I'm a twenty year old chick from Wisconsin. I could sit here and ramble on about my life, but I'm not going to. I'll spare you the boring details. God knows we've seen one too many profiles with "OMG, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AND A DOG. GOD I LOVE THEM BOTH, I CANT CHOOSE WHO I LOVE MORE. IM SO COOL. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. SHOUTOUTS LYKE THX!"
So lets cut to the chase, I'm only here becuase a friend reffered me and I have a knack of giving advice. I'm very blunt and in no way am I going to paint some pretty picture and tell you things that you want to hear.
Have fun kids.
Gender: Female
Age: 20
Member Since: September 21, 2005
Answers: 184
Last Update: December 20, 2005
Visitors: 8546
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is their any way to tell when ur bout to start ur period without going to the doctor (link)
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When I started my first period all I know is that I felt a twisting horrible pain in my lower abdomen.
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I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me? (link)
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I wouldn't give him the time of day. It sounds like he was pretty shallow and an ass to you, people change.. but still. I wouldn't allow someone like that in my life.
Try having a conversation or something with him. Stare back at him, wave, something.. and just see how he responds. I know that going out on a limb like that is easier said then done. Just build up some confidence and go for it.
I would gather though by his actions he may still be kinda into you.
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Ok me and my bf have been going out 4 almost 8 months. It would be 8 months on Saturday. We've been fighting lately and just when I think we're good again he turns around and we're fighting again. I don't think I can put up with it. I love him so much im jsut sick of being confused all the time. I wrote him a breakup note and everything i was so sure of it last nite..but 2day i dont know. I love him so im afraid to lose him but I think we should just take a break 4 awhile...I don't know if he would ever take me back tho. I'm so afraid to do this and I'm gonna miss him so much. I guess my question is am I doing the right thing by taking a break? (link)
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If your relationship is stressful, why put yourself through more stress? Often you're going to have mixed emotions about relationships.
I was in a bad relationship, and I have a big fear of loss so I never left him when I should have. I really regret not taking a break or anything.
I know the saying is old and played out but if you set something free and it comes back, then it means it was yours to keep.
Take a break. Get your head on straight, try not to worry about guys right now. You are your first priority.
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ok i want to babysit but i dont really no any one with a young kid and about how old do you think you should be before you are trusted even and old even just can you give me to ages. and also what are some other jobs winter is going up so i dont really want to much of a outside job but can you just give me sum ideas. and if it is the babysitting thing can tell me how much to charge per kid and per hour... i rate 5s
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If you're younger people will find it harder to trust you with their kids. Unless you're a friend of the family or known by neighbors and such it may be more difficult to get a babysitting job. Personally, I'd want a babysitter with some kind of expierence, and a good head on their shoulders.
Babysitting jobs don't pay much. Maybe 3-4 dollars an hour per a kid. When I used to babysit for 4 kids, for about 5 hours I only god paid 25 bucks.
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i need help. okay, i've been with my boyfriend for a while now, but there's a small little problem that i'm having in our relationship. i love him to death and i know that he feels the same way, but when he talks to other girls.. i often get jealous and feel as if he's going to leave me for this girl even though i know they are just friends, i feel like maybe he sees something more in the girls he talks too. i feel this way because in the past, every guy i was with.. left me for another girl or was seeing another girl behind my back. i just got used to it & so now everytime i get into a new realtionship, i feel as if the same thing is going to happen even though i know all guys aren't the same, it's just something that sort of stuck in my mind. i expect guys to leave me.. i guess it's so i won't get hurt like i did in the past. i've talked with my boyfriend about this and he understands why i feel like this because of past experiences but he always reassures me that there is nothing going on because he doesn't want any other girl in this world besides me & that he loves me more than i could imagine. i mean, we've even talked about spending the rest of our lives together. i don't always have this problem when i'm with him.. but then there are times when i do. i hate it a lot because i really don't wanna feel this way, i TRY to tell myself "hes not gonna leave you" and it works half the time but then other time it doesnt and i get really upset. just so you know, i do BELIVE that he loves me, i don't doubt that.. it's just i really don't know how to explain it. maybe someone knows where i'm coming from. the point is, is there anyway i can convince myself that he's not going to leave me? is there anything at all i can do? or am i gonna be stuck feeling like this for the rest of my life because of what has happened to me in the past? (link)
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I know how you feel. I often get the case of the jealous jitters. It's always good to be cautious, but you have to give him his space and not harass him or get worked up about your jealousy. That's a real good way to end a relationship and drive him away from you.
