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Huggies
Why doesnt my friend hug me back? or/and why doesnt she hug me? i remember in high school we all gave each other hello and goodbye hugs, we dont do it any more. i only do it when someone leaves far away on a trip and when they gave me a gift. but my friend victoria hugs me when we gave each other giftsof a thank you hug but Jane doesnt. i hug her for giving me a gift but she doesnt do it back, and when i give her a gift for her brithday she didnt hug me thank you like she use to in high school. does she hate me? or what?
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i doubt she hates you. some girls just arent as clingy/touchy as others. maybe she feels weird giving you hugs.
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I doubt she hates you or anything like that. Probably, she just realized she doesn't actually like hugs. It could be that being touched makes her uncomfortable, it could be that she just doesn't want that physical closeness with other females/friends/whatever. It could even be that something happened to her that caused her to not want to be touched any more (ex: a friend of mine was sexually assaulted and now she doesn't like to be touched). Either way, she probably hasn't said something because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying that she doesn't want to be hugged.
From this point, you have two options.
1] You can just stop hugging her completely, and not say anything. Chances are, she won't say anything either.
2] You can wait until you're alone and say something like, "I noticed that you stopped hugging me back when I hug you -- do you just not like hugging any more? Should I stop?" She'll either explain what's going on, or she'll just say, "I just don't like being hugged any more," and leave it at that.
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Maybe she diesn't like hugs, or the closure makes her uncomfortable.
Next time you hug and she doesn't hug you, say, "Do you not like it when I hug you? Because I can stop if you want. I didn't realize you didn't like it."
and then see what she says
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