remember theres plenty of fish in the sea (:
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hey, im going through the exact same thing. My ex cheated on me, he also took my virginity. and he told me he wuld do anything to get me back so we started meeting up and stuff again, but then i found out he has another girlfriend and its like destroyed me, its so hard to move on from someone u have such a close attachtment too. And i know everyone wil lgive you the same advice, to just stop thinking about it, but its a little hard wen everything reminds u of him. I found the only time i am actually happy now is wen im out getting drunk with my friends and hooking up with other guys. if possible get another boyfriend.
and dont go back to him delete his nubmer DO NOT RING HIM. i made the misstake of rining he aint worth it.
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