If you REALLY love him, then you also need to be able to TRUST him as well. You can't have one without the other. Just tell yourself that he loves you, and only you. Try to push all the cheating thoughts out of your mind. I know it's hard, but in order to have a good and stable relationship you're going to have to trust him.
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ok so me and my bf have been going out for 2 weeks. i really want to kiss him, but im not really sure how to. ive never kissed anyone before and im afraid that im gonna be bad. are there any tips or anything i can do. i dont want to make a fool out of myself!! (link)
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The best thing to do is NOT to plan something like that. It just has to happen. The best kiss for a first timer is just a quick peck on the lips. Put an arm or two around him, reach over, give him a quick peck on the lips and then await his reaction.
He might then take the lead and you guys may end up having a little make-out session underway. Kissing just comes natural, but.. my advice to you is always have a tic tac in your mouth whenever you think this kissing thing is going to happen. Nothing is better than kissing someone with fresh and minty breath.
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what do boys do when they like someone? is there anything that they do when they like a girl? (link)
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When a guy talks to you more than usual, gives you a big smile in the hall, waves, pokes.. that's some little things.
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I know these aren;t the best questions to ask, but im not gunna ask anyone else!! There's a guy and his name is Gil. I always thought he liked me, but was never sure! Here are some signs he shows:
-He laughs at me
-Today he poked me purposely and I said "What?" and he said sorry
-He popped my bra strap once
-He smiles at me
Thats it...Does he like me? It's starting to annoy me!!! (link)
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I think that's a sure sign of a little flirtation. Flirt with him back and see what his reaction is. If he reacts positive then you'll know for sure that he's into you.
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ok im 13/F and my school dance is coming up, it's on friday 9/30/05 and i really want to go and a lot of ppl want me to go but my friend Halle wants to come over my big nice new house cuz i moved in a couplle weeks ago and all,well me and her have been planning for her to come over for over a week now and i really want her to come over but i really want to go to the dance on friday.the dance is 7:00 to 9:30 and her mom won't drive her over to my new house because it's dark and she won't be able to follow the directions that my mom has or will be giving her. I dont know what to do,what should i do?¿?¿? can someone please help me i rate 5's on good advice. (link)
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Your friend is going to have a lot of other chances to be able to come to your house. How many times do you get to go to a dance? Why not see if you can get her to go to the dance with you and then sleep over after it's over? That sounds like a plan. Then you can get both things over at once.
She might get a little steamed if you blow off plans you made with her for these new dance plans, so handle the situation with care. Personally and as much as it would bum me out I'd probably spend time with my friend first seeing how I already made plans. I can't just blow her off.
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ok well first im 13 and a girl and theres this kid on my bus lets call him john so john sits next to me on the bus in the pm and all and we talk about stuff like we were talking about his family once and his bros and sis and he gives me gum all the time and charges every one for it except me...i cant tell if he likes me or if hes just really nice cuz everyone says he is and if he did like me he might not ask me out right away cause hes kinda shy when it comes to that stuff...so wat do you think? (link)
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It's hard saying, he may just consider you as a really good friend. The best thing to do is just to give it time. If he is shy he'll eventually build up his confidence to ask you out, or maybe one day you could just casually ask him what he thinks of you, see if you can get anything out of him.
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Today i rean 9 laps (2 miles and a lap/ 1600 meters)in 30 well a lil under but basically 30 min. Do i have a good endurace or what? (link)
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Being that I can't do 9 laps without falling over. Yes.
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I really want to make more friends, and to get a boyfriend. But first I know I have to be comfortable with myself to be comfortable around others. Thats the problem... I dont know how I can be comfortable with myself. I'm not really proud of myself for anything, and I just...I dont know what to do. Its causing me major social disruptions...loss of confidence...loss of outgoingness...I hardly have any friends...Havent had a bf since 7th grade (10th now)...I just want to turn back into myself. I dont know how to explain it...but, how can I like myself again? (link)
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I never really did too much through out school, I never really had any friends and boyfriends were few. I had extremely low confidence within myself, and basically felt the same as you. Eventually I dropped out of public school and got homeschooled.
I started looking in the mirror everyday and telling myself that I'm a good person, that I'm beautiful no matter what my body may look like on the outside, and that I'm going to start the day off completely new. It really did get me through a lot as corny as that may sound.
Eventually I got a bundle of friends from my job and even a boyfriend.
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ok well this guy. bob* i really like for some odd reason and i dont know why i just like him. but i never really talked to him. he is the greatest thing i swear well kinda. anyways my friend joe* was like i will just ask him to homecoming for you and i said no. and he was like ok whatever. then the next day my friend told me he said no to homecoming. and bob* said no because he only liked me as a friend thats all. and now i don't know if i should call him and talk to him about it. I am kinda a shy person when it comes around the guy i like. but what should i do?? HELP!!! I am 14 he is 14. I am a female. he is a male. Plus bob* always looks at me at lunch and in pe.
