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Does anyone know of a website to post pics on. Like either a photo album one or an actual website one. I don't want Picture Trail, EasyDesigner, Xanga, or Xprofile. If you know of any others that are user friendly, let me know! Thanks! -Free2bMe :) (link)
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Try DeviantART. www.deviantart.com
Great place for any kind of art, and people can view it easily and give you feedback, good and critical.
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Ok, I'm getting contacts really soon. The problem is, I have this little fear of things going in my eye. I have practiced so many times trying to put them in, but I always subconciously close my eye and I can never get them in all the way. What am I supposed to do to get over this? I really want to wear these contacts, but I'm so scared putting them in! (link)
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Hey, no worries. I was the same way when I first got mine! It does pass, I promise. For about a week, I actually had my mom put them in for me, but the trick to that is holding your head still! If you have someone put them in your eyes for you, no matter how much you want to, you HAVE to keep your head still, and let them put the contact in. If it helps, and try both, try looking right at the contact as they/you try to put it in or when they're doing it, look at their face instead of the contact.
Best of luck, and contacts are super nice!
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One of my closest and dearest friends is suicidal. Or was, rather. Her mother mistreats her and she was slitting her wrists out of frustration. None of us knew. Finally we found out and she swore to stop. But just recently her mother and her mother's boyfriend (who they were living with) split up and they have nowhere to stay. I'm worried and really care about her. If I could, I'd let her stay at my house... but that's not an option because my mother won't have her. What do I tell her, how do I help? (link)
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Let her know how much she means to you. I had a friend who was suicidal too, she also said she'd stop cutting, and didn't. Well, she did, but only after like 12 people talked to her about it, and told her how much she meant to them. You HAVE to let her know that no matter what happens, you're there, and even if she feels like she's no one, she's someone to you.
As for HER mother, I'm sorry I can't be of more help. if possible, I'd say have her talk to her mother, or (depending on what her mother's doing) you may be able to report her for child abuse. (yeah, it sounds nasty, but if it'll keep your friend alive...)
About YOUR mother, talk to her. Ask her why your friend can't stay with you, and see if you can change her mind. Don't yell to change her though. Maybe write a letter, both asking why she can't stay with you and explaining the situation with your friend.
Best of luck
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i want to pierce my cartilage by myself. how should i do it? is this a good idea? n if not how much would it cost at a professional place? thankz (link)
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Don't do it on your own. I know people who have and have gotten the needle stuck...and had to have it surgerically removed. I don't think you REALLY wanna do that...Professional places have pretty variying price ranges last I checked, and it might depend on what exactly you want to get pierced. If you're REALLY intent on doing it on your own (I discourage it) then do some research on it first.
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Hello!! I never wear makeup!! Should I?? I have medium brown hair, brown eyes and white skin (not very tanned) what colors should i use, and fiunally how do I put it on?? PLEASE answer as much as possible!@!! !Thanks so much!! I'll rate you (link)
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You do NOT have to wear makeup unless you WANT to. I used to hate it so much, and even now, I hardly wear any. People think they need to wear makeup because they dont' like how they look without it. If you're comfortable not wearing it, then don't! If you want to start wearing it, talk to someone who knows a lot about it, and who knows how to put it on properly.
Luck!
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ok well its only the third week of school ive missed 7 days so far and we can only miss 9 in a semester or quarter something like that but im sick so i cant help it. anyways i have FS in ALL my classes! jus because im missin 2 things its crazy. im in highschool and its really hard for me. english class is the hardest becuz i can never think of anything to write on essays or anything. and math is hard because i dont understand divison everything else it ok. my mom said if i keep my grades up i get a cell ( im in 10th ). she knows how much i want a cell so she uses that to make me get good grades. lately ive been really stressed because my ex boyfriend is always emailing me saying i have no life and im a bitch. then my bestfriend keeps sayin that im going to fail because ive missed so many days and ect. and all she does it put her problems on me and make them my problems. everyones just making it worst for me and making me worry. what do i do? how do i keep my grades up? thanks. (link)
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I've been out sick for about as long this year. Same thing, really worried about keeping my grades up, in 10th etc.
I've been actually emailing my teachers and they've been emailing me back with the handouts from class, and the assignments as attachments, and the stuff that they can't email, they ask me to have a parent come pick it up from the office at school. If you have a way of contacting your teachers, if you could call them or something, and get the assignments, that'll at least help to get you caught up. Also, if you have friends in your classes, or someone you can ask, ask them to copy the handouts and stuff and get it to you.
About your friend and ex, a) ignore your ex. He's being stupid and probably trying to make you feel bad. If he's worrying you, it's working. Ignore him, he's not worth the attention. As for your best friend well, doesn't seem that she's being a very good friend huh. Tell her what she's doing isn't helping, and that you need the help to get your grades back up.
