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breakup?
Ok me and my bf have been going out 4 almost 8 months. It would be 8 months on Saturday. We've been fighting lately and just when I think we're good again he turns around and we're fighting again. I don't think I can put up with it. I love him so much im jsut sick of being confused all the time. I wrote him a breakup note and everything i was so sure of it last nite..but 2day i dont know. I love him so im afraid to lose him but I think we should just take a break 4 awhile...I don't know if he would ever take me back tho. I'm so afraid to do this and I'm gonna miss him so much. I guess my question is am I doing the right thing by taking a break?
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u should go back out w/ him now but ya go back out w/ him now cuz he loves u alot i luv u
Roxy
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if you guys are fighting that much then yeah it would probably be a good idea to take a break for awhile. Just explain to him that all the fighting is driving you crazy and you need a break. are you pregnant or living with him or anything like that because that might make it a little difficult? If you aren't then go ahead take a break for a little while, maybe a break is what you need right now. Maybe after taking the break you two will get back together and maybe it will make your relationship stronger and there will be less fighting. Sometimes couples fight alot if they spend alot of time together. hope I helped you, if you have any more questions you can leave one in my inbox. Good luck.
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If your relationship is stressful, why put yourself through more stress? Often you're going to have mixed emotions about relationships.
I was in a bad relationship, and I have a big fear of loss so I never left him when I should have. I really regret not taking a break or anything.
I know the saying is old and played out but if you set something free and it comes back, then it means it was yours to keep.
Take a break. Get your head on straight, try not to worry about guys right now. You are your first priority.
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I think if you feel that strongly about taking a break then its the best thing for you to do.
If you really miss him and something is missing in your life when he is not in it romantically then you try and get him back.
Of course that won't work if he moves on. It may be worth the risk though. Love should make you happy not confused. :)
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It all depends on the topic of your fights. Your fights might just be bickering due to stress about other things, not enough space from eachother, or maybe there is a hidden issue you guys have with eachother that you aren't bringing out in the open so it is causing you guys to fight over anytihng and everything. My boyfriend and me went through this and I know exactly what you are going through. The first 2 months of datig we were always fighting then everything would be fine, then we would fight again. The issue was not what we were bickering about. It was something else. We bickered because we weren't sure about our relationship. We were so close to eachother, yet not sure if how we felt for eachother was actually real. He said he loved me, but I didn't really believe him, and the same with him. Well after 2 months he went to Chicago for 4 days and we hardly got to talk on the phone because of his cell didn't get good signal. But when he did call the day before he got back we talked for 2 and 1/2 hours about everything and anything on our minds. It felt like we broke through a barrier and the space showed us how much we really did love eahother and want to be with eachother. You NEED to get space from him, and you need to weigh in the options of why you guys are fighting so much. If it is something really big, then maybe a break is the best thing to do for both of you. But you NEED to talk to him about this. Be calm and civilized. No reason to fight about why you are fighting! Just ask him why he thinks you guys fight all the time, and when things gets tense you MUST take the initiative. You be the calm one. That way both of you aren't blowing up on eachother. Hope I helped. If you need any advice just note my inbox and I will be happy to help. ~Sherah
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The reason for the two of your arguing all the time COULD be b/c you are too close. If you are constantly talking and spending time with each other, chances are you might just need some space. You have to have two seperate lives, not lives that revolve around each other. If you feel a break from him would be the best thing for your relationship, take one. But there is always that chance that during that time (the "break"), one of you, could find someone else. That kind of stuff does happen, b/c not everyone is willing to wait. In my opinion, a "break" is just another way of saying that you broke up. It might seem very difficult for you to do this, but it probably has to be done if it's causing problems in your relationship! What are you arguing about? If it's just certain things, try to eliminate them from your conversations, and avoid talking about them! If you need any more help, let me know!
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well since you argue so much maybe try to have more time apart.. *im not sayin taking a break or breaking up** just give eachother more space.. ask him what he wants out of you.. tell him what you want out of him.. tell him how you feel about your relationship with him and why you want to fix it before you guys are no longer together no more.. if he starts to argue i recommend not doing the same back..**if he starts to argue id just sit quite knowing how hard it is and then when he is done say what you want and tell him your not arguing or yelling..** most of the times when people take breaks they dont get back together so i wouldnt do that.. i think if your completely misrable with him then just end it and try to be friends.. ♥ Dez
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