1] It lasts until he orgasms, and then for a few seconds after that (I call that the, um, cleanup time... as long as it takes me to swallow and make sure there's no drippy saliva on his parts, haha). If you're looking at a time estimate... it depends on the guy, and on whether or not he's received oral sex/had sex before. It can be anywhere from 2 minutes to 30 minutes or even a lot longer. My boyfriend lasts about 15 minutes (he says that when he's getting head, he lets go a lot easier and doesn't try to make it last longer because he knows it's not something I'm a huge fan of).

2] There's a link below. Also, if this is your first time giving AND his first time receiving, feel free to say something like, "I've never done this before, so if I do something you don't like, let me know. And if I'm doing something you REALLY like, let me know. The point is to make you feel good, but you might have to help me out a little." If he cares about you, he'll tell you what he likes/doesn't like.

3] Well, I've done it, and we were lucky not to get caught. I'd say that yes, it's wrong, and illegal, and you can get in lots of trouble.

4] http://www.bjtutorial.com/how_to_give_fellatio.htm
This site is purely educational!

(Um, and don't blow on it.)

CVS is only in the US. However, I'm pretty sure it's now owned by Wal*Mart, which is all over the place.

The previous Advicenator is wrong -- do NOT get a perm!!

Go here: http://www.ehow.com/how_2831_curl-hair-with.html

There's even a video and a step-by-step. =]

If you really just hate the idea completely, tell him so. If he really loves you, he'll respect that decision.

You could also tell him that you're willing to do it once, and that if you don't like it, you'll never do it again -- that's what I told my boyfriend, and I ended up enjoying it more than I thought I did.

You don't HAVE to suck it up. No matter what. And if he has any respect for you, he'll understand that. =]

Okay, so let me get this straight. You're with a guy that you have absolutely no future with -- you're from different religions, your parents don't like him, you don't find him attractive, and he doesn't satisfy you sexually. So why the heck are you with him in the first place?

If you don't want to be with this guy, then break up with him; no matter what, he doesn't deserve to be with someone who doesn't appreciate him and want to be with him.

If you break up with him, then you can get with Guy #2 and keep your self-respect -- AND you don't get labeled as a "Cheater."

Either way, don't cheat.

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Some guys -- some girls, too -- just don't like talking on the phone. If he talks to you in person, and uses other methods of communication, then I don't think he's nervous or doesn't know how to talk to you. Mostly I just think he doesn't like to talk on the phone. It may be impersonal, but that's just the way some guys are. You can't make him want to talk on the phone.

Wow. To be honest, it seems like this is the kind of guy you need to get OUT of your life. I understand that you used to be close to him, but he is a violent person and if you don't drop him completely, he's going to hurt you even more. I know that you valued your closeness, and you want to have that again -- trust me, I've been there. But this is NOT the kind of person you need in your life. You need to drop him. Here's how:

1] Put yourself in a situation where you're with him and can talk privately, but you're around LOTS of people (for instance, a restaurant). That way, he can't get violent with him.
2] Tell him you can't be his friend any more, and explain why -- tell him you used to value your closeness, but now you feel like he doesn't respect you and he treats you badly, hurts you physically, and does not respect you.
3] WALK AWAY, no matter what he says.
4] Follow through with this -- you HAVE to let this guy go. Having him in your life is only going to hurt you worse, no matter what he says.

Then find yourself a new friend.

No, your clit is just an area where the nerves are closer to the skin. Most women don't pierce the clitoris itself, but instead the clitoral hood -- if you don't know where that is, then I guess you should Google it... haha.

I had mine done for a while. Yes, it hurts. A LOT. It brought me to tears -- and keep in mind that I have multiple tattoos and piercings, and not one of them hurt that bad. But this one HURT.

Yes, there's a chance of infection. You also run the risk of not having an orgasm ever again.

Yes, you can go to the gynecologist.

Well, most girls probably won't say yes, because most girls aren't sluts. =]

But from my experience, most girls do enjoy sex and sexual acts; they just don't express it quite as much as guys do, because girls worry a lot more about their reputation and people think about them, then guys do.

