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Friends, Self, Confusing
I really want to make more friends, and to get a boyfriend. But first I know I have to be comfortable with myself to be comfortable around others. Thats the problem... I dont know how I can be comfortable with myself. I'm not really proud of myself for anything, and I just...I dont know what to do. Its causing me major social disruptions...loss of confidence...loss of outgoingness...I hardly have any friends...Havent had a bf since 7th grade (10th now)...I just want to turn back into myself. I dont know how to explain it...but, how can I like myself again?
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Hey,
Go out and treat yourself to some new outfits. Like maybe go to Abercrombie or Aeropostale or you could go higher priced like Versace, Liz Clairborne, BeBe, and other expensive designer clothing lines. Treat yourself to go and get your nails done maybe get a cute design on your nails or just go for a more simple look french tip. Treat yourself to go and get your hair done. Then boys will start noticing you more and then you will feel more comfortable with yourself and then you'll gain all your confidence back and maybe even your friends.
Good Luck,
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I've had that same problem before.. first of all, just go for it. Even if you're not comfortable at first, you'll slowly slowly get people to know you so that you're more comfortable.
Another thing that helps is to get yourself into extra activies after school, such as dance, chorus, writing for the paper etc. If you're not sure how to get into that kind of stuff ask!! Someone is bound to know and you might make a new friend in the process.
♥ Hope I helped.
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one thing you could do to gain confidence is work out, or even just go for walks to release stress, and start eating healthy. your attiture will most like change for the better...that helped me a lot, and i had the same problem you did. and this has helped me.
in class, with the people around you, just say "hi""how are you" "my name is.." at first, or make a little comments, ask a few questions if you have one, just some small talk..and as the years go on and you learn a little bit more about the people around you, small talk can grow into actual conversations.
when someone looks at you, smile a little, as to look friendly and approachable
also, i think you should join a club or a few..theyre a great way of meeting new people, and if its something you have an interest it, then its easier to talk to people in that club.
go to school activities with friends too, just to get out and see new people, and you can make friends there as well, just by using "hi how are you" and stuff. it doesnt have to be deep conversations at first...just the little conversations that help you to meet people is what can build a good friendship...
HIH a little...♥
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I never really did too much through out school, I never really had any friends and boyfriends were few. I had extremely low confidence within myself, and basically felt the same as you. Eventually I dropped out of public school and got homeschooled.
I started looking in the mirror everyday and telling myself that I'm a good person, that I'm beautiful no matter what my body may look like on the outside, and that I'm going to start the day off completely new. It really did get me through a lot as corny as that may sound.
Eventually I got a bundle of friends from my job and even a boyfriend.
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The best thing to do is take time out for yourself. Learn to like yourself again. At least you already know that you can't be comfortable around others until you are with yourself. Find out your intrests and treat yourself. Keep a journal and write out your thoughts, help yourself in any way possible in order to make yourself feel better. Learn that pleasing everyone else is not the answer, just be open and be who you are. Being who you are is the most perfect thing you can do, don't try to change yourself just to please someone or draw someone closer, find people who will accept you for you and find common intrests with people who you can relate to and that way you'll have more fun.
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