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I need my friend back
I had a friend, last year. We were pretty close. Now it's like this year we've done a lot of fighting. He'll hit me with a horse whip or try to push me out a window, and I'll respond the same way. I've tried ignoring him, though I want us to be friends agein, I;ve tried talking to him, not reacting, being nice, nothing works, could you help me? I really want my friend back.
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Wow. To be honest, it seems like this is the kind of guy you need to get OUT of your life. I understand that you used to be close to him, but he is a violent person and if you don't drop him completely, he's going to hurt you even more. I know that you valued your closeness, and you want to have that again -- trust me, I've been there. But this is NOT the kind of person you need in your life. You need to drop him. Here's how:
1] Put yourself in a situation where you're with him and can talk privately, but you're around LOTS of people (for instance, a restaurant). That way, he can't get violent with him.
2] Tell him you can't be his friend any more, and explain why -- tell him you used to value your closeness, but now you feel like he doesn't respect you and he treats you badly, hurts you physically, and does not respect you.
3] WALK AWAY, no matter what he says.
4] Follow through with this -- you HAVE to let this guy go. Having him in your life is only going to hurt you worse, no matter what he says.
Then find yourself a new friend.
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