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confused...
Well i have this friend and like she thinks that she is the most popular person in school...shes kinda popular but she talks shit about people and hardly anyone likes her anymore. well lately she said she hated this one girl and like now shes totally attachted and shes being a bitch so idk i dont want to talk to her because i have tried ignoring her but like when i dont talk to her she comes and talked to me and like i really feel like i have to say something and like i dont want to tell her how i feel because that would be complaining that i dont like what shes doing and thats dumb because its her choice...also shes been telling me that i have been making good choices and stuff and like she hasnt and like i think that shes just saying that because she wants attention...what do you think?
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From what it sounds like, this girl is insecure, or maybe something happened in her life that's making her like this. Don't give her the silent treatment, it will most likely make things worse. Being backstabbed hurts (personal experiance). Try asking her, if you can, how she would feel if she learned that people were talking about her behind her back. Also, see if you can, without seeming to try, find out what other people are saying about her, if anything.
1) find out what people think of her
2) ask her how she would feel if people were backstabbing her
3) let her know (as kindly as possible) what others think of her. Try to avoid hurting her.
Best of luck
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Rather than confronting her, you need to help this poor girl, if you feel up to it! People who hurt and criticize others like she is doing usually do it because something is very wrong in their life. She feels the need to hurt others because she is hurt, or to control others because she feels powerless. I would listen to her problems when she tells you she has made bad decisions. When she is mean to somebody, try to be very bland and friendly about it. Say something like, "Oh, I'm sorry you don't like her. I always thought she was nice." and Maybe she will get the hint without a big confrontation.
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TO: confused...
theres no way to working out a problem without communication and i hab nebe been able to find a way around it...you HAB to go talk to her and tell her what not only you buh everyone else is thinkin of her and wat she does..i mean theres a line between being popular and desperate for attention and i think she has crossed that line... pity has nebe done another person any good...in the end they are the ones to suffer so they mite as well now the problem from the start, face it, and lern to live without it... the sooner the better..ya noe?
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