Best of luck
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I'm a pretty good student, usually do all my homework and don't cheat or anything. Most of the time, people are always asking to copy my homework and since I'm nice and want to make friends, I let them. I can't say I don't have it when its out on my desk and anyone can see it. I always get scared the teacher is going to see I'm letting someone copy and I'll get in trouble! What should I say next time it happens? I don't want to come off as mean or anything, but I'm sick of working for my grades when someone can just copy and get it easy! (link)
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No. Don't keep letting people copy your work. You said you were sick of people taking your grades that you work to get, so dont' let them. People always used to ask for my work too, and I let them copy at the beginning, and then began to feel like you do, and started saying "you can't copy, but I'll help you if you want." Copying won't help them anyway, it's not helping them understand what you're doing in class, and what if they dont' do their work, and want to copy from you, and you're not there that day? Then they'll not have their work anyway.
Just tell them no, but be nice about it, and offer to help them with it before class.
Luck be with you.
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Sorry this is long, but please answer me. I have two friends. One is my bff, the other a good friend. We'll call my bff 1 and my friend 2. We all get along, but 2 is always jealous when I hang out with 1. It's like, 2 always HAS to be there, or she gets all pissed and mad. It is so annoying! So anyway, I wanna take friend 1 on vacation with me this summer. What should I say to friend 2?
Thank you so much, if you answer, I'll rate you A 3 or more! (link)
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Don't tell both friends that you are going to take someone on vacation. It's fine if they know you're going somewhere, but it'll only cause jealousy if one knows the other gets to go and she doesn't.
If they already know that you're taking a friend, then perhaps you should take a friend that's not one of the two you're worried about.
From what this sounds like, friend 2 is afraid that friend 1 is going to take your friendship away from her. If you don't already, try to balance the time you spend with each person as equally as possible. I know, this is hard, but you can do it.
Best of luck.
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I am doing a play for my school called "guys and Dolls" I really want to try out for the role of Sara (if you know which character is) and she is a lead role. People say I act very good and there a lot of people trying out for the school musical. I am just not that used to not getting a role in a play at all. It happened once and I am making a vow never to not get a role again. And I know thats the way life goes but you know I have a dream and I don't want it to start breaking, especially now, I'm young. Plus my ex-friend is doing the play too and what if I get a role where I have to read dialogue with her? Ya know? Me and my Luck! lol
x0x surfer girl x0x (link)
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Well, about your friend/ex friend: you're gonna be ON STAGE playing characters. Forget who it really is, and just see them as another character. If you can, try to look like you're looking at her but really don't look directly at her, like look just over her shoulder or something, it does help you to forget who you're talking to.
Best of luck
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hey i have a problem, there are these 4 guys and they all like me 3 of them are friends and the other one is seperate and doesnt know them... the thing is I don't wanna hurt anyone of them... help me plz... what should I do. (link)
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Don't worry about it. You don't have to do anything. If you're really worried about hurting them, don't do anything. Just 'cause someone likes you doesn't mean anything has to come out of it. Why go into something you're not 100% sure about? It's sweet that they care about you, but don't feel like you have to do anything.
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well i have this friends and she is 13 like me and shes had sex already and might even get married already because her parents dont give a crap about her im really worried about her and i dont want this guy to be with her..wut should i tlel her (link)
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Your friend's only 13, I believe there is ONE state in the US that girls can get married legally at age 13, and that has to be with a parent's consent. Your friend is simply too young to be married and, in my opinion, too young to be doing much else except for living her life. Just because her parents don't care about her doesn't mean that she can go and do illegal things and they are suddenly legal. Be there for her, tell her how much she means to you, tell her your concerns about her boyfriend.
Best of luck
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I was really good friends with this girl named madeline.... today she came up to me and punched me in the face in school(i still am in school right now) for no reason at all! I fell on the ground and didn't hit her back! I should of (well i think so at least) And i didn't! Should i of went after her or did i do the right thing by not hitting her back? (link)
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Physical violence won't solve anything, so don't get revenge by hitting her back, it won't help anyone.
Do try to find out why she hit you, then confront her about it. There's no reason to hit someone, ever, and especially not friends.
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kay im 15 and kinda have gurl probs.
1) every time 1 tries to kiss me i shy away because im scared that a might do somthin wrong
2)im afraid to go on a date again because i might do somthing wrong.
3) i dont no y but there are alot of hot gurls in my area and im ntimidated by alot of them
PLease help me! (link)
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Hey, you're only 15, you don't need to be going out on dates!! If you really want to go out on them, then just tell whoever you're going out with that you are shy when it comes to kissing, and it's not something you're always comfortable with. I know it sounds cheesy, and it probably is, but if that's how you feel, wouldn't you rather tell them up front about it, instead of being awkward and shying away?