You could just be really stressed out, or something could be seriously wrong with you. I'd suggest going to the doctor, because no matter what's wrong, you need to be eating -- you'll get very sick if you don't. Please see a doctor.

You don't need to change yourself or do anything to impress him -- just be yourself and if he's worth anything, he'll like you plenty. You may want to put yourself in a situation where you could get closer to him, like joining a club he's in, or something like that, but PLEASE don't change yourself for a guy.

I don't think you're being jealous at all. In my opinion, he's causing you to not get enough sleep, and that's going to put your job and your relationship in jeopardy. I wouldn't ask him to change his hours. What I would do is, when I felt tired, just say, "Hey, I've been staying up way too late recently, and I'm tired all day and have to have a nap -- something I don't like to do. So I'm going to go to bed. You can come too if you want, but I'm not making you or anything."

Hopefully, he'll start going to bed earlier with you, or he'll completely ignore it by just staying up as late as he wants and not getting to spend any time with you -- which is his loss.

Isn't the cardinal rule of friendship, "Don't date each other's exes"? So in the first place, she's doing wrong. What an icky friend.

If you're absolutely sure that she's only in the relationship to date him longer than you did (and I do mean ABSOLUTELY sure), then I think you should tell him. If he's such a close friend, then he deserves for you to tell him. All you have to do is get him in a private place and say, "Look, _____. I know that you really love _____, and you would do anything for her. But I consider you my best friend and I care about you a lot, because we've been through a lot together. I think you should know that _____ said/implied/whatever that she's only in the relationship with you, because she wants to date you longer than I did. I just wanted you to know, because I don't want you to get hurt."

At this point, she's being a terrible friend and a bad girlfriend, so it doesn't matter if SHE gets mad that you told him -- because in my opinion, you need to drop her anyway.

When you tell him, though, you need to understand that you run the risk of HIM getting upset, and thinking you're trying to ruin their relationship or get him back or something like that. So brace yourself for that if you decide to tell him.

I searched Google and couldn't find anything like that, but chances are that if you go into Fantastic Sam's and explain exactly what you want, they'll be able to recreate the hair for you. They're really good at that -- hey, it's why they work there. =]

I doubt she hates you or anything like that. Probably, she just realized she doesn't actually like hugs. It could be that being touched makes her uncomfortable, it could be that she just doesn't want that physical closeness with other females/friends/whatever. It could even be that something happened to her that caused her to not want to be touched any more (ex: a friend of mine was sexually assaulted and now she doesn't like to be touched). Either way, she probably hasn't said something because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying that she doesn't want to be hugged.

From this point, you have two options.

1] You can just stop hugging her completely, and not say anything. Chances are, she won't say anything either.
2] You can wait until you're alone and say something like, "I noticed that you stopped hugging me back when I hug you -- do you just not like hugging any more? Should I stop?" She'll either explain what's going on, or she'll just say, "I just don't like being hugged any more," and leave it at that.

You can definitely do it, as long as you keep your mind on the right track and stay positive. Running/jogging is great. That works out your entire body, not to mention it's fun. =] You could also try crunches, pushups, swimming, and generally anything that gets you active.

As far as things to stay away from, try to drink mostly water -- soda is BAD bad bad. Also, if you're going to drink juices and whatnot, try to make sure it's 100% juice, not that fake thing.

I hope that you're able to do it -- I definitely think you can. Just think positive and stay active!

It's one dance -- what, 5 minutes? Suck it up.

For $50 a pop, I highly doubt they're real. Especially since, on the Neiman-Marcus website, you can't get those same bags for under $200.

I don't think there is one. I think it's something someone made up to make other people feel like idiots. =]

Hey there. I'm Holly, and I'm 19. I've been through a lot in my life -- literally, if you can name it, I've probably dealt with it or know someone who has. Unfortunately, it sucks, but fortunately, it puts me in a great position to help people that need advice. Feel free to ask me anything about anything. =]

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