* names have been changed (link)
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When you're shy approaching a guy can be the hardest thing in the world, but you should probably ask him to homecoming yourself and not have your friends do it for you. Guys like a girl who has confidence.
Seeing how he already said no, it's not a big deal. You rarely talk to him right? So it's not like you guys have a really close bond, he's just your crush.. eyecandy.. whatever you want to call him.
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I am a Christian who doesn't go to church. I pray every night and believe that Jesus died for our sins and that God exists.
My question is that why do so many other Christians put down other ones that don't go to church? I have a relationship with God, too! Thanks. (link)
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When it comes to religion you just end up with a lot of closed minded people is all..
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I'm getting a new cell phone (I have a Basic none flip Nokia with T-Mobile to go) Which kind of plan is cheapest?(I hate t-mobile) I want a flip phone what model should I get?? (link)
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The LG camera phone seems to be very popular. I go through US Cellular. My plan is free nights and weekends and 1,000 anytime minutes for about 50.00 bucks or so.
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so i got a gf but i like another girl in school and i know that she likes me because before i had my gf i asked her out and she said no but she still likes me just she isn't ready to go out with me. my gf doesn't go to my school but the girl that i also like but can't stop likeing her (starting to think i'm in love with her), does go to my school. but i don't wanna be mean to my gf if i dump her cause its been a short time that we've been goin out, plus how would i know if the other girl would go out with me. WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO????? (link)
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Do you feel anything for your current girlfriend? You're getting yourself in a big mess. When you have a girlfriend it's always a bad sign when you still love another girl. You need to find your feelings for your current girlfriend, and let her go now before she gets deep in the relationship. You can't string her along. You can't just use her as a rebound girl either, which is what I gathered from your last sentence. I could be wrong.
As for this other chick, talk to her? Tell her that you could take things slow if she wasn't quite ready for a steady relationship. If you really think you're in love with her then go the extra mile to try and prove it to her.
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well heres my question
where exactly is the clit on a guy? and uhm what do guys like a lot? anything helps
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Guys don't have anything like a clit. The head of the penis and the balls are really sensitive though. Try those areas.
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Okay. Last year he treated me so badly and my best friend is like in love with him. I don't know if I still like him because for some reason I feel safe around him. He has two sides to him. Like Dr.Jekel and Mr.Hyde. I don't know what to do with him. And I just don't know if I like him or not. But I also don't know if I should tell my friend. I think it would break her heart. HELP! (link)
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I'd rather have my heart broken by my best friend then some guy. If he was a jurk to you, then it's a chance that he might be that way to your friend. You don't want her to hurt like you did, do you?
A guy needs to make up his mind how he wants to act if he wants a lady. No guy should have a reason to treat a girl like dirt. You can't be Mr. Nice guy and then turn around and be Mr. Horrible. I'd forget about him, give it a few months, maybe as short as weeks and your feelings will probably change about him.
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So i'm not the type of girl who has gone out with a lot of guys in high school....actually i have went out with zippo boys....but recently one guy has been acting strangly towards me. He and his friends keeps telling me his phone number and acts somewhat flirty around me, but the REAL thing im confused about is weather or not it's some joke with his friends to see what i do.....should i call him or just forget it? (link)
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Okay, so it could be some cruel joke, but what's to loose? Just call him and ask him what the deal is with his friends shoving his number in your face. Maybe he likes you? Maybe he doesn't. Just confront him about it. If you're not really into him there's not much to loose, but maybe there could be something to gain out of this?
I'd call him and just have a normal conversation with him. Or .. as normal as it could be.
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Theres this New kid in my grade and i wanna talk to him and ask him questions and such but i dunno i have no idea how to start out. Me and my friends titled him a Bad Boy. So how should i get to know him? (link)
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Bad boys are normally trouble and heartbreak, but as girls most of us are normally drawn to them. You can get to know him, but anything that starts flashing warning signs means to stay away! His image just might be a bad boy, but he could be a real softy inside.
Hi is always the best way to start a conversation with someone. Find out what he's into, if you're into the same thing you can talk about it. If he's into the same sports maybe you guys could get together and play it. Ask what he thinks about such and such class. Ask silly questions about lunch and what soda is better... pepsi.. or coke. Anything like that might set you off into a conversation. If he doesn't really take interest and gives you short answers I'd move on and forget about him.
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