Under no circumstances do you have to do anything you're not 100% comfortable with (unless it's giving an oral presentation in school.....(evil teachers) :- D).
Best of luck
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okay i was just wondering if it's normal that i 14 and dont have my period....i was at the doctors and he said that hey will have to investagrate to see wuts wrong if i dont start sooner but then again in my eyes hes a gay doctor and i dont like or will ever listen to him. but from experienced ppl and everything is it normal that i haven't started? i will be 15 soon in january. thank you guys in advance. (link)
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Don't worry about it much. I was almost 14 when I started, I know people who were 17 and 18 before theirs. It's fine. Count yourself lucky you didn't get it when you were 11 or so (yes, people get it that young). Don't worry about it, enjoy not having to worry about it while you can.
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i was wonderin' if anyone knew any fun websites to go on because it starts to get a little boring going on the same website. Thanx a bunch (link)
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There's a ton of amusing, time-passing websites out there.
www.isketch.net (online drawing game)
www.fanfiction.net (read fan fiction about your favorite stories!)
www.deviantart.com (if you're into any kind of art)
www.uselessfacts.net (totally useless junk, but most of it can be pretty funny, bunch of stupid laws and whatnot)
Ask around! Your friends must have some way of entertaining themselves online that's different from yours, they probably have some fun sites too!
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Okay, so I only just turned 13, and I want to become a professional singer.
I've always wanted to be one. Now I want to be one so bad I'll do anything. After seeing JoJo become a singer and she's only 13, I think I could do it too.
What I need to know is where I can go to shove my singing career off the ground. I've had private lessons on singing, and the only problem is I have stage fright of singing infront of people.
I just need to know 2 things. Places I can take my singing career further, and how to overcome my fear.
Thanks! (link)
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I'm not much of a singer, so no help for the professional bit, sorry.
As for getting more comfortable singing in front of people: like people have said, sing in front of family, friends, everyone you know will help. The other thing you can do is try out for musicals, at church, in school, try looking into some acting things even, things like the Children's Theatre Company. They do musicals and drama stuff, it'd not only get you singing, but get you singing onstage, in front of people.
Best of luck.
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do u know any kind of site that i can use to post my poetry besides poetry.com?? -thx for all who help (link)
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Try deviantART. http://www.deviantart.com
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When I started high school, my mom gave me the whole "You'll be starting college soon, so grades and extracurricular activities are important" speach, and she said that any extracurricular activity I wanted to sign up for was fine. She had no problem with me joining the school newspaper, art club, or drama club, but when I asked if I could join cheerleading, she said no because "cheerleading is for bimboes". I don't get why she would say that, it's a sport and it's an extracurricular activity, what's wrong with that? I think she's being unreasonable, but she won't even listen to me. What should I say to her that will make her change her mind? (link)
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"Cheerleading is for bimboes" Not true. That's the stereotype about cheerleading. It takes a lot of physical ability and flexibility to be a good cheerleader, it's like another form of gymnastics. Try that angle with your mother. Tell her it's another form of gymnastics, or ask her what she would say to you taking up gymnastics. If she says that taking up gymnsatics would be fine, then try talking about cheerleading.
Best of luck.
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ok, there is this guy i like, and we are friends but i like him more then a friend. should i ask him out? my friends say yeah just to see if he will, but will that change our friendship if he says no? (link)
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I've been there! come to that, I'm still there. I got the same thing, friends telling me to ask him out. I honestly haven't, and havent' even thought of it for months (not that I'd mind). All I did was tell my friend how I felt, and certainly nothing changed in our friendship. The hardest thing about being here is that there is the painful chance that he likes someone else. It's totally up to you.
Best of luck, which ever way you choose.
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Well i have this friend and like she thinks that she is the most popular person in school...shes kinda popular but she talks shit about people and hardly anyone likes her anymore. well lately she said she hated this one girl and like now shes totally attachted and shes being a bitch so idk i dont want to talk to her because i have tried ignoring her but like when i dont talk to her she comes and talked to me and like i really feel like i have to say something and like i dont want to tell her how i feel because that would be complaining that i dont like what shes doing and thats dumb because its her choice...also shes been telling me that i have been making good choices and stuff and like she hasnt and like i think that shes just saying that because she wants attention...what do you think? (link)
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From what it sounds like, this girl is insecure, or maybe something happened in her life that's making her like this. Don't give her the silent treatment, it will most likely make things worse. Being backstabbed hurts (personal experiance). Try asking her, if you can, how she would feel if she learned that people were talking about her behind her back. Also, see if you can, without seeming to try, find out what other people are saying about her, if anything.
1) find out what people think of her
2) ask her how she would feel if people were backstabbing her
3) let her know (as kindly as possible) what others think of her. Try to avoid hurting her.
Best of luck
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